“The Secret of Tiger Moms” | Cha-Hsuan Liu | TEDxAmsterdamED

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Dr. Cha-Hsuan Liu is a university lecturer at the Department of Interdisciplinary Social Science, Utrecht University. Currently she teaches Youth Study, Multicultural society and Health in society. Her work focuses not only on Diversity sensitivity and Health but also on other interdisciplinary studies, such as Education and Innovation Sciences. She has several articles, book chapters and books published, including a series journal papers in Chinese language about Dutch Education System. In her TEDx talk she discusses the high education performance among Asian migrants based on an interview with her and a collection of stories of Asian migrants in the Netherlands. Lui explains the main features of being a tiger mom, and stimulates an education that mixes best of bot worlds.
Dr. Cha-Hsuan Liu is a university lecturer at the Department of Interdisciplinary Social Science, Utrecht University. Currently she teaches Youth Study, Multicultural society and Health in society. Her work focuses not only on Diversity sensitivity and Health but also on other interdisciplinary studies, such as Education and Innovation Sciences. She has several articles, book chapters and books published, including a series journal papers in Chinese language about Dutch Education System. Dutch newspapers, NRC, published a column article in 2017 discussing the high education performance among Asian migrants based on an interview with her and a collection of stories of Asian migrants in the Netherlands.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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13 июн 2017

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@user-uu5jf3jo3o 3 года назад

I saw the consequences of that in China: kids being scared to play with other kids, because they do not want to make a mistake. They don’t know how to relax. Even playing is like taking an exam ...

@mickbaruffa590 2 года назад

every children deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a children

@londoncarter9114 Год назад

I hope you don’t have children… you can’t even form a proper sentence that makes sense. A tiger mom would have done you some justice🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Rainytwilight 10 месяцев назад

Tiger parents have the most disciplined and well behaved children. So you better hush helicopter parent.

@Dark_Soul_X День назад

@@Rainytwilight Found the abusive tiger parent.

@ray.deathray 2 года назад

The term “Tiger Mom” tells you what’s really important. This is about the parents, not the children. She keeps talking about herself. She talks about accomplishments. Her child is barely mentioned. This is a great way to dehumanize your child so you can celebrate yourself.

@t.i.f.o.n.e.10 3 года назад

Great job guys !!!! SouthKorea which has the highest rate of tiger parenting families now has achieved the highest rate of suicide in young adults and teenagers..... Amazing job, very good strategy!!!!!

@simosc2 3 года назад

I dont believe that.

@zelantern 2 года назад

@@simosc2 Yeah don't believe facts. Keep relying on your fragile emotions.

@londoncarter9114 Год назад

This actually isn’t a fact! Their suicide rate is less than half of everyone else’s… they also haven’t raised kids that shoot up church’s/high schools for no reason so there’s that👀

@tranquilbakergentletraveller Год назад

This is what the K-drama, Sky Castle, was about

@skyrubber 16 дней назад

There is one misconception. The suicide rate among the generation raised with "tiger parenting" is lower than that of the generation raised with the "no hitting, not even with a flower" approach. How do you explain the increased social maladaptation of the latter generation? Additionally, how do you explain that in advanced Western countries like the United States, successful parents tend to be much stricter in educating and disciplining their children compared to the average person?

@SupunPraneeth 3 года назад

I hate these kinda people, this is so wrong. tiger parenting one way that parents try to acquire that they couldn't by giving so much stress and pressure to their children, she talks tiger parenting as a good thing. you should put your children's happiness before their education. you don't even know what's success is. You just a bad parent.

@01michelle 3 года назад

Agree, she say strict Asian parents like someone who can raise their children to a high and successful level, but forget about their child’s happiness. And what happends? The suicide rate of students in Asia is very high

@physicianskitchen 2 года назад

Not being successful (ie having a good job, roof over your head, food in the fridge and a social network) surely lowers your chances of happiness. Why does it have to be one or the other?

@yunxiaallyniu1317 3 года назад

Ya, as a Chinese mom myself, I can hardly finish listening to her speech. I respect Tiger moms to an extend, but not as she advocated so blindly....

@sarac2543 6 лет назад

Is the child happy glowing up under tiger mom? Can she/he think or act independently when he grow up? Not depend or relay on his parents?

@XiaoFeng895 6 лет назад

Sara Cohen Yes ofcourse the parenting is for making independent and make living for selves hard work.

@rosemarymassaro9930 6 лет назад

K koo oooo thy

@yisancheung6980 5 лет назад

비와나무 Lee lol I am her son and I don't have any problems lmao

@missxmarvel 4 года назад

MissCityOfWestminster 2016-17 GALAXY Children miss out on their childhoods with overprotective parents but I don’t see anyone complain about that.

@shubhsaxena8745 4 года назад

@@yisancheung6980 ur moms outdated tell her that many billionaires like jack ma(richest asian) and richard branson failed school,look at celebritites,actors and singers all of them were mediocres and failures in school

@aduts1177 2 года назад

This comment section is giving me hope about humanity😥Great job, guys. Every child deserves a happy,peaceful childhood. Beyond success and everything

@judithwerner5301 8 месяцев назад

Tiger moms are child abusers.

@bananapop4176 3 года назад

I loved this .. I’m African American but my stepmother was Asian and when I was a young child and did things wrong, I was punished by more reading, and writing, and summarizing what I’ve read, and given at home study assignments. And I despised it then, yet still to this day excel in my classes and my reading and comprehension has improved immensely.

@gfy2979 5 лет назад

She gives me the creeps so bad

@kellynonicr856 4 года назад

Greenfang Y why’s that?

@casusbelli9225 3 года назад

@@kellynonicr856 because she is a shallow psychopath?

@bettyangwenyi1797 3 года назад

"Every child has talent!" " If not, hard work produces talent!" Contradiction?

@ferpirata76 3 года назад

You are right. Contradiction. Best wishes from Spain!

@AxelSituation 3 года назад

good quotes and very true!

@physicianskitchen 2 года назад

How is that a contradiction? It simply says some talent is inborn and some is acquired through hard work.

@astarothamon2113 Год назад

@kaiyan1573 6 лет назад

i disagree, i believe that education is crucially important for a childs development but it DOES NOT determine ones future. it itself may lend a positive impact on ones work ethic and responsibility but it certainly not the only way of attaining 'success" and happyness. what matters the most (in my opinion of course) is one's mindset,do they have a direction in life, are they hungry for success and are they willing to work for it. another important point that i believe that is way more important then formal education is self education. do you have the ability to learn something yourself out of necessity or just fun and reach to HIGH standards. you want to know ho to invest?pick up a book about investment.want to know more about the human anatomy? do some research about it instead of getting a paper and wastng 4 yrs of your life. "formal education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune"

@XiaoFeng895 6 лет назад

kai yan Most people has basic education from 5 to 18 years old and that basic education is improvement. As some person. say "If you want new idea open old book. " I liked the education class. I open book I read ancient Chinese philosophy and it changes the thinking. Education is always important.

@magnuscritikaleak5045 5 лет назад

@@XiaoFeng895 yes but what about looking into the Future.

@_.kssh._3251 4 года назад

@@magnuscritikaleak5045 You cant surpass the future without having knowledge, knowledge is the past.

@SupunPraneeth 3 года назад

Thank you, finally someone who understand

@Jilli8310 Год назад

Education is crucial, but if you study behavior like I have, you will understand that it is the environment the child is in. 3 other people in my family are Harvard Law School graduates. Of the four of us, we went to public school. It was how our parents engaged us, how we were stimulated and encouraged while growing up. Yes, I am strict with my children, but I'm not so strict that I put everything into making the kids'lives miserable. They have friends and can socialize. Children deserve to have a childhood, to be loved, to have fun, all while being stimulated, encouraged and challenged. If you cannot balance this, then don't be a parent. Each child does have a talent, it's up to THEM to find it and develop it, not parents pushing it on them. You only have one childhood. Edit: I am married to a Chinese gentleman and we do agree on our parenting techniques. He doesn't want to be like his parents. I compromise.

@user-sd5tf3zo7o 6 лет назад

oh well she had it easy as relatively wealthier compared to all the other taiwanese at the time. she was part of the government families. my family could only worry about what could we eat for the next meal. whether or not would our younger siblings survive a cold. education, piano lessons were not at the top of our minds...she got lucky

@mariflak 4 года назад

I asked my mom to get me piano clases and she got me a book.. i can play piano now... must be nice to have a teacher, or money... i come from planet Mexico so.... i was born broke in money not spirits.

@rjtheripper931 3 года назад

Balance is the key word here.

@unle8867 Год назад

Recommended speed to play the video...1.25 😀

@littlematchltm Месяц назад

more like x1.5 speed.

@harumis5402 4 года назад

Tiger Mom BS. Raising your children through emotional tantrums is proven to be unhelpful in creating a healthy family, since the love between the parent and the child may be wanted but is clearly not there. Instead, encourage with logic and positivity, not threats of physical violence. Messed up criminals come from homes that gave them abuse and neglect. When teaching children, never yell or hit them, for they will hate their parenst and be truly sad.

@simosc2 3 года назад

Take a Good look at what being Permissive Parents looks like!!! Rioting! Stealing! Attacking Police!,,,sounding familiar yet? Turn on your tv or computer. Those monsters will never be winners, Hard work? They didnt get that teaching.

@harumis5402 3 года назад

@@simosc2 hard work is done by those encouraged gently with love logic and peace too!

@Nathan-ru2sm 3 года назад

Better have your child living heathy and not committing suicide than to be poor

@Tara-Yadil 5 месяцев назад

I loved it!❤ Every child needs a brave mom, like you Every child needs a mom who encourages their hard work.🍀

@YouTube_Enjoyerlol 3 года назад

I’m watching this at 1.5x and it still slow.

@obilombernadine6877 2 года назад

Me too

@littleantukins4415 3 года назад

tiger parents: CHILDREN MORE LIKE ROBOTS

@oliviab3807 2 года назад

Love this 💕

@aduts1177 2 года назад

Your child wont,trust me. He will end up having childhood trauma and will be prone to depression and addictions of all kinds. Beyond success and everything,we need peace. Ensure that your child is having that

@kalaupun День назад

Belief in education is shared by 99% of humanity, it is not some special belief that only certain groups possess.

@DarkAssassin677 Год назад

She's not even a Tiger Mom at this point, more like a Dragon Mom.

@harshakkumar4009 3 года назад

Why the place did they even let talk a tieger mom

@londoncarter9114 Год назад

I agree with the reason behind why they do what they do, some choose verbal abuse and are very very strict and I don’t agree with all of it but I am on board and plan to raise my son the same! I prefer intelligence/success over anything💯💯💯💯💯

@simosc2 3 года назад

Thank you!! If just a few parents will hear this and research how to use it to raise solid, decent, respectful, successful adults, there will be hope for America again. Its time for change in this country. Permissive parenting created the monsters we are seeing in the burning cities of America.

@yoleeisbored 3 года назад

no. Tiger parenting is harmful. need a balance.

@laur7841 Год назад

If you want to give your child anxiety, depression and childhood trauma, go for it

@Noob_froggy Год назад

Go look up the negative effects of tiger parenting

@farkhoddle6093 4 года назад

Did Jeremy Lin have tiger parents ? I mean I'm sure they were strict...

@elliygxoxo Год назад

As a millennial mom of 5 kids, who has "gentle parented" for 12 of my parenting years, tiger moms have a place in this world. I have a deep appreciation for them and I regret not going this route 😔

@jonfee5081 3 года назад

This is a bunch of bs

@Dinhjason Год назад

She's not serious is she? They're laughing. Why are they laughing? They know she's... serious, right?

@leumasboytv5749 4 месяца назад

7:00

@danielaskocicgarcia4665 2 года назад

@nathanielcarreon5634 4 года назад

We pressured/invested a lot of money for their private schools to our son to finish his mechanical engineering degree and our daughter her doctor of pharmacy and both are now very happy receiving 6 figure salary starting salaries. Now they cant thank us enough.

@casusbelli9225 3 года назад

I would thank you by locking you up in the worst retirement house the moment you grow weak and unable to fend for yourself.

@anonx2747 3 года назад

You mean abuse?

@zhuzuinan 2 года назад

Value education is a precious attitude of the Chinese culture. But formal education and hard working only do not determine success in (professional) life. Like Kai Yan said one's mindset, attitude, direction in life, hungry for succes, vision and passion matter even more. At the end if the tyger moms dediation and upbring methodes are so successfeel, why we see so little success full businessman (woman yes), visionaire leaders, eager CEO's, bestselling writters, award winning actors or noble price laureaats out these 'successfull trained' tiger kids? If these tiger mon kids are so outstanding, why the Boardrooms or higher management layers, university professors, alderman or ministers position are always lack of Asians than? Specially in the West. I believe that the Tiger Mother's education methode is succesfull on the schools and educations. But at the same time the strict upbringing methode is also the limitation for success in professional life. Being excellent and outstanding in professional life and life in general there is no blue print and no instruction how to do it. This is out of Tiger Mom's reach. I believe that tiger mom has to think further than education only. The Tiger Mother 2.0 needs to add soft skills and inspirations to the methode so the kids will have the luggage to excel beyong the school and university.

@friedi_fx 4 года назад

If I had had that mother, I wouldn't be creating music, shooting and editing videos, or drawing pictures today. She would have suppressed all my creative potential and put a cork in it. Not all children are the same. For some, education is not the most important aspect of life.

@missxmarvel 4 года назад

friedi_fx You’re talking about overprotecting mothers. Tiger mothers invest in their children and are way better.

@friedi_fx 4 года назад

@@missxmarvel Maybe for you, but not for me and many others I assure you.

@Rainytwilight 10 месяцев назад

Lol shooting and editing video's.. you call that an accomplishment? if you are so great then why didn't anyone offered you a record deal? why aren't you working for Disney or Pixar if your drawings are so great? You think tiger parenting is so bad but this woman is highly successful, has a PhD and her children are high achievers. I can't say that about so called indluencers.

@AxelSituation 3 года назад

Can anyone recommend an online website or fb group for similar tiger moms to share resources? Love Tiger Moms!

@MrSupertwo Год назад

Haha, the people look so unimpressed. Imagine paying top dollar to listen to this woman praise child abuse.

@osint10 3 года назад

Perhaps, the parents' desire for their children to live well has created a phenomenon called "Tiger Mom." This is also the behavior that parents love their children. I got your back. :)

@phuochuynh5523 5 лет назад

@missxmarvel 2 года назад

Ppl don’t like tiger moms but appreciate the overprotective ones. This is why I hate parents.

@evanstiff1057 6 лет назад

Bro if you tryna get better education dont come to america LOL

@zelantern 2 года назад

All I hear are excuses. Something around the lines of "the end justify the means."

@MrSupertwo Год назад

Her kid is doomed. This kid will never understand what happened to his life. The cycle of asian damage will continue on and on.

@devilmemnoch 6 лет назад

She spent half of her life in the west but speaks English very poorly... Yet she is talking about the perfect education?!

@J.I.0 6 лет назад

devilmemnoch I wonder if you can speak her language and englsih

@Foimay 5 лет назад

She probably came when she was developed keeping her from developing an accent. Ps she speaks very good English(she could probably write it better than most) but the only reason you are calling her English "poor" is because of her strong accent.

@onyx1674 4 года назад

@@Foimay The only one talking about accent is you. It's her grammar as well as inconsistencies (one, second, third). Can't you tell or are you so focused on her accent that you can't hear the grammar?