Of all the disrespect someone can do to you, most these are NOT disrespect! Lateness is NOT disrespect, so many people are timeblind through neuro problems. Talking over someone is called discussion, and in communication there are certain ways to ensure you are hearing what the person means and validating you are heard. When someone talks and covers many points, it is disrespectfull to the other person to try and have to remember 5, 10, or 15 points to validate or negate. You could have stopped after one or two to let the communication go back and forth. Not allowing for that AND calling someone disrespectful while you are pontificating is abusive and arrogant. Currently a method used for the last 15 or so years by politicians and authority figures to shut down alternative viewpoints. Last, if someone is constantly referencing the phone, why are you attempting to have discussion or get that persons attention? Sounds to me you should be just walking away. Don't try to change someone who obviously isn't overwhelmed by you gracing their presence. You can't demand someone be more interested in you. Calling them out by saying you deserve more from them is arrogant and abusive. If it's a child you are teaching manners to, that's not disrespect, you just haven't given them the lesson in a way they buy into.
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@1:25:39 - @1:25:46 I couldn't help, but burst out laughing, because the context sounded like something else🤣😂, and I had the urge to ask "What exactly happened to those holes?🤨😅"
I’m older and have no debt. I’m dating a great guy who has big debt. We have a great time together and are very compatible but I won’t move in with him until his debt is gone and he buys health care insurance. We have had this conversation and he is fine how things are. We enjoy our independence and companionship. This works for us-for now. Though I do wish he had the money to travel with me. I don’t have enough $$ to “pay for two”. The only thing I would change is for him to have secure finances. I feel we can’t move forward unless he has this. After getting divorce myself, I can’t take on someone else’s debt. I’m better off living alone even though I would love the daily companionship.
My mother was the narc. My DAD WAS NOT. After my mom died I asked my Dad why he didn't just leave her. What he said was so eye-opening. He said "Back then, the mother would always get custody of the children, and I was concerned about leaving you two with her alone. It was better for you both if I stayed." He was right.
Dr Ramani is absolutely right. I stayed away from relationships for about 3 years after I got away from my N husband, and it was the BEST decision I could have ever made!!! Literally, I started to feel like "me" again. I was more relaxed, knew what I wanted and everything became perfectly clear to me. It was a return to "self" and it was wonderful!
Ohhh ....this makes me feel so bad...the one about being late...i have issues around that i am continually working on. Without divulging specifics, It causes me to be very scattered and disorganized if i dont do things to completion, not half assed, and in a certain order. I am so aware of the impression it gives by habitually running late that i instead have spent my entire life avoiding every encounter that might put me in that situation. I recognize it now for exactly what it is which has helped tremendously but its only more recent and with the help of the internet. Also, im retired. I was at my worst when i had kids at home,a career, school, and a to do list as long as my arm. There were times I'd be so upset with myself because i was arriving late, again, that I'd be in tears by the time i arrived. It was such an issue that I became more solitary because of it. Now that im retired, and ironically am rarely late, i have noone. Funny that. But I hope this will give a different perspective.
Mel, God bless you and this doctor. I have been struggling like you would not believe, and today, I was able to get going again after listening to this recording. I had to look beyond the pain at the pleasure of getting things done. Somehow, it worked and I put in a full day. It felt great!
