Tumi should not have publicly discussed her matters with her friend before talking to her friend first, especially if this was the type of friend who was always willing to go the extra mile for her without keeping tabs on anything she did. Now Tumi is playing victim and inviting people to feel sorry for her without them knowing what truly happened. People only know her side of the story and who's to say that what she's saying is entirely true? And if Tumi is/was a true friend, why did she think it's ok to sell such a story without speaking to the person who apparently used to be so dear to her? Someone she loved as a sister? When people love each other and they are in a relationship, arguing or a bit of conflict is something that is likely to happen and when it does, you don't publicly speak ill of them. Especially if you have never bothered to let them know how you feel. If you can easily do that, then I think your character is questionable. If you felt the need to vent, you could have done that with someone who is interested in helping you mend your relationship with that person( that's if you wanted to work/talk things out).
On this issue of umjolo at church is not okay, I believe it limits you spiritual power or level, it goes hand in hand with friendships. When you go to church or there’s a service you go there and do the countdowns on meeting with your friends more than going to church for ukusonta and God only. How do you sit listening to someone you know their laundry?? Well… I shall bot be held accountable for this comment, it’s based on my experience and my knowledge
I have to disagree with her, on the music video attires part. People don't understand hore artist only wear those clothes for that particular shoot then ba di beya, just like models. You can't walk around the hood with butt cheecks showing nkare you're on a Nicki Minaj music video and be surprised when some men sexualize you. Even Nicki Minaj shooting that video with that erotic outfit was to get that erotic attention from her fans. I hope this makes sense.
Why are men even sexualizing women by the clothes they wear? What we wear and how we decide to wear it doesn't give anymore the right to think they can prey on us.
@@Aunty_Rae women and being naive. There are always perpetrators out there waiting to strike. The world is not safe, rather minimize risk than walking around naked, knowing that more than half of our population is perverted. E.g When you are in Jozi, do you walk around with your phone in your hands or well secured in your pockets? No you don't cause know you might get robbed. When you're at the mall, do you leave your car unlocked? No 'cause you know there might be perpetrators lurking in the mist, waiting for the right moment to steal your car. After washing your sneakers, do you leave them exposed and unsecured for everyone passing to see? No you don't cause they might get stolen. I can go on and on. Minimize risk! Safety is not guaranteed, yes, but minimize risk. And how do you do that? By never leaving yourself or your possessions vulnerable/exposed.
I am still in contact with my ex but it's not that deep. I think it all comes down to how the relationship ended. If it was a bad fallout then hey, keep your distance. Block them if necessary, but if it was a genuine and mutual break up, then it's not a bad thing checking up on them once in a while but [keep the distance] detach famo
