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6/17/2024 Hi I'm Elizabeth 48 years old and I love being alone because no One understands my feelings, People and family are to judgemental and I can't deal with injustice acts... I'm so grateful because being A spiritual person helps me struggle less...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Houston Texas 🙌
With a lack of peripheral vision My biggest @$%! Is "there's nothing wrong with you!" But then when I walk into a thing that is so obvious; "what the L; didn't you see that!?" I ask for no special treatment, other then to not be given credit for the level of ability I have worked so hard & long for!
Considering a society suited for everyone, I think this is important insight. I know I have been around autism, probably so much that I have been taken for being undiagnosed. Knowing what can help is important, I think.
I would like to know if people with autism have to take medication 💊 like antipsychotics, my son stopped taking his “cold turkey “ and now he is not doing well, PLEASE ANSWER big thanks
I got anxiety 😥 disorder because it reminds me of Piglet from the movie Winnie the Pooh because we both always get nervous 😥 and anxious 😥 of certain people or a lot of things
Hugs to everyone in the video! From one autistic to another. I can relate much much to you. It’s a tough and rough life as an autistic, no matter what anyone says. We all need support , at least from other autistics.
It is so wrong this goes on-AND ---- Sermon on the MOUNT 😊(Autistic-Artistic) are those that might be the ones mentioned by Jesus -as in - "Blessed are the Peacemakers".... ETC ETC ETC *****
Can relate to 1st guy 100%. Our cities are shitholes in terms of noises, movement, smells, lights and unnecessary verbal input. It's like being firehosed with bullshit 24/7. One day I will hapilly move to rural area and find my peace. And most people don't have boundaries, like at all. It makes it almost impossible to socialize. They either treat you like some weird bug or try to shape you into their norm.
Excellent video, well done to everyone involved for commissioning, creating and publishing this. As a late diagnosed autistic person I wish that this kind of insightful info had existed when I was at Uni in the 90s. I'm very glad young people can have access to it now, its great to see how understanding of neurodiversity is improving all the time.
I was diagnosed at age 40. I had very similar experiences to the guy on the bench. I have a very narrow range of interests, none of which are particularly financially viable, and society considers commerce to be exclusively viable in this way. The idea of giving someone money to help them be who they want is seen as ridiculous because that person isn’t doing anything for society. I have never had a reasonably paying job; the closest I came was working for Lloyd’s TSB in their collections department but I left after two months because we were being paid to bully and harass people and I’ve always believed both to be morally unjustifiable. I will likely never have my own house or flat because there is nothing about me that is seen as useful to society.
My sister's classmate said I was *_just_* a guy with disabilities (learning, ASD, and limited motor skills). He made me sound like a joke to still be living at home at 27, graduating from a small charter school--at TWENTY--and being a slow learner in general.
Newly preliminarily diagnosed last year while I work on getting the official which is a process here in my state. My whole life makes sense and courageous stories like this have saved my life. 🩵
That beautiful, extraordinary, courageous young man is my hero. He describes perfectly what so few people, through no fault of their own, can never understand.
Autistic from the north and with an active metabolism and a strong sensory issue for shorts. I was in Southampton on Nov 24-5 and 9 Dec 2023, at each end of a cruise. Bright days with springlike weather in the pre-Christmas period with all the market running. Weather that never used to be possible Nov-Mar in Britain of my 70s-80s childhood, but Dec 9 had a nippy windiness too. There were loads of folks wearing shorts. Not just one in a day. Not a few one-off sensory issue outriders like is often how you would see me. No. There were many! Still a minority, but steady stream of them everywhere and all through the day. Like just as casually ordinary to do then as in summer. So that for Dec 9 I could even predict it from the earlier memory, and that prediction was right! A very nice shift in society, in a world with precious few of those, hekping the sensory issue to be asserted and get less resustance for firmal situations.
Why don't we just leave it alone, a person's ASD? Who cares? They're fine the way they are. Let me guess. You guys don't agree. You think ASD is worthy of attention, concern, and "Oh, no, we gotta help this person."
@@audreydoyle5268Not true. We get singled out. We need the attention and concern because we don't count as _normal_ human beings. I can read between the lines. It's belittling and labeling
At work I am disliked because I won't take "On-Call", but On-Call is for 7 days and in those 7 days I will get no sleep out of fear of missing a phone call. I guess I'm a bit of an outcast. No one at work knows about my issues. Peace to you all.
I had so many jobs like that and it was awful. I needed routine. The stress made me sick. I would be constantly nervous of whether I would have to work or not and also would loose sleep over it. I would get brain fog and make mistakes at work because I was so tired and then after a mistake I would feel nervous of making more mistakes and getting fired. It was hell. I have a routine now and am much healthier. I bet there are autistic people who are on disability because after working terrible conditions they fell apart physically (think fibromyalgia, autoimmune, ibs etc). If they had had quiet, not too bright routine work places without being expected to make witty banter and joke around with colleagues they would have been able to keep working. A few accommodations would save the government a lot of money.
As a child, I experienced so much pain from chronic sensory overwhelm that my parents and doctor originally thought I had injured myself playing in the yard and was hiding the source of my pain. When they found no physical injuries, I was labeled an attention seeker. When I insisted that the world was just really painful and overwhelming, I was called a hypochondriac. I spent my entire childhood feeling like I failed at existing. Like I could do nothing right. As all the adults I looked up to assured me that if I tried hard enough, all these problems would magically disappear on their own. The idea that I may be autistic was never even an option because my doctors, parents, and teachers all believed girls could not have it. Discovering I was autistic in my early to mid 20s was a life changing discovery. Up until that point, I had blamed every meltdown, every shutdown, my sensory sensitivities, my poor emotional regulation, my insomnia, my chronic fatigue, my difficulty reading subtle social cues, my crippling anxiety around new social situations, my inability to form meaningful relationships (with non-disabled people), etc. on my own personal failures. Now, at least I know I have been mistreated by society. That hurts far less than thinking that my own family doesn't love me over factors I should be able to recognize and control.
The two people interviewed in this video look perfectly "fine" to me on the outside, and I look perfectly "fine" on the outside to the people I encounter every day. Yet I can relate to everything that was said here, and both my therapist and psychologist have told me that I'm likely autistic and encouraged me to seek an official diagnosis. I've never considered myself disabled but there are times when it seems to me that other people can handle certain tasks so much more easily than I can, like listening to someone in a noisy room without having to ask them to repeat themselves over and over again, or "winging it" when plans suddenly change. It takes me longer to learn to do certain tasks, and I often can't learn unless someone physically walks me through the steps. When I was a young adult I lost some jobs because I couldn't keep up. I've been diagnosed with anxiety but no one has any idea how anxious I feel on a daily basis because it doesn't show on my face. I was in "gifted" classes in school, and I did great academically. It's so hard for me to believe that I might be autistic; I keep asking myself things like, "doesn't everyone struggle with that?" But two separate mental health professionals think I have autism, and videos like this one featuring low-needs autistic people make me feel like seeking an official diagnosis wouldn't be a waste of time.
As someone who was diagnosed 4 years ago (at age 45) I would encourage you to seek an assessment. It can be a long and bumpy journey to get diagnosed and then come to terms with it and figure out who you really are but it can also be very rewarding and validating. Also self-diagnosis is totally valid. Good luck!
@@AutiSam1974 Thanks for your encouragement. The screening I did with the psychologist pretty much confirmed it for me. She was really confident. At the same time, she also ruled out ADHD and mood disorders. I've already gone through much of that journey you described, and I feel I'm better able to take care of myself now. Still, I do want to seek an official diagnosis as soon as I'm able to.
This made me cry so hard. I've been trying to understand why I've always felt so different my whole life, and recently have been doing more and more research into autism. I'm trying to get a diagnosis but its so hard because there is a stigma that girls don't have it still, especially since I'm now 25, and most drs won't take me seriously. Thank you for sharing these stories; it's so comforting to know I'm not alone.
I feel you!!! I’m a 24 girl and I’ve just found it out as you. It’s been a nightmare my entire life and knowing this at this point is SOOOOO liberating. Trying to get the diagnosis but it’s not easy.
Fibro disabled me in my 30s. I am in the USA. It is still very prejudicial here. Few doctors will treat it once diagnosed. But I was a nurse before and was able to slowly get myself healthier over time, with family help. Now, twenty years later, am in remission with no auto-immune markers showing. It can happen so don't lose hope. I am not back in college to finish my degree, at the age of 52. LOL. This time, it doesn't hurt. Though, the tech is new. Be kind to yourself. You may need to slow down.
It might have more to do with maybe there aren't many resources available to help autistic adults. But of course, autistic children will all become autistic adults. We don't grow out of it The medical community may think why bother diagnosing an adult, because then what? If there isn't any treatment or insurance doesn't cover anything for adults, and the US medical system is profit driven...they have no incentive
@@UranusMcVitieFish-yd7oq Apparently it's not that easy in the UK either. The waiting lists are enormous and in some places can take months if not years to get an actual test & diagnosis.
i don't like to frame autism as a disability per se, rather the *real* problem is the fact that we have monocultured society that try to coerce conformity rather than a polyculture that accommodates people just simply being different
I think it's something Temple Grandin touched on in her quote. The idea of not just being different to them, but rather seen as having less worth. If you take a room of 10 people, 9 of them being average size and one who is significantly bigger and stronger than the others. He's also "different," and even if none of them like him, he's not getting picked on. That only happens when the recipient is seen as being lesser than the group somehow. Then all social morals are deemed inapplicable to them because the lesser person either deserves to be mistreated or is implicitly understood to be unable to defend themselves from it. It isn't only the neurodivergent who are bullied. Contrasted to my first example, smaller sized people are especially picked on because they are also seen as being of lesser worth. The true problem is a lack of social decency as often expressed by the dominant social group, simply because they fear no reciprocal bad behavior from their targets.
Thank you! Although, I was not intending to improve on what you said. You are not incorrect. There are not enough advocates from the perspective of those outside the social majority. @@EliW95
I disagree, it's very much a disability and we require support regardless of how well the outside world caters to us. Comments like yours are part of a trend that is causing it to be harder for Autistic people to receive (medical) support and get on gouverment benefits. Right now there's a huge 'push' to get Autistic people in the workfield, while the vast majority are entirely unable to work (again, regardless of gow much a comlany caters to their needs.)
I disagree, the percentage of people with autism that cannot hold down a job even with a college degree is up to 85%. I would classify that as a disability because it makes it so much more difficult to support yourself. That and a lot of cases in autism it makes basic tasks like just eating a massive chore.
I am a newly disabled female, I guess. I was diagnosed with chronic vertigo coupled with vestibular chronic migraines in 2008 or nine. I do not look ill. Most of the time people just assume that I’m drunk or high on some thing. It is frustrating, disheartening and it’s very difficult sometimes for me to ask or want people to help me because everybody seems to think that just because I might look good today That I’m not really sick and I’m taking it, or that I can just get over it and push through it no problem which is probably part of my problem because I’ve tried to push through for so long and ignore it to. I can’t even work anymore. I would love to work. I have been told that I am not a viable candidate for any type of work outside or inside the home because of my disability because I fall. I think this is stupid I think if I work from home and I’m taking the risk in my own home, that I should be granted D, or actually afforded the opportunity to do I don’t know answer phones for somebody or something like some of these other remote jobs some people have. I think I would be good at it and it would probably help my self-esteem and my mental net awareness because sometimes I feel like I’m just getting bog down by fogginess because there’s really not a whole lot for me to do. I wish people understood that just because I don’t look sick doesn’t mean that I’m not and that if I actually extend myself and ask for help, please help me because it took a lot for me to do that because I’m a very proud person. Thank you for listening.
Disabilities is an awful word for having inconvenient quirks that help us cope with the super processing system that is our brains. The brilliance we offer comes with a few harmless quirks.... Deal with it!!!
I was born half blind. That makes me a disabled person. Because I cannot see through my left eye. I am also autistic. That makes me a disabled person also. Because it prevents me from social inclusion. We are a social species, we need community. And disability is NOT a dirty word.
I hate how I lay in bed in the mornings and hear the world start - how people wake up, some easier than others, but still wake up, get ready, eat breakfast, go out to school/work, drive, take a bus, socialise, talk, laugh, run or be lazy, all ready to do it again the next day ... and I am in bed in sooo much pain feeling exhausted no matter how many hours I slept or didn't sleep, and it's this moment of dark loneliness. But I'm sure many neighbours look at me, an adult living with her parents and think 'she's lazy, she loves to sleep, she is using her parents, she doesn't want to grow up, she smiles/laughs/walks so she must feel great' ... Please don't make assumptions about others. Let's just be kind to each other.
My classmate in nursing school’s name is Oyinkansola and I’m here to try and pronounce it because I can see her frustrations as well… thanks for the video
And women also are more open to expressing how they feel. I think men with fibromyalgia feel like they’re supposed to be tough and hide it. So they don’t get diagnosed
@@johnathanabrams8434 I agree. Cis/trans/gay women can absolutely be/act tough and hide their pain. And cis/trans/gay men can be open about how they feel. Is it also true that more women are diagnosed with fibromyalgia? Aren’t men generally are taught to be tough and not “complain” when they’re hurting? And therefore not as many men get diagnosed with fibromyalgia…? I believe that fibromyalgia doesn’t discriminate on gender, sex, age, or ethnicity. Anyone can get it. Medical statistics show that women in general are more likely to go to a Dr for various symptoms. While men, in general, think they are supposed to just be tough and ignore them. I think this is true for all kinds of conditions. Please tell me if I’m wrong, I’m interested to expand my understanding.
Let me tell you... my name is also Oluwaseun and I know how you feel about your name. I was born in the Netherlands, and they pronounce my name in many different styles. It's not the easiest name to have it. But we have to thank the Lord that the name is giving to us!
