They are part of the Broken Brain Podcast. You can also find all of Jennifer’s techniques in the Connected Parenting Podcast and at connectedparenting.com
im married - and been a quiet victim of DV. As a yuoung adult, our daughter decided I was the one with a mental health disorder. But I was traumatised. WE were and are still together, and our duaghter got married last year - and my husband KEPT this from me. He admitted he was SO desperate to be with our daughter, he agreed to it, and never told me. The whole family knew. And it was simply everyone was terrified of her reactions as she can be so viscious. But my husband only told me today, because he told his mates, one who is a divorce lawyer, and they told him, he was swelfish trying to keep this from me, while he was trying to work on our marriage, and rebuilt trust. He convinced himself that he could keep me in one pocket and the kids in the other pocket. All he ever wanted to be was a dad, he didnt really want a wife. I dont know how i can keep myself alive anymore...wveryone knew but didnt tell me becauyse they didnt want to hurt me - so they say. But he didnt think it would destroy the last remenant of trust i had left in him. They are ALL on the spectrum, Im not. Ive done so much bending, ive now finally broken. No one loves me enough to nurture my heart. Jot even her fiance/now husband agreed with her doing this but he went along with it. It hasnt got better - I dont even get a chance to speak to them. I dont have their numbers. I dont have their address or emails, yet my husband does. Ive been a faithful wife, whos dedicated her life to our children and hhim, and no one cares about how broken my heart is. This is too hard. If being alive means this, its too much. Thankyou for the episode. Thankyou for speaking about the issue. But the betrayal is too hard.
Is there anyway you can turn down the music? It's impossible to get the point and I know what the point is. I want to send your work to my son in a quick bite size intro.
my 2 yr old daughter hates me idk why i havent mistreated her or been mean just one day she came over and doesnt want me near her too the point she screams ... i guess i reaaly am a bad dad
Yeah we don’t let our kids play outside alone because when we were kids your generation was kidnapping my generation and doing unspeakable acts. So no I’ll raise my kid instead of making them raise themselves.
Would love to send my kid outside unsupervised but your generation took out our parks and public green spaces. Can't let my kid play on the freeway where the park used to be
You see 5% of someone's parenting at most if they are the most active family content creator. They show the soothing part because that's what performs. It isn't because that's all we do 😂
I do agree with this to a point. When I am parent I won't soothe my child 24/7, but I will let them have their feelings have been heard, but they shouldn't lead every action with feelings. Some children think their feelings are the only thing that matters, but that is not the truth. It is find a balance
Or maybe schools are glorified daycare centers and to kids they're prisons... Old people have been out of school so long they won't even bother asking their kids the question why they hate it so much... Because there are horrible people in society and they happen to breed too.
Its a little different when your not with the other parent and the teen chooses not to come home for weeks on end, no calls or texts. What do i do in this situation as he wont even talk to me? Im being nutral and open with my communication already but his dad is perpetually the soft "buddy buddy" parent to our 13yo. He different witg our eldest daughter and much stricter with her 😢
Grown children in there 40's no longer talk to me maybe a text. They very rarely say I love you. I have 4 grand kids i only know 2. The other 2 i really don't know them sad
Noone tells you how f***ing painful parenting can be. My feelings are hurt, im hurting for my husband and I'm really tempted to do some reverse psychology and reject back. But that hurts even more. It's bs. I can't hate her no matter how mean she is.
Dear Mrs. Kolari, I just wanted to let you know that your presentation long ago (introduced by Erika Ehm, and Dr. Gabor Maté also presented at some point) absolutely changed my relationship with my kids! In it, you mentioned tucking in a very prickly teenage girl at night that no one wanted to work with, and how your own change in attitude changed everything for her. I took that to heart and it transformed my own daughter who has (low support needs) ADHD and Autism. Her tantrums stopped and everything improved once I changed my own attitude. I can’t thank you enough for that! I had a very dysfunctional upbringing and had never been treated with kindness. Your presentation turned my world upside down, for the better!! Thank you !! BTW, whatever happened to that video? I used to recommend it to just about EVERYONE and one day it was gone from RU-vid.
Dear Sara, thank you so much for your kind words. Jennifer is so happy to hear your success. That video was from TVO and they have removed it for some reason. Please refer your friends to the podcast episode from the Broken Brain that this clip is take from, episode 69. They can also get support from Jennifer’s own podcast - Connected Parenting.
@@barrettkolarithank you so much !!! I found the episode and started listening to it and it’s EXACTLY what I was talking about.thank you!! I’ll be resharing it!!!
Sad as it is for me to say, I feel like black parents just don’t ever think this deeply about parenting. Most of the blk parents I know would have lashed out and hit the kid for rejecting them, or gotten “even” in some other way. It’s such a sad contrast to the approach this therapist advocates. They give the impression that they literally resent their kids for costing time and money.
I missed about 8 months with my son in his first year due to a separation and then divorce. I’ve had 50% physical custody of him for a little over a year and he barely has started saying he loves me back, and very rarely. I appreciate the advice. I sacrificed a lot to be with him and sometimes he makes me feel like it would have been better for him if I hadn’t tried. It makes me feel better to know other people go through this and that there are solutions I can explore.
부모와 자식관계는 서로 믿을수있고 진정성있는 관계를 기본으로 보지만,어떤 가족은 아이앞에서 한쪽부모, 특히 더 착한부모의 모자람을 강조하고 비난하는 가족환경에서 어린 자녀를 성장 시킬수있다.. 어른들도 건강하지못한 정서로 아이를 키우면 그 아이는 매우 편협한 상태로 성장할 확률이 매우 크다. 참으로 잘못된 안타까운 상황이다. 잘목된을 알아차리고 경계를 세워 어린 자녀일수록 잘 보살펴야… 잠깐의 건강한 사춘기라면 부모의 진정성때문에 스스로 곧 바로 잡는다.아이를 믿어라.
Good question! I too have C-PTSD from lifelong covert abuse by both of my parents and now that my son who I love with all my heart and soul is treating me the way he saw them treat me. My heart is so broken and I feel so powerless and easily go into depression from all of this and I’m on medication already but I end up feeling so defeated and rejected by my one and only precious child that I’m suffering so much. Anxiety and fear fills my heart for him because I’m his one and only true ally and backbone.
