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That example, at the end, talking about how Amey(i) leading her mother, and also the clarity part, combined with the knowledge about her age... this gives me such much hope, and brings sadness and tears and mourning and also longing and trust that a vision of a future where this is the "norm" is possible. Simply by seeing: yeah, it's our fundamental core to relate to live with trust and care.
"do more work" hm, yeah, if you have the energy to it, else you will be depleted and not able to have the consciousness to do ofnr. But I guess, taking a break from people who are not into NVC, is NVC selfcare.
Respect is simple. In front of you, you have a Living Being who has their own needs and goals. Spiral Dynamics explains how different the priorities are. This principle applies to all living beings. You guys got lost in the weeds. I come from a background of violence. It took a lot of thinking to clarify when it is useful and when it is not useful. I find it useful only as self defense.
I’m coming to this in my 79th year hope it is not too late. I always felt there was another way to proceed when communicating with others. Encouraging demonstration.
When i get bad feelings ,i focus on the experience of it without the thoughts that cause it. If i do this ,the feeling always dissolves in an sense of love trust and peace. And allthough this is great ,i dont feel like i am working out the mental cause of these feelings and thus still can be triggered to have them on a later time...
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I found this a helpful reminder, I particularly liked the word ‘spin’ as this is how my brain can feel when my mind is trying to protect me, by preparing me for different scenarios that may never happen, which is of course overwhelming. I need to catch / see my thoughts, …. and say to myself “Thank you you brain, for now we just need to take one step and not worry 💕” My brain is SO ‘trained’ to try to be helpful and protect! So it’s a constant challenge. Reminder much appreciated.
Thank you so much for your cogent thoughts! It does occur to me that there are certain kinds of people who struggle to live in the present (like me), and those who struggle to adjust their idea of what their future holds, even in the face of overwhelming present evidence. What do you think? Might the shift in approach to decision-making depend a bit on our personalities?
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@tomsimmonds534 would you like acknolwedgment of rage? And of the incessant nature of the impacts on our society and our globe? Is there some despair too?
you could be genuine by 1st turning your face blending Filters OFF....... seems that that is an auto "go to" these days...... why the need to hide aging - well I do know - because we are treated dismissively ! we all should start "changing the dynamic " regardless of whether other people catch on to why it is important or not. Otherwise it shows that YOU also are also hiding reality.
@@nvcacademy what are you talking about ? I already said- be who you are and own it. LIFE is CHANGE . If you don't even possess minimal understanding, its' kinda pointless to clue you in.
How can I learn to ask more often from those around me. I do not ask very often, and I realize that I am living a smaller life than I could be living. Is there a checklist, or set of skills I can work on to develop a more healthy attitude toward the act of asking? I am aware that asking too much, or asking the wrong thing from the wrong people can land me in trouble, even if I am willing to hear 'no' as an answer.
How do I respond to a female supervisor who keeps making fun of my white colleague for being white? For instance, he's new to cooking and doesn't do it that often but sometimes my supervisor will notice what he's eating for lunch and make a remark "Can you stop being so white? That is the blandest looking food I've ever seen". Or he'll make a joke to our other office buddies and she'll make a remark that kind of puts him down "you sound like a white dad telling that joke". We'll be talking about dancing and she'll remark "he can't dance cuz he's white". He never rebuffs it because she's his superior.
Thanks so much for being willing to share this with us--I really hear your care and commitment to doing this work and to creating a workplace that works for all. I'm imagining when you hear the supervisor make those comments you feel uncomfortable, because you're really wanting a greater sense of safety and choice in the workplace. You also say that your colleague never rebuffs the statements because the person saying them is his supervisor. I'm taking that to mean that you believe that your colleague also feels uncomfortable when he hears these statements--and that you want him to have more choice about how he is being spoken to and for him to be seen for more than just his race. In my response to you, I am starting with this because the tools we offer in this workshop are based on the idea that everyone is worthy of understanding and compassion--and giving that to yourself first is a powerful place to begin. So I'd encourage you to start there. The next steps would then be to expand that understanding and compassion to all people in the scenario you've described and then to speak up from that place about your own values, about what's important to you, and then making your request. I hope that's helpful. And if you'd like to see what that looks like and to learn how you can do it yourself, I hope that you'll join our upcoming series.
What are the needs for self empathy? My situation is this, every time someone in my house I get nervous, I even dissociate. Now I noticed I feel relieved because the person who cleans my house is on holiday. It sounds weird but still, I get affected by this events. I think it’s because I feel, I don’t have authority in my house. And the feeling is fatigue and tired and procrastinating.
Dear @Lets.7860, thank you for sharing this with us. We're hearing that when you see someone else in your living space, you dissociate-are you exhaisted, and are you longing for safety and comfort?
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“Are you angry because you would like my government to use its resources differently?” “So you are furious and would appreciate some support in improving your living conditions and gaining political independence?” “Sounds like you’re feeling very desperate and you’re wondering whether I or anybody else can really understand what’s like to be living under these conditions. Am I hearing you right?” “I hear how painful it is for you to rise your children here; you’d like me to know that what you want is what all parents want for their children - a good education, opportunity to play and grow in healthy environment…” “You’d like more Americans to be aware of the enormity of the suffering here and to look more deeply at the consequences of our political actions? NVC by Marshall Rosenberg p. 13-14
I agree that anger is a protective energy and it wants to protect life. I'm just not sure it's accurate to say that there is no such thing as a wrongdoing, or if we believe someone is wrong we are acting like we are God. Sometimes someone did do something wrong. For eg, the abuse of a child. Narcissistic abuse especially from parents. There is rage and even hate in the child which he or she is forced to repress or turn on themselves, and it shows up as anxiety or depression later in life. As the now-adult is helped to explore their feelings, a tremendous amount of unexpressed rage is encountered at some point in the journey. So I guess I'm wondering how it's possible to heal unless it is also acknowledged that something wrong was done to the vulnerable child.
Thank you for this comment. Is it that you'd really like for there to be an understanding of how much harm has been experienced as a result of someone's actions? And that this is such an essential part of the healing process, and supporting the child to make sense of their experience?
