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First listen to this guy as it should not be complicated. Divorce attorneys have a vested interest in extending the divorce action. The judge will give the attorneys all the time they ask for because they want the couples to solve it on their own. Divorce attorneys are not your friend. My divorce went on and on until after three years I stood up in court and said your honor it has been too long to solve this divorce. These attorneys need adult supervision. The ex spent $80,000 to her attorney, and I spent about the same if not more. Continually I suggested a resolution, but my attorney said I had to be strategic as the judge can divide the assets any way they want. Meaning I would be left with nothing after all the years of work and saving. In the end she got more than half and the other half in monthly installments. My advice: end the divorce this week and move on. Do not negotiate. Make a fair offer and stop with the attorneys. They make it worse. Much worse.
You’re wrong, Paul…you now have FREEDOM to live the way you wish. Choose to start dating, running the risk of returning to a second bad marriage, OR begin living your new-found life female-free. The choice is yours.
After 30 yrs of marriage and her cheating, I spent and liquidated everything we had . Grown kids = no child support. We had nothing to split. I rebuilt she didn't and is living with her Dad . Karma is a bitch .
I’m an old lady almost 50, got dumped before the pandemic. It was like getting fired from a stressful job, no more sleep deprivation and competition. I’m glad that the younger more attractive women can take my place. I’m retired from it and am no longer for sale in the dating market.❤
I’m praying for you Sam. Going through same next month (10/2024). 25yrs found 7 year affair that she says “meant nothing. Wanna bet! Pray for me to. This hurts but it’s over.
@@earlmiles5834 Hang in there bro. This seems to be happening A LOT to the best men. My opinion the internet apps have warped the minds of these women. You will be better but it will take time. DO NOT do or say anything you’ll regret…don’t give her anything to use against you. Stay a strong man and be in your masculine frame at all times. Trust me!
@@mygame4451 I Absolutely do NOT recommend marriage for men. If you have never married, don't. If you are divorced, don't make the same mistake twice. You can love and have a relationship without marriage.
Fucj family law and any prick involved in it... it is shit and outright bias against men and driven by Robin hoods who dictate where your assets and children go, men too often get divorce graped and lose years of work....
I’ve been watching and applying save-your-marriage videos for months. It’s getting me nowhere, and my wife still adamantly insists she doesn’t want to be married to me. At a certain point you have to believe her and move on. I wasn’t looking for greener grass, but the grass is dead on this side of the fence.
I’m going through this. I know it hurts, but you have to move on or you’ll be stuck in misery the rest of your life. Tough it out for a year and the pain will subside in your life will become much better. That’s what people tell me and that’s what I’m going to do.
Divorces dating you go out with a divorced woman and she’ll have a resident ask you for a résumé and on why are you divorced? Can I tell you something men hate going back to the past and I shouldn’t have to and moving ahead.
Regardless of your smv on the chart if you have more than one child, paying alimony or children support, are overweight, out of shape, unhealthy, broke, a cheater or have a bad attitude then that chart doesn't apply to u.
Glad I am Divorced from my Super Narcissistic Ex wife who was toxic and verbally abusive (God with us all still fighting to see our children and dealing with “Parental Alienation” and Ex Spouses deliberately trying to destroy relationships) ❤️🤘✝️
Divorce should be promoted. Women get praised when they leave a relationship that is toxic to them or not beneficial, men get blasted for it even though a man can go through hell and decide it’s enough.
He’s not promoting divorce. He’s trying to let men know, who have lost all hope and can see no positivity in their future, that they can recover and be better than they were before it happened. In the darkest of times people need hope that’s all he is trying to provide.
I fought Cancer for two years and immediately had to fight in my wife divorcing me for next two years. Given a choice I would rather have surgery,chemo and radiation again than go through a divorce there is no equal division of house and assets as the courts are rigged against the men. Best Advice is to accept that your ex will get your home and only fair divorce may be is to move to different State so divorce will be in Federal Court rather than County Court where the Judge is playing Golf with your exes Lawyer every week.
Can you confirm moving out of state forces the court to move into federal court? I honestly like this idea because of how rigged it is. I might be in a better position since my defense is the one who is good friends with the judge lol - hoping that it gives me a huge advantage as a man for once!!!
@@thebikehub7421 They are all crooked in county court as they were all at one time eating lunch together as that judge was a lawyer.Just ask the court if this applies to your state its usually the people who work there that help with paperwork when you dont have a lawyer.
I have to disagree with your assessment about dating for women. They have SIGNIFICANTLY more matches and opportunities to meet other men on the apps. They also control sex and often quickly become sexually active again where as most men of the same age may go years before being sexually active again. The main challenge many men must figure out is where they went wrong with setting boundaries and learning to say no to women. They have to learn how to date and discover what THEY value and how to appropriately vet women after only a few dates. They have to get back out there and date many women and have an open mind about making sure that the woman is EARNING your time, money and resources. Ask yourself if your needs are being met? What are your needs and what do women actually want? What attracts a woman and is she useful to you and your life goals beyond just providing you with sex. And for the sake of your own happiness, learn what FRAME is and how to build and maintain it. It has to start at the very BEGINNING of the relationship or you will have a difficult relationship bound for eventual failure.
A lot this lawyer says makes sense. IF you have an amicable divorce. Sadly, many of us do not. Let's break down your objections. "They have significantly more matches on th apps." The apps suck. Stay away. Yes, women will have better luck getting matches if they are in decent shape and under 35. Did you notice them working out before the divorce? That's when they decided. But men carry peak SMV til 40 or 50. Who cares how they do on apps? It's for hook-ups, which may be exciting for them, but they will eventually crave a relationship. "Men have to get back out there" See, now I disagree with this. I think it's more important to work on yourself. Do introspection, therapy, read books on women, work out, work on your money, develop hobbies , develop friends. This takes time. Otherwise, you meet a woman who has gone on a thousand dates and she interviews you...she finds out you are broke, recently divorced, still love yet hate your wife. What do you do in your spare time? Nothing. You sound like a catch. Become the man that interests women, and they will be looking for you. Ahh, you know about FRAME. I have thought about it in the context of confrontation. But you make an excellent point!
May sound corny to you, but for me, sex is meaningless without love. Yes women do have an easier time hooking up. However, they will have a more difficult time finding a committed relationship that’s monogamous and definitely finding someone that wants to marry them again. Men will screw almost anything, but there is a big difference between that and commitment. Unless the woman is a whore, she will eventually get tired of being used physically and then dumped. Men are much better off, in their older years, at finding a partner that will last.
I simpley love how this guy calmly and professionally destroys marriage in a few minutes. We need more of this content. Great work and big thank you, sir!
Everything he said was true for me. I was lucky my wife made the same amount of money at the time so there was no child support. We made the same money but i paid all the bills.
Brother, my kids are raised and I want away from my wife more than anything in this world. I'm sick, sick, sick to death of her spending all my damn money and gaslighting me constantly. She is beyond control freak.
I dodged a bullet with my ex-wife. I spent a decade trying to keep her "level". My only regret is that I didn't leave earlier. Current status: no wife, no kids, no bills and not looking.
Does it actually matter if men are happier than women after divorce or if women are happier than men after divorce? It's not a "who is happiest contest". What matters is that they are both happier being divorced than being married. I divorced after 11 years of marriage and 3 major geographical moves and career changes to accommodate my husband's career. At one time in our marriage, I drove 4 hours every day to hold down a job, as we were living in an area with few job opportunities (He was in the Navy at that time). I was the submissive wife who put her husband first. This made sense to me as I expected we were going to have children, so a career for me became a secondary concern after our marriage. He told me when we were 35 yrs of age that he wanted to wait another 10 years to have kids. I decided I wanted to leave the marriage. I knew I didn't want to give birth when I was 45, or even 40. The best age for a woman to have children is about 26, which meant when I filed for divorce, the most suitable woman to be the mother of his future children was looking for a date for the high school prom. I didn't want to stick around until the inevitable end of our marriage in 10 years. We haven't kept in touch, but the last I heard from mutual friends, he never remarried and never had kids. It's sad, as he has no siblings, neither did his parents, so he doesn't even have cousins. But he's not a family-type of guy, so I'm sure he is happy. I worry about his comfort and safety in his old age, elder abuse is real, and one's only protection is family members who love you enough to protect you. But I expect he is very happy, he has always gotten whatever he wanted in life. He is a truly accomplished and amazing person.
So how about yourself? Did you end up getting everything you wanted? A husband and kids? After reading above, I actually wanted to hear more of your experience? Have you considered reaching out to your Ex-husband to just say hello? What was his reaction when you asked for a divorce? Was he upset, did he counter the 10-year children promise with something more reasonable to try and hold onto the marriage? Just being nosy and curious.... I'm at a crossroads trying to keep things together......
@@MarcSteiny Hi, your statement "at a crossroads" seems to imply you are uncertain about your marriage's chance for survival. If you can convince your spouse to go with you t0 some marriage counseling before the situation gets too bad, you have an opportunity to save your marriage, but you both need to want the marriage to succeed. Try to avoid discussing your situation with anyone but a trained therapist. Too many people will pick sides and then push you in a direction which they think is best, but the decision has to remain between you and your spouse. It is painful enough without other people meddling. My divorce lawyer turned out to be some sort of human pit bull who wanted to eviscerate my husband. He wanted to delay, get permanent spousal support, etc...I had to push him to move forward with a simple divorce, and not turn it into a war. Be careful with divorce lawyers. I knew I would not be emotionally capable of remarrying while I was young enough for kids, and I didn't want to be too involved with a man who had kids already. I knew I would not ever have kids, and I decided there was no reason to remarry. Concentrating on rebuilding my career was my top priority, and I will soon retire with enough investments and savings to live reasonably comfortably, although with the current economic trends it is difficult to know if anyone will have a comfortable retirement. My ex-husband and I have not spoken with each other since 2005, or thereabouts. I doubt he has kids. I think he actually didn't want kids, but didn't want to take responsibility for preventing pregnancy. He was happy for me to pump chemicals and weird hormonal concoctions into my body, but he wouldn't even use a condom or consider a snip-snip job. I wish you the best possible outcome, which I still believe is a loving, sharing and supportive marriage. If you and your husband separate while working through therapy, do not get into a relationship with someone else, even if you have decided to divorce. Wait until everything is completed and the dust settles. You really don't need emotional confusion. Give your heart time to heal. If you are in your twenties and have been married for just a few years, you might find someone and have a fulfilling marriage. But remember, you still deserve to have physical, emotional and financial security, and this will be up to you to provide it. Too many women run from failed marriage to failed relationship to failed marriage, it's ridiculous. But men do this, too. A man I met just after my divorce wanted to marry me. He had already been divorced twice, and I admit he helped me feel much better about myself after my divorce. However, he lived in England, and I didn't want to move there as I expected I would have a difficult time rebuilding my career there. He is now on wife #4. I think I dodged a bullet! Again, I hope you and your husband can save your marriage and enjoy a loving, peaceful and happy future. If your marriage ends, I still wish both of you happiness.
I hope my soon to be X will show the concern, kindness and support you do for your’s. 25 great years together and found she was having a 7 year affair. I’m gong to miss her horribly but I can’t live with it.
I always had some girl or girlfriend in my life, then got married then divorced and a few girlfriends after that. I said to myself "maybe I should try being alone for awhile." I loved it and have been single for a decade. I work hard, debt free, travel, read, gym, martial arts, even volunteering when I can. Friends and co-workers try to set me up and I say "NO"!
Just leave the B. You will be happier. I have been through two divorces. Happiest when not married. 23 years since my last divorce and and the happiest I have ever been
I not only dated a single mom, I married her. Her daughter was a handful and we finally decided to send her to Catholic Boarding School. I've seen her once in the following 45 years. The boy, as an honor to me, changed his last name to mine when he turned 18. She left us when the fight against cancer became too strenuous and God called her home in April of last year. Rest in Peace, my beloved.
I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money,bought my third house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video! Thanks for sharing
Glad I came across this comment section. I was struggling to decide what to do with a good amount of money in the bank doing nothing. I would be happy if you could advise me, as I am ready to go the passive income path.
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My first marriage lasted 7 years. I then sat and did nothing for 7 years being thoroughly miserable. The 7th anniversary of my second marriage is in 45 days. Wish me luck. 😂
Shiii..... nigga, get this. Once beaten, twice shy. I'm sure you picked better this time. You still got 42 days my g. one love.😂😂😂 I'm bow-legged and just dated at 27, had my first girlfriend, she fucked me over maaan. Y'all making this thing scary. AND IT IS, FOR MEN.
Your points are not very accurate. I had less discretionary money for many years after my divorce mostly because of the burden of paying for the kids and the cost of living alone. Women who did not have kids did not want to date a divorced man with children. My relationship with my kids was never great because all they heard was their mother`s poison. Still single 15 years later.
As your kids got older, we’re they able to see through your ex-wife’s lies and realize you were not who she said you were? This is one of my fears as I go through divorce, that my soon to be ex will poison my kids against me.
It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
@@wlamb9 My guess is it depends on the woman. In my case, she is very controlling and the guy she’s with now parrots every word that comes out of her mouth. When my kids got older they did see some of her lies but they are afraid to contradict her versions of my character. She disassociates herself with anyone who doesn’t buy into her view including some of her own family. My kids now come around for money more than to maintain a proper relationship. My son may be the most sensible of my children and goes to therapy. My daughter refuses to as her mother did when she was a child. Unfortunately that leads to what I think will happen- she will repeat her mother’s behavior and cause another generation of trauma.
He is not accurate at all. I got railroaded in divorce court. The financial hardship alone can be downright taxing. Child support and all the other extra you have to dish out has a very big negative impact on regular life unless you make a ton of money to the point where you wouldn't even miss it. And you're absolutely right about the dating market being skewed towards divorced men with kids. Our resources are depleted and no woman is patient enough to deal with that. And we haven't even gotten to the emotional and mental impact it has. This guy has no idea what he's talking about. I wonder what state does he practice.
My ex husband cheated. I gave him the house and left with my one year old sick baby went on to accumulate, 4 properties and a second degree earning 6 figures. Guess who came back after realizing what a terrible husband and father he was? Don’t paint all women with the same brush. My market value wasn’t affected. I’m in shape and look much younger than I am, I had many wealthy men want to date me, even knowing I don’t have casual relationships. It’s about having good values. I’m not a serial dater and my family is more important than dating
Outliers do exist. You likely had great insight, discipline, and management skills, and he likely didn't have the ability to give up leadership. Hopefully you both thrive in a modified model.
It's true. But they wear out and over time become old bitter hags. Which doesn't mean it makes our lives any better being horny and thirsty all the time.
It’s crazy cuz I’m actually a good looking guy and I’m getting these weird looks from ugly ass women , like what happened? How come all this ugly ass shreks think they’re adorable? Oh I know , horny ass simps who make em feel that way , give them a reality check just like they give it to you
Keep well away from them or your lose the house the car the kids and end up with a story to tell about what you once had while sitting in a dark ol' place depressed while she's swanning around with all your well earned money keep away get a hobby
