Welcome to my world, where your differences are not just accepted, but celebrated.
I’m Becca Lory Hector-an advocate, author, researcher, consultant, and speaker that is passionate about promoting neurodiversity and inclusivity. My journey has been one of discovery, resilience, and embracing my authentic self. From my late-in-life autism diagnosis to creating my own personal development course, my mission is to help others find their path to a fulfilling and self-empowered life.
Whether you’re here to find out more about my journey as a late-identified Autistic, start your own journey, or simply find a space that truly understands, uplifts and motivates you, you’ve found your home.
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Resting isn't too hard for me. I actually usually enjoy it. I've needed more recently. I find dicing and seeing nature very recharging too. In the last several weeks, I've been grateful for the support of family and friends. I've been dealing with health issues. I have a much better support system than I ever thought. Thanks for sharing!
Hi Becca! Glad to see you back on RU-vid! Like you were describing, there are many little things, or glimmers, that make me happy. I live in a suburban area, but very near rural areas. I talked a drive almost every morning. I often see dear, wild turkeys, and other birds. This morning, I spent time watching a couple of Downey Woodpeckers working on a tree. I also saw an eagle in flight. Unfortunately, I didn't get good pics. Little joys like that keep me going.
Thank you so much for this, Becca! Many things you mention serve as valuable reminders for me. Plus, a light bulb went off on the POTS/salty munchies moment. Are we from the same gene pool? Take care and say hey to Antonio! (Listened on delay due to some Sunday routines).
Thank you for this video Becca. Sorry, I'm late to watch as always, but this was a great short with a message i think myself and alot of people need. (People who know why u do these videos and appreciate them) Haters gonna....well, u know, say dumb stuff that lets everyone know their level of intelligence, and apparently how much THEIR life must suck. Love to you Becca, u have helped me a lot and I wish I could do the same. thank u again💙
I feel that Minecraft could sponge my life. But I get a lot of joy from watching my nephew build and that is satisfying. He is so creative What a lovely lady. She has a heart of gold 💛
Dani is a complete moron. He excludes autistic people who have different opinion on him and have no problem with the term "Aspie" (he sees it as something demonic). A bit of a language purist. Also, like so many lefties, he continues to whine about capitalism. He doesn't represent us autists very well.
Well, this is incredibly ableist. First of all, my pronouns are CLEARLY stated in the video. Please refrain from misgendering people. I do not exclude people for having a different opinion, I do however provide education on the history of violence towards autistic people - and this includes the fascist history and the disenfranchisement of autistic people from Hans Asperger. This isn't a matter of a difference of opinion, it's empirical and objective fact, it's literal history. The vast majority of the autistic community rejects the usage of the term and label "Aspergers," not only due to the incredibly problematic history of the labeling, not only because of it's reinforcement of the use of problematic and harmful functioning labels, but also because none of the above actually exist any longer as a diagnosis or diagnostic criteria per the DSM V. I stand with the autistic community and with our preferences of language and the rejection of ableism that was placed up us without our consent. I do not, nor have I ever considered anything "demonic" because that's ridiculous and I don't believe that demons exist, haha. As far as my "whiny" stances on capitalism are, that's not on me to educate you. If you don't agree with the socioeconomic, sociological, or political positions listed on my page, then don't come to it - simple as that. I don't need to cater to everyone, my content is not for everyone and that's fine by me. Clearly you had some sort of interaction on my page that has made you reactionary, and while I have no history of interaction from you on my page, it's clear from your comment here that you weren't worth remembering in the first place.
@@TPRA77 I am an Autistic fella, I however refuse to be offended easily over small matters🙄 my faith is in ✝️ I confess my commandment has been aggressive, but what makes my blood oil is this snowflake culture run by feminized men that merely love to judge condemn those who disagree. Wicked!
@@TPRA77 also whether or not you believe demons exist changes nothing 🤣🤣🤣now, I disagree with Locke that Autism was a demon. No, this man is a maniac - just like you lefties are. Nevertheless, I would prefer being around folks like Greg Locke over folks like you. The evangelicals didn’t point fingers at me over my music, my drawings on DeviantArt etc. I had many unhealthy addictions, I had to stop gaming, because it took away my time. A descision that was painful, but maybe saved my life. In fact, I fell in love with an evangelical girl, she loves the LORD. Whether I am good Christian, I don’t know, for I view myself as a bad one. I wish to stop sinning. But I wish people to questioner system. Back in the old days, even liberals like George Carlin began to see what’s goin on. A society, in where Gen Z is trying to draw kids towards them and make them question their gender. Only on Monday I was in the park, I saw innocent kids playing - and I thought in the words of that old Pink Floyd song „hey teacher - leave those kids alone!“ Dani, if I was you, I‘d get on my knees and cry out to the LORD. If you have questions, He will answer you. I used to be a worse sinner than you are now prior to my repentance. I know you laugh at me. But remember that Johnny Cash song? You can run on for a long time, but sooner or later God‘s gonna cut you down!
Hi Becca, I wanted to take a second to let you know how this video has helped me. I am 53, just diagnosed autistic last year after a lifetime of confusion and a few incorrect mental health diagnoses. I want you to know how important it was to me for you to show your meltdown. For a long time, I've been having what I thought we're just crying jags, because what I saw in videos of autistic meltdowns wasn't the true state of what happened to me. Watching this video, I saw for the first time somebody else experiencing what I experience every so often, sometimes daily. It shows me that these are indeed meltdowns. All the emotions get backed up. Everything gets too much, and I end up feeling, like you said during the meltdown when you just need a hug from your mom, like a child. Every time I have these I feel like I can't cope, like there is something wrong with me because I simply can't handle...life. Although I've spent the past year reframing my life and researching absolutely everything there is to know about ASD, as that quest itself has become a SPIN for me, I feel like I'm just scratching the surface. I could never be an advocate like you are, spending so much wonderful outward energy to make us seen and known. My energy is very precious and I need a lot of downtime after an experience, as we all do. So thank you for this. If you were at all rethinking whether you should've posted it, you made the right decision, because you greatly helped me understand a huge aspect of my life.
Wow what a beautiful looking house! 🤩🫶🏼 All that green is so gorgeous and the water area is stunning. What a pleasure to have followed you on this journey. I’m excited to see the next chapter! Next level up career vlog!? I’ve been encouraged and have designed my own colouring book for Amazon… you are so inspiring! Mwah xx 😚
Schenectady always makes me think of Fountains of Wayne. "Someone to Love" is now on repeat in my brain. Lol. PS - Please consider doing another vlog at some point. We are now all invested! :)
I'm not often one to comment on RU-vid videos, but I have to say how much I love Antonio's Dual Spires Cinnamon Festival tee - one of the best Twin Peaks homages I've ever seen! Excellent choice, my dude. 😎👍
Loving these vlogs and updates- great idea about the windows and cats. We’ve done that with a hotel and luggage before 😜👍🏼 I can imagine it being utterly exhausting doing all the driving let alone with animals! Well done you 🫶🏼⭐️
Wow 🤩 offer is in! Amazing! I can understand your hunting for food… tiresome 😞😢 So have you had people look round the old house yet… not sure if it works differently there? Do you need to sell to buy? My goodness, the thought of an escape room utterly terrifies me! Lol! I guess it’s in line with you real crime thrill seeking side? You can always do it another time. Happy anniversary xx 💋
Totally understand the hyper focus painting! Although these days it can create flare ups with EDS so I’ve been told to pace myself! Which I hate doing! And off they go! Woohoo 🎉 Will you be doing any driving? Chasing freedom god-damn it! 🤣
Great reflections- loving the video editing btw! 🤩 Lovely to see Antonio in the video too 👋🏼- I preferred your blue bedroom too- calming 😌 Great videos for you to keep forever too.
I wish the decision to disclose or not disclose was not so difficult in today’s workplace. I have not yet chosen to disclose when applying, but have chosen to only apply for positions where my accommodations can be guaranteed by working from home. I am currently autistically out at work now. It works because of my industry type and has felt pretty good.
I actually liked the green bathroom. I had significant feels at the beginning and just as significant when you showed your empty office. Walter expresses it, too. Bittersweet and finding sweetness to spare, I feel lucky to tag along via your blog. Always: thanks for all you do!
Keepin’ in real 😘 You are not alone with your adult meltdowns! I totally felt that solidarity with you. It’s very emotional moving and Everything that comes along with it. X
I actually had a discussion with my Engineering VP a few weeks ago, where I told him that I almost quit because behaviours in the workplace on how people communicated, and shared knowledge left me feeling like it was inaccessible to me, and a pattern emerged that once I saw it my mind couldn't let me stay in the situation unchanged. I said in that moment I had a choice between leaving, and being loud about what was wrong (and risking having to leave), because I could not work unless something changed. I chose to stay, but it only worked if I felt I had the scope to push and change things.
Becca - please try to not be so hard on yourself. All those emotions at the beginning of the show are totally expected based on the pressure and upheaval you are experiencing. Don’t fight the feelings. Live them and let them go when ready. ❤
This subject is so important!!! Def the interview we can mask, but then we get the job and masking long term is not sustainable at all! And shout out to me lol
