FYI Responsive Vs. Reactive Parenting: It Makes All the Difference 反應式和直覺反應式的養育:這是全然不同的 直覺反應式養育(Reactive parenting) 是指父母根據孩子的行為憑直覺 在衝動情緒化下而採取行動的養育: 例如孩子在3歲的時候在得不到他/她想要的東西就大聲哭鬧 亂丟東西 踢人 這時 如果父母因為心疼孩子而滿足孩子的需求 那麼 從此孩子就會以此模式來得到他/她想要的東西 反應式的養育 (Responsive parenting) 是指父母以冷靜的態度 思考孩子的行為是想要表達什麼 進而幫助孩子 建立韌性 當孩子學會適應非常合理的限制和經驗時 同時學會以正向的方式應對並不總是得到自己想要的。 ================ Responsive behaviours Responsive behaviours are triggered by an unmet need - a response to something frustrating, frightening or confusing in the person’s environment. 反應性行為是需求未被滿足而觸發 -當人在環境中對某事感到沮喪,恐懼或是迷惑時 所做的反應。 反應性行為通常是發生在 患有失智症 精神疾病 吸毒者和/或其他神經系統疾病的人 以描述他們的行為 言語和手勢 對他們個人 社會或身體環境中重要的事物的反應 這些行為通常是大腦變化(例如 中風 因車禍腦部受損)影響記憶 判斷 取向和情緒的結果。 Examples of responsive behaviours include but are not limited to: 反應性行為包括但不限於: Hitting-打人 Grabbing onto people-抓人 Pushing-推人 Throwing things-丟東西 Biting-咬人 Scratching-抓傷 Spitting-吐痰 Hurting self or others-傷害自己或他人 Tearing things or destroying property-撕扯東西或破壞財產 Sexually expressive behaviours-性表達行為 Negativism-消極主義 Kicking-踢 Pacing / Wandering-來回踱步/無目標的行走 Trying to get to a different place-試圖去另一個地方 Eating/drinking inappropriate substances-飲食不當物質 Hiding / Hoarding-隱藏/囤積 Performing repetitious mannerisms-表演重複的舉止 General restlessness-全身躁動 Screaming-尖叫 Cursing-詛咒 Repetitive sentences or questions-重複的句子或問題
This case already reported to the police, nowadays children are brought up in the very wrong way. Our country education had already down the drain. During our time in school 公民道德 is a very important lesson. But too bad for Singapore education’s is a failure .they have taken out this lesson for students in our country. Now our MOE only interested the name of the school’s, which school come to the TOP and not really put effort to the students. That is why maturity of our kids grown up in this way.