‘There’s A Lot Of Emotional Baggage Here,’ Dr. Phil Tells Family At Odds

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A woman says she has been estranged from her mom since she kicked her mom out of her house. She says she wants to fix the relationship before she gets a call that her mother has died. Dr. Phil offers advice.
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@ShealMB79 4 года назад

I disagree with Dr Phil on you only have one set of parents. It's okay to cut off toxic people if that's the only option. My father is the trifecta of an addict (alcohol, drugs, gambling) and his behaviour isn't conducive to my or my children's well being. I disowned him in 2008/2009. Haven't spoken to him since, he was a manipulator, a liar, a thief, an addict...my children come first, always. Even before myself. I cut him out because he tried to destroy me emotionally and psychologically. There was NO WAY I was going to let him try that with my babies. People teach us who they are through action and word - listen to them when they do. There is no shame in cutting out toxic people from you life regardless of who they are.

@turtlechow18 4 года назад

Agreed though I think if you can mend the relationship it's wonderful. A lot of relationships between parents and their children are not as serious as what you speak of and can't be healed. Some people definitely don't deserve that though

@niamphdollieofficial 4 года назад

EXACTLY 🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽 At the end lf the day, they don't deserve special treatment just because they share the same blood. Love family members and relatives go by this logic and his honestly easier for them to corrupt and to manipulate other family members that actually care about them it's because of that narrow-minded logic the nowadays it's your own family that you can't trust more than better strangers

@Lovechris0710 4 года назад

Sheal Berube absolutely agree with this comment!

@makitomaras3889 4 года назад

Totally agree with this it is correct you have to protect who you love

@kittenpawsbb 4 года назад

Why would you disagree, did they mention on the show, of her having another set of parents.

@itsnotyouitsme_ 4 года назад

Yuck! Why would anyone say they had a favorite child? Don't like that woman.

@tracie9769 4 года назад

My parents said the same thing they had favorite

@christopherh4891 4 года назад

Cause no matter how much a parent denies it they have favorites if there’s more than one child. It just happens. You can love someone equally but chances are there’s a child out of two you’ll like more

@tracie9769 4 года назад

@@christopherh4891 I have two kids and I don't have a favorite! I treat them equal. And that is the truth

@brittanyschettino9666 4 года назад

G T no wonder she’s on the doctor Phil show

@testedtried1233 4 года назад

Master Manipulator so the other siblings want no parts of her. I wonder why

@teenarobinson8933 4 года назад

She’s obviously trifling and keeps a nasty home. She didn’t let dr Phil in because her house is nasty. Mom needs to get her own place because she also has issues.

@deliciaestes8555 4 года назад

Teena Robinson, best comment yet ! You pegged them right.

@lillianleblanc5644 4 года назад

Exactly

@karenacox8932 4 года назад

teena robinson I agree with you

@tiana2313 4 года назад

“I can see liv laughing over there” Liv crying

@karinefonte516 4 года назад

To be fair, she also snarled a sarcastic laugh that spoke volumes.

@ter00221 4 года назад

She was laughing

@littlebunnycrafts7954 4 года назад

Tia Mulindwa she laughed before she said that

@AnonymousBelle562 4 года назад

I don’t think that was laughter, I believe she was shaken a little, and jerked back bit which some people do when they cry. As soon as she did what her daughter claimed was laughter, tears started to come out of her eyes. People who are older tend to react in this way more often than other people, because their bodies aren’t working the same way that they used to as they age. My mom just turned 70 this year, and she started to do things like this in her mid 60’s on the few occasions she cried. For example she cried when one of her best friends passed away, and she reacted this way when she cried, it’s not as uncommon in older people.

@jenniferb.awesome 4 года назад

@@AnonymousBelle562 That was a laugh

@JrorareMumTravel 4 года назад

Ive been through this with my mom playing exactly like a victim,it causes u a lot of depression from childhood to adulthood, After i cut my communication with my mum for 2 years,i had this peace of mind...She is probably a narcissistic Mother.

@madissonmorris4418 4 года назад

Mom sounds like she has some narcissistic tendencies

@cantrell0817 4 года назад

@Bighearted Sunshine The daughter is a lazy, angry mess. Victim of a narcissist. I hope she gains the tools to see her mother clearly and learn to defend herself effectively.

@thebellamurphy_ 4 года назад

yea she does, she really does

@barbararipani1331 3 года назад

So much so. I think Dr Phil might have ignored that.

@sarabermudez3519 4 года назад

Not sure how I feel about Dr Phil bypassing this mother’s emotional manipulation as OK and insisting so much on her daughter and husband having to deal with her....

@IChooseGod365 2 года назад

Right. He’s obviously projecting his own insecurities about his relationship with his parents 🙄

@laurenadams4624 4 года назад

I hope they can work it out... my mother died at age 52, I was 26, my daughter was 4. Her and I had a beautiful relationship, and I still have so many regrets in regards to her passing. Don’t waste time being angry over nonsense, you don’t know how much time you have left 😔

@sakuraogami6885 4 года назад

It's perfectly fine to cut toxic people out of your life. Blood or not. You're one of the lucky ones who got good parents. Not everyone has that blessing.

@laurenadams4624 4 года назад

Argent Knight: Artemis everyone does have that right. What I’m saying is, toxic or not, living with regret after someone has passed is awful.

@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328 4 года назад

These young, immature, or inexperienced, people will not see the light until it's blinding them, unfortunately.

@jenniferb.awesome 4 года назад

@@laurenadams4624 Or some people live with regret everyday because they refuse to cut horrible people out of their lives. I understand what you're saying about making amends and being grateful for your parents, but some mothers/fathers are so bad that keeping them away is the best option. There are some people that you can't fix and that don't care how miserable they make you.

@chevvydee3388 4 года назад

But it isn't nonsense. This advice is perfectly fine for small issues with family members but this episode clearly indicates it's not that. Not everyone has great relationships with their parents. Some parents are cruel mean people and I think that's what people with 'normal' parents don't get.

@BitchyBubblez 4 года назад

She called the cops on her own grandchild. That right there is too far and I would've kicked her out too. Her being homeless is not her daughter's fault, it's hers. You do not have to support someone that never supported you, even if they're family. She's only crying now because she has no where to go and she's still wording and explaining things like she's a victim when she caused it in the first place

@marylouirick7316 4 года назад

When living with ur kids u can't say much. Stay out of the way. Pay ur rent which was cheap. Help out much as u can.bottom line u can't put ur Mother out. Shame on u😣!

@WiseMfear3 4 года назад

Saundra Wills she shouldn’t be paying rent. It’s ridiculous

@nickieh2735 4 года назад

Saundra Wills she should have been paying rent and helping out. It should have been one or the other. They knew that by having her move in they could take advantage of her by not only making some extra money but also by saving money when it comes to cleaners and child care providers.

@iy4563 2 года назад

Did anyone actually listen to the whole show .She was paying them rent $650.00. While the daughter laid in bed half the day being fat n lazy.

@jennipritt8546 4 года назад

Everyone needs to watch the whole show

@thewrongshoes 4 года назад

I wouldn’t want that grandmother in my life. She is the type you got to love from a distance - a far distance

@lindseyhauk4140 4 года назад

Lol. Their house is a wreck. So many excuses!!! Make a living environment that your children deserve!

@lyd6891 4 года назад

It sounds to me she wanted her mom be to a servant all because she gave her a place to stay

@CrixusHeart 3 года назад

If this is her favorite child, that means she has more than one. Both/all her children are letting her be homeless. That's telling.

@pdig2963 4 года назад

Is she really calling her mom by her 1st name ???? That is very disrespectful !!

@debisieger8299 4 года назад

As an older person, I couldn't live in filth...and this older person did NOT agree to do ALL of the housework, especially when it was disgusting when she moved in...I would stay in my room as well and feel suicidal if I had to live in that...and what mental and emotional issues is all that filth doing to the children

@stellashahan516 4 года назад

This is awful. Cannot believe she treats her mother this way.

@kajalrahmat78 4 года назад

I feel an obligation to look after my mother, but it’s not because she was a good mother. It’s a cultural and a religious upbringing. My daughter can’t understand why I try to be there for toxic family members when they are in trouble. I’m trying to teach her to be the better person. I believe my daughter will be there for me in my old age. I hope I have taught her to be a better person. I could never charge my mother rent or expect her to be maid service. But I probably won’t tolerate her mistreating my daughter. I would help her to find a suitable accommodation and would never throw her out into the street. This family is very toxic.

@cbrown1664 4 года назад

I really feel sad when I see people say that taking care of someone because you feel obligated makes you a better person. It doesn’t, it makes you an unhappy one. I think toxic parents treat you bad your whole life, you internalize it’s ok to be mistreated. Be happy and surround yourself with those that love you. You may regret giving so much of yourself to a “not good mother”. You may one day look at your life and realize that instead of giving and taking all the love and kindness from the positive people in your life, you wasted time absorbing her negativity.

@jessmarie525 4 года назад

I mean you only get one set of parents but that doesn’t mean you have to let them ruin your lives

@minmarshallarmyxstan6773 4 года назад

I have cut off toxic people in my life, and that involved 97% of my family [3 have passed on, the ones that mattered to me the most] What the daughter did was deplorable, but i don't know the history nor have i lived her life to know how toxic her family is.

@ccczqqq 4 года назад

I always believe, without parent is better than having a horrible parent.

@fionascheibel977 4 года назад

Nope. Some relatives aren't worth stressing over. Sharing genes doesnt mean you need to subject yourself to unacceptable behaviour.

@bonnienoonan7360 2 года назад

I hope that family walked away from that toxic woman. She's always going to be a victim.

@blueturtle3623 4 года назад

This family kind of reminds me of my own. Love each other, want to fix whats wrong, but completely dysfunctional and in need of help.

@katiekat8329 3 года назад

If grandma can pay $650 a month in rent to her daughter why can’t she get a lil 1 bedroom apartment?? 🤔

@sylvesteruchia5263 4 года назад

"Jeanine was the favourite child " 😂😂💔🤣💔

@kristiecollins5410 4 года назад

At 214 mins is spine chilling philosophy I think great saying Phil

@paulcox2447 2 года назад

Toxic family is just like toxic people in general just because you're related to someone does not give you a magical connection sometimes two people simply do not get along to the point that they should not be around each other and sometimes they are related...

@ogbubbatea95 4 года назад

that mix feeling when you see something "sad" but out of nowhere it makes you laugh 0:04

@croach2194 3 года назад

Dr. Phil does not understand everything. I gave my mother one chance after another. She died about ten years ago and I have never been so relaxed and happy in my life. Some people are just toxic.

@Bellasita63 4 года назад

Sounds to me like the daughter is lazy, and wanted to use her mother as a nanny, and housekeeper! There were cockroaches in the house before the mother arrived. And who charges your own mother rent?! As a senior mother they don’t have the energy to keep up with young children and having to do everything else for her lazy daughter, plus she’s from a different generation! Today people have no respect for our older generation. People back then were sure stronger then what we’re raising now! Don’t forget one day we’ll get to that age and your gonna realize you don’t have that energy we once had. That’s why it’s called retirement!

@choice7508 4 года назад

if my mother ever dares to call the cops on my future *6* yr old kids i'd also kick her out of my house. On the other side i agree, the mother is one of a kind. You are a mother, you have to clean up even if ur feeling bad, u have to do tge laundry, even if u feel bad. That's what u agreed to knowing u were getting a kid.

@itzelr3514 3 года назад

It’s sad, but these behaviors can be true. Feel bad for both, can be really painful to deal with this.

@katrinawall643 4 года назад

They need more than doctor Phil can give them. More therapy .

@jnieswartz4878 4 года назад

The mother”Liz” is a sick unhealthy women. I don’t blame her daughter for throwing her out. She still thinks she’s a victim but she called the cops on her 6 year old grand child, called CPS and was a all around bad person.

@marylouirick7316 4 года назад

2 fine her mom phone all she had 2 do was call her #.

@nickieh2735 4 года назад

jnie swartz if the house was a bad as she said I would have called CPS as well.

@kit5830 4 года назад

Liz can get a nice apartment in senior housing somewhere with in distance to visit the grandkids on the weekends.

@asamiwolf4225 3 года назад

None of them are right. The mother is guilty, so is the daughter. 😔

@JElayne9 4 года назад

I'M ABOUT TO GO IN ON THIS ONE. It is my opinion that if a parent has EVER WIPED YOUR ASSETS, it is absolutely the adult parents DUTY to look after their aging parents especially if they are alone. Only in America is this seen as an option. How dare they charge this poor women rent, put her to work as their built- in Nannie and housekeeper at her age? ONLY A DISGRUNTLED DAUGHTER WOULD DO SUCH A THING. This couple in my opinion are 2 trifling, opportunistic, and abusive individuals who have taught their child to be disrespectful toward their grandparent while being raised in filth. More than likely, the grandmother agreed to the living terms because she had no other option other than her car and chose the lesser of two evils. This whole arrangement was to "GETBACK" at her Mom for past grievances from the beginning. Her daughter's husband actually agreed to this arrangement? Guess he figured he could save money on having to hire help and would keep the kids out of his hair. That' like having a live -in Nannie that pays you. I don't blame her for calling the police because when you allow a child to be disrespectful to the point where you set no boundaries, is no longer about the child and the phone. Its about exploiting a persons vulnerability. I WISH MY DAUGHTER WOULD TRY TO PLAY ME LIKE A CLOWN IN FRONT OF MY GRANDAUGHTER-WHOA Now, here are two working people with 2 incomes and they are asking for money from a women with little to no income?- scandalous. I'm sure she helped with the children and all but then remembered that she is the Matriarch of the family and deserves respect. Whenever there's a question of whether a parent disserves respect from their adult child or not because of whatever transpired between the mother and child, the child should know that it is never the person they are sked to respect but it is their parents position that should be respected. Exodus 20:12

@tigersteele9552 4 года назад

DO NOT BOTHER...PHIL!!!

@fancychanel33 4 года назад

I feel like the mom never had a good relationship with her...as soon as she's married, happy, and out of her hands...she moves right back in. I cant IMAGINE.

@ccczqqq 4 года назад

When a bad person gets old, that's still a bad person. People who had reasonable parents are the luckiest in this world. Even if the whole world fails you, you still have your parents. But to ones who don't, it is a very difficult situation. To those who had never experienced similar things themselves, they always think it is an easy fix. But it is not, it is the hardest thing to fix on Earth. A bad person is a bad person doesn't matter if that's your parent or not. This thing gets even harder when you are the only child. The family is always a 2 against 1 situation. Each of us needs to live happily and therefore stop trying think your own relationship with your parents can one day be that normal ones. It's better to just stay apart. They would blame you till the day they die just like how they blame on everyone everything else. The existence doesn't always matter.

@sproductions7291 4 года назад

I’m so bored that I am a 11 year old watching doctor Phil I have been diagnosed with boredom thanks quarantine

@jennifernunya909 3 года назад

As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. Phil is pissing me off with this one😒

@beverlymcintosh7659 4 года назад

Dr. Phil some people drain the life out of you, that mother in my book doesn't deserve another chance. She is like my mom except my mom abandoned me when I was 4 months old but I tried to give her chance after chance but some people are fake and only care about themselves and lie . Like she said her daughter was her favorite I call bull. And as for her grandkids she doesn't care much for them actions speak louder than words!!!

@ladylady8738 4 года назад

Liz, run from them. They are too stink. Your car is better than living with these people.

@summerfields2792 4 года назад

I need to ask this although I’m terrified of the answer. My father molested and raped me until I was 16, I am currently 40. He was never prosecuted and in fact I didn’t even come out with this secret until last year. I am the oldest of 4 girls and my sisters have confirmed that they knew but didn’t know what to do, he never touched any of them sexually. He was not only sexually abusive to me but he physically abused us all including my mother (who by the way did not know what was happening to me). He also touched my daughter which was the most devastating thing to learn. I never left her with him but apparently when my sisters had my daughter for play dates and such they would take her to visit her grandpa I came to find out years later. He now lives 20 minutes from me but honestly I have no contact with him however my sisters do. I want nothing to do with him and I think I don’t even care if he dies but that makes me feel like such an evil person; no I am not religious but there is without a doubt good and evil, right and wrong. A part of me feels like I should forgive him before he dies but I can’t bring myself to do it. Am I wrong?

@js68426 4 года назад

Summer Fields nope

@ghadasafwat9158 4 года назад

He hurt you and he did the same to your daughter, which means he is not even sorry for what he did. You're not wrong.

@verjintech3111 3 года назад

That words:when ther gone they gone forever and you never see theme..such as terrifying for me..i lost my mom and i dont wanna lost someone again....its hard..and its esay to say that i hate them i dont like theme bcouse of this one of that one..but..but... without our parent where nothing in this worl

@mandlin4602 4 года назад

I don’t know why people are not addressing this simple fact; the mother is an adult and can look after herself. She is not the responsibility of her daughter.

@raihannauwu3525 4 года назад

Why would you make your mom pay rent /cable ,babysit ...can she just let her mom stay because she's her mom ?

@temiojo4012 4 года назад

I think that their forgetting that, that is her mom. Her mom carried her in her womb for 9 months, breastfeed her and gave her enough food for her to be able to still move around. The question we should all be asking is why is the woman so rude to her mom ?

@jackiedoocey8798 3 года назад

She is a very discrudled girl and she lives the fact that she has something to complain about and her silly mother gave her plenty to go on

@esrommonyeki8303 4 года назад

I would able to live with myself if I my mum is homeles

@janetjoiner9204 4 года назад

I never really got to tell my father what a jerk he was.

@smurfmaxineblue6833 4 года назад

Its obvious their house is as bad as liz says it is. If it wasnt why wouldnt let let the show come film it and why would it take 5 days to send in pics? Their reasons we're golden I give them an A for effort

@britgilbert8736 4 года назад

Some people just don’t get that there’s families out there that are not perfect and sometimes you have to cut ties just to exist sorry but that’s the truth

@liladezacchicago6360 4 года назад

I'm sorry but these people wanted her not to "help" they wanted her to always clean the whole house and be a nanny. On top of that charge her $650!? She probably did have a dirty house.

@mehekalam6103 4 года назад

I understand where the daughter's coming from but I absolutely DISGUST how she calls her mother by her name, Liz, because it shows how her mother means nothing to her and is seen as more of a mate/friend if the same age

@sangeetawesley6683 3 года назад

She is saying favourite child because she knows that this daughter is fifty and may, she just may take her back Old lady should say sorry Why not

@andrewyahin7391 4 года назад

The husband is always hiding behind the mother

@susanllequis3832 3 года назад

He visto.casas limpias y los hijos y los esposos muy tristes cuando en las casas supersucias hay más harmonia entonces cuando no llegamos nos pasamos.

@KN-yk9lp 4 года назад

Why does she call her mom Liz?

@vanessaholbert5985 4 года назад

All these people have issues. The mom so worried about being right.

@vincentpenzerro2204 4 года назад

She look kinda like she ate the whole bakery and her mom could not eat

@degar1928 3 года назад

Asian always deal with grumpy grandma and never kick them... Just prying... and still life with them coz we knew when we're kids ... she/he also deal whatever we act as their kids...That what different betwen asian and western people....

@sepreicantik629 4 года назад

Your mother is not your maid.

@shaney9922 4 года назад

Well said Dr. Phil!

@shannonmorgan2344 4 года назад

that grandmother... I'm not quite sure about her

@kittenpawsbb 4 года назад

Shannon Morgan Not all grandmas are sweet and comforting. She created her unfortunate circumstances and maybe she thinks someone will feel sorry and help her. No mention off her other children helping her either. I think she needs to find a place on her own, maybe the show will help her with that.

@jennylynn9668 4 года назад

I think the mother might a narcissist. They don't care who they hurt. Just imagine an intelligent adult with an emotional capacity of a toddler. Should not have to put up with toxic people.

@reddoor5299 4 года назад

Shame on them I have no other words! It’s still the woman that gave birth. Daughter seems pretty lazy though.

@shanatinnin339 3 года назад

Nathan looks fried.

@Zero-cw4qj 4 года назад

That woman triggers me (the mom)

@brianavyas3065 4 года назад

These comments lol ppl please go watch the two episodes that come before this. The mom is NOT innocent

@hollyhinkel2418 4 года назад

Walking away from my abusive mother was one of the best things I've ever done. I finally have peace in my soul for the first time in my life.

@Bellasita63 4 года назад

Holly Hinkel not every mother is evil!

@jenniferb.awesome 4 года назад

@@Bellasita63 They didn't say every mother was evil...

@pettyparty2127 4 года назад

@@Bellasita63 Who even said that? 😂

@almabreeze3369 4 года назад

I agree. I cut my mother off 5 years ago. She causes a lot of trouble. Lies. Gossips. Manipulater. And then laugh about it. Then she acts Innocent.

@thanos1308 4 года назад

Thank god i have awesome relationship with my parents

@superkeola 4 года назад

My question is ...so where are her other children if this was her favorite. Why arent they involved?

@sutherngirrl7590 4 года назад

Probably because mom is bat sh*t crazy

@jnieswartz4878 4 года назад

Kay A the mother’s behavior is ur answer. They want nothing to with her because she’s nuts.

@SuperBrat2000 4 года назад

Because the situation had nothing to do with the siblings lol

@brittannikanicole2997 4 года назад

kalei shayne bur their mom sleeping in her van 🤔

@dchanelb.3289 4 года назад

If she’s the favorite then I don’t want to see how she treats the other one 🙄

@wtfishappening2490 4 года назад

It's very obvious that a lot of you have never had to deal with a toxic family member.

@rebeccashields9626 4 года назад

Ok clearly both of these women are completely batshit crazy. There’s plenty of toxic to go back and forth here.

@loafofbread7413 4 года назад

Clearly you have a magic crystal ball that can see all our lives.

@loafofbread7413 4 года назад

@Andrea Gomez thank you

@bedtimebog5822 4 года назад

Right my grandmother is Liz times 100000000 and she's painted me and my mother, uncles, and aunt in a awful way then plays saint it's so awful having people tell you how awful you are for not putting up with them after you had enough

@aidencampbell1908 4 года назад

What do you know Emily what are you a sorcerer

@armoniidior2007 4 года назад

Girl please... She's your favorite because u need a place to go...

@mariejohnson9665 4 года назад

She doesn’t even call her Mom

@chloecarpenter1404 4 года назад

marie johnson not everyone likes to be called by a title

@JusticeForNicholeAlloway 4 года назад

@@chloecarpenter1404 Why are there so many of you enablers on here today?

@chloecarpenter1404 4 года назад

JusticeForNichole ?

@fukkandre 4 года назад

@@JusticeForNicholeAlloway are you on your period mate?

@begonethot6958 4 года назад

Mary Ryerson she calls the police on a six year old

@otakuart3496 4 года назад

Mother: "Nathan, I love Nathan." Nathan: 🤨

@kingayy9267 4 года назад

@deenut4629 4 года назад

Nathan be like : fckin liar

@Joeisaverage 2 года назад

Exactly he was like Oh really😲

@SuperBotanica 4 года назад

keep distance from people you do not have a good relationship with, even it is a family member! Dr. Phil is not right in this case.

@marylouirick7316 4 года назад

She gave them rent,therefore,she have the right 2 say the grandkids Can't come in my room.

@pettyparty2127 4 года назад

Agree 100%

@toitoy5204 4 года назад

I really hate the traditional one-sided narrative about parents. We can't keep spreading the story you only get one parent and when they're gone they are gone, because of that narrative, there are children living with inner turmoil their whole lives. Obviously, the daughter is wearing her emotional issues. And every parent does not deserve the special treatment they get. I've experienced it and when you're overwhelmed and know enough is enough in order to preserve your sanity you have to remove yourself. Dr Phil just allowed this mom to run her emotional manipulative con game. Even her saying she's her favorite was manipulative. She's her favorite because she's probably always been the easiest one to manipulate

@Adoubless 4 года назад

Great point!!!

@KatKomodo 4 года назад

SO TRUE! My mother is exactly the same.

@EmoRiverGirl 4 года назад

Exactly 🙌🏼

@gracesanity6314 4 года назад

Toy toi, your so wise and spot on. Manipulation is rampant in families. This grandmother is nasty.

@cynthiacastaneda6687 4 года назад

Thank u so much ...I needed to hear that. It went straight in &made me think n feel better. ... I've been wearing tht emotional baggage n always had to b there n take care of my mom (she got dementia in my teens) n my brother never helped n fam slowly started pulling away n made me feel guilty n tell me it's my job to deal w her. I did all I could since a kid. I'm a nurse now & 35. Still dealing w mom. But poor thing is in the last stages of the illness. She was a good mom, Christian n good woman but got sick too too young in her 40s when I was young. But what u said on how we can't carry on w so much because we will loose our sanity. I now have Anxiety (PTSD) and rheumatoid arthritis from chronic stress n anxiety. U see. It will kill u. But what u said made so much sense to me, we gtta stop look n see where we're @ n see we're not perfect n DNT need to carry the world's problems. And tht it's ok to ask fr help. 💝💝💝💝

@antoniafitzgerald3803 4 года назад

I'm so glad my mother was a lovely woman. This mother would be a nightmare.

@testedtried1233 4 года назад

You are so blessed. Don't take that lightly be that example to yours and you will be blessed for generations.

@herewegokids7 4 года назад

She's using "favorite child" as a manipulation tactic. Dr Phil would not fix this in his sleep imo

@gwendolynfoote4460 3 года назад

Today is Christmas. My mother in law died in 2016. My birth giver in 2017....I miss my mother in law so much. I only thought of my birth giver because of this post. Once I leave this post, she will be gone too. My mother in law has been with me daily. I'm tearing up for the thousandth time over the heartbreak of her being gone.

@antoniafitzgerald3803 3 года назад

@@gwendolynfoote4460 Merry Xmas sweetheart. I miss my parents so much. Life isn't easy sometimes. You are loved.

@ohaidenny9852 4 года назад

Phil, my son, its rude to put your grief on people. Sometimes its best not to fix something so toxic, even if its your parents. Their mortality isn't special. I suppose it could be a motivator if framed the right way, but it leans too far toward emotional manipulation imo

@jesussaves6625 4 года назад

But it's a reality that will happen to everyone. Why hate your parent for the rest of your life if it can be fixed?

@janebaker4912 4 года назад

I've lost a parent so I know what he means ... But on the other hand toxic people will make you sick

@NoName-jn5rn 4 года назад

@@jesussaves6625 but there are things that can not be fixed and hating no I would say forgetting is better bcz some parents doesn't even deserve to be hated

@rollinstoned9816 4 года назад

Dude . .that was kinda harsh...

@joeymorse365 4 года назад

Okay expert psychologist

@Melissa-jf7hd 4 года назад

Treating her daughter like this and then trying to make up for it by saying, "She's my favorite child" just shows how manipulative this woman is. Maybe there's something here worth saving, but not everything is.

@maxlasater 4 года назад

Talking to my mom gives me panic attacks

@tikofan5882 4 года назад

Im so sorry !

@ghost-yd8ol 4 года назад

Me too

@pinkmaggott 4 года назад

Same

@austing3893 4 года назад

Grow up

@pinkmaggott 4 года назад

Austin G i am “grown up”, I live on my own and hardly speak to my mom. However, when we do speak, it’s always her being negative.

@emstratman 4 года назад

Dr Phil is projecting a lot of his own parental experience into this one and it just doesn't fit. The daughter is telling him she doesn't have a relationship with her mom because the woman has made a relationship impossible. He needs to let it be what it is instead of guilting her into letting her mom's behavior slide. Hold that old woman accountable! It's okay to say she was a bad parent, that she STILL is, and that she's reaping what she's sown!! I've gone through this exact thing with BOTH of my parents. It's healthy to let them be the people they've chosen to be and stop reacting and rescuing them, and even more stop trying to resurrect a dead relationship that the other person doesn't care about. Her mother doesn't give a flip about her, only that she doesn't have a house to live in. And who cares if there's only one mom in your lifetime? If the mom is an unhealthy, lazy, terrible family member who justifies asinine actions and blames other people for all her problems, she doesn't deserve to be in the household. She makes her daughter miserable and is unwilling to change or compromise but wants her daughter's family to support and excuse her. That daughter has every right to say NO THANKS! Terrible advice, Dr Phil. Sorry, but you totally failed on this one. 👎👎

@says101 4 года назад

nope! theres always something called a second chance and going at it!

@Nobau62 4 года назад

@@says101 doesnt mean u should dismiss all the emotional abuse in the relationship so you can "fix" it.

@marissasue319 4 года назад

@@says101 Not always. Dead things cannot be resurrected...

@aurorajudith-ramirez7389 4 года назад

He 100% did fail this family. The old woman wasn't held all the way accountable. He directed more if his energy, and thoughts, into tearing down the wife. Let's be real, when our lives get hectic and we start suffering from emotional distress, our homes aren't always going to be pristine and perfect. It's okay to have messy days, as long as you still take care of your children's needs and that's what this mother was doing. So no she's not a bad mom, no her home isn't a pig sty, Dr.Phil is just upset she didn't allow a filming crew to record her messy home only to hold it against her and blast it on nation television for the world to see. Who would want that? Having a messy home doesn't make you a bad parent. Dr.Phil holding this woman up to impossible standards, then implying that her home was a pig sty and that she's a bad parent was foul on his part. The mother's only issue is that she didn't clean up as frequently as she could have. That doesn't represent what she's like as a mother if all three of them agreed that she's taking care of her children. I see her eyes, and she's tired. You can tell she fought hard to have and mend her relationship with her mother and that's something I can relate to. After a while you don't have time for fake and forced smiles, or nice gestures. You get right to the point. Dr.Phil acting like the grandmother was entitled to her daughter's happy emotions, and implying that she wasn't really trying to make amends because she didn't look happy was foul on his part as well. He's an outsider looking in, there's not enough time in the world to air all of grievances in under 40 minutes (typical airtime for talk shows like Dr.Phil). He did not give this family the help they need, he failed and subsequently pushed them all apart further. That mother is going to go home thinking she's not a good mom, because a white man on a TV show told her she wasn't because her home was messy. That grandma is going to justify her shitty actions with Dr.Phils bias, and the husband and the children will suffer as a result. He screwed up big time.

@TheElysian7 4 года назад

She didn’t deny the roaches and dirty house

@krisflower6497 4 года назад

No, if you’ve been abusive by a parent you DO NOT HAVE TO FORGIVE THEM!!

@kittenpawsbb 4 года назад

Flower power Lifting Haven’t you heard, forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s really for you. You probably won’t forget, but why live with hate every time you think of them. That physically manifest in your body each time, not worth it. Thank you 🙏🏽

@krisflower6497 4 года назад

kittenpawsbb I don’t have to forgive them to be happy. I don’t have my abuser in my life. I am happy knowing I tried to make the situation better and they had no interest so nothing I can do for them. Focus on my life

@WiseMfear3 4 года назад

Abusive is not the word you wanted lol

@finnthehuman7159 4 года назад

Nah, forgiveness is the first step to healing. You have to forgive to truly be at peace. You can forgive, but never forget.

@MyoclonicJerkCough 4 года назад

If someone is not sorry (for other than themselves), keeps repeating the behavior and/or doesn't even acknowledge what they've done, I see no reason to forgive them... forgiving them would make me feel like a sap tbh. I'd rather make peace with myself and not interact with them at all

@MelsLife570 4 года назад

I need to write into the show. I think I’m Dr Phil material.

@dusk3485 4 года назад

Mel’s Life570 Go for it.

@cammyseitz3062 4 года назад

4 ever nice for you to think, but you can’t push that on people that aren’t interested

@ruthnoruwa 4 года назад

Very very true

@dusk3485 4 года назад

4 ever Bruh. Jesus is cool and all but have you ever had waffles and ice cream?

@RocketF1sh 4 года назад

can i be the guy that did you wrong lol

@kerinohwithatwist 4 года назад

Don’t fix this, it’s anther game mom is playing

@christinacody5845 4 года назад

There are some real things that need help. They aren't the kind of things that CPS/DCFS steps in on unless there's some real mental/physical/emotional abuse/neglect going on with the kids (it sounds like they address the kid's mental/emotional needs so there's not really much unless they find her being incapacitated by mental illness or "masking" drug/alcohol abuse). It's the kind of stuff that a family therapist is PERFECT for. It would give the parents the chore support they need (a 6 year old is old enough to do some basic supportive chores) and the schedules to give the kids consistency. As for Liz? There has to be an attempt, because (supposedly) her heart is in the right place. Whether or not she still has problems with him drama-wise AFTER the children are attended to will tell us whether there are other problems at play and whether she is not redeemable. Full disclosure: My grandmother reminds me a lot of this one and my mom had a lot of things she had to learn in Home Ec considering the condition of my grand's house when we visited from time to time (very cluttered/messy).

@fhantasm 4 года назад

Agreed

@kimberlycrowe7843 4 года назад

Following Phan I feel bad for you

@eurokay4755 4 года назад

Liz is very, very manipulative. She is unmoved when asked whether she's inquired about how her grandchildren are doing, but cries when contemplating her own mortality and circumstances. She has a rationalization prepared for every criticism or observation but, when Dr. Phil says "(You were a bad houseguest) wasn't a question", she stops mid-rationalization, reads the room and says instead, "I wasn't trying to answer." She definitely was, she just saw he wasn't going to buy into it and stopped herself. She is hopelessly manipulative, extremely capable and resourceful, not helpless/disabled at all, just crafty, cool customer. If she had $650/mo. to pay rent to her daughter, why doesn't she use that money to live elsewhere? She's not elderly, disabled, handicapped or a felon, so why isn't she employed? Maybe I missed something, but I have little sympathy for her.

@foeloko 4 года назад

Eureka Garlic I’m just sayin nothing dr Phil says can b taken seriously because he’s not licensed in California 🤷🏻‍♂️

@faymiipompeii1964 4 года назад

The best type of relationship with toxic parents is a long distance one

@adoseofreality8287 4 года назад

When you have adored your mother as a child and she has abandoned you for her lover, you have included her in your life for 63 years, and you refuse an unreasonable request, and she says “you’re not my daughter” walk away and don’t look back. No regrets upon her death. Dr. Phil is a wise man, but his counsel does not always work.

@franci.f. 4 года назад

No one should live with regrets, relationships are difficult and challenging and we always do our best. I am sure you did your best and your mother loved you in her own way (which can be wrong as we are all very far from perfection) and will protect you from heaven. Hope you are in peace now.

@JusticeForNicholeAlloway 4 года назад

@@franci.f. Shut up. Just SHUT. UP.

@JusticeForNicholeAlloway 4 года назад

He has talked at length about his abusive, alcoholic father and how he cut him out of his life. I honestly can't even believe he is spouting this nonsense like we haven't been watching the show/other interviews for the past 20 years.

@franci.f. 4 года назад

@@JusticeForNicholeAlloway Calm down, I understand your point, but i was speaking out of my perspective, write to Dr Phil if you don't like what he said. It s not my business

@adoseofreality8287 4 года назад

Francesca, my mother loved me as much as she was capable of loving her children. I do expect a happy reunion in the next life, where all wounds will be healed. 😊

@belle3336 4 года назад

Dr Phil uploads again... Me: *_Gotta go fast_*

@maxlasater 4 года назад

My parents talked badly about each other it’s like they trained me to hate them.

@favo125125 4 года назад

If that’s her “favorite” child then I can just imagine how the rest turned out 😅

@esthermoon627 4 года назад

Wow. Sounds like mom is quite an manipulative person. I'd be very careful.

@addictedtothebold 4 года назад

They say that the state of your house is a good indicator of your state of mind. Looking at the daughter... It's probably true

@kittenpawsbb 4 года назад

AaronP11 Absolutely. They can detail all the Mothers doing. But that house was in pretty bad condition before she moved in.

@WiseMfear3 4 года назад

She wasn’t a house guest she was a tenant. House guests don’t have to pay or clean. What they did was technically illegal to someone paying rent.

@sophiajordan7118 4 года назад

yes and Phil did not raise iT SMH

@Oo-sg3ud 4 года назад

Ell The Storm and Sea she agreed to pay and clean

@nickieh2735 4 года назад

Ooxter it’s still considered taking advantage. And also because of her age it could have and should have been considered elder abuse.

@nickolask8086 4 года назад

The mom was supposed to "help" clean not clean the whole house

@caroldriehorst1165 4 года назад

The daughter probably gave the Mother a lot of problems growing up, she's vindictive and lazy. I wouldn't want to live in a dirty house that's for sure , Her Mother should try to get her own place because I think that would help their relationship.

@kathyb799 4 года назад

Charging Her own mother rent ?!!

@kittenpawsbb 4 года назад

kathyb799 I get charging her rent, because having her there is an extra expense they can’t afford. If you have children, any extra income should be going to their family fun, investments and their children’s future education. That’s their responsibility as parents. That being said $650 does sound like a lot, it would easier to assess, if we knew what the rent and utilities expensive were. Because it should not be split up 50/50. Thank you