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An unfortunate part of the story is many of these children forget their nation of origin, they forget the greatness of China and many ends up being brainwashed into hating it rather than seeing the absolute technological marvel their country has became.
Eu creio em Cristo Jesus nosso Senhor. E é uma benção para mim eu ver como Deus trabalhou na sua vida. E ter colocado no coração dos seus pais. Terem-na adotado. Eu usei drogas duras e fui maníaco depressivo . Já com quarenta anos encontrei a verdade o caminho e vida através de Cristo Jesus nosso Senhor. Hoje tenho o amor de Deus no meu coração e o lugar na vida, que Deus tem para cada um de nós
i think these days you can do the dna test in china and upload them to a central database, it is possible that you might get reconnected with your birth family, just a thought, not that you have to do it or anything..
I am Chinese and grewup up entire life in Canada. At school I meet few Chinese girls and even a boy …they were all adopted. I assure you, nobody care you are adopted. We were kids and we were playing. But they all search their roots at some point of their life. I guess it’s part of the identity quest when you are a teenager. In my case, i reject all my Chinese heritage due to the culture and generation clash. Quite funny, when you have in front of you and you dislike it. Live you life and search for joy and happiness. Where you are from doesn’t matter. You are surrounded by loving ones and that’s what really matters.
Hi, I was also born in Hubei Province in China, but not Huanggang, I was born in a village in another city. As you might heard, rural Chinese have a tradition of favouring male heirs. All my cousins’ family have elder sisters and the youngest child is a son. I was an unwanted daughter during one-child policy, my parents really considered to give me away when I was an infant. There was a Chinese couple, wealthier than my parents, showed interest in adopting me. Somehow the adoption didn’t go through. I ended up staying with my biological parents, my younger brother was born 2.5 years later. The local government people went to our house, torn down the walls and arrested my mother.(For my brother’s birth was against the one-child policy) My family paid a big amount of money to get my mother released from the prison, my mother said she was mistreated during the stay in prison, being beaten and electrified. After that, I became a nanny for my younger brother (even though I was a child too), all family resources were given to my brother. My parents went to other cities to work, I was doing all house chores and looking after my brother (I cooked food, washed clothes by hands, fed livestocks…) My brother was violent to me, all adults protected my brother’s violence. My mother hated me very much and cursed me to die numerous times in my childhood. I had been trying so hard to please my mother, be a filial piety daughter. But she never showed any satisfaction, she always degrades me, belittles me, manipulates me. She often mentions, they could have drowned me immediately after I was born, that was how many other villagers did, my parents didn’t drown me so I should appreciate. That they fed me food, I should pay the money back. My father is grumpy farmer/construction worker, domestic violence was normal in my childhood. My mother was beaten but refused to my suggestion to divorce. My rural background had impacted me deep life-long trauma. They raised children as investment. Until, I figured out later, they don’t love me, they never did. They just wanted to use me as a free slave. I have cut ties with my biological family, for my depression, I have been suicidal all my life. I wished that I could have never been born in that environment where I was not welcomed, where femicide was a norm, I wished that only males were born there so all parents could be satisfied with their children’s sex.
Draw me like one of your Chinese girls ?? Wow this suddenly took a turn. How inappropriate. If no one knows what that is referring to. Titanic rose is spralled out asking Jack to draw her like one of his French girls. Very inappropriate comment for a "innocent" adoption story. Just saying.
This video got recommended to me, and since I've been adopted too (from 🇨🇴) I decided to watch :) Thank you for speaking so openly about this, really enjoyed the video and your nice editing <3 Definitely relate to a lot of what you said too, including that I happen to be Dutch as well! So again: mooi gedaan 🤗
I saw a British documentary whereby they filmed orphanages that were in isolated areas in the country . These orphanages were in terrible condition . They were run down and filthy , They had limited medication for ill children. (Sometimes the carers would steal the money meant for medication to spend on themselves) They showed a very ill child who was in a dark room by herself . She was extremely thin and lying in her own filth . She was basically left to pass away . They showed children who had these baby grows which weren’t done up and there was a flap , so you could see the baby’s bottom as they didn’t have a nappy on. The children would then be placed on a hard wooden stool with a hole in the stole where the child’s bottom would go. Underneath the stool would be a bucket . So the child would poo in that bucket . The child would be on that stool all day long and even eat and drink their milk whilst sitting on that stool. In fact I saw a vid recently which was about 10 yrs old whereby a baby girl had one of those baby grows on . The American couple adopting the girl thought it was funny that her bottom was showing and showed her bottom on You Tube ( which is highly inappropriate imo ) . Then the adoptive mum put a nappy on the baby which was good The documentary showed lovely clean and modern orphanages in the city . They said that is where Western couples are taken to and shown where their baby lived before the adoption . Sometimes their child was really brought up in the isolated dirty orphanage
I am a Chinese American born and raised in the US to Chinese immigrant parents. I remember the first time I met a Chinese adoptee in elementary school. Although there were differences in culture, I enjoyed learning about the stories of adoptees, especially being able to relate to them (my parents left China for America in search of a better life too).
My friend has been hosting chinese students for decades. Despite the one child policy most of these students had siblings, some more than one, which goes to show that if you have money the one child policy didn't apply or at least there were ways of getting around it.
Maybe in your 30s now? or close to it. (obviously, if this was real life and a work setting, I would lie and go under to not offend you). Puts your adoption in the early-90s. With zero scientific data supporting my opinion, I think adoptions were still tough back then. Internet was terrible. No support groups. Parents were just winging it.
Was a bit ambiguous on who paid for the trip (airfare and hotel). I heard "organize", so I have to assume the Chinese government paid for at least the hotel. Not trying to denigrate your trip, but the money would have been better spent on the kids in the orphanage.
@@chennabay Thanks. I'm sure it was a positive experience for you. (I have a few negative comments about the Chinese government, but I'll leave them in my brain.)
you're very lucky, many chinese to this day have never seen the outside world and get their visa rejected. Love your adpoted parents they pour their love in you and brought you up with a lot of love and care.
Greetings from China and heartfelt wishes for you a happy and cosy life. I used to work in the social security department in China before I left the country, so perhaps I can help you in a small way if you need to find your birth parents. This video touched me deeply, may God bless you!
Loved your video. I'm a Chinese adoptee, so I guess I can somewhat relate to you. The moment you said you felt shameful that you got adopted, while there were still countless children live at that orphanage, I had the same feelings too, wonder what happened to those who aren't as lucky as us.
Have you uploaded your raw data to Illustrativedna to get your G25 coordinates? With these coordinates you can compare them to a large reference panel and it shows you how genetically far you are from all the references. It probably will be the most enlightening tool for you.
Wanting to know more about my past and biological family has nothing to do with my parents. Assuming that I leave my parents once I find my biological parents are just your own ignorant assumptions. It's always easy to have an opinion on another person's situation, but often things aren't as black and white as you make it.
Girl you don't need to feel insecure or anything, your Mom & Dad gave you a second life, one you couldn't imagine if you were to grow up in orphanage home. Racism exists everywhere, don't blame yourself or anyone for it. I know children who are adoptee tends to look for their birth family in homeland, i suggest don't do it, you ended up in an orpharnage for a reason. Sorry if my words offended you but it's the truth, all the best to you!
Thanks for this. Recently watched some videos about Asian adoption after seeing on RU-vid the BBC documentary about Katie Pohla _ " Meet me on the bridge". Suspect things might be easier in Sydney where I live. Just watched the main ABC news where the anchor was Lydia Feng; in hospital 50% of my doctor's were East Asian and we have wonderful food bloggers like Janice Fung. Around 10% of the population here is East Asian. Very highly regarded as they have been so successful. I go to Indonesia a lot where you are hardly aware of its Dutch history - probably because the colonists were very problematic.
I was adopted from China and have definitely run into these types of conversations before. 😂 My favorite one growing up was “So.. where are your real parents?”
Hey Marlie, I loved watching your video, it definitely hit home as I’m wanting to start my search for my birth parents in China. I would love to talk to you about your process
