He just showed me #12 revelation. There were times in my past before the anxiety and everything showed up, where I would worship God and His presence would become so tangible that my wife couldn't walk into the room after I left. After the anxiety and junk came upon me I would go into worship to be in His presence but His presence wouldn't show up and it only served to prove that He rejected me. Then I would go into a spinning attack and fall apart. But the problem was I worshipped Him to make sure I wasn't rejected which means I wasn't actually worshipping Him. I was there to poke Him so He would show His presence, this way I can be assured He isn't rejecting me. That's not worship!
So what I am hearing is that everything we face now in our struggles, will only serve to root us deeper into His love and truth if we seek out His perspective.
Wow, the two that stood out to me the most were “I can’t afford it” and “I don’t have somebody”. As soon as I went there with not being able to afford it, I felt the Lord encourage me with me “I’ll take care of what you need”. And finding your channel has been Gods provision in my life right when I needed it. It’s seriously an answer to my prayers. And I relate to feeling like I don’t have someone. Especially in this season of deep healing. Doesn’t seem like everyone around me gets it! BUT He has been providing people and I realize it’s more of my unhealthy mindset that’s the problem. So thankful for your wisdom!
I hear you, and feel you. My face is scarred, nooo symmetry, that's huge scale for being pretty. You're not alone, I feel butt ugly. Can't bear mirrors... I've no money to fix my nose, skin, wonky teeth. People say, I love your dry SOH, but that keeps you VERY single, to point its painful and hurts. I wish we could grab a cuppa together! Saying Hi, and you do matter from UK 🇬🇧 🙂
Ladies, I haven't met you BUT I am sure the things you see as ugly is not ugly to someone else. ❤ I don't suggest that you bond over the fact that you both think you are ugly. That would be trauma bonding. 😢
The "I can't afford it" always got me, not because I thought that's what I needed but because the one who offered it always made it sound like his/her message is what I need to be free. They are the ones who create the atmosphere of "I must have this to be free." They create the carrot on a stick feeling and then we feel like our freedom is always based on lining someone else's hand with money we don't have. I always said, "It feels like I am in a deep dark hole and all there people keep coming up to the edge looking down at me. In their hand they have a rope that would help me climb to freedom but they look down and yell, "I have a rope if you have $_______." If I say I don' have the money they turn a deaf ear to me and walk away. I do have to say some of the burden is on those who promote their material as The Answer!
Hi, Mark! Not to get ahead of you, but it would also be cool to see empowering beliefs listed side-by-side for comparison, though that would be a pretty long video, I imagine. 😅 For #1, for example, I think "It's gotta get done/I have to TRY," something like that, might be helpful. I.e. focusing on the necessity of the task in front of you plus taking focus off your need to make a successful attempt or control outcomes, and just say "Idk what's going to happen, but I'm gonna try." Something like that. 🤷🏻♂️ Overall, though, great video, thanks for sharing! 👍
Hi dear Sir, BOOM 💥... waiting for certain mentor to fix you. Yep. I've been waiting for a special friend to come by.. being disabled, not at church bodily... It spoke to my Soul what you said. I make excuses as I have 14hrs a day, but I find it impossible to get into Bible. You do give away free great resources. From my recliner to your family; CHEERS! Huge thanks. I'm gonna stop trying to focus on isolation, turn to Him. Bless you. 👩🦳
Thank you Mark. I'm too much of a mess (I'm unloveable) and let me explain are the two I deal with the most. Maybe I keep repeating the story of what happened because I don't feel it was really heard, I don't feel validated?
Yes I see black or white, right or wrong, good or bad, and there's nothing that works for me between clean or dirty, nothing between on or off, gray areas are not good areas
# 1- 2- 4- 10- 11 Really helpful video- I took lots of notes..many of those I listed hit me quite hard all day long. I am going to try working on the tips to overthrow my LB’s. I need a new narrative.
God doesn't have to come down, he doesn't need to. I just don't know how he can trust me to do anything of value with my life. I'm the one that made a mockery of this like he gave me.
Proverbs 24:16 for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes. We fall down but we don’t stay down. Keep your toes pointed in the right direction and get that heart right.
Amen brother! As have we all. "For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out." Romans 7:18 None of us are able to live the life God desires of us. That is why He asks us to lay it down so He can dwell in us richly and lead us by His Holy Spirit. It's a difficult journey, but by constant practise choosing the way of life and love, we slowly grow in Christ likeness day by day. Look to Him to transform you brother, not yourself! No matter how hard we try we can not do it. "Once I was alive apart from the law; but when the commandment came, sin sprang to life and I died." Romans 7:9 It is only by the Spirit that we have the power to put to death the misdeeds of the body. It's not up to you and it never was. God bless you brother, may the Lord of all comfort lead you into the peaceful rest that He has already purchased for you.
What does being empowered feel like? I've lived life with as little emotion as possible, this was through drugs and alcohol. Basically I have no idea of what you are talking about.
Hi, Charles. I prayed to ask God what answer to give you, and this is what came to me. Sorry if it's long, but I hope it will be worth your time. 🙂 What does being empowered feel like? Firstly, what is power? I see a young boy playing in sand, like a sandbox or at the beach. He's trying to create shapes and structures, but doesn't have much tools, like buckets or shovels, so for now he's just making small hills with his hands. He looks over and sees other kids playing with buckets, shovels, and other tools to help make better, sturdier structures and shapes, and he feels inadequate to make anything interesting, himself. He looks down, sad. His dad comes and notices him looking sad and asks "What's wrong?" The boy says "I want to make cool things in the sand, but I don't have anything to help me. I'm just using my hands and it stinks." His dad pauses, thinks for a moment, and says "Son, look at what those kids are making." He looks. He sees them building a whole castle 🏰 out of sand with their toys. The dad asks "Do you want to make something like that?" The boy replies, "Yes, but even something smaller would be fine!" The dad brings an old, metal bucket he had in his truck, a small gardening shovel, and a water bottle to help pack sand together more tightly. The boy now has what he needs and makes a small sand castle like he said he would. He felt empowered by his dad to do what he wanted to do, by first making him aware that he lacked the tools he needed, and his dad responding by supplying those tools. What is power? I hear "Power is simply having what you need to do something. Whether or not you have power depends on the potential action, or decision, in question, like the power to lead people versus the power to simply make a small sand castle." What does being empowered *feel* like? I hear "When you *feel* empowered, you have a sense of confidence that what you're considering doing is something you're well-equipped to do. So, "confidence" is the key word, here, which is something that rises or falls in all kinds of scenarios in life, but is something you hopefully learn in at least a few common scenarios when you're young, and more scenarios as you grow older and mature. But what happens with some people is that they either never build that confidence in themselves, or things happen that cause them to lose it: hurtful words, people "taking over" too early without giving you an opportunity to practice or make mistakes, and also your internal monologue telling you that you're not good enough, or can't do something, regardless of whether it's true. But what gets you over the hurdle of feeling unempowered or disempowered is a change of focus, not on yourself, but on the necessity of the task in front of you: "I MUST do this," coupled with "Even if I get it wrong, I still have to TRY."" That's what I heard. Hope that helps! 😊
