POV: when the pick-me claps back…🤭 For those who are confused: this is not me/ my own opinion!!! This is about what goes on in the pick-me girl’s mind! being a pick-me isn’t your clothes, your lack of makeup, your choice in style, your hobbies, or anything that has to do with what you like for yourself. It’s about how you treat other women and use their interests to put them down, separating themselves from other women and making fun of the things they love to be “better” than them. It’s all about the attitude and I wanted to express what might go on in their head for them to think it’s okay to treat women like that. If you don’t like makeup or are a tomboy, that’s awesome! Express yourself and be who you are! It’s all about how we treat people and respect their own interests as well. Keep doing you and what makes you happy!!! Love you!! 🩵🦋
Yess totally i won't lie when these types of girls say something like about that will make me insecure, i feel sad all day long until, i realized that people say these cuz they need to look better. these people are so insecure that, they put there insecurities on others just to feel good about them and not knowing how this could effect on others and all after that, they all said they i'm not trying to be rude like wt- please learn to respect❤
Literally every time someone says “I could steal [insert man here]” I’m really like, go ahead. Like if he willingly does that then that’s his choice. They act like their animals that have no actual say in who they want and the girl are on either side of them calling their name.
So many women have tried to steal my bf while blatantly disrespecting me (ignoring me but begging my bf to play games with her or to go hang out with her but not inviting me, he didnt say yes to a single one of them, when i gave her a nasty look oNE time after everything she threw shit at me???)
I've noticed a trend in Clara's other pick me videos of other girls being worried they are like pick me's because they are kind of similar to the girls that Clara are portraying. For any girls who may be concerned: Not wearing makeup doesn't make you a pick me. Not wearing dresses and not being like "other girls" is not necessarily a pick me thing either. The term "not like other girls" is just often said by pick me's. (There is PLENTY of girls who don't wear makeup or dressup. I'm one of them and I know many of them aswell.) What makes someone a pick me is the fact that they put other women down, often in an attempt to get a man's attention. Pick me's come in all shapes and sizes, but what makes them a pick me is putting down other women (again, normally in an attempt to look more favorable to guys). Nothing else. So don't worry.
Yes we know that. Its just the meaning of pick me is the one who does things to get the boys attention and brings other women down regardless of what they're wearing. Ik some people who act like that, and its annoying honestly 😅
@@FishesandNuts I know a lot of you are aware of what it means. (I'm sorry if I came off as sounding like no one knows what it means.) I've just gotten kind of tired of seeing all the comments saying "but I dress like that, I'm not like other girls, etc, but I don't put girls down, so I'm not a pick me!". Like, I've even seen some people on Clara's older pick me videos telling her that her video made them feel bad about themselves, even though they don't put other women down, and/or aren't interested in boys 😭 . Why feel bad if the video isn't talking about you???? So my original comment was basically for those people, lol
If you don't like makeup your not a pick me If you don't like high heels your not a pick me If you don't like pink and dress's your not a pick me If you only have male friends your not a pick me A pick me is someone that lets down other girls to look different
If you like makeup your not a pick me If you like high heels your not a pick me If you like pink and like dresses your not a pick me What you were and how you style differently dose not make you a pick me It’s the way you act
@@diamonddd.622it’s like modern day feminism vs the original concept- except here it’s modern day pride vs the original concept ig- one could also compare it to the Black Lives Matter movement vs what social media addicts turned it into- making every little detail related to the ‘trend’ and reading into things that have no hidden meaning, taking it as an opportunity to try and promote or emphasize or oversell the idea of being a victim- I can’t blame someone for wanting acceptance, but sometimes it can be a bit uncalled for-
When I was 10th grade, my new some classmates hated me. I didn't know why. Until that day. When it was The Woman's day, every boy made surprise to girls. Some girls got plushies,while i got dedective books.I was happy,till that classmates said,"DON'T ACT PICK ME YOUR SO CRINGE NOW EVERY BOY STARING AT YOU" while they're shouting ,i just laughed. Hopefully, it was a good answer.😊
no fr idk why it like stuck with me and rang in my head. I think bc we usually hear the words “pick me” in the sense of a girl begging for someone to love her, but in this sense she’s bragging about how “the boys just always pick me”
yea, I get that! picking her like an object, and as if she isn't oppressed, too, trying to claw her way into the light while other girls are already more comfortable with who they truly are. ❤
just a reminder that there are girls in the world that don’t wear makeup because they want to look good.. instead, they wear makeup because they think it’s a fun hobby. 😚 edit: thx for 1.2k 🎉🎉
Well taking hours to get ready is actually more fun then getting out of the house for some reason BAHAHAHA Wait this is so much likes even tho it’s 20 omg
The fact that i have someone at school who said that she's not a pick me but she ended up being the MOST PICK ME at school, and using this reason to get out of it💀
Everyone needs to understand the difference between a real tomboy and a pickme because honestly when someone says "oh I'm a tomboy/tomgirl" doesn't always mean they're a pick me, it just matters of how much they brag about it or they say in a way. For an example 👇 Tomboy/tomgirl pick me -a real tomboy -brags about being a tomboy/ Wouldn't brag about Tomgirl. Being a tomboy/tomgirl. -Brags about being friends with -a real tomboy/tomgirl more boys. Would still fight for -brags about hating the color Women's rights. Pink or other "girly" colors. -a real tomboy/tomgirl -doesnt fight for women's Would still be friends Rights. With girls, not only Boys. -a real tomboy/tomgirl Doesn't brag about hating The color pink or other "Girly" colors. So those are some of the differences about a real tomboy/tomgirl. If there is any more just let me know if I missed any.
The term "pick me" has really been turned onto its head these past few years. Although, this RU-vidr seems to have grasped its original meaning, now suddenly any perceived heteronormative woman who isn't hyper-feminine is considered "pick me". I'm gay. I love women (how could you not), but because my interests appear to be what is perceived as "masculine", and thus align with heteronormative men, I've been called a "pick me" before. It defeats the original definition entirely, which makes me believe it should have never existed in the first place. One way or another, you're still putting down other women.
Then there's me who just gets up and change into a pair of hoodie and pants and then brushes my hair and the it up into a ponytail then I just chill and be lazy all day!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah my sister said im a pick me just because I have blonde hair, likes dresses and likes make up. Like can she just stop with this stereotype it's so annoying-
They say “I can’t hang out with girls, I hate drama” but fail to realise they’re the ones who cause the drama they complain about, they never seem to understand that they’re the common denominator.
That's what I always notice about bitches who say that, I also notice that these be the type of bitches who be tryna flirt with your man and then say that YOU'RE the bad guy for feeling some type of way about it
I can't seem to make female friends. And any time I had any they were very into drama. I also have to be very careful around my female family members. I have to perform perfectly cause they start dangerous rumors about me. You can feel that as soon as youre not in a room that others are thrilled to bond with eachother by bringing down your name. I've always wanted to have a group of friends like the sisterhood of the traveling pants or something lol. But yeah I've decided after my experiences, that I don't want to risk it anymore.
@@letsallgoforawalk you probably need to find friends who are mature & feel secure enough in themselves not to bring others down, I know it’s hard to do but eventually you’ll find the right people for you. In the mean time try & become comfortable in your own company, I wish I had better advice for you but unfortunately I don’t really know the ins & outs of friendship with anyone let alone with girls.
@AnhedonicAlien Thank you. Yes as the years go it gets harder to make friends. People say they want to be friends but I just end up desperately trying to entertain them to make them stay and in the end I am no longer new enough to keep but yeah luckily I enjoy my time alone anyway. It only hurts not having people if I think about it.
Personally,I don’t want to wear makeup because well,I just don’t want to. I have female friends,almost all my friends are female. I don’t wear dresses or heels because both are uncomfortable to me. You can be whoever you want to be in life,just make sure it’s not silently hurting anyone. Or hurting in general.
I don't think she's saying it's bad to not wear makeup or anything. I've noticed on a lot of her other videos about pick me's, there are girls in the comments who say things similar to what's said in this video, and claim they are not a pick me. What makes someone a pick me is usually described as trying to get guys attention, and putting other women down while doing so. I think she's just trying to point out that just because you don't act like a regular pick me, that doesn't mean you are not one. Pick me's can come in all personalities types, but what makes you one is how you treat other women imo.
Same with me. I just feel uncomfortable with these things and prefer a hoodie or such. I've always been like this. Sadly I've also met other girls who don't exactly dress like really "girly" or after the newest trends and do their own thing, but still insult my style and tell me I should try wearing stuff they do. Sometimes people just aren't ok with people being different then them and that's sad. Everyone should be able to dress how they want and getting accepted! Being comfortable with other things don't gives people the right to look down on other people who aren't like them!
I used to be like that until I realized it was because I didn’t have enough confidence to dress and act like a girl. Still don’t have much confidence, at least I’m not ashamed to admit pink is my favorite color 😂
I recently realized that when I walk past a bunch of girls laughing, I completely feel anxious and judged. I think it could stem from having bad interactions with other girls/women throughout your younger life. Thankfully I never went through a pick me phase, but i can imagine how someone would think like that to cope (if you can call it that)
i definitely went through that phase. i was a goth kid who hated pink and shopping and girly things. and i hated girly girls, girls who were really feminine. it wasn't until i got older and wiser that i realized i didn't actually hate those girls at all. what i really hated was the narrow little boxes society tries to force women into and the stereotypical idea of what women can and should be. i didn't hate girly girls. i hated that society made me feel like an outcast just because i WASNT a girly girl and i didn't like girly things. i think a lot of women go through this phase when they're younger, and it's because they don't understand yet that other girls aren't the problem. society is, and the way society treats women and devalues them is.
Calling others pick-me is also a kind of insecurity. I see the social media trend where they accuse other girls of being pick me just because they have different interests and tastes. So by putting down others the you also become so called 'pick-me'.
@@Forever_inSomniayep pick me can have any style and way there is I'm not girly like other girls there is the small girls and even the goth and ones that love or hate pink
I've quite literally herd them do this. Influencer pick-mes always start off with "I'm not a pick-me, but..." *proceeds to trash on women and say theyre diffrent from the rest*
I’m a girl, but I prefer to wear comfortable clothes. But I would never judge when another woman is dressed nicely, they look amazing and it shows they put effort into what they’re wearing.
Same. I don’t wear those kinds of clothing whereas I expose too much of myself and it is very tight and uncomfortable. I prefer short sleeved clothing and pants. Whatever style, I’ll accept.
"Those girls wearing pink. Those girls wearing make-up. Those girls wearing heels" I admire them smmmm. Your also so cool and confident!! I love your videos
The one thing that I’m jealous of men is the fact that no matter what type of guys they are, they always unit and become friends. No matter how they look or what they think, they’re all friends. Obviously some more than others, but it’s rare to see guys who hate each other. I’m so jealous that they’re all buddies while we go against each other! We have to stop and unit!
I think this is true for some, but there's definitely a lot of lonely guys out there as well. As a guy, there's definitely guys who I get along with, and guys who I don't get along with. I agree to an extent though. Because of the way male culture works, most of the time, if two guys talk to each other a lot, they'll usually get along without much risk of judgement from either side. What's your experience like as a girl though?
@@Cerioth thank you for informing me! Anyways, as a girl, there’s a bunch of types of girls. I mostly get along with the artsy kind. Because, when you’re talking to a girl, for me personally, I want to impress them so they don’t think I’m weird, but it really depends on who they are, cause most are judge mental which makes things a lot harder. That’s why it’s usually girls who put each other down, but I personally think we should stop
@@HjjMemes it is an act. you’re js insecure bcs u have no boobs or anything. you’re either a weird and jealous woman or a toxic masculine man who is jealous bcs he gets no girls. 💗 it’s a joke. clara’s whole channel is about putting girls up, not down.
FINALLY someone like? My family calls boys who bully me daily attractive and think I may love them just bcs I get annoyed by them but just bcs they are ,,pretty" for me they would never be whether inside or outside
There is a difference between a tomboy and a pick me (not hating Clara, I know she knows this already) Tomboy- a girl who likes sports, chooses to dress more comfortably, make she likes lots of video games, she typically is more interested in more ‘masculine’ topics. Pick me- a girl who is trying hard to not be like ‘other *girly* girls’, she tries to dress less girly not because it’s her style, but because she’s trying to pull more boys. She puts down other girls by calling them dramatic, and basically saying that being girly is bad. Even though she is literally a girl!! “I like women who don’t bring down other women.” -Selena Gomez
Being tomboy or having guy friends doesn't mean you're a pick me , being a pick me is putting other women down in favor of yourself, appearance or any type of relationships dont make you a pick me, treating other women badly does, pick mes can be girly, tomboy or neutral, is not the look but the attitude!
I have a permanent fear of being categorized as a "pick me" because I don't use any kind of products that more or less change your physiological appearance. Even my outfit doesn't help much because it's usually unisex casual. It's sad how such simple things can be misunderstood, but at least I encourage myself knowing that femininity is not a fixed concept, but exists in many ways, each in their own way.
Don’t worry, I doubt that anyone sees you as “pick me” just by the way you look. Mostly “pick me” girls can be detected by their behaviour. They have these weird stereotypes they labelled all girls out there with. Aka “girls always wear makeup and skirts”. So when they do the opposite, they feel “unique” even though it is a common thing, millions of women out there wear pants and don’t use makeup. Honestly, it is even sad because of the limits they put themselves in just so they won’t “look like others” instead of looking that way simply because they like it. I feel like the core of the problem doesn’t come from good self-esteem, but from the need to feel somewhat unique and important, from the need to explain why they feel like they are unable to fit in. What I mean is, as long as you look the way you do because you like it, because you are comfortable with it, it will show through the way you act. And people won’t mistake you for a “pick me”.
Sadly, a lot of pick mes have been associated with more tomboy styles and masculine personality, so people immediately judge a tomboy as pick me. It’s the individual! You can be masculine or feminine, it’s YOUR personality and views that count! (Personally, I can never choose between a cutecore-ish pink and bright style or like a masculine tomboy style, sos 💀)
Honestly, the surest way to not look like everyone else is to simply be yourself, because you are unique and no one is exactly like you. Pick me girls live in an illusion, the world is not at all as they see it, they end up just like all the other pick mes. I dress and act exactly how I feel, how I feel comfortable. Today I wear jeans and shoot beasts, tomorrow you see me in a skirt like a real lady. Is it so hard for others to do this when they feel they want it? People have reached an incredible hypocrisy!
@@ryunight7921i mean, even with that you've got to be careful, because not all girls who behave like this are pick me's. I have a female friend, who basically hates all other girls in my class, but she has in the last four years that i've known her never taken any interest in boys, and i am pretty sure she hates all girls, bc they used to make fun of her being more "boyish" in primary school, so its never that easy.
Just because they’re acting way too feminine and nice doesn’t mean they’re a pick me Remember, it’s about the people that are toxic and put other people down. Those are pick-mes and jerks.
@@denisadam8141 This just represents what some people think. These aren’t her actual views, she’s showcasing the issues with people that think like this. Don’t clap back, or be nasty, on people who actually address societal issues. You’re just making fun of her without even understanding the purpose or meaning of the video, which makes no sense. Don’t comment on something you don’t understand.
reasons i hate myself 1. im not that beatiful 2. im bad at editting 3. no ones like my vids and shorts.. 4. i hate myself 5. i always hearing ppl but not focusing on myself 6. ppl call me selfish stupid dumb.. 7. they call me........motherless fatherless cause they died when i was young
@@luvmaluv what SO ARE NOT BELIEVE IT OR SOMETHING MY REAL MOM IS DEAD MY REAL DAD IS DEAD TOO THATS WHY EVERBODY HATES ME NO ONE EVEN WANTS TO BE FRIENDS WITH ME NOW I LIVE WITH MY COUSIN I THOUGH PEOPLE WOULD STILL LIKE ME BUT NO THEY DONT EVEN MY BFFS MY BESTIES ARE GONE
Ppl say wearing black baggy shirts, not usually wearing skirts, or rather wearing a suit or some fancy shirts and shorts is a pick me. Bro just bc im not a girly girl wearing makeup, dresses, constantly wearing pink, doesn't mean im a pink me like shut up 😭🙏
Tbh this pick me isn't that bad, but some are js wanting attention, like im a tomboy, and honestly hate makeup like 1. Im allergic lol, and 2. Why ruin the beauty, how less it is, and fake yourself? Beautiful or not? Everyone is perfect, remember that
Guys, can we just make it clear that just bc a girl doesn’t wear makeup or dresses doesn’t make her a pick me, what does is putting other women down for doing these things. People should just be able to do whatever they want, including girls who want to be feminine. I’m really sorry if anyone in the comments has been put down by anyone for this reason. Stay safe guys ❤
It is not about their looks but pick me girls always saying that they don’t wear makeup and they don’t wear dresses because they are different. Of course there is nothing wrong with not wearing makeup or not wearing dresses ❤
being girly doesn't make us pick too trust me look at the girl she has too much confidence how could she say "those girls are so dramatic, enjoying movie that's feminine, ew. Oh a girl is looking at me she must be jealous I'd steal her boyfriend , I mean I could if i want to" ir emme er this girl really wasnt so but now she is at the limits too much confidence like how could anyone think that?
@azizhawas7750 Please read the pinned comment. She's talking about a social issue between women and ppl are only dragging her down by her appearance. Not better than being a pick me at all. Maybe even worse.
a true pick me is not a girl who is a tomboy,has friendships with men,plays sports and/or video games,that’s just a girl being her true self. HOWEVER,a REAL pick me can be a girl who turns down other girls to get the attention from men.
You can't call someone a "Pick Me" for being friends with boys. Sometimes we cannot be jealous for them as we are just making friends and socialise with others despite the gender or anything.
Yeah but in the vid the girl was being rude about other girls wearing pink or makeup so yeah, pick me behavior. Ofc I'm also someone that gets along with boys, but it also get along with girls so yeah
They're a difference between guenenly being friends with boys and being friends with boys because you despise women and generalize them into drama maker
Yeah I think the point is that women shouldn’t bring each other down and it’s why she countered herself when she said “it’s not my fault boys just *pick me*” at the end :))
"Oh a girl is looking at me.." "she must be jealous I'd steal her boyfriend.." " I mean I could if I want to" got me laughing 😂😂 Edit:tysm for 30 likes
“Im not a pick me “ continues to become the biggest pick me in the world ☠️. Thank you so much I’ve like never got more than. 20 likes on a video : Chill I meant it as a joke like y’all don’t have to go at me like that
