That's a lot of words to say you won't make efforts to not be weird around black people...

@@goulvenclech There's nothing weird about it in this example. You can choose to interpret it weirdly. But a lot of people are not good at public speaking. Had it been a white man, and she had said the same thing, would people have batted an eye at this example? Perhaps, there's an issue, not with the comment to begin with, but with how we choose to interpret such comments. When we remove the agency of the individual and as a result, ignore their motivations, we end up creating a society where the only thing that matters is how a particular comment is interpreted, not its intended effect. This create a culture of self-victimhood and is counterproductive as it leads to dysfunctional social behaviors. Why is the only valid interpretation of this scenario that she has presumptions about how black people talk? Why can't it be interpreted that the person was genuinely a very good public speaker and was very articulate- something that can be very hard to do in a public setting, for everyone, no matter the identity? There was an old psychological study done on a similar kind of phenomena, where a group was given fake scars and had to take some kind of job interview, but the group had the scars secretly removed later right before the interview (the experimenters had lied that they had to touch up on the scar). In the job interview members in the group mentioned how the scarring negatively affected their performance in the interview, and how it was distracting to the interviewer and there even reports about off hand comments about the scar made by the interviewer. This is indicates how much we can project our own insecurities and presumptions about ourselves onto others. Rather than aiming to control and govern how people speak to one another, to the point of "walking on eggshells" don't you think it is more productive to do a bit of self-analysis and identify points of projection of internal insecurities and better oneself? I think so. Besides, how would a world functionally work if we need to speak in a manner as to not impose so called "unconscious biases?" Like, how would an individual even be aware of it? Furthermore, how can someone guard against ANY potential misconstruing of their intentions. It's exhausting, counterproductive, and an impossible task. I am not saying that stereotyping, biases, and passive-aggressive comments don't exist. They do, but they should be judged so at a case by case basis and through the veil of benefit of the doubt, rather than affirm that the individual has some kind of internalized racism/sexism/whatever. The video example is ridiculous.

Does this phrase change if you work as a teacher?