I just never understand how so many women take this kind of abuse. The very first time a man ever even looked at me disrespectfully or said a harsh word I'd shut him down and he would be out of my life. Those are called red flags for violence but it seems like common sense. If someone isn't kind or respectful, especially your own partner, why on earth would you want to continue with them? How could anyone feel attraction for someone who treats them like that? Trust has been broken and they've shown you who they are. These things are always there in early interactions with someone. There is a big difference between the normal frustration people feel interpersonally and rage-filled violence, be it verbally, emotionally or physically. Many couples don't even argue, they discuss and work through conflicts, that's how my partner and I are. We may go as far as a tiff, but we choose to pause and work it out. Even if those red flags are missed, the first physical act of aggression would be reason to permanently end the relationship. If a man ever put his hand on me, I would go so apeshit, he'd consider it not worth the trouble. I'd make him fear me, make his life a living hell. Holding that has made it so that no one has ever treated me that way. Why do people allow themselves to be victimized?
