Simple problem, ya see..? You aks her willingness, yuh aks her family, yuh center on her age, then you aks her how she is. News flash, she considers, how to tell yuh, and clearly she does tell you,.. and you seh, “that is , to be, (in his mind), expected”, without an empathetic address, of the ‘fact’ that, specific pain can,🙏🏾 immediately, be addressed, thru hands, feet and neck, shiatsu, or finger sense. This bredda needs an education in directive conversational dynamic. Respect Due, as an ol’ wh bwoy will tell yuh.🙏🏾