Žižek’s Simple Friendship Test 

Yeah this was better...

Sounds clear and resonant 👍

It is better.

The audio was better this way; however, the trade-off is that your face is closer to us.

Sounds way better this way.

Tell me -about- a dirty joke.

Omg!!! This man is so beautiful!! I want to put my face next to the arch of his foot!!!

Yes, both happy and sad depending on the situation. However, the question is how do you identify that they’re not faking or acting out? 😊

@@vikramadoddamani I think you can tell by their reaction. Or if they ask you about it when you've not even brought it up... Fake friends won't even bother to fake it

A true friend would share his happiness with you or sacrifice his happiness for you. A true friend wouldn't allow himself to be happy until he saw you happy.

Depends on what you mean by correct.

@@Schlynn really?

Their job role implies that they are working in the interest of capitalists. So they kind of have to act as an oppressor and work against your class interest to do their job.

They have to work against your class interest to do their job, so yes.

@@data-dylan really?

insulting and teasing each other is different than being criticized by your boss

I disagree with Zizek here the most cause what his idea of a true friendship I would argue is more subjective than based in his philosophical principles. Being vulgar, crude and insulting to someone's face is pretty one dimensional way of thinking about friendship, this can very well be someone who claims to be your friend but does secretly hate you and want you to fail. I think this way of friendship comes from his time in the Yugoslav army and if I were to analyse this I would say that this kind of friendship is more of a forced ritual in masculine settings like the army to desensitize each other to acts that would usually be considered rude or a social faux pas cause with the nature of being in the army there's a chance they might end up witnessing or doing horrible things no matter how justified, legally or morally so in a way it's forced onto these men as a survival mechanism so their mind don't crack. He draws an extreme opposite example of people being nice but fake to your face but those are for everyday interactions with the public, people don't want to be insulted or be told the truth everywhere every time. If wake up looking horrible one day, you don't need the barista to tell you that cause you both know that. Of course you can be true friends with someone without the vulgar ritual and be truthful to one another with good intent. Ultimately it will come down to the level of trust and commitment to your principles of friendship.

any relationship that is mandated by and falls under the capitalist structure is not going to be friendship. also, just because someone treats me like shit, it doesn't automatically mean they are my friend omg please there is more to friendship than linear correlations based on 1 datapoint.

can you criticise them back?

@@hotto5150 the basrista is not your friend though

Male friendship is not generally characterized by pretence, duplicity, etc. In actual fact these are passive aggressive - potentially damaging. - behaviours and men recognize it as such.

What you are describing is a weak sense of self and lack of self confidence. Unfortunately, a lot of adults do indeed have that and can’t see the beauty in derision and ridicule. Very unfortunate.

@@Hamiltonianmcmc I don't believe I have yet met a women who enjoys being derided and ridiculed. Maybe I need to dig deeper into the trough of existence like you have... in order to find them?

I think what is said here is almost the complete opposite, or perhaps a case of; of course care for your friends, but it's no real friendship without challenge, antagonism etc. Simply caring is what your boss does whilst reserving the right to fire you.

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Friends will be honest with you and tell you what you need to hear but don't want to hear. Acquaintances will just not rock the boat

could you please say more? you mean power dynamics among friends when they rib each other?