My wife is dark skin I've been having A lot of problems from my friends my family members because of her color skin I'm still dealing with it. She is the best wife.
Thank you Helen to brought this topic publicly. I was one of the victim because of my skin tone. I went through all the issue what you guys were discussed about it. I didn't even enjoy my childhood time, I was isolated myself from so many things, lost my confidence lost a lot of things. I was crying when I watch this show. Now I am growing up and have two handsome boys. When we were little kids I remember my youngest brother said "who is gonna marry you since you have dark skin". The only family member that telling me I am beautiful was my dad.
I am so sorry you had to go through this .This is so true, still happens in our society but as you can see from the comments from other people they don’t even acknowledge this is a problem because unless they are a victim of this issue they will never understand or don’t want understand. I live in USA, I have a 6 year old daughter that has a beautiful dark skin color and some of our own family members started making negative comments about her color at a different occasions which I had to put a big stop to it and no one will make such a comment in front of me or her ever again. We tell our daughter she has one of the most beautiful color and she is our princess every day and that is all she will know. Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤
I exactly feel your pain! Look at you How brave,How beautiful, How articulate you are! Our society is the worst society to paralyze someone confidence! Giving -ve comment! Calling names.s/p when it comes to color, hight and size! I am so glad you bring this very important topic! As a society we need to Work on this ! As she said we have to start from Home! What a beautiful woman! !
Since the subject is colorism, African Americans don't discriminate us because of our skin color actually we are very biased and think we are better than them and other african nation because " we think we are lighter with European feature and have long curly hair " which is not true , the majority of ethiopians and Eritreans are not light or fair skin
Selamye, you are so beautiful, smart & caring. Thank you for sharing your experience so we learn to be kinder! Thank you Helen for all your interesting programs!💕
Yorditye OMG she is a spectacular woman. So open , helpful and amazing Ethiopian. She is so fast to respond and help with anything she can. Thank you so much Yoditye. Big respect for you!!!
@@zinashbeyene4196 that's is false there was colourism in Ethiopia way before whites came .pick a book on your history you will discover shocking facts.
It's a mindset. I am chocolate color I use to be insecure when I was a kid and believed I was ugly, But now as a woman as I get matured. It's my biggest flex when I accept myself and treat my self well and understand its all in mind ........dammmmmm...... I get the most attention in room , called beautiful every where receive like 30< compliment from random ppl In a day , get offer for modeling job in road, and when it comes to boys I attract guys that the keyye ppl can't ...and more so what am says is it's not about the dark skin but accepting one self how u expect to be adored if u can't adore ur self , so my black beautiful queens love the melanin cause its precious then others will crave u ❤❤❤
አይ ሰላምዬ በዚህ ነገር ውስጥ እንዳለፍሽ መች ተረዳንሽ...! You were one of the most beautiful and sought after girls/ladies in the class during our study at masters level in Ethiopia. You were every man's dream but what you were feeling inside was the opposite because of your childhood experiences. Glad that you came out to break the silence and make a difference. We also refer to you as "Barch", but that is from love. You may remember that I personally was referring to you as "Gurati"_which is also from our closeness and love.
Hi Helen what a topic, it reminds me when one of my sons was acting in a high school drama play. In the show he plays a father of twins and his wife she is from India dark skin. So when we saw that the twins (which were baby dolls) were white I spoke with them asking “both of you are black and the babies are white why?”. Then they said that’s what they gave them. I told them that “ I have dolls from ET, you know Senzro”, so then I gave them the doll for the next day show. Everyone was supposed to see the new dolls in the play. When asked where he got the new dolls he told them “My mom brought them from Ethiopia”.
Sinziro is scary they need to do far better than that but there are black dolls everywhere in US so why didn't you have one? It says that other than this scary one you never bought your children black dolls ever.
Selamye you are brave to share your past experiences thank you respectfully. Honestly, it is my continuous experience. It is deeply excruciating when you hear it repeatedly. But one thing is that God loves us so what more can we expect?
As a nation, we have become super obsessed with appearance in general. All the conversations in the “well to do” communities is appearances. This being one of them. ጠቆርሽ ወፈርሽ ከሳሽ አረጀሽ ተጎሳቆልሽ ... are usually the conversation starters.
True. We need to do better as a society. I remember often times some say "ቀይ መልክ አይፈጅም" and that always made me very upset. Because these are the same people who will force people to use skin brightener cream called fair and lovely or something. The obsession is very scary.
Betam important topic new yanesachihut, thank you! Specially selam for opening up. Enem betam coloren teliche new yadekut, ehitoche keyay sileneberu Betam mekilat efelig neber. Be tikurinet mebeshashek and menekuakor Betam mekiret alebet
This is a very important to issue. I have heard that there was a family from another Ethiopian region who were discriminated by the neighbourhood because of their skin color. This is in Addis. The neighbourhood kids did not want to play with the children of this family and called them names. This happens all the time.
Ethiopian society can be cruel, I say it is because of ignorance that puts value on appearance. Is not just about colourism but could be hair type, disability etc
It is about time we deal with this issue. Throughout my life both back in Ethiopia & here in North America, I have witnessed various incidents surrounding colourism within our communities. Let me leave you with this rather folklorish song that we as children used to sing: ጥቁር ሰው ጥቁር ሰው ለምን ተፈጠረ; ጀበና ነው ብዬ ልጥደው ነበረ::: ቀይ ሰው ቀይ ሰው ለምን ተፈጠረ ብርቱካን ነው ብዬ ልገምጠው ነበረ::
Wow what such an amazing, smart and beautiful Ethiopian 🇪🇹 woman! She got absolutely 💯 a very important point! We got to stop demeaning and harmful insults and nicknames that badly affect one's confidence and self-esteem for long!!
She is so beautiful !!! She actually would have been a model or actress. Our people should be civilized and respect themselves!! Identity crisis. ነጮች እሷን ለመምሰል ነው ፀሐይ ላይ ተሰጥተው የሚቃጠሉት እውነት ለመናገር ይህች ልጅ እጅግ ሲበዛ ቆንጆ ናት
Thank yoy Helen for discussing this issue.... and the guests and specially the Nurse for talking about her own experience...we need to discuss it more...
First of all Selam is absolutely 💯 gorgeous!! She's wonderful face structure and beautiful chocolate color!!! I would definitely marry her if she was single and of course if she loved me!! We must all respect and love everyone regardless of color, looks,appearance, ethnicity etc!
Ethiopia is a country of black people while being black-colored has not yet been accepted by some of us. It' s sad to have such a situation in a country where the movement of Pan-Africanism has begun and flourished.
It's a mindset. I am chocolate color I use to be insecure when I was a kid and believed I was ugly, But now as a woman as I get matured. It's my biggest flex when I accept myself and treat my self well and understand its all in mind ........dammmmmm...... I get the most attention in room , called beautiful every where receive like 30< compliment from random ppl In a day , get offer for modeling job in road, and when it comes to boys I attract guys that the keyye ppl can't ...and more so what am says is it's not about the dark skin but accepting one self how u expect to be adored if u can't adore ur self , so my black beautiful queens love the melanin cause its precious then others will crave u ❤❤❤
such an important topic, in habesha community you see that people really don't think they can hurt kids feelings and they just say anything and everything. whether they comment negative about color, hair ....... Kids do have emotion and specially when you compare siblings I believe that is very dangerous, if I hear anyone Infront of my kids try to compare anything about my kids, I always stop them and say no you don't say that Infront of my kids. And you are so so pretty Selam, and thanks for bringing up this topic, it goes to all negative comments habesha gives towards kids without thinking twice
Your guest in London isn't the first to raise this topic .there is a book ( baricho) first published 4 yrs ago and a local TV show also was the 1st to discuss it in Adis. She is stunning by the way but what is important is one's action and character that matters.
Children learn what they live by Dorthy law nolte If a child lives with criticism, he will learn to condemn If a child lives with hostility, he will learn to fight If a child lives with ridicule, he will learn to be shy If a child lives with shame, he will learn to feel guilty If a child lives with tolerance , he will learns to be patient If a child lives with encouragement, learns confidence If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world Pioneers newspaper March 15, 2023
Selam, to me god created you perfectly. You are so beautiful, I am not exaggerating you really are. I think what people said to you were psychologically affected your thinking. Do you think how Habesha people treated you made you to compromised in your relationship too? I am one of those guilty people who call dark people Baricho, but mine is out of love. I grew up on the farm close to Sebeta, my mother was very light skin but my babysitter/ second mother was very dark. So I love dark people. I learned my lesson I won't call any one Baricho again.
I don't think colorism exist in Ethiopia. as a society we are bullies. Especially if you are young the older people find something to make fun of you right in your face. and if you are dark skinned that could be the thing they will use to pick on you. I am light skin but i always felt uglier than my sister which has a dark skin. this topic should be broad because they pick on the facial features and body shaming.
The woman who was being interviewed from England sounds like she was struggling to speak Amharic. Is she not native Amharic speaker or she’s showing off 💭
