I just don’t get who has time for that like surely it’s exhausting to keep up the illusion of two separate lives. It just doesn’t seem like it even benefits the person doing it either because you permanently have to keep up this shield of what your other life is.
You know how she said there were no red flags or warning signs earlier on? There actually was one, as sad as this is - the two sets of flowers in one day was one. That is a sign of love bombing (because it was an excessive thing to do, and I’m sure that wasn’t a once off with that guy) I know it’s sad that we have to be cautious of something like that, but as someone who has been in 3 long term relationships with narcissists I can attest to ignoring red flags such as these. You have to trust your gut over any feelings of excitement or loneliness or whatever it may be - trust your gut!
Sounds like there were some red flags- love bombing, at least. Not her fault at all, she didn’t know any better, but I wish more people were educated about different red flags in relationships so they could know what to look for and avoid dangerous people
There's the whole story in a series of short episodes on BBC sounds. Title Love Bombed. Those episodes goes into more details about the elaborate deceit and why it appeared so real. It wasn't simply a case of a few too many flowers. It was way more complicated thst that. For instance he invented people and created email addresses for them. There were some (now unidentified) people that the lady was introduced to as whoever. She heard other people speaking on the end of the phone about tbings he'd told her. He shook hands with an estate agent on a deal for a new house and got other friends and family involved in fake charity and rugby club deals and events.
Nowadays everything is on social media. Easy to check someone out. Women needs to check men out. Take responsibility how could you not know. To good to be true.
