Omg I can’t believe you picked my comment to answer! Thank you so much for your answer! I really appreciate your advice it really helped :)) your advice was a lot better than what most of my peers gave me, and it sure helped me regain some of that much needed confidence. Cheers! (Btw, yes I’m a guy lol)
I know I said I enjoy programming in a comment that got an UNGODLY amount of likes, but I also enjoy making little trinkets out of wood and cardboard and paper and all that stuff. right now, I’m planning on eventually opening a business making said trinkets. BUT, please don’t hold this to me, because I might change my mind. anyway, this video is what I’ve kind of been waiting for. thanks niko!! edit: MY FRIEND… WHY DOES THIS USELESS COMMENT HAVE THIS MANY LIKES? listen, I’m not making one of those “eDiT: tHaNkS fOr aLL ThE liKEs” edits but like, how???
Hi Niko, first of all, I just want to say that I really like your videos and the advice you give. I have 2 situations I want to share: First is about college. I'm 19 rn, and I currently plan on stopping college because I don't feel like it's the right thing for me. I want to stop for a year and maybe get a part time job so that I won't be just a bum in our house. I feel like I'm more suited in something more creative like arts and stuff. I want to get your opinion on this and maybe some advice that can help me and those who feels the same way as I do. The second one is this: I wanted to confess to a girl who I've been in-love with for over 6 years. I know that's a really long time, but I'm too scared to confess to her, especially when these feelings have been steeping for so long. I'm also scared of losing her as one of my close friends. The closest I've gotten to confessing (if you can even call it that) is when I asked her if she was interested in having a romantic relationship. She said "No, not right now at least." It wasn't the answer I wanted, but maybe it's an answer I needed. What do you think Mr. Niko? Again, I love your videos, and I will fully support you along the way. Thank you.
If she's a really good friend of yours she should be able to handle the situation if you tell her how you feel and she doesn't feel the same way. Real friends don't just leave someone after that or something, they wouldn't want you to feel hurt and heartbroken. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't like you back, but you'll likely remain friends and you'd have to find a way to get over your feelings. I'd say try to be honest with her! She'll definitely appreciate the honesty and it sounds like you'd make a great couple if you already like eachother for that long as friends.
@@annemabrie2287 thanks dude. I guess I'm just waiting for the right time to confess to her, and how I'd do it. Tho, I do know I'd want the 2 of us to be alone together so that I could properly confess.
Thanks for the advice. I think I will keep doing what I'm doing but put extra effort in things that despite being "work" I do enjoy, since being able to get a job in which I do what I like will actually improve my life in the future. Cheers!
Thanks for making a vid related to this, I also understood that many people struggle the same as me (including you) related to finding your hobbies and making them as their career, sure its very difficult to finding your favorite Hobby and making it as the job you want to pursue, I'll still be keeping this hobby and work on it hard enough so I become better in it, sure it might take me around 5 more years ig, but I really love doing it, The part of story telling and executing it is the hardest part for me and I need to improve on that as well. The way I wrote my comment was not right and I understood it now, so I would also like to Thank You about that, I forgot to mention this, Yet I am mentioning this now because idk what to say about it anymore, as you have already uploaded a full video and can't change it, but the race for govt job in my country is wild, around 1,000,000 people attend the job examination and only 1000 people get selected as govt officers, this shouldn't be de-motivating for me but there are many other issues related to these examinations that it sometimes seem impossible to many, yet they participate in these, To be fair, I am not blinded by money and not pursuing video editing just because of M$ney, I like it, I enjoy it, I asked myself multiple times about should I pursue it and I got an YES!!!, So I'll still be going on it, no matter how difficult it is, Also this comment too got very long, sorry for that...
hi niko, I am currently 14 and having problems a with a serious porn adiction, idk what to do about it, I want to change it but I cannot get myself to do it, I have been trying for over 2 years know and idk what to do anymore. thanks for reading much love, and keep up the good content.
Good Evening Niko, I am currently 15 years old and I absolutely hate where I live, to the point that I think about it every single day and it's starting to negatively impact my life. So basically I'm a very outdoorsy person, I adore seeing trees, rivers, wildlife etc. but the problem is that I live in a town with literally no nature at all. I am completely surrounded by agricultural fields on all sides, and once the fields end it's just desert, but not that nice type of desert with lots of shrubs and rocks, I'm talking literally just dirt with nothing. I know this doesn't sound like that serious of a problem but this is really starting to make me depressed since all I want in life is to be able to explore forests and go hiking and all that stuff but I just simply can't since I'm located hours away from the nearest nature place and even if there was nature around me it's extremely hot where I live, I'm talking 120 degrees fahrenheit during the Summer. Since I'm 15 I obviously can't just move out or drive out to the mountains, it also doesn't help that me and family are pretty broke. I know it probably just sounds like I'm complaining but nature is something I heavily value in life so that's why this is something so important to me. I hope you will read this comment and hopefully give me some advice in your next video. Anyways keep up the good work man, you're videos have guided me through many tough times and I wish you the best of luck :)
Hi niko, love your vids ive been watching for a couple months now and i saw this vid and maybe you see my comment (English isn't my first language so if there's any mistakes ignore them) Im in a strange/difficult situation rn. Just for some background, ive been playing football since i was 3/4 years old (im 19), and im still playing till today, i dont mean to brag at all but to give a clear image of my situation , im pretty good at it, i was with the national team of my country for 4 years, and i just signed to be apart of one of the best teams in my country and train with their first team and maybe get a chance to play. (my country is pretty small so the level isnt as high as other places, but still a good achievement). I've always been pushed by my dad to do better and be the best version i could be, it comes from a good place as he wants the best for me and i know it. He constantly tells me to go to the gym and workout because it makes me a better player etc. However, sometimes im not sure all that hard work is worth it and sometimes it gets annoying, as in my country you CAN make a living off it, if you're good, but you wont get rich or anything, and basically all local players end up working a pretty average job after football (european football btw), and the hype is all over after 35. Also there is this stigma if you stop its looked down upon heavily. Im studying to be a software engineer and im enjoying it alot and i imagine a long future in it. Im about to get my first internship at one of the best companies here, and im starting a degree next year. The problem is that sometimes i get burnt out (football), and it feels forced or that im trying to prove something to my dad and make him proud but not because im really enjoying it. (60% of the time i do enjoy it and it helps) I have an app idea im passionate about and feel it could be really big and i want to pursue it but i dont have the time, as my life goes like this: School, training, school work, eat, sleep, repeat. It's the sacrifices athletes need to make to make it. However as i said im not sure these sacrifices are going to pay off enough in the future. I have other hobbies like learning the piano or guitar, video games and coding, but i do that for school atleast, but the problem is that i sacrifice my school work to do these hobbies, which sometimes leads to me falling behind. I'm not sure what i should do and your advice would be appreciated :) thanks
Hello Niko, currently I feel forced into a chronically online lifestyle that I really don’t enjoy. I have helicopter parents that dictate everything I do socially outside of school and online. When I was younger I didn’t really care all I wanted to do was play video games and since my parents didn’t have a large understanding of the internet they didn’t restrict it heavily just the basics of not giving out personal information etc. However now things have changed recently I went through a large emotional change were I realized just how much of my life I had wasted and that I needed to get out more. However whenever I try to express this to my parents I get shut down due to their nature ( I can’t even ride my skateboard down the street without supervision and full protection) and I find this really frustrating. I understand that they are just trying to protect me but that doesn’t make it any less annoying. Currently the only thing I do outside of school and online activities is occasionally going to our backyard and setting up a chair and looking at the sunset which while nice is not enough. I guess what I’m trying to ask is how I can get out more without my parents intervention and once I do achieve this what should I do?
For the third comment there, you're 14 and still got a whole lot of life to go through before you can say you're wasting it. Wait until you're in the 20s or 30s and start thinking that way. And second, expand your horizons a bit. If you're sick of doing the same stuff over and over again in the routine you have, then change what you do. Play an instrument, go to the gym, cook/bake, go for walks around a park, learn stuff you'd think would be interesting, etc. That, and break that scrolling habit. Be conscious of how long you scroll for and gradually decrease how much time you spend doing that. You're not meant to be on your phone 24/7.
Hi niko, i just found your channel and i want some advice. I'm 15 years old and i started to draw and write stories since last year (9th grade) and i want to become a writer, But lately after and during my test, I've been feeling depressed, suicidal and demotivated to do anything. I don't feel motivated to workout, study or even drawing and writing. I used to do 42 push-ups but now can't even do 20. All of the people around me expect me to get over 95% or something and get some random government job that i don't even know of. My mom always compares me to my friends who do better to the point where i hate every one of them for being better than me. And to add to that, the teachers and every officials are saying the exams will be the hardest of all the previous ones and now i feel as if even if i pass, it's not good enough and my life is completely wasted and then there will be no other choice but to kill myself.
I am feeling like being lost in my life. I couldn't find what I wanted to do or what I wanted to be. Also my country is in a civil war so I got no future for now. ( I am just trying not to d*e ) Like I don't enjoy anything in my life! I can't see my future! I lost internet in almost everything!
I don’t know if this will be included in a video and it’s super long haha but I got a question for the next ask Niko love your videos they always make me feel calm and always make sense and help in crazy ways keep up the great vids! What you said in your choose your family and relationships are hard, privacy is important, choose friends wisely, nobody cares, confrontation is necessary videos all felt like they gave me some ideas and motivations to kinda change my certain situation and I’ve watched most of your other videos but those specifically kinda made me think about my issue I have. So I have this girl I became friends with them a couple weeks later or months maybe I get a crush on her I don’t say anything ever about it and never plan on it cause that’s just how I work for now at least, then way later it’s causing me more grief then along the way I realize she’s kinda scummy especially in her relationships and that’s kind of around when my crush on her started disappearing until now it’s gone completely my friend the one that even introduced us is trying to back off of her cause she’s kinda toxic and negative and brings everyone down and he’s trying to turn his life around, I am too and me and him we bring each other up, but she is always complaining and getting involved in crapping situations almost seemingly on purpose and I think i only ever tried to get close to her because i liked her then she made me into her bestest friend she talks to constantly and im really just the problem dumping ground for problems she seems like shes not even trying to solve herself. this is it in a nutshell but I guess my question is how do you kick someone out of your life you know is bad for you when they depend on you and have mental health problems? Is it my job to help her if it drains me and brings me down? Am I a bad person for not wanting to help her and being tired of it? Should i be looking at this differently maybe?
I need advice about getting older. Im only 13 turning 14 and im going into highschool in September and i just realized im getting older and my childhood is getting farther and farther away from me. I dont wanna grow up and i dont wanna get older. Its scary to me. Do you have any advice on this?
Hey Niko, (i have posted this in the first Q&A type ish video. but i still have the same question.) ive started RU-vid in end of October and its going pretty okay to say. But i still feel im doing something wrong in a way.. I mean look at you, you blew up real fast with likeable & good content. I'm just lost in what to make or what to do. atm i live with my parents and theyre giving me a chance to do something with social media aka RU-vid for me. But i feel disappointed because im not getting the results i am hoping for. and I know some of my video's are good and some of them are bad. and ive had more channels in the past. but this is the second longest ive had. I just feel Lost. idk what to do. Thanks for reading.
Hey, im 15 back when i was 13 i really screwed up with one of my friends whom i shared a friend group with and it took a toll on both of our mental health but surprisingly they didnt say anything to anyone in the group until 3 weeks ago and now i lost all of the grpup as friends and dont want any of my family to find out what am i supposed to do in this situation
Hey niko I have a question. How do you move on from a crush. I had a crush and I tried to impress her but then she rejected me and I'm struggling to move on from her she's always on my mind when I know I can't do anything about it cause she is moving schools. I'm now getting trashy sleep and I am always stressed because of my old crush. It's even affecting my studies especially since I'm entering middle school. I'm just wondering how to deal with it
Hey I have simple question to ask, how do i communicate effectively? Like being comfortable about opening up or talking about feelings and such. It’s something I’ve struggled on for several years. Some reasons why communicating has been difficult for me is because i have been always afraid of how people would see me differently or use my problems against me. It’s a fear that I’ve had for long time. Because of this I’ve had many trust issues with family, friends and the people around. So overall I just want know how can I be comfortable with communicating my thoughts or how I feel.
I LOVE your videos btw :) I have practically no motivation to do anything, but I really want to start exercising and being active this summer so I can be in shape. I feel like every time I want to do something like go for a run, I just sit back down and do something else that's unproductive. Do you know how I can stop this seemingly endless cycle of laziness?
Hi niko, I want to make friends but I fear that I will not get along with most people. I don't think I can really make the "real" frienships I seek. I know that talking to people and filtering later could be an option but I feel like it's a waste of time.
im a 14 year old guy and i do spend a lot of time making youtube videos and playing minecraft, watch youtube, scrolling yt shorts etc. but even with my 2 years of youtube i feel like im wasting time because im worried my parents wont approve of me wanting to be a youtuber because ive heard them talk about youtube being like a stupid dream and oh it doesnt actually make you enough money and blah blah blah but what im trying to say is im worried my parents wont approve of me wanting to be a youtuber and also that they might be right because im only at 187 subs not getting many views and ive already been doing it for 2 years
16:40 "have to be this have to be that"" It's quite funny how guys have be a laundry list of things to even be eligible for a date, while women just need exist and have a pulse..
Hi niko I am 18 I want to make my parents praod Want help them financialy But I don't what to do I am so confused There are things that I love like learning about science tech philosophy Please help me
This comment is for the dude that wanted relationship advice. Im a 20 year old girl and personally I would say to take Niko's advice with the smallest grain of salt. Especially the nervousness part. For me and basically any person in dating in general will appreciate people who put their soul in the front. Even if you're shaking like a leaf and stare at your shoes. If you are just brave enough to show a glimmer in your eye when someone brings up a topic that you like will make you a more interesting person. Niko said that girls smell fear. People smell it as well if you hide yourself completely to not get flustered in any situation ever. Also if you put yourself down and think you're not that special then you have to be damn lucky for someone else to notice that you are. (Which was niko's point but i digress) And if the 'go just talk and hope for the best' tactic doesn't work. You can always look for hobby clubs, gatherings etc. In that way you are already in a much safer envinronment to talk with anyone. Plus you can always ask your friends to hook you up with someone they think might get along with you. In the end honesty about yourself is really important. If you puff up your chest and think you're the game when all you have for your personality is wet washcloth. Even the men around you will see that. Get to know your quirks and make sure that people see them. Failing social situations is what guarantees improvement in that front. Of course if you personally only care for looks/status when finding a girl then you can not expect the possible partner to care about anything else either. Then you have to go to hustle university of some shit like that. I hope this message reaches that guy. Remember, you're the man!
Hey, this is the guy who asked the comment for relationship advice. Thank you for your input! I’m glad it managed to reach me. I appreciate it. Just out of curiosity, what do you mean exactly when you say put your soul in front?
Something that I figured out a little while ago was the realization that once you start doing a hobby for other people rather than yourself, and accepting compensation for it, your view of the hobby changes. Suddenly, it becomes work, maybe because there's suddenly pressure to perform rather than doing it purely because you want to. If you want to turn a hobby into a career, it has to be the type of hobby that you won't get tired of doing, at least not for a long time, as well as one where you don't mind a client telling you what to do. But that's just my two cents.
As a 14 year old today, I have adapted a journaling method by Reysu. Every month I write down 3 habits I want to change. Like for example, this month I'm trying to keep my screen time less than an hour. I suggest everybody try it. Even if you don't have a journal. Use anything you can write with and on and just try it for a week. Good luck!
Hi Niko, simple one here: how would you recommend balancing a social life and a work/school life? For someone who enjoys social activities that may hinder work but is also gifted with natural intelligence and so shouldn’t waste it?
Hey Niko, I'm a male high school student and there's a girl in my class who I've already become good friends with that I want to ask out. I feel conflicted since I know my feelings for her are growing but I also know that, at the moment, we are good friends and I don't want to lose that relationship. I want to ask her out but I'm afraid, whether her answer is yes or no, it'll change the way we interact thus ruining our relationship. I know a confession of feeling makes things awkward and most high school relationships don't end well anyways, but I can't help these growing feelings I'm having. Do you have any suggestions or pieces of advice that could help me make the right decision? Thanks.
I have heard something along the lines of “if you go to sleep and wake up looking forward to what you did yesterday, then you are a happy person.” Do you agree with this? And for me that would be computer programming but I still feel like I’m wasting away because my passion is productive but still behind a computer screen. Thoughts?
Hey Niko, I'm about to graduate high school and for much of it, if I wanted to have friends, I was required to drink, even though I am uncomfortable drinking. I feel like you are required to drink if you want to have friends in high school.
Hey Niko 🙏 I have a chronic issue with seeking validation from others. I’ve been pretty recluse most of my life, but im now 21 and trying to come out my shell. Ive cast a large net of shallow friendships and that helps, but I cant seem to make deep friendships . I have a therapist, but that isnt enough. I recently exited a year long relationship, which had helped me have someone to talk too, but its been getting pretty bad since we broke up. Ive started using dating apps compulsively, and if a girl ive been talking too ghost me or flakes or whatever (which is very common on dating apps) I will feel so depressed that it’s seriously effecting my ability to do anything. I do school, work, and gym every single day so I have things to fill my time, but the validation thing is just constantly in the back of my head. I know i should probably quit dating apps, but how do i find that deeper level of connection in a healthier manner? Btw love your vids ❤️
18:10 Great video but I'm too big on this one. As someone with a good love life this isn't a terrible tip for those trying to find somebody but also don't let it get to your head where you become a total dick to a girl because you think you're better than everyone else
Hi Niko, I have a question I'm 14 and I'm autistic and I don't like school, I don't like the loud environment, I don't like that I'm forced to be social, and I don't like being forced to learn things that I don't want to because it's draining my motivation but I'm gonna end up not using it so I feel like I'm wasting my time...I really love art and wants to make it into a career, but school just kept taking my time and motivation away from me, so I'm considering to drop out of school and to pursue my dream in art, but I'm afraid that I'm gonna regret quitting school, what should I do?
Oi, Niko! I'm 19, going to 20 in a few months, and this year I started studying an engineering major that I didn't want to begin with Long story short, I wanted to apply originally to, what is the equivalent-ish of a Trade School here in Spain for an 3D animation Program that they teach in an institution inside my city because my goal is to work in the Animation industry I'm doing my fair share of projects, I am working for a couple and stuff But thing is, I couldn't get in because I lost my slot in it due to me not knowing that there was a time period I would be sent a mail to basically confirm that indeed I want the slot So in hopes of pleasing my father's desire to become an Engineer just like him, and to do something other than waiting for a year to try again, I signed up for an engineering major And I cannot stand it and I can't take it, it's not for me Yet at the same time, I could not feel more guilty, unsatisfied and disappointed in myself at the fact that the money they had spent for this major will just go down the pipe drain just because I want to pursue my dream I've tried and failed basically every class, and because I had tried to do my best with the energy I had with the exams, I haven't advanced much when it comes to my actual skillset And for the times that I had worked in projects, I get sent suuuper behind in school So I'm basically super behind on everything, even if I'm working restlessly, I can't seem to get anything right or to catch up with my plans, or I find myself drained out of energy all the time Fail in one, fail in another More worth to do none, honestly I've met a bunch of new, great friends at Uni, I have moved on from past trauma, and learned to socialize way more to open up to people because of them, as well as I got to retake a bunch of stuff that I had left to rot years back or started new activities (going to the Gym for instance), and did a bunch of self discovery, which in turn, has made me happier than ever before And best of all, my father is now more open to the idea of me chasing what I want, and will support me going forth Yet I still cannot stop feeling uneasey about me not wanting to have anything to do with Uni It feels like I have spitted on the money my parents have spent on this, despite the fact that I never inteded to go to this Now that the admission periods for the animation program are going to be opened all again within a few weeks, and knowing all that, all I wanted to ask is Would this year be considered a waste? And would have all this been even worth it? Thank you, and keep up the great work!
hi niko, i want to go to college, and my parents want me to go to college, but recently with this new ai stuff, people have been loosing their jobs, and that makes me think a lot of college degrees will be soon redundant. i am 16 and i have an interest in computer science and gardening, and occasionally do gardening at other peoples houses for money. although i do enjoy gardening, im not sure if i want to do it for my whole life, and it is heavily weather dependent, and instead i want to do computer science, but again i am afraid to loose my job because of some ai (and i have almost no interest working with ai, as in training it, maintaining it, etc., mainly because of privacy concerns). on top of this, ai is moving in a fast and unpredictable way at the moment, so i cant tell where it will end up in x years. what should i do? edit: i feel like i should also mention i am getting more and more concerned about peoples privacy, especially with ai. its starting to feel like peoples privacy is becoming public data, or at the very least public to companies and advertisers
Hey Niko, I'm 17 and graduating high school. I didn't get all the classes I needed (to be an architect) I had to move schools a lot ( I also don't want to go back to school or invest in college due to the dept).I always wanted to be an architect since I was a child, always loved art and math and generally drawing rooms I've already done it semi professional kinda. Anyways since I started a new cashier job I've learned a lot about myself like I miss my old lawn maintenance job that kept me outside and that I like talking to people which I wouldn't be able to do in architecture as much. Im thinking of pursuing jobs in the trades like construction instead and having a second job to pursue my hobbies like art and such like RU-vid, or bartending idk any suggestions (also I feel like construction would fulfill me more as i wouldnt have to stress about dept and i would be working outside more and woukd make about the same, but ibwould want to somewhat have a job that ibwould be able to -be active and outside -Talking to people -artistic -number crunching Also thinking about having my own business like RU-vid of course but also lawn maintenance but don't know how it would be like to be my own boss)
Hey niko, i think ive found my purpose in life. I was a low life fat introvert spending 12 hours a day on genshin and i got sick of it and started improving and trying everything i can and socializing and now i found basketball after trying 4 different sports. This isnt asking for advice but to tell everyone who is watching (if this makes it into a video) that just because you feel lost and at the lowest point like i was doesnt mean thats just who u are. It means u have alot of potential. Fufill it and stop wasting time saying “i cant because its hard and j dont want to” or “i dont have time” because if u wanted it so bad that u cant stop imagining it like i did. You WILL make time for it. I had a full schedule so i exercised early in the morning, at school, after school, after over time class and at night. And i got bullied for not being good at basketball and that awakened something in me snd i spent the whole summer trainjng and now im happy because all that work paid off. Conclusion? Its that just because you are at the lowest point of life rn doesnt mean u shouldnt at least try and climb just because its hard. Thank you.
I did! And to be honest, while sometimes it can be a little stressful and i can be susceptible to burnout, i dont regret it, and i feel like im just having fun
