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I just want to say that Alexis is brilliant and that working with her has been a privilege and a blessing.

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This is such a helpful insight! As you rightfully point out, fear comes from our head... and we shouldn't reduce the mind to the brain; our whole cellular memory encodes our experiences, and so there is an emotional response whenever we get triggered ; as one experts puts it, "the body keeps the score". So we need to be very mindful to prevent being engulfed by an overwhelming feeling and instead, detect where it emanates from. Popular psychology and spirituality tell us to "trust our gut feelings", but that can get really tricky, especially for people who deal with complex trauma, because their nervous system has been hijacked, so these alerts are not trustworthy most of the time. There is that pervasive feeling that indicates: "what if this dreadful realization is indeed a message from my unconscious mind, my innermost self?" It requires a a lot of self insight in order not be carried away by it and be able not to take these distressing, fleeting thoughts as facts. Yes, we can tell the difference between fear and intuition by examining where is it felt in our bodies: the first is this groin/gut response, the first three chakras, that releases adrenalin and cortisol (and which is obviously helpful in some cases) while the second is from the solar plexus - the heart chakra, as you mention, and may ascend to the upper ones, up to the crown center - and it feels like we "just know", which may be very relieving; that's how we know it's actually our Higher Self and guides whispering to our soul.

Maybe I'm too personal or direct but I'm taking the risk: I wonder if you read fiction. Reason is that I believe you love the intricate details of feelings. One of my favorite authors is Virginia Woolf. She describes the complicated inner world of her characters and their interpersonal relationships in a rich, beautiful and poetic way. I really love reading it! Recently I realized that reading good written fiction (eg. Woolf, Dostoevsky) enriches my own inner world. It gives me a greater understanding of myself and other people. Maybe reading fiction does not resonate with you at all and that's fine! This reaction just stems from my intuition :-)

Great video! What you say is recognizable to me. Sudden insights always relate to myself or other people. I can look at someone and spontaneously gain some insight. I suddenly see series of abstract images, followed by intricate feelings. This often happens in just a few seconds. I think I use logic to differentiate between insights based on fear or based on intuition (or love, as you stated). Just like getting the sudden insights, analytical thinking follows and comes effortless. It just happens. You could say it reorders the images and feelings in a more logical way. Then it suddenly 'clicks'. Does this make sense? My personal rule of thumb for differentiating: If this logic leads to my personal fears and traumas from the past, I know it stems from fear. If my logic stays with the other person, I know it is love/intuition. In that case, I know I have to get out of my head and make contact. It's more complicated in reality but this is in a nutshell how my brain works. I know that I'm intuitive and sensitive but also very analytical. So I often feel deeply and think deeply at the same time.

Through self-inquiry, I arrived to some of the conclusions you share, and that codependency is rooted in the fear of taking responsibility, so we have preferred to yield our personal power to someone who we perceive as more trustworthy than ourselves, even if the other person is struggling and has shown signs of emotional unavailability and irresponsibility. This is the ultimate form of self abandonment; we become absent from our own lives. I also found that helping someone who needs to be rescued granted me an apparently deep sense of purpose, that I craved so desperately to mitigate the sense of deep emptiness. So, it is crucial to find our authentic, highest purpose, aligned to our soul signature, and so hopefully we will realize our innate, inalienable value, strengthen our core, to gather the courage to respond to our calling. Reclaim our power, proclaim our sovereignty, exert our authority.

Very insightful! I recognize the pattern in myself. I fill the role of teacher or counsellor in my relationships, usually attracting broken people. Never thought about it as a distraction before.

It is indeed reassuring to be with someone who is literally depending on you, if you need someone to stay. But I can tell from experience that people still leave you. It's a pretty common pattern I could talk about for hours. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Thank you for sharing your relatable experience with this energetic concept. I commend you for having the self awareness to realize the pattern and work toward self love ❤

Relatable story, thank you for sharing. I want to share something similar. At the end of 2017, a colleague and I started a relationship. She was a single mother, and we fell deeply for each other. I adored her 4 y/o son and began to develop fatherly feelings for the first time in my life. By the summer of 2018, our relationship had ended. I was struggling with a severe depression that our passionate but young relationship couldn't withstand. My girlfriend saw in me a different man from the one she had fallen in love with. About a year after our breakup, I realized something very important. The depression had started sometime in 2017, so before we met. But I had to face a painful truth: I was using my depression unconsciously to sabotage our relationship. I was too afraid of her getting too emotionally close, which would mean she would see my lack of self-love and confidence. I don't think about her often anymore, but I still haven't truly forgiven myself. I long for a sense of connection, especially in a romantic context with a woman, but at the same time, I am very fearful of other people. I'm now 48 years old, but it wasn't until around 2021/2022 that I truly realized how deep these wounds run. Clinically, I have disorganized attachment style. In cannot make that undone but at least I know about my scars.

i think at 7m+ mark she means memory/memories

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i love this so much. wow thank you

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Thank you Alexis, this is spot on. The only way to "get rid of "thoughts we dont like is to accept them and allow them to be. They will soon pass By the way, i must say you are very beautiful!

This is the process I am starting now. As a healing dismissive avoidant it very difficult to feel anything I am trying to get back in touch with the sensations. Do you have any tips for those who have a hard try feeling anything in their bodies?

Yess, exactly! It is a spiritual bypass, the egomind likes to keep control and decide on its own when something is done and to let it go, even though energetically the situation hasnt played out fully yet. It is a way to escape the pain and harsh confrontations that can accompany the situation so you can keep yourself in LaLaland haha. And that is not where the growth happens, untill a certain level of consciousness we need pain and darkness as our teacher, this is inevadable. The egomind's job is making sure you survive but in that process it needs to avoid pain as much as possible because it feels the pain could mean the end of you due to earlier trauma. And the higher you go in consciousness because you learn to tame it a little the more cunning the egomind gets haha. You are never as enlightened as you think you are because you cannot think your way to that point, the egomind just lets you think you reached this unfantomable level so it can pat itself on the back for example. The human mind is funny but also very necessary, we need it as a contrast between us and everything else so we can learn our individual lessons.

So insightful and well-said! Can’t wait to hear more.

How do you work on you?

I come from a toxic and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing, I escaped that and went to go be with extended family that found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately what seemed like a gift from god just turned into something that completely hurt me, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, it’s just bloody unfair to me how my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’ while my upbringing pretty much got robbed by my narcissist father and that it’s something no kid should ever have to have gone through. Yet, people on the internet tell me “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even an ex friend tells me “well they raised your brother and not you why do you think you deserve everything your brother always gotten.” …but to me it’s just really unfair, and it has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination.

I feel like this video is a message I need to visit a certain place. It’s a place I had a dream about a few years back, and I only recently figured out the address. Not gonna lie. I’m scared to go there. Not sure I’m ready for what a visit will bring to the surface of my memory

this is so good, i'm reading a book that is title "letting go" HA!

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Alexis, you are going to go far with your blossoming channel. You're messages express the divine wisdom of radiant feminine energy. Thank you for your service.

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Thank you for your video. ❤ I have watched a few (of your videos today) while I am in the process of unpacking trauma bonds. (a lot of what you call dirty pain). I have watched all sorts of analysis on the matter and I get lost in thought. This gave me assistance to allow the feeling without judgement. It seems grieving takes time. I don't know if I am oversharing. I just wanted to drop a comment for you and for someone else reading these ❤ as encouragement to us all. Keep doing what you're doing :) it's working.

this is so true. i always tell my friends that it sometimes feels like i'm reliving the present, there are certain moments where i just feel like this has happened before and i'm certainly where i need to be. it gives you a sense of belonging, a feeling of familiarity, an emotion that is quite difficult to explain.

It's really that way-you don't let go, but the energy lets go of you naturally when the lesson is exhausted.

Hi! I just watched all your videos on your channel. Thanks for the content. You have really valuable insights to share. I’m interested in where you go with this channel and I’m grateful you are making this information and also your experiences accessible to the collective. I’m sure I’m not the only person who appreciates it. - “it is the truly enlightened person who plants seeds of a tree they know they may never receive the fruits of”! … or so it goes something along those lines. Keep believing in the unseen impact! 😅 Thanks for your work. Cheers and sending warm wishes through the ether!

This is just the message I needed to hear now, because, even though I knew this, the cultural narratives about this type of spiritual bypassing have become so prevalent that it can be considered as gaslighting. It has a lot to do with a misunderstanding of non-attachment, which is not an easy concept to grasp from Eastern doctrines, but now has been hijacked by so-called spiritual masters of the West (Eckart Tolle is the poster child of this), and other promoters of toxic positivity, who end up enabling abusers with lack of emotional responsibility, even if its not intentional. BTW, your beauty mark is sooo lovely!!

That makes sense. Thank you for this video❤ it was very helpful.

This really resonated with me. I met my ex unexpectedly & fell so hard for him. The first few months were so beautiful then our wounds & traumas ruined everything. It turned into a wound party and push & pull dynamic. My abandonment issues got the best of me. We’ve been separated for 7 months now and it’s been the hardest 7 months of my life but the experience forced me to really go within & focus on my healing. It’s been very painful. Thank you for this video!

Found you right when i needed you Thank you❤

This showed up in my feed at the strangest time.

Fist time I ever heard this & it’s absolutely brilliant! Thank you omg perfect timing too 😮‍💨 nailed ittttt

This is great info. I’ll alway be a work in progress. It’s all about the journey

I think this video was meant for me. I have tried every single thing ‚to just let it go. It is so simple‘, but it hasn‘t left. And now hearing you basically giving me the permission to let it stay and teach me what it has to teach me, is gold! Thank you so much! I am glad that this isn‘t another toxic letting go video, but actual helpful tips.🙏🏻💕

Alot of this resonated with me, thank you

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Beautiful channel

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The relationship I was part of that got louder and louder was with my mother. I just kept telling myself I would be okay. And it would be worth it, but it got so bad that I just couldn’t take it anymore. I feel free but I don’t want to feel bitter forever. I’ll get there.

I’m so glad to hear that! Thank you for tuning in 😍

Hello, this message was for me. Thank you

This really resonated with me. Thank you