Keeping it REAL! I am your friendly, entertaining, creative and sometimes informative mother of two and unpaid carer, whom has tons of hopefully useful advice with a dab of humour where appropriate. Need some information on something? Just want to be entertained? Or even just want to empathise with the everyday woes of parenthood and caring? Come say hi and subscribe, would be great to hear from you!
Wow you have helped me very much today! My 20 year old has Tourette Syndrome really severe, and i haven't stopped since he was born it feels like. Also my mom has vascular dementia (I saw your video) but thankfully she still has her husband to help. You're such a blessing ❤ Greetings from Texas 🇺🇸
Omg my mom has vascular dementia! I had never heard that specific term before her diagnosis 😢 It's been 3-4 years now. She's 78 and still at home with husband. And just the slowest, saddest thing to witness. No medicine helps. Early mornings and evenings are worse. She recently stopped driving. Gets confused using a cell phone. I am thankful I gave her 4 grandchildren, although she is not remembering them very well. Mom always recognizes me, but forgets others very often. I am SO VERY SORRY for your loss. I know exactly what you must have been through. How long did she live after entering the care home? I'm so very sorry, my friend 💔 Thank you so much for sharing this.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m at the beginning stages of dementia with my Dad who is 94. He is losing his faculties and I’m afraid I can’t keep him safe at times. He lives with me and my son and daily he is confused but we can still play cards and have some good conversations share a good meal and such . He is hoarding things gets turned around and nervous he says . And he can be confrontational and angry at us. It is very hard but I’m going to hang on as long as I can
@@lindalefort782 it is really really hard. Now my dad has been diagnosed with it so it’s a double blow. What support do you have in place and are you based in the UK? X
My parents are hoarders. I try to keep nothing bc of it. I regret some of things I throw away or get rid of, but I’m scared of being like my parents. My mom is the main hoarder and she used to say she’s not rich so she can’t throw things away. It’s ironic because she has spent so much money rebuying things because she can never find what she’s looking for. They pay for 3 storage units at the moment but used to have 6! We are currently going through them. The amount of money they could’ve saved… My mom is a software engineer so she has a bunch of textbooks and computer programs new in boxes. Completely Worthless. Most of the hoarding though is paper stuff. Old unopened mail, medical files and tax documents going back 30+ years. I recently found she saved all the speeding tickets they got in the past 10 years. She loves saving pharmacy papers too, the stuff they staple/ parcel up with your doctors prescription. I found multiple stashes of wine corks she’s been “saving for a project”. She doesn’t even drink so she’s been collecting from family events or friends for years. The stuff is also disorganized and collected like sediment. Layers and layers of their history. Food hoarding is another issue… It’s tough and always a battle to get rid of things. I’m lucky that I have an elder and younger sibling my parents listens to. They don’t listen to me so much as I’m the middle child that’s always nagging so they automatically tune me out. 😂 When they moved to a smaller house we had to rent an industrial sized dumpster and throw all the garbage they kept. I still secretly toss things, which is easy since they don’t know what they have. I don’t bother discussing anymore because they won’t change at their age and it just turns into a fight. I also don’t bother talking about their hoarding because I don’t have thick skin. 😢 the fighting over their things always turn into insults at me. Gotta laugh through the pain if you can. Chin up. ❤
My sister and brother in law have been…for lack of a better term, brainwashed by a certain “conservative” news station here in the U.S. They’ve become doomsday prepares and have filled their home with generators, water barrels, 5 years worth of dehydrated food, plus weapons and ammo. Their house is filled top to bottom with still they’ll likely never use, and it saddens me that they’ve been so filled with conspiracy theories that they cannot enjoy life. Rather sad.
I am going to be 80 in a few weeks. I am very well educated, world traveled, been engaged 5 times and could never commit. I have never been lonely or bored in my life. If you have time to be lonely, you have time to help someone or volunteer. With all of the available schools online, you can take some classes. Even working full time, I am addicted to online college. I am an only child, so I am used to entertaining myself. There is no reason to be lonesome. Take some computer classes online but always be careful online as it can be dangerous. Most people find excuses not to interact with others and usually lack confidence. They are thinking too much. Learn to do something. Sew, crochet, knit. There is so much in this world that you can do, that no one should have time to be lonely. Kiddo, you are still young and you have a nice, friendly face, but it is obvious that you need more in your life than you presently have. Stop thinking about all of the things that are wrong in your life and think about what you would like to change. You are young and have a whole life ahead. And smile and say hello to everyone you pass during the day. You need to start adding to your life. --
Depends how much time you have and how committed you are. It took me over a year - I started it and they updated it to a newer version! It took me longer as I have other commitments.
I am diagnosed with primary hyperparathyroidism with adjusted calcium 2.69 and pth 10.6. They think it's mild but i feel little nausea. I am not sure how to proceed. I have been referred to Endocrinology department and they will discuss surgical and localisation studies. I am bit concerned now. Any suggestions please. Cheers
Hi. Tricky one. I would attend the consultation and explore your options, once you’re better informed you can make a decision. For me it was just surgery or nothing. I think that that’s the only route you can go down. Best of luck!
Just had this surgery a week ago and it’s unbelievable how great I feel now. Get the surgery. It’s easy and the recovery is amazing. You will wish you’d had it done sooner.
I had my parathyroid surgery a week ago. I had two of 4 removed. I would never had expected the change in my energy level and mood. I feel so wonderful I can’t explain it to you. I wish the diagnosis had come a few years ago, needless fatigue and depression for several years.
Mom has been suffering with Alzheimer's for 15 years. It has been so sad and difficult for the entire family. I know exactly how you felt when your video was made. The family feels such grief and guilt. Blessings!
Hi Clara. It is 6 years later that I am seeing your video. it sounds like you had even a tougher time than I did...as my mother declined from Vascular Dementia. She died in May 2023. It was subtle in the beginning and we attributed her lack of interest in things she used to LIKE...to simply aging. She was 82...when Covid Hit us here in the United States. Our mother was very sociable and missed her friends during lockdown...but she was disinterested in calling them. All the things we did together like exchanging videos or sharing songs...held no interest for her. I simply thought it was due to aging. Boy...was I wrong about that! Mom is a classic case for VD. She had several mini-strokes...20 years prior. 2021 she got an A- Fib diagnosis. Three months later...she was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. She lasted 2 years after her diagnosis. As you know...VD moves more quickly to the brain. We were told that because the plaque moves thru arteries...it reaches the Brain faster than Alzheimers usually does. My brother and I became Caregivers. So with Mom...Mini Strokes, Blood Pressure Meds, A-Fib then Vascular Dementia. In 2023...she took a fall at the facility. They couldn't operate due to her frailty. She died in her sleep..which is what she wanted. I never had the heartbreak of her not recognizing me or getting agitated for no reason. We had a few stressful moments...but we always sorted it out. I think you mentioned your father was ill? My father is moving towards Severe Alzheimers right now in 2024. He lives with my brother and requires 24 hour supervision and padlocks on GATES...or he wanders. He is also the one who hallucinates...my mother never did. My father sometimes doesn't recognize me for a moment...but then he does. Probably because I bring HOMEMADE COOKIES to him twice a week😉😊I hope you are doing better now than you were before. Blessings to you and your Family.
Looks nice. Perhaps I should try that with my patient as she loves cookies :) Only thing I'd say is that metal spoons are best kept away from non-stick pans (1:43 onwards)
Sorry for your loss. I lost both my parents in February 2024. Two and a half weeks apart. They had dementia and lots of other health issues. Both 86. Dad, one week shy of 87. To top it off my sister and I went through hell and back with our brothers. We had different ideas as to how mum and dad were to be cared for. My sister and I wanted mum and dad in a nursing home but they ended up with 24/7 care at home which wasn’t ideal because there were no checks and balances and were not on top of their doctors appointments. My brothers always got their way. I never want to see them again and we were not on talking terms before we had to reconnect, all communicated via WhatsApp, to organise mum and dads care. Had their funerals, one service and three wakes, my sister and I together, and because our brothers are not on talking terms as well, they each had a separate wake. Very sad all round but I keep saying that mum and dad are at peace and in a better place, reunited with all their family that have gone before them. Their life was miserable at the end. I love watching on you tube the psychic mediums Matt Fraser and Theresa Caputo. They make me believe there is an afterlife and will be reunited one day with them. In the meantime look out for signs your mother might be sending you. Surround yourself with good people, it helps and get rid of the toxic people. All the best and take care. ❤️
I discovered I had Hyperparathyroidism when I had 3rd stage kidney disease. I had 2 or 3 bad glands. First 5 years weren't so bad. The last 5 years were fatigue, depression and suicidal ideation. The surgery fixed me. Don't take vitamin D3 while you have Hyperparathyroidism
Hi! Just discovered your video on conquering grief, and I wanted to express my gratitude for sharing such important insights. Your tips for moving forward during challenging times are incredibly valuable, and I appreciate the compassionate approach you bring to this topic. What you discussed aligns perfectly with the themes I explore on my Christian channel. Grief is something many of us struggle with, and your practical advice provides a beacon of hope for those navigating through difficult emotions. Your willingness to tackle such a sensitive subject with empathy and wisdom is truly commendable. I've not only found this video helpful but also subscribed to your channel.
My father passed away in November 2023 from vascular dementia, it is such a horrible horrible disease to go through, but at the very end he left very peacefully, and is now free to fly and isn’t suffering anymore, thank you for your video it was very similar to my dad and his journey
Yes it was filmed a long time ago but I still miss dearest mum every day. It would have been her birthday on 25th Jan. Thank you for watching and your kind words…
