I'm 24 years old and I'm still working at My job and I'm so Excited to still working and I'm Really Excited i just can't wait to start Driving I'm Glad you passed 🙂🩷
Congratulations on your Driver's license I'm Going to Get My license Next week and i just passed My Driver's Test and Got My certificate I'm so Excited I'm still studying for Driving and My Dream car is a Toyota crolla Le and a Toyota camry in Black and I'm so Excited and I'm so Excited I'm Going to Live with My Boyfriend and His Mom and Have a Girl cat and a girl Dog and a parrot and I'm so Excited I'm Doing My Nails and Eyebrows Again 😃🩷
Your video is very balanced. The men who provide financially but don’t exercise visitation aren’t deadbeats in my opinion. Those ones walk away to have peace not bc they are irresponsible. I personally think a man should keep a distance from a toxic ex wife/baby mama, pay child support, move on and start another family. Some of these women can really mess up his life and even land him in jail. I’ve seen women date men with kids and insert themselves in his co parenting by pushing him to get custody only for it to backfire. For me, I’ll focus on my relationship and stay out of that mess. I don’t care about being politically correct or appearing noble to outside people. In some cases, it’s best to move on and restart another family without interference from past relationships. The children will reach out to their father when they are old enough. There are some people who find out the truth as adults and reconnect with their dad. It almost always happens bc the kids are always curious to seek out their dad as it’s part of their identity. So I’m of the opinion that men shouldn’t waste time and money on a custody battle. It’s best to cut your losses and move on. They should take it as a lesson and pick a better woman the next time and have other kids.
I know too many women who ended up a single mother simply from messing with men with children who never committed to any of the women he created those kids with. Hard pass. Men avoid women with children for a reason and childless women should take heed to men's logic with this one vs. looking at it from an emotional standpoint. If you ever get married and he owes back child support, that other woman will be getting a check that's ripped from YOUR childless bank account (if you file jointly). And don't be sleep to the fact she has the power to make your life a living hell at any given moment she wants & you will feel the brunt of it regardless as he has to deal with her because she has his child. Have a cousin in her 20's with no children who's with a man with 4 kids and she's now struggling due to 1/2 his income going out of the door. So instead of just taking care of herself she's now helping HIM as well after child support eats that check. Couldn't even take her bday vacation cause she had to help this man - I wish tf I would not treat myself on behalf of someone else's children & money problems caused by their reproductive irresponsibility. If you don't have kids don't install yourselves into anyone's life as "stepmom" - especially if you are young. Every situation is different but the story of women who fall for these men sadly usually ends the same - she gets pregnant, he starts treating her different, they break up and now she's his next baby mama. He gets to move on but they're stuck a single mother and being judged by every man they want to date in the future or even avoided by some cause on the flipside men see this as a burden to them. This is coming from someone who's 30 and was in an 8 year relationship with someone with 3 kids. It was pure hell don't sell yourselves short ladies.
this is so exciting! I just got myself a 2020 nissan versa sv. i'm a toyota person but i dropped the gun too fast and this is what i ended up leaving the lot with, lol. i'm obsessed with watching these types of videos!!!! lol.
I know it’s bad getting my permit at age 23, I have to get my permit because I’m pregnant I need get around got to my doctors appointment but i taking it June 14 and I’m in same boat with you with the license part only thing I do learn is parking and turner, etc that need get pack down
I congratulate you on getting your first car. I am a forty-one-year-old driving with my probationary auto license. It feels good to be driving. My mom told me I can go car shopping in June 2022. My budget is ten Gs. I saw a blue Honda sedan at a nearby gas station going for five grand. I may check it out.
Thank you for the information and I understand the last part heavy when people say why do you deal with the situation. But they aren’t in any better situation
ahhh congratulations girlll!! i just got my first carrrr it’s a used 2008 Toyota RAV4 and I’m super excited for it!!! Definitely foreign cars are wayyyyyy better lol😂
Yoo, i'm 24 and i've never drove before, im taking lessons so i can get my drivers licence to then go car shopping, i've been saving for almost 3 years to buy it cash, i'm so excited
You’ve mentioned before you’ve been dating him for 4 years probably more. Has he mentioned marriage to you? And is he okay with having more kids with you. Just be careful. Wish you the best 💗
Hey Crystal! Yes, we’ve talked about marriage but after we’ve completed our master’s. We want to have some things established and know we can properly care for ourselves before marriage. And yes, we’ve talked about having kids together but likely one because kids are energetic lol. Thank you 😊 nothing but the best for you too
Congratulations girl! I’m currently in the process of finding a car and it’s been super draining😭 I also have a similar criteria as you, and sometimes it feels impossible to find a car that fits my criteria. But this video gives me hope that I’ll find mine too🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing!💛
Thankfully you came out of that situation safe and haven't had any accidents since then you've gotten much better over time and you'll only get better the more experience you have😊
Well I wouldn’t say all that. You can love yourself and do it lol. It’s all about the relationship, what you can and cannot tolerate, and other things. Everyone’s situation is very different, ya know?
I disagree. It's not for me, but for some women it's perfect. You have to know yourself and your needs REALLY well before dating a single parent of either gender. You also have to have identified and healed your attachment system and core wounds. Here's how to know whether this is right for you: ***Dating a single parent *could be perfect* for what you want IF*** 0) you like his kids and they like- and respect- you 1) always wanted a family 2) are just as capable of loving someone else's kids as you are your own 3) maybe don't want your own kids but would love to have kids in your life 4) intend to continue living in your current city, a close-by city, or at least the same state for the long term 5) are fine with not taking vacations or traveling with your partner for extended periods 6) feel financially secure and have clear financial boundaries around whose resources go to the person's kids and when; as well as how much of his resources you expect to go toward your partnership 7) have plenty of your own interests and activities to fill your time 8) can feel secure in your relationship knowing his kids will always come before you 9) feel secure around his ex and his/her involvement in your partnership via their shared children does not bother you 10) have experience and comfort with blended family situations 11) can balance detachment toward his kids and their primary relationship to their own mother with providing additional mothering and mentoring in a different capacity 12) there are clear boundaries around what authority you do and don't have with his kids 13) there are clear boundaries around how his kids behave when they are in your home 14) you like and respect his parenting style 15) you have gone successfully through the first three stages of a relationship with this person (dating, honeymoon, power struggle) and have settled securely into one of the last three stages (stability, commitment, bliss) -- and if not with this person, you have BOTH gone successfully through these stages in other relationships ***additionally, DO NOT combine your life, finances, or household with a single parent before you have made it successfully out of the power struggle stage of the relationship with them and into the stability phase or beyond*** 16) you have extremely strong, honest trust and communication with your single parent partner and feel safe advocating for your needs and boundaries 17) you have good trust and communication with his kids and they respect your boundaries ***ON THE CONTRARY, Dating a single parent *could be absolutely wrong* for what you want IF*** 0) you don't you like his kids and/or they don't like- and respect- you ***this is non-negotiable- in no instance is it ever okay to proceed in a relationship with a parent whose kids you can't get along with, period*** 1) have goals, dreams or ambitions for the long term that will likely take you out of your current living area 2) like to take extended vacations and trips and want to share those with your partner 3) want someone whose financial resources are exclusively available for your partnership 4) have high needs for quality time and intimacy that will go un-met when having to share your partner with his obligations to his kids 5) have bad chemistry with his ex or are unwilling to maintain harmony with her for the sake of his obligations 6) your financial expectations for how much, if any, of YOUR resources go to his children do not align with each other 7) you feel overly attached to his kids 8) you consciously or unconsciously compete with his kids 9) you feel resentment about his children coming before you or continually suppress and ignore your own needs to make a relationship with a single parent work 10) - 17) are missing any of the above things in the "dating a single parent could be perfect for you" list and are not willing or capable of resolving those things
Love it great tips on buying a car and what to look for... I have a Nissan altima 2016 I think I'm bougie cuz I was the opposite when it came to cash car or note... I literally didn't want a cash car because I want a updated car and knew I wouldn't be able to afford it unless I pay a note... but my note is only $200 a month so it worked out for me
Oh it definitely worked out for you! Girl I was too scared to even try getting a note. I crashed my car not long after getting insurance lol so I’m happy I went the cash route 😂
also i’m from chicago so i haven’t needed it, but now i’m about to graduate from NIU in illinois and it’s all cornfields here and it’s hard without a car/license 😭
Girl, Im turning 24 in Jan and JUST now starting the process to get my license lmao. Im buying myself a brand new car on my 25th bday cuz I aint want all those issues etc... a car note doesnt matter to me seeing that I am permanently employed and self employed. Im glad I found you because every other video is 17, 18, 19 years lol but I really didnt need a car then, I had a ride everywhere or I took a rideshare. Now that my baby started school, im in my last yr of my degree, my job is doing well etc, I have car fever 🤣
First of all, congratulations on the almost being done with your degree and your business! Once you have that car, it really does make things easier. Car fever is definitely a thing!
You fully covered and were accurate on this subject. It's real easy to say "he should fight" when she's getting child support and/or alimony, but he has to pay that child support/alimony + the legal fees...my friend spent $50k to get 50/50 custody and they werent even married and he was on the birth certificate. Bitter BM's will lose it about him getting a new girl, but he's supposed to pay her so his kids spend most of their time with her new bf/bf's. Honestly, most of the accusations from baby moms trying to keep him from visitation are that she can't stand the idea of the kids seeing him with another woman. She doesn't even have to exist yet.
It’s interesting how the legal system works and how people, moms and dads, can be selfish enough to think about themselves over their children. Ultimately, kids need love from both parents regardless if there’s a SO in the picture or not
I’ve NEVER entertained the fact of dating a man with kids . I am talking to this 40 year old man . I am 31 lol girllllllllll everything was going good til he dropped the bomb that he has three girls 😢😢😢 I really like him man but idk . He has a 22 year old he had when he was 16.. then he has a 17 and 19 year old . They don’t live with him (well his 22 year old used to live with him ) but he does take care of them and is active in their lives . Ugh I still don’t know man I just don’t know . This was a big downer . I almost feel bad cause now I feel ill only be dating him til something better opens up . Idk we will see lol all I know is I wouldn’t Dare tell my mom yet she gone faint tf out ! Lol
I totally get you. But I mean… he is 40 lol. I feel like most of the people in their 40s have kids, but that’s hard to say cause I’m still in my mid 20s. I feel like if he’s good to you and to his girls, why not? It’s not like they’re little and they need attention, girl they’re basically all grown lol
@@blessedfamilyof7142 i think our state wont do it cs of the coronavirus lmaoo .. all we did was take the test and if we pass they just ask if we know how to drive and if we say yes they give it to us . 😭
