As a black female revert I'm not even upset nor do I no longer get upset with these sorts of things. It's a waste of energy. You shouldn't even want anyone who doesn't want or respect you or your community. And if there are people of this earth who are so brainwashed and ignorant to be tricked into thinking that black people are less than or less beautiful because of their skin I feel bad for you (I'll make dua that Allah has mercy on you). But, also it really has nothing to do with us (black oeople) but everything to with you and your community or the individual. So I advise black people to stop making themselves seem as less than by begging and asking other people to accept you. Love yourself and know who you are.
It’s fucked up I agree but you’re misunderstanding the problem. It has nothing to do with you at all, it’s that some cultures have strong identities and they don’t want that to disappear because the family’s cultural identity is everything to them.it’s more important than religion to some of them 🤦🏾♂️ It has absolutely nothing to do with “less than” “not beautiful” “skin color” but more to do with the identity of their culture that they want to preserve. If they’re Arab they want Arab grandkids, etc. It shouldn’t be like that and for a lot of families it isn’t but it’s a thing that still exists today.
I’m Somali in our culture we have tribalism. certain tribes cannot marry other tribes even though they look the exact same lol I think you’re misunderstanding the issue with this whole marriage subject
In Pakistan Punjabi, Kashmiri, Siraiki, Pushtoon, Hazari, Sindhi, Memon, and Balochi parents don't marry their daughters with Urdu Speakers men from Karachi, but they allow their sons to marry Urdu Speaker girls from Karachi as an act of ethnic cleansing of Urdu Speaker. But I can see that Pakistani Punjabi, Kashmiri, Memon, and Pushtoon girls marry White, Black, Turkish, Indian, and Hispanic guys in America, Canada, Europe, Turkey, and Middle East. So isn't double standard of them against their own Pakistani Urdu Speakers who made Pakistan and gave Pakistan blue prints of nuclear technology??? Secondly, why Black revert men are always looking for light skin girls from Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iran, Europe, and Middle East to marry while there are plenty of Somali, Sudani, and Nigerian sisters are available to get married? Isn't it an act of materialism and reverse racism of those revert Black men? ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bwGgxdjfobI.html
Every Pakistani isn’t racist but there is a major problem with racisms with the Asian communities in the states and the UK besides you are Jamaican you take the lineage of your father so you are Jamaican my descent regardless of where your mom is from
I think the main problem with the Asian community is that the majority of us aren’t racist but you have to understand that our parents want our culture to live on. I think we need to leave culture behind and focus on if the future spouse is on deen , prays and brings you closer to Allah swt.
Brother, I hate to break it to you, but denying your daughter or son to marry THEIR choice of spouse because of race is NOT preserving culture. Its straight up tribalism and dare I say racism. This idea of preserving culture is the most backward idea I've ever heard during my time as a Muslim. If preserving culture was so important, then why didn't Muhammad SAW emphasize this? Oh that's right, because preserving DEEN is what he preached, not culture. Culture does not live forever, no matter how hard you try to preserve it. But Allah SWT has promised us that his deen will live on.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1084
Ameen. I shouldn't be shifting this topic but I do ask if you can pray I get a good first job soon inshaa'Allah. Its honestly stressful and disheartening with parents limiting my career ideas and tentions rising that my university course has just finished and I'm not working
@@zaink7037 may Allah bless you with a good job brother. If you are a recent graduate you should start applying for some graduate schemes they are opening up from September all through December. It's a long journey but keep your iman strong and inshallah you will secure a job
A lot of parents sadly are too cultural and just want the child to marry someone within the same country, language and culture and likely sect. Its sad with me experiencing this when the right thing should be that if they have a good character and are Muslim on the deen they should be accepted
Tbh it's not from a place of malice or racism. Most parents that do this are 1st generation immigrants from abroad. In Asian culture specifically in-laws are always close with each other but if they're of a different culture then there's a language/culture barrier. I'm not saying it's right but it's not hateful either
@@Mahmood.23 Agreed, I'm very balanced man of 33, I get where parents come from. I personally wont Marry a revert because I would like the language and culture to be easier on the parents, being Pakistani it's harder for parents to accept the revert issue anyway. If they say marry your cousin then that's a different story if you don't want that.
@@Mahmood.23 yeah true though even the parents born in the UK think the same way like my parents 😂. That's a good point about in laws. My aunty married a Mauritian who she met in university. He's a nice educated person however his parents are antagonistic towards his daughters due to their nationality 🤦♂️
@Al-Yafawi I think I made a mistake on my terminology. Should of meant tribe 😅. Lol being pashton myself I think my mum would first search for a girl for me from the same tribe 😂
@@zaink7037 No da Urdu speakers jenakay kho zamong pukhtano halakano sara wada na kawal ghwari aw Africans aw Arabs sara e kawi. Aakhir saray khapa she😣😣😣
I was married to a revert , so regardless the colour or race, if the revert person has no connection to Islam before at all either through his family or his local, then I would suggest our sisters/brothers to take extra care when investigation the revert background, many of non-Muslims who jumped into ISLAM still continue having traits from their background's past, also how many years sometimes don't count as a practising Muslim, more like how they did understand the religion in the correct way, and it's not a phase in the their life, therefore you need to check how they will behave when they are in a different situation, check how they live their current life , are they willing to give up many things for the sake of Allah (swt), trust me it's not an easy task to identify all these points but sometimes you can read between the lines, once you feel he/she confused about many simple issues then know this will give you hard time in the future, from my personal experience and the people I know, these type of revert relationships will always end up in divorce or you have to accept them the way they are with their cultural traits which are a bit uncomfortable for a hardcore Muslim to accept them, therefore the problem will be bigger if you have got children. my advice try to find a revert from a Muslim background first, because a person who is reverted, he/she came back to the path of Allah regardless if they were born in a Muslim family or not. and only Allah knows.
RealDeal441 Yh that’s what I’m saying bro he left showing he doesn’t care so why is Brother Imran suggesting she try reach him it’s like he chose to leave her you know
@@thehublife7958 I think in that case another person in the family would become the Wali or the local imam. I haven't looked into the topic myself. So, I advice you to look into it to confirm it for yourself.
Some Somali Girls have also been disowned by their parents for being involved with jamaican that i know of some where revert some not, May Allah protect our muslim sisters from haram relationships and if his a revert and practising well and good and parents should support them in getting married and if not may Allah guide our muslim sisters and protect them from the bad intentions of the opposite gender.
After 10 years of tormented relationship with family arranged marriage and almost 6 years of being single parent I have been running away from any more relationships even though I’m waiting on Allah to grant peace and patience in heart to desire happiness of marriage in this life🙏
As a revert I notice that immediately the suspicion is on the revert. They are guilty until proven innocent. When ever people ask me about marriage I just avoid the discussion because I dont want to be made out like im some kind of criminal. Makes you feel unwelcome
Than reverts must stick together and show our love for our Ummah through our actions. Our Deen will outshine theres like lighthouses. Our Sunnah actions will highlight their Haram.
Ego/pride is a big thing with most families. Not just with marriage but other things too, and I think this should be addressed much more. Pls do a whole topic of that soon.
Alhamdullilah I learn a lot from these. When I see more of your videos about marriage the more I realise I am farm from ready lol. May Allah make it easy for us. Ameen
@Salman Allahu Akbar. May Allah bless you and protect you. May Allah make us from the people of the Qur'an, His special people whom He tells to recite and rise on the day of regret. Ameen.
@Cork H94 How do you determine if a dark-skinned person has Arab blood or not? I'm sure you don't carry DNA kits around (or maybe you do cuz from all your other disgusting comments elsewhere under this video, it's clear that you're desperate and mad at being single anyways).
I wasn’t questioning Bilal RA’s ancestry - I was questioning how YOU can tell that any black-skinned person doesn’t also have some Arab in them? You can’t tell who has what ancestry because we are all mixed, so your logic is backfiring because everyone’s lineage goes back to Adam AS, so nothing as interracial. Keep your KKK and Nazi mentality away from the Deen of Allah. Get ruqya done if you can - you seem a little whoozy especially with all the curses. Get off your butt, make wudu and pray extra nawafils to cleanse you of the filth in your mind, heart, and tongue.
you know what else is required of you to put on job applications? Your gender, and you’re given a billion options - because apparently gender is a separate category from sex. Clearly you subscribe to that too? Telling you. Get off your butt and make wudu. I’m sure you’re not happy as you’re writing these. Don’t worry, you’ll get a woman someday.
Al-Haakim (8194) narrated that Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I saw (in a dream) many black sheep who were joined by many white sheep.” They said: How did you interpret it, O Messenger of Allah? He said: The non-Arabs will join you in your religion and your lineage.” They said: The non-Arabs, O Messenger of Allah? He said: “If faith were at the Pleiades, some men from among the non-Arabs would get it.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah (1018). You’ve been refuted by Allah’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم...just make tawbah and come to the real Islam...may Allah guide you...
@Cork H94 That's quite unfortunate...its as plain as day...You've been been shown from the sahih hadith of the Prophet (SAWS) that all of your comments about purity of race are wrong...to insist upon your current trajectory will lead to your own destruction...you've been warned...for your own good do tawbah and desist...
You all talking about language barrier, I am Indian and I don't know a single native language of India and I also don't know anything about the culture. The only language in which I can speak fluently is English. I live in another country where multiculturalism is very common. So,I don't think I eill have any language/cultural barrier. And In laws cannot interfere in a couple's life
I think it’s also because of tribalism, you might be surprised when you know that even other African ethnic groups would probably deny a Jamaican marrying their daughter.
sad situation may allah make it easy for us all inshallah. not all culture is bad you learn adhab and akhlaq which is so important. i think it really depends on your family how educated they are on the deen this is the biggest problem a lack of knowledge. if someone has good level of islam and a proper background check has been done and istekhara there is no reason to decline that person for marriage. islam is the key to everything you need to marry someone who will take to you paradise and will be a role model for your kids.
from my personal experience most revert brother and sisters have way more knowledge and are practising way more than born muslims. but obv their have been cases of people i know who married reverts and got used and abused hence a proper background check should be done so you can trust that person fully.
Wow this is kinda mad, I'm a new revert of Jamaican decent but imagine I fall in love with a beautiful muslim woman inshallah but her father wont allow her to marry me because of my skin colour without even meeting me?.......Ahh thinking about it is painful, seriously.
if he rejects you thats his lost go to a place where you are loved not hated im sure there's beautiful Jamaican revert sisters whos family will accept you
Their loss bro. Racism is disgusting. I'm somali, we have tribalism (people won't allow their child to marry a specific tribe). Alhamdullilah it's less common. But don't worry, may Allah give you spouse that adds happiness, rizq, love and blessings to your life.
I'm a Vietnamese revert, fluenty in many languages, got plenty of tradeskills, craft skills and Martial skills. I make good money and plwnty of financial opportunities. I also have a big big Heart. Plenty of Families turned down the prize of accepting me, even before Islam due to discrimination. Not a problem because Allah will find me a lucky Wife and Family to have me. Plenty of Women regret not choosing me. Years down the line, I don't care anymore, their losses. Trust in Allah 🙏🏽 🤲🏽 💪🏽
My Pakistani dad and brothers are so racist against black people and would never accept if I married a black man, even if he was on his Deen, which I once came close to doing. My older brother married a Chinese girl who never reverted to Islam, so he basically married a kaffir and my younger brother married a white revert girl and my parents never raised any objections. I’ve always wanted to marry a white revert but my parents proved an obstacle because I’m a woman and never had a way of meeting white reverts. At the age of 45 and as a single mum, I am now considering marrying a white man, but waiting for him to convert for himself first before doing so. I’m praying that he will accept Islam for himself otherwise I won’t be able to marry him. If only Muslim brothers practiced the same strict morals and married revert women who reverted for the sake of Allah and not just for the guy. Such hypocrisy in our Muslim communities, makes me so angry and sick 😡
@Mo Aatif yes the Muslims in the subcontinent have merged pagan practices with Islam. They need to pick one- paganism or Islam? There is no such thing as both.
The biggest factor is tribalism/cultural difference, but I think there's one major issue that no one talks about in these situations... and I think we need to address it. The media has conditioned us to think dark-skinned women are not attractive, but that dark-skinned men are. chinese people are in a similar situation, but in reverse. People subconsciously feel like there's an imbalance, and that everyone is "competing" (Astagfirullah) for lighter-skinned women. This way of thinking is repulsive, but to address the issue, we need to tackle this... I think we should be doing more to elevate dark-skinned women. If we do that, things will slowlyy improve.
I don’t think it has everything to do with race, I know a white revert sister who married a Somali guy but his family didn’t want to meet her because she was white. Also Somalis in most cases wouldn’t want their children to marry an Asian or even a black person. They’d just prefer them to marry a Somali.
Aww we need something like this in our community as culture and traditional issues is destroying Muslim women these days MashaAllah way for sisters to share their issues and fears and feeling and get it solved.
Most revert ppl parents aren’t looking at culture and are not muslim so you can’t expect revert Muslim women to do everything according to the “norms” of an Islamic marriage
So if I ever wanted to marry I need my father? I’m a revert woman and have someone I’m interested in marrying. My (biological) dad hates Islam. If my dad (grandfather) was still alive I think he’d say yes. I don’t know if I’ll be able to get married then
Brother, you should have sisters like me on your show or podcast. I have a great deal of experience and pain and questions to share with you and your avid listeners. Muslim communities are facing the biggest epidemic in history, specifically with domestic abuse, divorce, single mothers, absent fathers, fatherless children, abortion and Muslim foster children on the rise. Many Muslim men need a wake up call and urgently need to be put right. Please do a talk about this as it’s about time we ALL heard the truth.
O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted. [Quran 49:13]
Well if u dnt have a father whos active in his role... Isn't it your brother who can marry u off if u have a brother or the next closest male relatives.?? Please share some light on that .... Am only on 9:49sec in the video so apologies if u've already answered it
She said that she has no male in her family except his real father and stepfather and she has no contact with his real father since she was 6 and her mother and stepfather are on the same boat about her marriage with that reverted brother.
السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you A similar issue. What IF a sister is a revert and her father has passed away but her family are non Muslim. Father was a Jew and mother is a Christian and her only brother is not sure if he believes or not and is confused. What is her position then???
Im a black revert muslim ... parents guyanese and jamaican and i thank Allah that my Wife is East asian (japanese) rather then south asian because many of you guys south asian (Bengali/pakistani/kashmiri do not like our black melenated skin and then you have the audasity to speak about bilal like hes your hero ... if bilal and may other black companions were here today they would not be able to set foot in your houses neither would they be Allowed to marry your precious womenfolk .... sad reality ... alhamdulillah i have been married for 7 years however i have mix race children who will always be seen as black and will never have chance to marry South asian muslims in the future by the looks of it ... also this poor woman who is 28 years old and single will probaly end up running away because of her racist mother after her kashmiri husband left her and the daughter .... maybe she needs a black muslim Allahu alim
the fact you accuse others of hating black melanated skin but you married an east asian is pretty ironic what stopped you from marrying a black revert sister and saying your mixed kids wont have a chance to marry a south asian makes you sound like a beg
Thats completely false what you said that she cannot marry until her wali agrees. If the dad is not fit as a guardian, the responsibility moves to the next wali such as the uncle or grandpa
Assalamu Alaikum , can you make a video about the permissibility of dental braces with authentic information ? It can be a Chai with my Bhai episode or anything else, but that would be really helpful! If you guys also want a video like this, like this comment so that they can see it.
I want to make it clear, by the words of many notable and beloved scholars, these parents are committing Haram. By discouraging that which is Halal for your own arrogance and pride, you are in Haram. If you reject your child marrying a person who is Halal and has a good Deen because of their race or because they are a revert, you would have turned away the Sahabah Radhi Allahu Anhum because they were ALL reverts. Shame on these people and may Allah forgive them. If your Deen is that weak that you will not even recognize reality of the Sahabah Radhi Allahu Anhum, you are committing Haram in the face of Allah SWT and withholding your child's ability to complete a huge part of their Deen.
Surely, there is an exception to the rule of the father acting as the wali where the father is absent, uninterested or simply unfit to be a wali in which case, the father would be disqualified from acting as his daughter’s wali. Not all Muslim men who have fathered children are fit to be fathers. What if the father has abused his own daughter, or is a racist, or is not on his Deen, or is dead? You don’t need to follow a legal process when the facts of the case speak for themselves. Just adopt a common-sense approach and seek out the next of kin who can act as a wali and if all else fails, an Imam can step in and act as the Wali. Islam covers all eventualities and provides solutions for all complex situations. We don’t need to seek a fatwa from an Imam in Saudi Arabia to validate a woman’s right to marry in the absence of her father. Seems like Muslim women can’t do anything without a man’s permission 😞
You've bought into western media manipulation sister. Feminism and all. Parents are allowed to know what's best for their children, people should stay out of parenting as a whole. Otherwise, transgenderism and other bullshit will be introduced into the homes, if it hasn't been already. As a father, at the right time, I'll decide if the man is fit or unfit, him being Somali or not will play a major role, simply because I'm Somali.
Really and truly its probably not cus hes black, its probably because he isnt Pakistani, these type of parents usually say no to any race that isn't their own, still racism regardless
Irfaan Khan then it's not real and is invalid. You should only convert if you believe in Allah 100% and you have certain faith. Other than that it's just a convenient sham
Let him convert and marry. Later on, he might start thinking about his faith and become a proper Muslim. We should leave these affairs to the scholars!
Let me clarify. This is in regards to my cousin. She ran off and married a hindu who supposedly reverted to Islam. Parent's were against it, but despite their objections, she did the nikkah using my uncle as a Wali
Worddddd. But clearly Imran is being one sided. He’s tryna force his beliefs onto us when in actuality the Deen requires to advice from different perspectives. He’s forcing the idea that ‘no girl can get married without a father’?! Simple answer: NOT TRUE
Amatullah Su Amatullah Su No he is just emphasising the point that a woman’s wali is the father and without his consent the marriage is void. If he is absent and can’t be found that’s a different issue, and obviously a woman can still get married even if she has no male mahrams in her family
H S a woman always needs a wali (guardian) if her father is alive present and sane no one can replace him if he is dead then it goes to the brother, uncle, grandfather etc etc to all the male relatives etc You can’t just pick and choose from Islam
