Hi! I am Aretha Boex. I am a full-time Project Manager and a part-time Digital Content Creator.
I make videos about self-management, personal growth, and living with intention. I like to reframe my obsession with productivity through the lens of self-compassion.
Please help yourself to the content and take what resonates with you! I appreciate you.
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Black-and-White Thinking: - If I can’t do it perfectly, why even bother? - If I cannot complete everything on my list, why even start? - If everyone doesn’t love me, I am a failure. - If I don’t receive praise constantly, then everyone hates me. Dialectical Thinking: - Even if I can’t do it perfectly, making progress is valuable. Imperfect efforts still contribute to growth and improvement. - Even if I don’t complete everything on my list, starting helps me accomplish some tasks, which is still a step forward. - Not everyone has to love me for me to have value. I can still have meaningful relationships and self-worth regardless of others' opinions. - A lack of constant praise doesn’t mean people hate me. I can appreciate my own efforts and recognize that praise isn’t the only measure of my value.
Hi! I didn't know dialectical thinking and it is very interesting and eye opening on our sometimes not healthy ways of understanding some things in our lives. We need more of that! Thank you keep going ⭐
So glad this resonated with you! Sometimes we create fake choices for ourselves because we think one thing means another thing cannot happen. But life is full of contradictions and they coexist just fine! By holding space for our own contradictions, we can continue to move forward.
Incredible, thank you so much, it is so well explained ! The project I have been stuck on is my master thesis, because in the beginning it seemed so easy...and then, I began to feel like an imposteur and one of my professors made from time to time some subtle remarks putting me down, thnking that I was a cocky and proud, arrogant person. But indeed, his words destroyed my confidence in my self and I felt guilty to feel so much passion and to do this thesis so esaily in the beginning. Now I am stuck and I try everytime to complcate things because I fear his reaction, I imagine that he will tell me : "well, I know wome students that have worked harder than you, you haven't done something so incredible indeed, it wasn't worth it". Sorry for my english and thank you so much for this video, I am going to apply your advises.
I am so glad this video was helpful to you! It is so unfortunate that your professor's comments chipped away at your confidence. You've got this! You made it this far into your academic program because you have what it takes. Start small and build on it. It is always so much easier to edit a draft than it is to start from scratch. Good luck!
But seriously. Mental work or mental obstacles are easily hidden and by the average person never given a second thought. Take any physical warehouse, or manufacturing place. These places usually run smoother than a criminal. Easily, naturally and productively. Because all moving parts are seen and understood and identified clearly as well as people and their duties are clearly defined. Mental work takes on many forms, people are often not aware of the mental barriers or obstacles they are even dealing with
Yes! You are spot on! All that invisible work is why we feel constantly overwhelmed and burnt out. I love how you contrast that with how a warehouse operates.
For sure!! The brain is a limited organ much like our other organs. It needs rest, it needs specific things to function optimally. Unfortunately many employers exploit this blind spot of " invisible work" and people fail to realize that mental activity of all kinds is very much activity and taxing on the body.
I am so glad this resonated with you! We always try to do everything else first, putting ourselves last. It's time to change that! (Thanks for the sub! 😀)
What if your self inspired myself. Then ourselves might inspire themselves, never at all by ourselves but for ourselves, thru ourselves then you yourself can be inspired
What was your last personal experiment? Mine was daily planning using Cal Newport's "Planned/Actual/Revised" framework, which I read about in the book Make Time by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky.
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