This video shares our favorite way to support someone with a chronic illness. How do you show your support for someone dealing with health issues? Let us know in the comments below!
Damn. Turns out what I am doing with my friend is according to the books. I was just doing what I was raised to do and just being nice cuz she was my friend. So glad to know I’m doing things right Edit: I swear if she (my friend) comments on my comment I’m going to run)
Everyone has something they are dealing with. I do have Post Traumatic Tethered Cord Syndrome and I have massive nerve damage which caused massive Pain from my lower spine to the Bottom of my Feet. So half my Body is affected. I push myself every single day of my life...I push extremely hard.
Great suggestions! Another is to help organize and stock the freezer with usable portions of food for those days when cooking or going out is just too much. Also treat the person to a grocery delivery service or offer to help them unload and put away groceries that are delivered.
That's a great list! Though I have to admit that most of the time when someone asks how I am, I just say "fine". I hate bringing people down by telling them everything I'm struggling with that day, ya know?
But you are “Authentic MS Life”! It depends on who is asking, I suppose, but I would say, take the chance and let them know how you really are doing. As the sister of someone who is in constant pain, homebound and a double amputee, I know how important it is not to isolate yourself. We want to know if we ask!
@@AlexiHolford haha, yeah fair enough! You're right that it does depend on who you are talking to. A lot of people would be overwhelmed and feel awkward if I really told them the details. But others I know I can be more open with. :)
That was a really good list. I wish people would do that for me. I hire people to help me. I’ve been in chronic pain for 25 years six spinal surgeries.
Thanks for sharing. I think there are a lot of us that would be happy to have a helper in the house. I know it's hard, but don't be too proud to ask. I have found that asking a few people to do one or two things is much more manageable for people and for me to ask. I don't feel that I'm burdening anyone by breaking things down to smaller jobs. Just a thought. We wish you well
It is tough for us to understand what is happening in our body sometimes, so it makes sense that it is very difficult for other people to "get it". It is great that you are appreciative. I have personally found that asking people for very specific things gets me better results - everything from "it would be great if you could come here instead of going out today" or "if you go past a store, could you pick up milk for me?" to "could you put aside about 15 minutes in the next day or so to help me wash my kitchen floor?" Whatever it is that might be most helpful to you. Just a thought. Best wishes
I had two small children when I developed severe pots . Just moved across the country for my career. There wasn’t a soul. I don’t have parents . I hired a housekeeper and got my groceries delivered. I parented from a wheelchair , sold my home and sucked it up with the help of my husband . Generally, people don’t want to deal with chronic passing out , comas , line infections , arrhythmias when you are in your 30’s. I get it and I don’t blame them . It’s human to run from a sense of your own mortality when you are young with VEDS. After a while you realize you don’t need any validation or emotional support because you are too busy thinking of your Autistic kid and his immune problems, your iv bags 10 meds , hyperbaric treatments and not dying Listen it’s not fun but you can’t have thin skin and you can’t pretend that mammas coming to help put your make up so you can hang with your supportive friends . After a few years they move on.. Learn to suck it ip and have some hobbies . Be glad when you are stable and be happy you aren’t dead Why ?’ Because that’s what you get and it has to be enough .
I’ve had chronic illness since my 30s too. Definitely many friends eventually flee and the invitations stop coming. I also learned I’m responsible to find ways to have enjoyment in my life. Don’t expect an invitation or to be included in social activities because it just doesn’t happen. Find a way to be included if it’s important to the relationship. If it’s otherwise don’t sweat it and plan an enjoyable solo event even if it’s just watching a fav movie you’ve not seen in a while.
Firstly I truly hope things are going okay for you at this time. Secondly, glad you were able to manage. Thirdly…you had a family. That’s huge. Many of us, do not.
I understand what you mean, but when you are around others they should be supportive of you, I mean geez, being supportive is kinda the bare minimum. This video has nothing to do with "momma coming to save you" I don't at all think this is being thin skinned.
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