Dads should be concerned with paying child support for a second baby. You always end up paying way more than you would if they lived with you. On top of it you may not even get to see your kids that much….
Thank you for this helpful and positive video! I am struggling with knowing if I am truly ready. I want to be excited, and I just don’t know how I feel. It’s a mix of emotions! I had a hard birth with my son, I also pushed for 3 hours! and I am terrified to have another hard one.
I feel that getting ready for my third I'm still having some of these thoughts, even though I've introduced another member of the family already. I think it's just our heart to just make sure that we are the best parents we can be. I really do love the fact that labor is shorten each time - though I've found out babies get bigger the more you have. I'm praying that this third child is going to be more chilled, my 2 daughters are really high strung! Great advice and perspective for expecting mummas xx
My oldest has transitioned into being a big brother sooo well too:) I worried that so much because him and I were like glued together for so long and I thought he would get jealous, but he absolutely LOVES it! It makes me feel so good!
@@Vanessalele thank you, yes, I think it was part luck and part extra preparation. I told him nearly everyday that I was pregnant that he was going to be a big brother and that it was an important job and I needed his help to take care of the baby. I always let him hold him and help me with everything, I made sure he felt needed and appreciated. Over exaggerated it for him and it helped him be proud and excited for his brother. Also my husband and I made sure to give him lots of special time with each one of us so he wouldn’t feel left out, it was so important for us and since it was always a fear of mine that he would get jealous, we put it a lot of work 💙🤓
I had a 2 year old daughter now I'm pregnant with my second I get no help with her from anyone it's just me doing everything my husband does what he can when not working I have so much anxiety over this baby I know how hard it's going to be especially with no outside support I wish my in laws would help I have asked but I always get shot down and I dont have family of my own it's very frustrating xxx
The love part really scares me, It's hard to imagine being able to love someone as much as your first one. That and the "cute" part. My son is honestly the cutest kid ever. The doctors wanted to kidnap him first thing and comparing to other kids he is what you would call "objectively attractive", and i'm so scared to get another one to then unconsciously compare them by looks, especially if I get another boy. It seems dumb because everyone is attractive in their own ways and I will love them both to pieces but I would just feel so guilty. Because others will compare them no matter what I do, and that just makes me so scared to get another one... (I also pushed for 3 hours btw) :D
your right, many parents dont want to admit they regret having kids. And sugar coat it thats its all a blessing. The realities of time, energy and attention arent told to people before hand. And they just quietly live in stress. If you have a village of people, its okay then, far easier. Share cooking, share cleaning, and share attention to the child. Best thing for a person who wants to be a parent, is go live with a family member who just gave birth and support them for 1 year. Then you will learn the realities and make an informed decision and go all in. Better than doing it by accident and unawareness
It's a blessing to her. Why would you want to take that away from her? There are PLENTY of women out there being honest about how hard motherhood can be or even going so far as regretting it. It just so happens that this mum doesn't hate it. Go watch a different video 🤷♀️
For the people with long push times, did you get an epidural? Is there a correlation? I pushed for maybe 15 minutes max with no epidural and felt like I was being ripped apart. I was considering an epidural for my second but can’t imagine pushing for hours
I’ve noticed the same, I had an unmedicated birth and I pushed my baby out in 12 minutes. My sister in law gets the epidurals and pushes for longer. Not sure if it’s an correlation.
@travie786 I had an epidural with my daughter (1st) and I pushed for only 10 minutes. I made sure to do pelvic work and pregnancy core work EVERYDAY. I am convinced thats why I didn't have to push long at all.
