I had a big problem with #2. I was always the nice guy. The guy that couldn't say no. Not only will your lady take advantage of you (if you have a lady like that) but you will burn yourself out. Fortunately my lady of 6 months didn't take advantage of me, but she was shocked when I told her no for the first time. She wasn't used to it, but we talked it out, and she was understanding. She said, "If you don't want to do something just tell me. If I get upset I'll get over it. OK?" From that moment on I knew she was a keeper.
Don't. It's concerning if a person, forget a man, if a PERSON always says yes to everything at one point you would wonder are they even enjoying it? Do they actually like the things I cooked today? Are they actually agreeing with me? If lying then why? Am I that intimidating? It would drive the other person to always be on edge whether you actually like it or not because trust me, your partner wants u to be happy
And always put yourself first along side your partner never AFTER them. Say yes only if it IS actually a yes. Otherwise those partners who care about you would doubt themselves and the partner who does not care about you will take advantage.
Nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as you aren't passive aggressive. I have most of these traits, which is why I struggle with dating, though I do think I have ambitions though it took a long time to discover my life purpose.
Amen! Women don't realize if they speak positive, believe in you, and appreciate you.. we will go over and beyond to make them happy.. if Obama didn't have Michelle he would not have been president of the united states with our her support
@@peterturayjr1209 facts! A women I believe can make or break us. A good positive woman can push us men to another level in life. Is just meeting that one!
Man!!! There’s a lot of dudes that need to see this. I’m in my 40’s and I learned a lot of these on my own. Wish I’d learned them sooner but hey…I’m good tho! This was on point! Thanks man and keep it up
People should avoid conflict. Problems, on the other hand, can't be helped & should be solved. And yes, there's a difference between problems & conflict.
6. Being indecisive. 7. Falling in love every 6 months (being a sucker for love). 8. Don't need validation from others (outside validation). 9. Don't let the woman do all of the hard work/solve problems. 10. Be able to express your true feelings - hiding your true feelings; but (caution).. not be overly emotional.
Avoiding conflict means not to get arrested because she runs her mouth.. I known alot of dude's in jail 4 putting hands on there girl because of there mouth..
Brother, you got EVERYTHING right! From top to bottom. Everything you covered is spot on! As a woman and from a woman's view point, I would say that all of the those indicators of a weak man are exactly what I see in a weak man. Please keep dropping those gems!
And these “coaches” keep capitalizing off the same “spineless” men they are so called helping out by talking about everything about this. This sphere out of hand.
You got it right bro. Women also need to support and encourage their men in starting businesses, taking extra courses on new subjects, getting ahead at the office. I didn't get that support often and now I'm wealthy and my ex is struggling financially.
Amen. Men don't even bother. They have no fucking clue what they want. Your Creator and your training are the only things that will never betray you. And even your Creator isn't supporting a couch potato lifestyle.
As an emotional guy that has been on both sides of the pendulum I think I would like to see a video on emotional dos and donts thanks bruh your in my routine of self improvement peace to you for your energy output may it return with the same minty freshness peace
Since learning that a "nice guy" is seen as manipulative I've really worked hard to eliminate that habit from my character and personality. I've had to work hard bc I think like a lot of men I was trained early on to be deferential. It's a very hard habit to break, but all things are possible.
"They don't wanna guess, they don't wanna be a mind reader" but they expect men to guess and be mind readers. It's annoying. No wonder such ladies turn me off. I have a lot to think about.
Men who can't actively listen. That's another weakness women don't like. When women vent, most of the time, they don't want a solution to their problem and they also don't want a "damn, that's crazy" dude either, merely pretending that he's listening to her. Actively listen, ask questions that you probably already know the answers to and provide some reassurance. Let her know you're on her team. Most of the time, that's all they want when they vent: a guy who is an active listener.
You got me at the one with getting in love every 6 months, like I don’t mean for it to happen but I can’t get too attached too easily. Hit the bullseye
Jeff, IMHO, you got everything right, nothing wrong, and didn't leave anything out in this enlightening Saturday video. Thank you. My only complaint is that I can't burn all of your advice into myself and then be able to just go on auto pilot without thinking. That sure would be great.
For a quick one Gentle Men 1. Lack of drive /Ambition 1:08 2. Letting women run over 1:50 3. Always blaming everyone else 2:43 4. Not having a life of your own ( being super clingy) 3:23 5. Always avoiding conflict 4:13 6. Being indecisive 5:06 7. Falling in Love every 6 months/being overly in love and loving to quickly 5:57 8. Needing too much outside validation/ seeking outside approval 6:36 9. Letting your woman do all the work especially when handling conflict 7:27 10. Hiding your true feelings 8:11 11. Being overly emotional 9:04 P.S: However, I wish to deferr about hiding your true feelings. Women love to do the chasing, it's best to keep them guessing but show them a little of it, even if you feel it, don't show it. This is my opinion though.
Thanks so much for this video! I agree with your list but would add one thing… A man who doesn’t follow through with his word (or who doesn’t communicate when he’s not able). This causes women to lose faith in their man and relationship quickly. You never want your woman to get used to being disappointed.
Great video and great advice for men of all ages. Women, whether they verbalize it or not, expect their ideal man to be capable of leadership, being a protector and provider. Women can't stand simps and "weak" pushover men. Don't be a nice guy, just be a guy that she respects!
👊🏽 on point as usual. I should of had this told to me when I was younger but like many other black men I learned on my own.🤔 I'm not a parent but I would tell my son this "if I had one" .
You're probably not alone. I suspect that Jeff is helping MANY guys who didn't have fathers. He really comes across as a guy who is counselling a younger friend. He's a mentor.
You do not need a child of your own to pass on what you have learned. Teach, mentor and sponsor the next generation; investing in the youth today is investing into all of our futures.
Style OG, another great topic. In life, love and in business. You must be able to make a decision. As a father’s of three I tell my kids stand by your decision. You don’t wanna be weak.
I wish I would've heard this a long time ago. I'm making some of these changes now in my marriage but I'm hoping we're not too far in. Thanks for the video! Peace...
I stumbled upon a very rare person/woman who took the time to see me in my pain. I was 57 at the time. Up to that point in time, no one else had ever done what she did. She took time out from her other job duties to really attend to my pain-- really quite extraordinary. I violated the carnal rule of crying in front of a woman. But tears as such are not an inherent sign of weakness, but of humanness. I know no one who does not have tear ducts, do you? Emotional vulnerability and the expression of that kind of pain must have an outlet or the pain will likely go elsewhere in the body.
I appreciate the teachings they're so profound and important, I think most men should hear this, One other thing is we men must always learn to reflect on certain things.
What pisses me off is that women want both a man who is stronger than them but at the same time they want to be regarded as equals and they can't have both so they can never be happy
Keep in mind, these are quality women and many out there are substandard. So, surround yourself with the right crowd first before expecting to see results.
You got everything right, damn you should write a script, a book for men to follow. Being in a relationship with a weak man is down right annoying. A woman could never truly love and respect a weak man who cannot defend himself let alone her.
All good topics, you are soo right!! I think also Women are confused about what a Strong Man is!! I always tell my love interest “ Understand that I am not going to give you your way or bend to your will , when you want!! We are different and we’re raised differently, so I am not gonna see things “ Your” way!!
To be honest Jeff...we could really take these points and apply them to Women as well! Yes we are supposed to bettering ourselves EVERYDAY! But alot of the points you made in this...there are a lot of Women out there who could take these tips too to be a better Woman and PREPARE Herself to be with a Man that I at the TOP of his Game!
some of these definitely be applied to both..however I prefer to stick to the subject that is being addressed because it can easily turn into "yeah but they do it too" which allows one to shift focus and not take accountability. i recently did a video where I talked about red flags a woman isn't for you. Strange that no guys chimed in and said, but yeah these can be applied to men as well. i would guess that's because it was highlighting women's shortcomings..
@@Howtonaturally Agreed! Although Jeff the Style O.G. videos don't put the "men vs women" per se' But there are SO MANY that do! I mean its like some of them are to the point where they may as well stop playing around and just say they view man-woman interaction as a form of slavery for MEN'S benefit. Some dude's channels really come off cringy and weird sometimes. Yes I think we can all agree that the female species needs good, strong men to lead them and protect them...but damn some dudes just talk about women like they are their pet canines! I ljke Jeff's approach of Us Men First..and take care of yourself to be the Best Man We Can Be...but when that "RealWoman" comes and she is 100% with what you are bringing and wants to add value and invest is, its a beautiful thing and we give those women love and respect. Some of these dudes dont respect any woman at all, and in my opinion giving some Men out here bad, dangerous advice sometimes
@@marx41mans 100%. I think a lot of these "manosphere" channels are actually doing a disservice. I don't think they are doing a good job of taking accountability or have a healthy perception of women in general where they aren't seen as literal bitches (dogs to be told what do in every sense, controlled and used). I despair for what passes as intelligent conversations on a lot of these channels.
Yes..u nailed it bro.. love a take charge man. Like a man who is protective...smells good,dress well and he is well diverse especially within conversation. Great video bro. As always love watching your Chanel🥰💯❤
FACTS OG! I agree with all. In contrast, the one damming trait me and my bro’s got from the old man is our brutish/cave man behavior with women. The only thing we are decisive about is doing wtf we want; swear we can’t get rid of them…
Another one of those gold gems videos that most bros need to hear. And I'm going to add one please fellow bros stop begging these women for attention!! If they like you you don't have to beg them to call or text you.
I agree with what is said here. I have found out that I qualify as a good dude. Just have to get out there and be seen. That is the hard part. Trying to be seen when you don't want everyone's attention. Just the attention of the woman I find special.
Men who gossip, men who shirk their responsibilities, men who cheat e.g leaving at 4.00 when the office closes at 5.00, pretending to meet clients but goes home. Men who talk behind the back of their friends. Men who make false promises. Noted from experience, I have been doing some of those things myself, but I've tried to avoid these pitfalls as much as I can.
I think the definition of a weak man is listening to another man of how you should be. Be yourself and if she don’t like it then find one that does. And here the lesson endeth.
I want a light-hearted, and primarily emotionally stable marriage. I've done serious for far too long. I want to have and provide my share of good, healthy fun before I pass.
@@TheStyleOG I feel it depend’s on the situation! Sometime’s we end up in a situation where our back’s are up against the wall in which at that point and time, we have NO CHOICE but to react. I’m the type of MAN that NO LONGER argue’s with a Woman that I am interested in. Instead, I’ll stand there and smile in her face while she argue’s. I feed Good Energy with my Good Energy. Negative Energy get’s avoided at all time’s.
I love it!! OmG, see that's the problem we need more men that that's willing to learn to do better with their relationship with their women but yeah that's a problem we don't have enough of them!! that's willing to learn ! But you have to think about it you have some men out here just faking for the moment and it's not coming from the heart in this not real that's the problem with a lot of men
This was good! Especially the part about crying. I always joke that if you’re a man and you’re crying it better be because one of your parents died, OR you lost in the Finals.
Men cry for more reasons than that. Like for instance when I listen to certain songs it bring tears to my eyes knowing how close to death I was being gang affiliated from ages 9 to 16. But no man should cry over no woman it’s too many out here
That's BS. I cried at the end of Saving Private Ryan and it didn't bother the girl I was with. Any woman who doesn't understand that isn't worth being with as she's a low brow Neanderthal.
While I agree with most of what's said in this video, there are other traits of strength that women don't recognize as strengths that aren't listed in this video. I understand that this isn't an exhaustive list, but I just thought I'd point that out.
Thank you for your input OG. I choose to be the best grown man for myself before anyone else so I can live my full potential. I appreciate the insight examples of weak traits being explained.
I always had a problem with the "life of his own" part, i always thought giving more attention was the best but she was always annoyed and complained at how clingy i am
What's always up with a 'lack of drive or ambition is a turn off for women' in these kind of videos? What's wrong with just having a stable job and NOT wanting to work yourself to death? I always say, I work to live, I don't live to work. Geez. See that? I'm speaking my mind here and I am not afraid of conflict. Look at me being attractive.
Being loved by other women is fine but the desired trait is the man who can appreciate the attention of another woman but stands firm in his devotion to his woman
Thanks Jeff, you came through again in this video. I've got some relationship insecurities, and this really helped ground me. Most of these are things I'm not doing already, and the couple I do need to work on are things I'm able to, so that alone helps bring a little more confidence.
I love this content. We also don't like men who draaaaaag out an argument over 3-5-7-15 days. Some of us wants to talk about it and actually resolve it and move on. Fellas/guys, please, stop dragging it out, specially if it's not that serious (cheating, public disrespect). Thank you!
A wonderful man like this takes many years of seasoning and wisdom 🧂 I’m so thankful my husband is an awesome, perfect man. It almost seems too good to be real. 16 years of going strong 💪🏼
How about one time when I pulled back from a woman I was interested in and did my own thing and she figured that she would pull back and do the same thing... can you answer me that?
And sometimes when you tell a woman. Exactly what your opinion is. She gets pissed on her her feelings. And when you don't you just play some music to express how you feel then she wants you to tell you how she feels but when you do she gets angry in a rage or acts stupid. In the moment you get angry and snap off she thinks you're raving lunatic. Because you would not take her disrespect. I don't plan on being bullied and I'm not bullying anyone either especially my woman. We either walk together I don't walk at all. Brother I came a long way I don't play. I respect her and she respect me. Or she be gone