Thanks a lot for this information . I am educating myself on the topic from last three years . Can you guide how to survive and stay with the Narcs at the same time .till date I have not found good content in Hindi language on the narc topic . I think this video was the best so far .
If you have heard out this entire video, except for completely cutting away or minimizing contact, all other points already are about how to co-exist around a narc. when one has no other option & to better protect oneself❣️
When co existing ,-Narcs keep improvising their tactics . I did hear all the points . They grow , we have to grow as well but I think emotional people get stuck in emotions for long time and narcs move fast .
@@newmegamom Well, we all have to keep ‘improvising’ on ourselves. That’s what true inner work & self awareness journey is all about. Getting ‘unstuck’. It’s not a one point or one step or even one step fits all process. It’s a committed, dedicated ongoing journey of discovering oneself & connecting to the source of happiness within; irrespective of extraneous factors❣️
Need an advice I feel my husband is having this issue Have been victim of domestic violence n abuse for a very long period but still he used to made me believe that i m d reason for his behaviour After 11 yrs of marriage started taking stand for myself so now he is completely getting furious Can face all his behaviour but d problem what breaks me is after abusing he forgets what he said he gets normal after few hrs n den he wants to get physical which is completely unacceptable to me which annoys him more Need your help
@@kanishkapandey5711 Your husband whether a narcissist or not is most definitely a highly toxic, pathologically abusive, physically violent person. You already know this. What’s there to advise except for saying that figure out a life without him NOW, or as soon as realistically possible & don’t look back! There’s nothing good that ever came out of trauma bonds in case you are in one. Feel free to watch my video of trauma bonding. I wish you grace & light in finding the right inner guidance & outer path👍🙏
इसी तरह से मैं एक Narcissist लड़की के hoovering का शिकार हुआ था। उसपर trust करके उसे दोबारा मौका दिया तो, वो लड़की कुछ दिन बाद फिर से rough tone में बात करना शुरू कर दी। बार बार ऐसी बातें करती थी, जिससे मेरा मानसिक संतुलन खराब हो। last time वो लड़की जब मिली थी, तब उसको 4 थप्पड़ मार कर उससे contact खत्म कर दिया। इतना कुछ होने के बाद भी वो 6 month बाद unknown number से मुझसे contact करने की कोशिश की, but मैंने ignore किया, उसे block कर दिया। बहुत time बाद मुझे समझ आया, वो narcissist लड़की मेरे अच्छे education और lifestyle से जलती थी, मेरा mental health खराब करने के लिए उस लड़की का सोंचा समझा plan था। उससे अलग जब से हुआ, तब से relaxed feel कर रहा हूँ। आज मैं खुश हूँ।
My mom is exactly same ,she always shows herself victim, poor, and humanly great. She always shows family members down and worthless in front of other. Because of this my sister eloped from home.
Aap Gazab true keh rahee hain , mere ghar mein bhi Narcissist hai , jaanwar ko paal sakte hain Lekin mere wala nahin palaa 😢, lekin khud happy rehtaa hai ……Thanks for good suggestions 🙏
I suffered a lot even though I was fully independent only bcoz of societal pressure, my sons are big enough to understand everything now n they are very supportive. But I regret that I didn't leave my husband long back, if I did it when my kids were small, they wouldn't have suffered psychological trauma. So ladies, please think abt it and don't let your kids suffer 🙏🙏
Thank u for sharing! And it’s great that despite everything u have a lot to be grateful for including financial independence & supportive kids! No matter what u cud or cud not do in the past, u can certainly live a fulfilling life ahead on your terms! Wish u best❣️
Hi,emotional roller coaster most are going through is so relatable since I've been with with a covert narc for two decades . Unfortunately,most (nearly all)will not come to know that you are with one till it's too late ,and by that time,loss ,be it in terms of finances or custody of kids (in case of spouse )is huge .For lucky few ,who got to understand this situation in time,empower yourself,use your logic and brain ,and get out of this situation fast and with minimal damage to yourself . And...you are stronger than you think you are,so trust yourself please.
True, covert narcs. are the most difficult to identify & so, end up being even more damaging over a period of time. That’s why more & more people becoming aware enough about the traits of a covert narc. can potentially be a life saver!
Isliye hi samaj ko educate hone chahiye! Jo bhi jhooth ki buniyad par tika hai woh hamesha nahi tik sakta! Nature & Karma balances everything ultimately👍
can totally relate with you cause, i was in a relationship with a narcissist that might be a sociopath or psychopath as well. The whole relationship I questioned my self worth. He would lift me up just to stomp me down over & over again for 3 years. Everyone told me to get out & run away, but I couldn’t see why, I was in love with all the good we had that I honestly pushed all the bad aside to make him happy. But the truth was he was happy when he made me feel low. He was the happiest when he knew I had given him control. The moment I stood up for myself was the moment it got physical. He made me out to be the “crazy” woman online & his friends would laugh at me for the things he did to me. I was embarrassed, ashamed & low. The whole thing was so stressful I landed myself in the hospital with a heart problem. Even then I didn’t see it for what it was. He was no where to be found as I would collapse on the floor from poor circulation. Even then “I was making up illnesses for attention not until a friend of mind introduced me to this Instagram user (@Tech_Expert211) who helped me to access my husband's phone & gave me all the necessary informations I need so i can get a divorce,now I'm free from my narc husband ...i can totally recommend him to virtually everyone cause he saved my dying life.. And ever since then i always share my story to save victims out there who are frustrated with there Narc and are looking for a way out......
I am suffering due to narcissistic relative from last 5 years, but when I made distance from her, my family members became against me, now it is very difficult to make them understand the reality, my narcissistic relative is characterless too, so I suffered a lot. Thank you for this video
👍You did right. And you don’t need to make anyone else forcibly understand anything. We’re all responsible for our own happiness & self awareness❣️If others are disappointed by our valid choices, that’s their problem.
Thank u soooooo much dear...maine thodi der pehle hi pray kiya tha ki plz help or aapki video mere samne aa gyi ....thank u soooooo much once again🌹🌹🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My close friend is suffering from her narcissist husband but she can't leave him because she has two kids . His husband never allow her to meet her parents and brother . Even his behaviors with kids are over pampering and always talking against her . I feel very bad for her . Only praying for her everyday 🙏
When kids will b big enough to fight/oppose the father, situation will become little better. I had same problem but now my two sons are 20+ , now they don't allow me to b dependent on their father, they does everything for me, so i am much relaxed. Thanks to my boys, they know their father is Narcissist.
Thanks aka for starting hindi Chanel on this topic. I don't know how ,but i am already following most of your points....i was always thinking whether i am doing right or wrong, however now i am confident i am on right path.....please do make one video on how to divorce narcissist.
The more one is connected to their true inner guidance & intuition, the more they automatically know the right answers, so nothing surprising there:) As far as legal procedures & matters involving divorce are concerned, you’ll need to consult a lawyer. Collecting solid evidence of any toxic abuse you suffer will be helpful in any case👍
Could you please make video on narcissist husband..I know divorce is the only way but I am not a person who appreciate divorce but facing a narcissist first time in life I don't know if this marriage can survive
Thank you so much ma'am, for guidance, Is samasya ka samadhan sirf hamare Ander woh Param Ishwar hi Hai, wohi aise ghatia logo se hm jaise seedhe saadhe logo ko bcha sakta hai, Narcissist logo ko ishwar saza jrur deta hai, kyunki aise log atma par vaar karte hai, aur atma hi param ishwar ka ansh hai, Narcissist logo se acche se deal karne ka sabse accha treeka bs apke ander sirf ek ishwar se connect hokr usi se help magna hai,
Ji bilkul, I agree. Awareness bahut jaroori hai, aur saath hi ye samajh bhi ki divinity se true connection aur guidance hamari sabse badi power & protection hai, in any aspect of life, which includes dealing with narcs. Often, people forget this part & try to deal only with their mind & logic whereas divinity can create infinite ways for them❣️
Dealing with my husband with same behaviour ...really got thorough a very intense mental and physical abuse .. can't able to predict his behaviour..got through depression..sab kuch try kar liya .. finally living separately.. with my 3 year old son ..abhi bhi life hell bana kar rakhi hai.
Once we take a concrete step, divinity opens other ways too. Stand up for yourself. If u’ve already taken this difficult decision, stick through it, & use your strength to move forward & not go back to the same familiar but abusive life with a narc. The freedom & healing ahead will be worth the pain now, your son too deserves to grow up free of a toxic environment❣️
Mam, thanks for the useful information. My wife is a Narcissist. I am suffering past 23 years, experienced the true hell. I need some psychological help
Me aese insan k relationship me pichle 10saal se hu. Waise to har baat ka care karte hai lakin muje aesa lagta hai muje pinjre me kaid kar rakha hai. Har baat unki marzi se unko bata k karne ki. Agar unki marzi k khilaf kuch hua to zor zor se chillana, gali dena, ek baar hath uthaya tha, meri dress tak faad di thi. Muje samajh nahi ata me kaise deal karu. Me pichle 5,6 saal se depression feel kar rahi hu. Muje aesa lagne laga tha k mujjhme hi kuch kami hai. Mene meditation karna start kia hai. Lakin me ab thak chuki hu. Aese rishte se🥺
There is nothing caring about this. It’s not just mentally & emotionally but also physically abusive. I don’t understand why you are continuing in this so called relationship! Meditation ke reasons aur fayde bahut hote hain. Woh toh zindagi bhar karne ke liye hai. Par uska matlab ye nahi hai abusive relationship ko sehte jaayein. Please get yourself out of this trap.
Hi ma’am….in my life I am dealing with two narcissists, one is my mother in law and one in husband …beginning months of marriage I couldn’t understand what is happening to me because in every fight or dispute with my husband , he follows the exact pattern as firstly he shouted on me ,showing anger on me and then start blaming me for everything and then after the dispute he blames me calmly that this behaviour of him, is also my fault. Moreover, not only my husband but later on I found that my mother in law’s behaviour is also exact same as my husband …now my situation is like if I do one mistake , they both will bang on me same time and they both threaten me with mental abuse , higher pitch with lot of anger and blame me for what I even don’t do …I I left alone in my in laws house ….my mental peace and inner peace has been finished…I told this to my parents but they consider as normal disputes as it’s normally is normal family but I can’t make them understand that what I am going through it’s not normal . Also my husband gaslighting me
In my experience, early you leave them is better for you n your kids( if you have any) Otherwise you will ruin your life n also your kids will blame you for your behaviour of SUBMISSION to your husband.
Aap apne husband ki call recordings ya voice rec karna shuru kre...jisse unke abusive behaviour ko sbke samne expose kr paye....mere case me mne yehi Kiya apne ghrwalo ko prove Kiya ki mere sath kya ho rha h whi narc husband and mil and fil were also narc...after listening to rec my family supported me ( tab tk b kafi try kr chuke the meri family aur mai rishte ko bchane ki) and I came out off this abusive marriage ( also I my case my husband even thought of killing me which was in recordings ) so best of luck 🤞
Pls see more videos ...I faced too from my younger brother.. physical mental...I don't think this is completely narssasist.there r pattern have they ever tried to be sweet made u feel special too...made as if all is ok now then it trapped nd take information from u ur life plans etc sweetness is extreme. Nd when they've done ll again tiunt or abuse etc...nd victim card take ubawayvfrombloved ones. Control u everyway can be ur oh ur bank ur eating habits ur timetable all...nd can be violent physical too ....ifu confront nd never say sorry...yes they say ever it's show off main in public ok in public they r good
Please start collecting evidence for his and mother in law's behaviour. Record the shouting, anger spells, insulting behaviour. Then u can think of separation. It's impossible for these people to change
Mai bhi face kr rhi hu husband or unki family except my father in laws maine to suru se hi bhut careful way me thi fir bhi emotional or mentally disturbance feel ki hu lekin bhut tough h deal krna....😭😭
I had been suffering this personality man since 2 years. I gave my 100% effort. But could not changed. I lost my mental health. Now I seperate myself from that person. Narcissistic person never change. They made others totally mad.
Aisa zaroori nahi hai; all people are not that bad:) As an Empath, you just need to make sure that you’re understanding both your strengths as well as upholding your boundaries❣️.This can of course take some time & education. I do plan to post some videos on empaths in some time. Keep watching!
Mam meri ammi aysi hi h ....but wo daily bhut baar trigger krti hai aur react na Karo to physical hojate hai maarte hai ki baat nhi krri itti badi hogyi
Mam mera aaj 10 saal bad y haal hai ki Mai kaise karu mai kya karu mai kya na Karu mujhe har baat mai ab dar lgta hai har baat m jhuth bolna har baat m control karna
Meri saas ki narcissistic behavior ki धज्जियां udha rkhi hn maine.. Kuki maine emotionally.. Financially... Ya aur sabhi cheezo ki ummeed rkhni बन्द ker dee h.... Apne sasural walo se.... Lekin fir bhi her रोज़ drama krti h.. Meri saas... Mere sath fir jab मुझे koi frk nhi pdhta... To after 24 hrs fir nyi saazish krti h..aur iss tarah wo मुझे torture krne k चक्कर m खुद torture होने lgi h...मुझसे
Apne sach mei avichalit rahein. Continue being unprovoked & non reactive to a narcissist’s dramas. Meditate regularly to find greater inner peace & strength❣️👍
nauthentic people are not connected to the voice of purity & truth deep within which intuitively helps us seek, identify & align with people of true worth. Therefore as shallow people themselves, they are more likely to fall for the narc’s outwardly charming superficial ways & not be able to see through them. I actually soon have a whole video coming out on the topic of ‘Authenticity’ soon. Watch out for it👍
My mom hai nurcisist... How can I stop to contacting her? I am only the source of income in my family and only child also... Please help me...( I am a divorced women also)
Only you can help yourself. What can anyone else do to change YOUR life? Awareness & guidance has been given. To make choices is our own work. If your life is truly miserable coz of your mom & you want to end contact, then, you are the one who has to end it & stick to it. If you are so worried her financially, you can always deposit a fixed amount in her account each month. What she does with it or not, if not your problem. What I’m trying to say is IF it matters enough, you WILL find a way. If not, it’ll continue.
False fake respect ....really... People/ family dont understand the narcs , n just for their greedy things they further make things difficult for the supply .
Ma’am can you personally talk to me please I’m in a situation where he uses my child as a play card and my son is just 6 yrs old.. watching him getting affected by all this really breaks and shakes me from inside , even though I kept minimum engagement with him.. he even makes me feel that I’m so selfish that I don’t care about his feelings. Please talk to me .
If you are independent please please leave him, that is my first advice ( as i suffered same problem) Nxt advice is, IF you can't leave him submit yourself to him ( do everything as he says) Now choose from these 2 , either to have self respect OR submission 😔
My ex boyfriend who I just discovered is a narc left me after 8 years of relationship. I found out he cheated me for two years and later got married to that girl and even then had a relationship with me. He had a baby too. I found out after one year when baby was born. He left me. And he is very happy with the girl. How can I cop up with this now? It's been two months since I confronted him about the cheating and told his wife too.but she didn't believe me. He didnt even called me for once.
Have you watched the full video? If so, please follow the ways it discusses in detail to deal with a narcissist. There are no other ways; not if you really want to heal & protect yourself from further ruin & toxicity. Confronting a narcissist is never the ideal solution. I am not denying the pain & heartbreak you must be dealing with at discovering that he is a narcissist or that he cheated on you. But, when you already know all this about him why would you even want him to call you back or be a part of your life again in any way?! Narcissists DO NOT CHANGE. Be thankful for the lessons learned & for the truth that is now revealed to you! You are no longer in bondage! Whether he is "happy" or not should concern you. Because the happiness of a narcissist is based on the same criteria no matter what person - it's always abusive! It's now between him & the other person in his life. Plus, if the other girl is legally married to him, & even has a child together, she is in a much more difficult & pitiable position than you! She doesn't have the freedom you have to walk free! Be strong, keep your head high, do your inner work, & move on to better things & people you deserve! ❤️
@@SoulfulnesswithShuchi thankyou so much for the kind words. I never knew he was a narc while I was in the relationship. I discovered it later. All the criteria were matched to him. I am not sure he is a narc or not but whatever I read and listen in videos is 100% matched to him. I'm just feeling sad that he was the person who always contacted me first and now it's been months he didn't even try to reach out to me. I feel happy sometimes that he is no more in my life but sometimes I feel terribly sad that I'm alone. He forced me to stop talking to my friends. So technically I don't have any friends now. My study is disturbed now. I will take a screenshot of your reply and will read it whenever I feel sad.
@@deepikasharma0013 Some of our best learnt life lessons which expand us unlike anything else are ones that come the hard way through deep sadness. But, Lesson learnt. Need for suffering over. One of the lessons for you would be way better & quicker character judgement, & NEVER EVER to mistake love with enslavement. Someone who truly loves us would NEVER cut our wings or take away what brings us genuine joy. Bondage, jealousy, mind games etc. is not synonymous with love. Embrace these lessons. You might not know yet how much wisdom they’ve brought you. Feel happy at your blessings now! At your freedom regained! To live life again with a fierce passion. To be YOU. And, to better identify someone whose love enhances you not limits you, as & when such a person flows into your life. Be your authentic self!❤️👍
