You are absolutely not the a****** for them to have done that they would have needed permission from both sides not just the groom because it's disrespectful on the wedding day because then it's not just the brides and groups wedding day and you told them no they cross that boundary and you need to get out of that f****** marriage ASAP because that just proves that but they're just going to continue trying to walk over you and not respect your boundaries
NTA because there taking that attention away from you and your husbands special moment and hey have no right to take the attention away and he went behind your back
I never understood guys who would put their guy friends before their wives. Like who do you love more, your buddy of the woman you’re getting married to?
Hmm I think it’s a lil sus. Especially your opening of “he didn’t do anything to me” I personally don’t trust the character of anyone who cheats. Like you can’t even commit to a relationship and you think I trust you with my money? Yeah I’d probably look for another job
Most people are capable of keeping their private lives and professional lives separated. Regardless of what happened between him and OP's sister he obviously is good at his job and a professional success. OP's sister is asking her to harm herself and jeopardize her career and future because OP's boss hurt her feelings. Sister will get over it and move on to a new relationship probably within a year. OP's life could be permanently damaged by doing what her sister wants. OP's family is asking her to do something that is bad for her because it might make her sister feel better for awhile. That's not OK.
Honestly no. Yes on one hand it come off as wrong but how much is your sister blowing up their breakup to get everyone to want you to quit. Odds are some s*** came to light that either your sister caused or didn't help with that I never believed to them breaking up. And because she wants to be seen as the victim she's going to try and get you to leave a good job. It's perfectly fine to stay at that job because you don't mix personal and professional especially when you've been a professional despite them being in a relationship before. Called you in asked if you wanted essentially wanted to see if you were still willing to stay working for him despite the situation and obviously you're able to put aside personal to work. Which is something you're supposed to do does it matter how you get along with people at work as long as you at the end of the day you can put aside personal feelings regardless of how you feel about that person and work with them to get the job done. So don't worry you are fine work this job because obviously this job is the job you want to have who gives a s*** if your boss just so happens to be your sister's EX
It’s not like your the one he cheated on with so why should it affect you? Sure, I’d feel bad but I’d rather have a good paying job and hurt someone’s feelings for the time being instead of having a low paying job that could cost you your security and home.
Yes, YTA. It's understandable that you would want to keep a stable job, but he did hurt a member of your family and it almost seems like you don't care. Honestly, you might as well keep the job and cut ties with your family so they can move forward and heal and you can keep your job.
So she's supposed to quit her job, potentially set back her career, jeopardizing her own future, because her boss was dating her sister and he cheated on her, but there is no reason for sister to have contact with him because she doesn't work for him? I'm sorry, but no. Unless mom and sister are going to pay OP's bills and somehow find her a comparable job elsewhere without adversely affecting her career path, they need step back and stop letting their emotions run the show. Because what they are actually asking is for OP to cause harm to herself and her life by quitting her job. There is no reason for OP's continued employment to necessitate sister to have any contact with her ex boyfriend. I'm married and I've never talked to my husband's boss. Because there is no reason for me to do so. If I can avoid contact with my spouse's boss, surely OP's sister can do the same. They are asking too much of OP.
The only thing I find wild is they have zero reservations about this, they’re posting to see if they’re the ah but even if there was a group of people who said yes (which there is, their own family) they’d never listen. So idk why they’re asking in the first place, they’ve already made up their mind, why announce you loyal to people who couldn’t be loyal to someone they promised loyalty to ☠️
You do realize that OP's sister is asking her to quit her job, potentially derail her career path, and jeopardize her entire future because OP's boss hurt her feelings don't you? I'm married and I have no contact with my husband's boss so I'm not sure why OP's sister is so concerned about who she works for. OP isn't being loyal to her boss as much as she is being loyal to herself. OP's sister is going to get over OP's boss and move on to a new relationship without any permanent damage to her finances, career, or lifestyle unless she was a gold digger who was living off of OP's boss and can't bag another equally well off man. But OP's family is asking her to harm herself, her finances, her career, and her lifestyle, possibly permanently. That is not a fair or reasonable request for them to make. Her own family is trying to force her to do something that would be bad for her because it might make her sister feel better. That's not how family should treat family.
These situations always have the participants asking the wrong questions, it's not if you're an ahole or not, it's if you can handle the resentment your decision will cause? Resentment goes both ways too, so like the resentment her sister will have towards her but also resentment from OP towards her sister for not understanding OP's financial situation.
It's not conflicting It's business🎉😊 It's a job you enjoy that pays your bills🎉😊 I guarantee they will not house you or pay your bills and will ask for money🎉😊
Well, I mean he didn’t do anything to you and you’re making money so why does it matter if it’s not affecting either one of you or affecting your sister and some capacity?
@@dylanhunt4303 they're supporting themselves. You can't expect someone to quit their JOB because you have beef with their boss. Especially in this economy where most people are inches from poverty.
Him cheating on her has absolutely nothing to do with you. That is a personal matter between the two of them. Hes your boss, the best boss at that. Whatevrr else goes on outside the job stays outside the job. I would understand if it were under worse circumstances where he did even worst shit, but that aint yhe case.
I don't know. It would absolutely kill me if due to my sibling someone her hurt me so much was still a part of my world. Part of healing is severing all ties & I personally wouldn't have anything to do with my sib if that's what it took for me to heal.
I'm married and I have never had a reason to talk to my husband's boss. Not even over the phone, let alone in person. And do you really think that it's right for OP's sister to expect OP to quit her job, set back her career, and jeopardize her own future because of the boss that sister never has to see, speak to, or hear about? Because she is asking OP to do something harmful to herself and her life because her feelings are hurt. Sister will get over OP's boss and move on to a new relationship without any permanent damage to her finances or career path. But that's exactly what OP would be facing if she does what her sister wants.
Is the money paying rent/mortgage and utilities? And while you’re looking for this new job they want you too have are they going to support you? … alright then shut up and get the bag
I'm strong on loyalty, even to my detriment but where is your families loyalty to you? Ask which one of them would like to pay your wages, vacation, and insurance for a year and agree to walk away. However, if he's the type of bloke who will kiss a girl good morning, hire her sister who needs a job, and slip it to someone else on a random Wednesday don't be surprised if he goes absolutely off the reservation about you or your job. Trust and believe there was a time when your sister believed him the " best" as well.
If they don’t want you working for him then pay her for the same because it’s not her fault that her boss did something wrong and she shouldn’t need to leave because of it
If it’s not white and it’s not champagne/light cream (usually reserved for the mothers) you violated no westerners concept of wedding taboo unless it was specified on the wedding invite the dress code colors. But better hope they didn’t file the marriage certificate yet so he can get out without too much loss because if she sounds like one of those people who should NEVER be in a relationship.
Telling him to wipe his ass is not weird. He's a health hazard... Gross, who shakes his hands? Do y'all have kids? Does he touch them with those hands? How does he eat?
