I love it when your videos are long!!! By the way, as a 16 year old girl I want to thank you so much 💘 I came here as a very lost atheist who was baptized Catholic and today I went to an Orthodox church for the first time and it felt so amazing !!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I truly believe orthodoxy is the way. Thank you so much, jasyme. I don't know where I would be today without your videos and wisdom !!!
I like how these tips are not just about manipulating men to like you; they also point to ways you can develop your character and confidence. For example, being graceful and poised takes time and practice, and benefits you in all areas of life, not just romantic!
I adore your videos! 💕 I would personally love to see some tips on how to navigate dating apps in a graceful, feminine way, and ideas for things to put on your dating profile that would attract a Godly man ☺️✨
Thanks. I have autism and am Eastern Orthodox (we are like 1% of the US population) and am 23 and struggling with socializing, including flirting/dating.
Ladies, I promise you that it is absolutely not a turn off to initiate anything that lets a man know that you’re interested. No man is going to see a woman whom he finds attractive make the first move on him and suddenly lose attraction because of it. If initiating interest in a guy doesn’t work it’s because he just wasn’t interested, not because he thought you were “masculine” because you made the first move.
I just stumbled across your channel two day ago and I am hooked. I’m trying to reach more into my feminine side, I have a very strong in my presence with my relationship, that is definitely hyper independent. I’ve been unintentionally hurting and pushing my partner away. It’s been so hard on my partner, we’ve just been clashing heads for a while. We’ve finally come to the point where I noticed I have to be more softer and that I want to be …Do you have any book recommendations on the subject? Thank you so much.
The girl and guy in the tik tok video are an actual couple who acted in the video but I'm sure things like that do happen. These are great tips as well.
I'm definitely more attracted to men with enthusiastic body language and i don't think i'm in a minority. I guess it depends on individual woman as a person. Usually if you're someone who's naturally more grounded and, perhaps, a bit closed off emotionally you find expressive people of the opposite sex more attractive, and vice versa. 💓
Dahm...I don't know if I wanna try so hard just to get the guy that I like...Thank you for the tips but my crush already looks my way and I'm just myself.
Oh I cannot pursue the man but over social media I give some likes to stories of some men which I dont love so much to do so but I do. The woman of the video you shared I feel sorry for her, I think even if I met the one randomly on some place and I knew I couldnt reach out😁 I feel excited to see you post video and to listen what you share💜. Im just at the start of video but wanting to leave message before I finish it😁.
Apparently I get men’s attention by mistake, my name literally means charming and I need help turning it down. Sometimes looking at men, I don’t mean to get their attention. When he’s super cute, I get shy, but I can be honest and say he most likely isn’t the man GOD has for me 🤦🏾♀️ it’s just challenging Any videos on turning down or off the charmingness….?
I have the same issue... Sadly, whenever I remember to, I just try to mute my natural responses when I don't want to be charming. - Eye contact that's minimal and neutral, rather than warm and smiling - Lips that are set neutral, with smiles that are slower to come to the surface - Neutral speech, enthusiasm/passion reserved And of course, taking and maintaining more physical space from others
Too much stuff to manipulate a man so we can obtain a reaction from him ... I found this tiring for the most part like how am I suppose to remember all that at any giving moment???
Please look up the definition of “manipulation” - this is definitely not manipulation. No guy has had an issue with this video at all. In fact, my husband helped me with the points.
I've been watching your videos, but how can a feminine go about organising a special event for the masculine? Does the planning and organising involve bringing out too much masculine? What's the approach to take?
I am 60 year old woman. 36 years ago, I asked my husband on a date…lol. I was hesitant, embarrassed, and uncomfortable to do so. His friends told me that he liked me and that he wanted to date me, but that he was shy and wouldn’t ask me out. They encouraged me to ask him. It was so hard for me. I was trembling, my voice quivered, and I hesitated in my speech a lot when I asked him. I actually, still feel embarrassed 36 years later. But I’m glad that I asked because he said yes. 😊
I normally would have wanted a guy to ask me out, but I was very good friends with my husband prior to dating him. I knew he was very reserved and shy and there was a slim chance he would ask me out. There was one day where he broke the touch barrier unusual to our normal friendship interactions. Right then, I knew he liked me. I didn’t see shame in giving him some encouragement and prompting a conversation about how he felt. Turns out, I was super right. We’ve been married almost 5 years now.
Man here. Although still a bit of a man-child and low quality man, I aspire to become a high quality gentleman. Everything you said is spot on for me personally. The way you advice women to act sounds extremely attractive and impressive to me. I still don't deserve a woman like that but hopefully one day I will be worthy. God bless and ladies, listen to this woman. She knows what she's talking about! Edit: subbed😎
You are NOT low quality that’s a horrible way to describe yourself! You are worth SO much! You deserve to be loved and appreciated and to give love and appreciation! X
@@sherbetstraw Awe, thank you so much for your sweet and encouraging words. It means a lot🙏 But it's true that I have many flaws I need to work on. Comments like that give me so much motivation. God bless you!
Just a heads-up: Confidence is key. If you lack confidence, don’t ever say so. Fake it. Yes, you’re being honest, but self-deprecation is a huge turn-off for many women.
I respect people who are self-aware, that's great! It's my first time watching this channel and i was just in awe, it's like she literally spoke my mind. I'm currently working on my femininity, and i wish you the best luck in your journey aswell
Funny how i did almost all of these when i was single. Worked every single time. The only man I’ve ever directly asked out is my now husband, but i already knew he was attracted to me. However that didn’t workout for various reasons.. then he asked me out months later.. been together ever since
I was on a cruise and there was a boy I was attracted to. One night on the cruise we were both in the club and I caught him staring at me multiple times. So I started playing with my hair and even smiling and he still didn’t approach me. I believe 40 minutes to an hour had passed and he still was staring at me.😂 I had an empty chair next to me and everything, my cousin was even friends with him but I guess he was really scared. I wish my gestures worked that time. My cousin(male) who was his friend was aware of this, didn’t help get us together because he believed if the guy was to scared and not man enough to approach me then there’s no point of being bothered with him. I still think about him though.😢
@@Juliax96xtry smiling and eye contact with everyone you come across , practice that daily. When I mean everyone I mean every single person you walk pass. That will train you to be able to smile and have eye contact with anyone. Just a tip I learned from sales
I remember casually reaching out to a guy I met (now husband of 11 years), asking him about a car I saw him post of FB, because I also liked cars and thought he was cute. I was also recently single after a 3 year relationship, so not a lot of people knew I was single again. He quickly started discussion and asked me to come over for a bonfire that night. By the next day he asked me to be his girlfriend, engaged within 2 weeks, married within a month. Sometimes it's just simply letting them know you are available, then they do the rest :)
@@io-rj6sk I wonder if that’s the secret to a happy marriage though 🤔 I think people have commitment issues these days because they don’t take action and because they have so many other choices lol
@@helenaBeau ngl if i met a beautiful girl and the passion was intense right off the bat i probably would do sumthing crazy like that too so maybe shes onto something
Like someone else said I love that these aren’t manipulative or sexualizing. I especially love the asking the guy of interest to hold your jacket gesture. I think that one is so clever yet flirty, classy, and discreet. That gives said guy enough time to prepare to handle the rest 😄 I have actually used the “can you take my picture” one before and it worked amazingly! Dated for 6 months. This was a great video that is much needed in this current dating climate where men are coming off more timid/shy than ever before due to social media or whatever else!
You are becoming one of my favourite feminine youtubers, it’s so hard to be feminine. If you look online the path for men to be masculine has been already cleared and visible, while femininity is a maze with feminism, “dark feminity”, being independent etc. Thank you so much from a 13 year old girl striving to be more feminine ❤
Thank you for making these types of videos! I've been a single mom for 6 years now and I have found it extremely hard to get back into getting a man's attention in a genuine way. There is a man at my parish that I would just love to get to know but I am an overthinker and I act the complete opposite of what I actually want! I will try next time to use some of these tips!
I highly recommend single women find, and read the book, The Rules. He is handsome. He knows it. He gets approached by women all of the time. He also had no respect for her feelings or effort. In a nut shell, let the man chase you.
I really do think approaching him puts him in the feminine more it’s not a good situation most of the time but some people say it worked for them. I wouldn’t want that kind of relationship with a man but everyone is different
This video and comment section is making me smile so big! ❤ This is so refreshing from the hyper specialized stuff on Instagram, and the toxic crap on TikTok.
Thank you so much for this video! I am surrounded by a large Orthodox community and there are plenty of young men but unfortunately, none of them seem to take action to sit down and have a conversation let alone ask for my number or to go on a date. It’s very frustrating because I think everyone is in the headspace of wanting to settle down and get married because of our faith, but no one does anything!!! I think these guys are just shy and don’t want to cross any boundaries… so it’s time I take matters into my own hands a little 😂
I have the exact problem. There are so many men in my orthodox church and so few women, and still we rarely speak to one another. Especially one on one.
This video came just in time. I'm interested in a man from my church and my family invited him over for dinner. It's going to be casual and fun , but I hope to catch his attention! ❤
Great video! I thought I'd give women an example of being in a predicament where the guy I was interested in had good reasons for not pursuing me even though I suspected he might be interested in me secretly. Or at least, since I was very interested, I wanted to get the chance to communicate to him that I was interested. Now I never outright asked him out (he ended up wanting to do that in the end! Though I was very close to asking him myself lol I was getting impatient), but I did do a lot of work haha. He's now my husband and it was TOTALLY worth it and all my sort of "pursuing" did not end up being indicative of him being a weak or unassertive man at all. We met when we had both just graduated high school and both of us were not in the right space to start dating. His parents were going through a divorce and he was the only one helping his mom stay afloat. He was juggling that emotional stress, college classes, and a job, plus he'd gone through some hard stuff in life that made him generally emotionally reserved. I was actively crushing on someone else at the time plus had other things going on that made me not in the position to give him romantic attention, either. So from his perspective, even though he liked me as a person right away (and I liked him too), he was NOT ready to date and had made that decision for himself. So we ended up becoming really good friends. It was honestly great because both of us genuinely just enjoyed each other platonically which removed the stress that juggling romantic feelings can bring. When we reflect back on those two years of friendship now, we loved how carefree we could be around each other and just be ourselves. For example, at the time I was getting over really bad body image issues and was battling the desire to ALWAYS wear makeup if anyone outside my family was going to see me. I would have definitely worn makeup and dressed nicely if I knew my crush was going to be there, but I ended up practicing just going makeup-less and dressing comfortably around my friends cuz I knew my friends wouldn't care how I looked. That meant I was able to already not care how I really looked around my now-husband which was great. No stress! And my authenticity and relaxedness made me more attractive to him. Okay so two years after we met I had gotten over that other crush I'd had and was a bit crushed by it. I felt my ego couldn't get any worse so I realized I had nothing to lose. I liked this guy who'd been my good friend for two years now, but I hadn't gotten any hints that he was interested in me romantically. No matter! I decided to "pursue" him anyway. What could really go wrong, he was already my friend and all I wanted to do was try to get closer to him. I tried talking to him more and learning more about him. I tried asking him to do more stuff with me during the week, like studying (that started out with other people being there too but it slowly morphed into it just being us) and also doing a favorite activity of his that I had learned about. He NEVER said no to me inviting him to do stuff with me and others! But he did have a lot of walls up. From his perspective, he was pretty emotionally wary and had suffered a lot in his short lifetime already. He was a bit wary of opening his heart up to me or anyone. So all the effort I went to to get us to hang out and become closer was perfect for melting his walls and making him realize I was safe to consider romantically. After just a couple months of this, he finally realized all at once he had romantic feelings for me, all my encouragement also made him realize I was safe to pursue himself, and then he quickly asked me to be his girlfriend cuz he suddenly realized I was on track to ask him out first if he didn't act lol. And he wanted to be the one to ask me out. Everything was basically smooth sailing from there, we were perfect for each other! This was already really long lol and there are a lot more details to this story ofc. But if anyone got through this whole thing, I just wanted to say Jasmyne is right, it's okay to put in some work to get a guy's attention and let him know you're safe to approach! I had no idea any of that emotional damage and stress was behind my now-husband's close-offedness and had plenty of reasons to believe that he was communicating to me that he was not interested. But if not for my effort, I would have never noticed that he ALWAYS said yes to any offer to be together and he NEVER rebuffed my advances in trying to get to know him better. I would have never seen any of that and more if I hadn't put in any effort myself and we probably wouldn't have ever gotten together.
From my personal experience - don't you dare use a slang or do it via message! My classmate [who I'd almost never spoken to] confessed that way to me. I ignored the message, because the word combination was so random that I thought he was drunk, banged his head to his phone and send. Few months later my other friend translated to me that it was a slang way to say "I love you". So learn from his mistake and don't do it, because your dream man might be as oblivious to slang as I was :/
I think a woman can give a hint she likes him and leave the door open for him to chase or pursue her. I disagree for women to settle only for the men who choose them. You must plan what qualities you want in a man then go look for it and once you find he has your list you must give him atleast a hi how are,,, then let him take it from there.
i'm 21 and i've never dated or kissed anyone :( idk how to feel anymore. i want a relationship, but i have horrible social anxiety and i feel like my inexperience with my age will make no one want to date me rip
Hey I've been there too. But you'll be surprised how many people are just starting to date in their early 20s. You're so young. You need to give yourself permission to be more social. Do it at your own pace regularly. Choose something slightly difficult socially and break out of it. You can change and become socially confident
he saw her filming and knew she was only trying to get attention and content out of him...that'S why he didn't even care about it. Men need to be careful these days.
With the video of the girl that gave a random guy a note at the airport, i understand like you said jasmyne about it. But on the other hand especially with a female doing that especially nowadays, screw that guy for how he responded. Even though she could have did better though with how he did it might not have mattered, i wish i could get tgat kinda attention from a lady especially attractive like her! Matter of fact that would have made me more attracted to her by her doing that but i guess when your introverted and have to get used to being comfortable with someone that's how it is, everyone different i guess. But that guy is a douche for that but i guess its a good thing she saw that maybe. LOL 🤣😆😂
A woman who works with my husband really gets under my skin. Have you done any videos on how to act/treat a woman who was flirting with your husband? My husband still works with her and I see her at his work events. I want to be fully in my feminine energy when she is around.
You have to talk with your husband , he can’t give her space and opportunity to flirt with him. You also should always pray to protect your marriage against other women.
Thing is these little tips some women use to get your husbands attention. Women do pick up on subtle flirting from other women. Men pick it up when other men do it as well. Praying is the most important thing as we can’t always be there only God can. ❤
i just had a heartbreak of a 6 year relationship and after watching this video i understood most of the reason we broke up was because i was too easy he would even say it sometimes but i was so in love i thought the more effort i give him the more he would want me i do also remember kind of making the first move and not letting him work for it little. he's now with someone who isn't always there and he has to work for i know this because we catch up from time to time. really makes me sad i didn't know this sooner but ill implement this for my future
Girl i know exactly what you are going trough 🤍 I'm in the same spot after 5 years of effort and its rly hard. But i guess we both needed it to step back into our feminine energy. ✨️ You are strong and there are blessings comming your way. 🫶
Wheeew this is some good content, checked out your channel & saw that you’re Christ-centred!! I’m enthralled as a believer, new subscriber here. 🫶🏽🫶🏽 You’re truly a blessing!
Watching your videos made me realize Im not feminine at all and why im stuck being single. 💀 Im not feminine enough and I'm not approachable in any way. Fixing this personal issues make me think it would be easier for me to move a mountain than changing myself. 😂 I'm doomed! 😢
I know that this channel is targeted to women. It really nice to see and hear feminine women speak. Not trying to give validation but compliment. Its really refreshing.
People need to get real and stop trying to rope people in. IT'S DISHONEST!!!! You are lying to the person you're attracted to. Just give them yourself!!!! Who wants to do all this unnecessary work to analyze and strategize someone into your life????!!!! It's not this hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes but people would like to enhance themselves for it, if giving yourself means "okay I will play the toxic game by being interested then uninterested as a form of manipulation" like, no
confidence matter for men or women it's marketing of yourself. of course culture can be different ( for example for easterners asian they have a different culture )
Yes I was gonna ask this too! I’ve been married for 3 years but it seems like my husband no longer pursues me. Can we get this advice applied to marriage please?
@sharon6981 When a man pursues & marries a woman, typically the man will go into a default mindframe of "Provide & Protect" so his mindframe tends to shift from the early romance feeling you once got from him. Its still there and it may show in certain times but men like routine, stability and are more monotonous than women. So I think you should apply the same feminine techniques you used to attract your husband at the start whilst in your marriage. So for example, be abit spontaneous/flirtatious when he is actually energised and not just when he comes back from work. Find ways to get him to profess his love for you. From what other women say, it can help soothe your mind from racing if he's still interested or why he is isn't pursuing. Also don't forget pursuing can look slightly different for each man, pursuing for one man could be consistently using masculine ways to turn you on with the goal of keeping intimacy with his wife, another guy could pursue you just by his words and wanting to keep you mentally & emotionally excited so that you can be intimate. A man's way of building deep connection with his woman/wife is primarily through sex. Everything else we do is how we keep your attraction to us & if done right this typically stimulates the woman mentally & emotionally to be comfortable to be sexually intimate with us consistently. I digress lol. But you can also do small things that make his day easier. When men feel valued it helps them to be their best & they will always reward that by treating you well & pursuing. In order to receive something from a man, you need to understand how a man thinks. Remember as the woman, everything you do whether actively or passively, influences how a man will respond. Like Jasmyne said, if a woman has a classy inviting presence, the man will be more attracted & confident to approach, therefore, you have to utilise this method in your marriage also (though it will be quite different because you have known him for years) but you can find feminine ways that makes it open for your man to lead & keep pursuing. Like many other men, he is probably in the provide & protect mode within a marriage and humans typically get complacent & monotonous once they achieve something. So of course this a general statement about men to give you some insight on how we typically think being single vs in relationship/married but the woman has to play her part in a relationship/marriage to keep the spark going as some would call it. Perhaps check out videos on feminine ways to keep your man pursuing. The man should always be pursuing, dont get me wrong, but I'm just telling you that a man's mindset can often shift in a relationship or marriage so it may not always be his first priority or on the forefront of how he treats you, like he did at the start. His pursuit of you will look different, its more so that he's being consistent as a man, by providing, protecting the household and professing his love for you. Showering you with gifts, focusing on the future so you & your kids can benefit, taking trips, being affectionate to you & being the manly rock you can cry on and rely on and also upholding masculine traits like taking care of your needs when you ask and trying to make the home a happy place, which we as men hope will make our women happy too. Dont forget to pray about it! Hope that helps.
My issue is I haven't met a masculine man, they are always the ones approached which makes it work for me. And the guys I am not interested in are interested in me and the ones I am interested in aren't.🙄
I surely agreed with you, my dear. After I met you I learned so many lessons that changed completly my life. I do think many things from past generations should be keeped and to make things modern doesn't need to mean women doing twice: they're part and the partner's part. You're a sweet, love you😊
Thank you so much! There absolutely should be some sort of communication every day if you've established a romantic rapport. Whether it's just messaging or calling although a man calling is definitely better!
I loved the points being made in this video but a part of your intro threw me off. The point that you made about a guy being afraid of being accused for sexual harassment after expressing his interest seemed kind of far fetched to me and kind of outlandish.
