15 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s 🧠 

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I am 22 and so lost! I can't sit, sleep, eat, drink without thinking what I want to do in my life. Anxious all the time. Weird chest pains, deep breathing the entire day. This video came at a perfect time and it really helped. I feel at ease (Edit: It's been 3 months now & time really heals everything. I'm not lost anymore. I found a purpose & maybe it's temporary but I'm in a better place now. Let it pass)

I am 20, and I am happy to know that it is not only me who is scared of future!..and anxious as well.. I am focused on my career but continuously failing, I literally don't have friends to chill out with, neither I go out of my home!..this silence kills me inside.

As someone who just turned 25 I relate to this video so much. This is the period of time where we are supposed to know what we’re supposed to be doing but I love that you make a point to say it’s okay to be lost or still figuring it out because there is no end destination in life. There is only constant growth 💜

The pressure of having everything figured out is what stops us from exploring things that we might actually enjoy! I've been in this phase of trying new things without a reason and it's honestly so liberating! :)

Man I love that. "Follow your curiosity vs your passion. " Your passion is something that you've already been exposed to vs your curiosity being quiter like a baby flame. Love how you put it! The imagery helps with connecting the dots :) Thank you Aileen for this advice!

0:44 1) Nobody knows what they're doing 3:26 2) Take your biggest risks when you're young 4:27 3) Think long term and have a big picture goal 6:33 4) Nobody cares about you as much as you think they do 8:19 5) Recognize and release your need for external validation 9:27 6) Learn to be your authentic self 11:08 7) Follow your curiosity and your fear 13:41 8) Take action 15:16 9) Stop being so hard on yourself 16:45 10) Embrace the struggles 18:05 11) Your purpose reveals itself to you over time 19:28 12) The power of compounding 21:14 13) Learn about money 23:20 14) Don't compare your path to others' 24:13 15) Trust the journey

I’m turning 28 next week and I still have no idea what I’m doing with my life… and that’s ok! If going through my 20s during the pandemic has taught me anything, it’s that curiosity and vision will carry you through. No matter what job/ opportunities I think I lost, there’s always something internally leading you where you need to go.

I'm 24 and trying to figure out things happening in my life. Feeling lost and comparing myself with others. But I am trying to manage and love myself. And I know I can be there where I meant to be 😊

Really love the sentence "this is the time you have less to lose" that makes me feel less scared about what I'm gonna do. I quit my job and focus on learning Korean with a hope that I could work as a Korean translator. Maybe I will be happy with my choice, or also will be not, but who knows. Just because I could do as I wish now, I will never regret what I did no matter what happened in the future.

Just a solid "thank you" from the bottom of my heart. 22(almost23), lost the last 2 and a half years due to amental and physical health issue. People left. My nursing degree isn't what i truly wanted. Part timer worker. Small salary. Heath issue. Stressed and nostalgic. Currently Doing things i love and accepting life's challenges to grow. But i don't know where to start, what's the right path for me. I thought i wasted my uni years for nothing. And I'm tired of studying more..and i don't even know if it Worths my time to do so... To all the lost souls out there. May we find our way out of the dark.✨🌻🙏

These advice also applies in my 30's, im 32 and still navigating life like a 20's. I'm being hard on myself and now I release and let go.

Your 20s it’s definitely your PRIME time!! Explore, try new things and rediscover yourself. You don’t have to remain the same. Always, remember that this is YOUR life and it’s all about what you want not what others want or expect of you! 🤍 From a self love content creator to another; great topic Aileen! 💜

sharing with you who wanna take notes💙 1. nobody knows what they are doing 2. take your biggest risks when you are young 3. have a big picture of life 4. nobody cares as much as you think they do 5. recognize and release external validation 6. learn to be your authentic self 7. follow your curiosity and fear 8. take action 9. stop being so hard on yourself 10. embrace the struggles 11. finding your purpose 12. the power of compounding 13. learn about money 14. don't compare your path to others 15. trust your journey

I just turned 26, and this is video is so comforting. I already related once you started with tip #1. i was a new grad at the start of the pandemic, and like you, I couldn't be okay without a plan set for every day after four years of studying in college. I was rushing myself to move on to the next "achievement", but the pandemic has taught me to slow down and pace myself. Though I'm still trying to go through this journey, I'm a lot more gentle with myself compared to my early 20's. Thank you for this!

I'm 24. As someone who struggles with mental health and feeling lost. Love how u touch upon mental health like depression and social anxiety. Thank you! 🧡

I just turned 25 and I’m feeling so lost. So glad I came across your video ❤️

Thank you so much for this video. I am 22, and I'm struggling. I don't know what I want to do with my life. My anxiety is all over the place. Listening to your tips made me feel some peace about myself. ❤💓

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I'm in my 40s and I relate to this one so much! Life is so much about learning to embrace uncertainties.

I am 24 and I have been so hard on myself for not finding my passion in life, and constantly looking for ways just to end up being even more stressed. Thank you for making me realize how we suppose to follow our curiosity instead of directly jump into finding our "passion", you present it in the clearest and most beautiful way it can be. Love your beautiful soul ❤️

I really appreciate this, as a person in my early 20's I felt so seen. The advice that really spoke to me was the advice of understanding that this time in my life is (more or less) SUPPOSED to be rigorous and challenging (in that it's normal to have to struggle to "find myself" and my purpose)

my golden rule is treat yourself just like u treat others, just like you are compassionate, giving, kind and loving to others, do it to urself as well

I'm 25 and having trouble letting go of my stable life to follow the "things that light me up" since it calls for me leaving my hometown and living in the city. I know it'll be best for me but I'm afraid to leave my family and that I won't make enough money to survive on my own. However, if I don't take the risk now I'll just sit here in regret and never know if its where I'm meant to go.. Another advice you gave was "No one cares as much as you think" I compromise a lot for others so this really was something I needed to hear. Thank you Aileen so much for making these vids, they really are like therapy and help so much when I'm feeling lost or stressed💗

A few things: 1) I watched one of your videos months ago and signed up for betterhelp. I've been seeing my therapist for 7 months now, and my ideas of self-worth and developing healthy boundaries have immensely improved! Betterhelp's customer service is phenomenal, and I utilize their financial aid options. They really do their best to take care of you. 2) Describing how curiosity is this small flame and like bread crumbs was eye opening to me. Another piece of advice that resonated with me was following your fears because you're afraid of something because you care about it a lot. I've been putting off making a decision to attend graduate school because I'm afraid of this next step, but I didn't realize it was because I cared about it that the fear of messing up has been holding me back. Thank you so much for this video! I'm glad I found it, and I really really needed to hear this today.

Stepping outside of my comfort zone is something I never regret. Needed this 💖

I‘m incredibly grateful that I have access to all this wisdom and advice on your channel.. I‘m at the beginning at my 20s and your videos always ease my fear of the future. Thank you so much for your content and keep on healing this world

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Girl I hope you are making a video about navigating your 30s next because I literally feel 29 going on 19 - in the worst way. It's like my early 20s drained all of my youthful vigor and ambition out of me and I've been legit floating in place for the last 3 years, no clue what to do next (the global panini is also a part of that but that's the case for everyone i think). I so admire your channel growth and business you've built for yourself - so I know you've got that good advice lol

the “people don’t care about you as much as you think you do” is such an important, peaceful lesson to learn. i recently had a really bad injury and got stitches on my face and broke my nose. my best friend kept telling me she really wanted to see me but every time we made plans she said something came up. at first i was so angry with her, i mean i’m injured and if she was in this situation, i would’ve seen her ASAP. however, i quickly realized she does have her own life. she has her own issues and situations and honestly unless i was on my deathbed, i don’t think my injuries crossed her mind after a day or two. now while i was mad, i think realizing and accepting i can’t force someone to care about me the way i want them too is more freeing. i don’t hate her. if i did have hugh expectations of her i would’ve hated her for not seeing me

Thank you for putting out this video!! I definitely needed it as I have been struggling with figuring out who I am and my purpose in life. I have been needing guidance and my family is not very good about conversation!!

Now at the tail end of my twenties (turning 29 next month) I resonate a lot with this video. Being gentle with yourself, following your curiosity, steering with the flow, leaning into your intuition etc. It's important to recognize that we all have different starting points in life (i.e. structure vs. agency) and we're all on different timelines. Videos on hyperproductivity compound my anxiety and existing feelings of worthlessness. I really appreciated this video. Thank you

This video came at a perfect time, I’ve been feeling lost and trying to get out because I felt like I always had direction prior to this. It’s so hard and I hate how some days I didn’t accomplish anything. However, I’ve been watching your videos and I write down what I do daily and plan my days. It helps me feel better and slowly gain my confidence back. Thank you so much for being inspiring :)

Thanks Aileen for such a useful and supportive video. That's exactly what most of us need to hear🌿

This was so needed right now, thank you so much for this amazing video! I’m 21 and am currently at a crossroads - heavily been thinking about changing careers but there’s so many factors to think about. The advice that most resonated with me is take the biggest risks when I’m young, I know I have a good support system behind me so we’ll see what the future holds for me 😌🤞🏼

Your videos make me cry. It's like a warm hug.Thank you Aileen for this video! I thought I was already having a really hard time when I was still a student but looking back, I feel like life was so much easier back then. Like what you said, the path was clear when I was a student. I had clear goals - to get into my dream university, to graduate and to pass the board exam. However, now that I've achieved these goals, I feel lost. I feel like I've chosen the wrong career but I don't know what's the right one if this isn't it. I've been thinking about the things I love, things I'm good at, things that I can be paid for and things the world need but I still don't have the answer. I don't know what I really want to do in life and it's so frustrating. I was so focused on reaching my goals back then that I lost myself. I was so busy studying so I didn't have time for the hobbies that I used to enjoy and now I feel like I totally lost my interest in them. Nothing makes me feel excited anymore. :(

Thank you ❤️. It was much needed for now. I'm 22 going through so many changes in life , having Doubts and transformation and everything. Finding myself clueless. But this video helpful for understanding better. ❤️

Currently watching this as im about to turn 25 in June, this video was very helful and relatable as I feel so lost right now and in a huge rut, Ive been taking alot of breaks and just trying to evaluate my life and explore more interests since I don't know what I actually like.

Thank you, I really needed to hear this! Have a wonderful day!☺️🌺

Im 19 in a week. I also have an emotional burnout and your video is giving me a support and hope. I got motivation and strength to start doibg smth. Also i wanna go to course in january and so i have doubts, but after your video I firgured out that I really Wanna go Thank you ❤️

I love how she included her feelings and being honesty open about the mental breakdowns we go through

I’m 21 next month and I couldn’t be grateful enough to be your subscriber since years ago and learn so much from you, especially with this kind of video that is much needed for me. Thanks Aileen xoxo

Thank you! I’m 23 and I feel so bad, I feel lost and sometimes like I’m a loser. But this video change my perspective of life and take me to stay calm too.

You have a SOOTHING VOICE. I was able to follow attentively everything you said and your words are definitely advice I need to hear as a 21 year old, outta college. Sending you a virtual hug ... thank you for sharing this. By the way I absolutely love your haircut - it suits you well.

thank you💖 this is what i need now, and you help me a lot. I'm going 20 this year and need this kind of Adultng tips and i hope you upload more.🥰

I don't why but I always feel better and have a sense of relief whenever I watch your videos. Specifically, this video helps me realize more new things in life. I'm going through a little stress and pressure, but when I get your support, I feel like I don't need to be hard on myself and need time to know who I am and my own value. I really appreciate it

Great video as always. I love point 7, that you corrected as your fear and curiosity. They will lead you to your passion and purpose

I think it’s so sweet of her to share all of her lessons with us and I’m actually feeling so much better and positive after watching this Thank you so much!!❤️

Thank you so much for sharing this..as a mother of a young 21 year old daughter..sometimes hearing it from someone else is refreshing! ❣️✨

All the tips were so good. I love how you explain every obvious point so beautifully ❤️

Follow your curiosity is such an amazing piece of advice, thank you so much for this video

I adored your tip on following your curiosity! There are so many things I am curious about trying but never do because I always fall back on what is safe… so in 2022 I want to be more curious!

My favourite one is follow your fear. It is not easy to go out of your comfort zone, emotionally, mentally and in every other way. But this is where we grow the most. Overall, learnt so much here - even though I am also in my 30ties now! Thank you for this video!

Aileen! I adore all your videos but dang, this one is your best yet!!! The advice is so solid

It's nice to know there are people like you in the world. I appreciate your wisdom and the time you take to make these videos

Thank you Aileen! This video came out at the right time. I’m actually taking baby steps and this video is definitely gonna keep me going. I’m finding it difficult to accept certain things in my life and I really don’t feel enough of myself now. Thanks a lot! And answer to your question is - If I stop caring about what other people think, I would feel more contented with my life✨ and I would start taking risks to learn new things🌟🌹

7) Follow your curiosity and fear This tip hit me. As Aileen said, I don't have a burning passion. My fear is the criticism from others. That's why I have difficulty expressing myself and my opinions. And I'm feeling lost in my 24, not knowing where to go the path ahead. This video really helps me a lot. Thank you so much, Aileen. I love you.

To stop being so hard on myself, i am still dealing with this, thank you for sharing dear

Not caring about others is SO important. I'm glad you brought it up!

Very relevant video at the right time, Thanks for the valuable insights 😊❤

I just turned 21 and I feel so bad, it feels like time flew and I jumped from 18 to 21 ( probably because of the pandemic and quarentine) and it's making my anxiety worse. This video came on the perfect time

I'm 26 and going through that phase right now. I actually saw my therapist yesterday and we talked about the fact that it's ok to not know what to do in life or to not know what I truly like or makes me happy. Few months ago I was so scared of being lost in my life and for the first time yesterday I enjoyed it! I felt kinda free and happy to be able to discover myself more and just to enjoy life as it is. I've been so hard on myself these past few years and I put too much pressure on myself I had to stop working few months ago to take a break and to rest a little. It has been hard but I'm actually starting to understand (finally) that it's ok to be lost and it's ok to make mistakes. Thank you for your video! I felt less alone for a moment ❤

this is actually so comforting. i could listen to your words all day, really really thank u for this! im just glad it came up in my recos ❤️

really enjoyed this video,it feels like having a big sister that i never had !

I always compare myself to others even though they're older or younger than me. I always remind myself stop comparing myself to others but I couldn't.But now I've decided to only focus on myself. Anyway thanks for your motivations and kind words. I really appreciate it❤️.

Please. This video came in impeccable timing. Everything you said from start to finish... everything resonated so well with me. I needed this. Thank you so much for sharing all this. Sometimes we already know all this advice but to hear you break it down and talk to us like a friend... it was a beautiful reminder xx

This video was truly calming. I'm 28 and last year I battled a brain tumor. It ravaged my body and took things from me I won't ever get back. But I realized at 28 that the phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" isn't the full story. In reality, what tries to kill you can bring out who you really are. You are the sum pf every thing you ever chose to do, every risk you took, good decision, bad decision, and everything you chose to believe. And in a moment where you stand toe to toe with fate, the real you steps forward, the part of you that isn't what society, everyone else, or your own expectations wanted you to be. I am proud to say that even on days where I didn't know if I was going to make it, I looked back at all the uncertainties and was not burdened by regret. As a young guy, I always thought to myself "why did I say that?," "Why did I quit/get fired from that job?," "was doing all that worth it," and so on. If wonder why I didn't break off that relationship or why I didn't pursue such and such opportunity. But I still lived a full life. I finished my education despite people saying I was too dumb to do it. I made AMAZING friends and connections with others despite growing up and being taught I wasn't worthy. I fought in the ring as a Muay Yhai fighter, seeing myself at my mental and physical best. Then I started working st the health department, doing so well that I was promoted several times and I feel I've found my calling. I learned to be selfish in order to love myself and help others, only then was I at my best. I look back at those past mistakes I made with bad judgment, low self-esteem, and ignorance. And I realize those mistakes happened because I was TRYING to live well. And here I am, alive and beating the odds. I wasn't satisfied with simply existing, I was willing to do what many young people are too scared and egotistical to do - take risks and fail if you have to. As unfair and unexpected as it all was, I am coming to terms with knowing I don't have an answer as to why it happened. I still have myself to rely on answer or not, that matters most. All and all I'm still in a bit of a conundrum about what to do next, although I am moving to a new city right after I complete my first marathon. I've lost most of my hearing, have vision problems, and still contend with the mental health diagnoses I was given at 20. Thankfully, I've been going to therapy for years, always put my health first, am learning sign language, and my once unshakeable confidence has returned. Lesson learned, we've all come a long way even in times when we didn't know the answer. But I think we'd all be surprised what we could pull off, if we just believed we deserve a chance to try. Thank you so much for this video. Like right now I'm in a difficult mood hence why I'm looking at videos like this, but wow. You did a great job. Kudos to you! Subscribed.

I’m going into highschool so I’m far away from my twenties but I will be taking these things into consideration, thank you lavendaire. (also I love ur meditations)

I love this kind of videos, they're a great complement for "The Defining Decade"!

about to graduate in less than a month and had been stuck in a never ending cycle of emotional burdens; dilemma, stress, pressure, decisional crisis, etc. I really needed this video, it helped me know that I'm not the only one feeling lost and anxious like I am now and that these are all part of the process if I wanna get where I want to. Thank you so much Lavendaire, I love your personality, your way of thinking and most importantly, your energy.

I am literally in tears rn...it feels like your big sister is guiding you...i just turned 20 and yeah i was lost, your videos helps me a lot....thank you sm Lavi

Thank you so much, Aileen! I love all of your advices. Continue to inspire others. We need someone like you especially nowadays.🌸

Me as a Ukrainian watching this video become excited for life again after 24th February. Looking forward to end of war to continue living my existing life So guys living in a peaceful country just know that no matter what you are going through you are so blessed 😇. Sending you all love 💕

I love coming to your channel when i feel down for no special reason. Just seeing and hearing your calm positive energy really aligns well with my own energy and where I want to be. I don’t know if you ever worry about repetitive content, but you don’t need to because that’s the content I’m here for. I’ll always be excited to see any of your old videos re-filmed into updated versions ¨̮ sending love from south korea ❤️❤️

Really needed to hear this rn... Thank you!❤️

Im 21, 3rd year college taking up medical technology. I failed 1 prerequisite subject now i have to reenroll it and wait for 1 year before my internship🥺😔. I feel drained and tired I'm loosing interest with my chosen course. At the same time I'll disappoint my parents who's expecting me to finish my course on time😔And I don't know what to do anymore. But thank you for giving me some hope to remain strong and for reminding me that it is ok not to know all of the answers, its ok to fail. And that i just have to believe in myself than seek external validation💜

I am 22 and turning 23 in May and all of this resonated a lot with me. A lot of these tips are things I already have in my subconscious and conscious but even then it can be hard for me to stick to them. I’m taking this as my sign to be consistent in applying them and watch my life change for the better. I’ve been going through the worst depression of my life since the beginning of last year and I just know my life isn’t how I want it to be. Sometimes I feel super helpless but I have moments where either my guides or higher self comes through and it’s like girl you got so much potential just tap into it, you got it. It’s wild because just yesterday I was reflecting on my life and putting out into the Universe what I want and talking to my guides, asking them to guide me, and then this is the first video I see this morning Thank you for this advice! You are a light and I know I’m not the only one who needed this and appreciates you and your content ✨🤍🌱

thanks a lot. your words are really inspiring. i'm 20 now and feeling kinda lost in life. your advice really encouraged me to take steps forward the life i want to live

This video is such a good piece of advice. I've just graduated and feel lost for the first time in my life. I was a very competitive kid who always won any competitions and had good grades. Now I have to start everything over, I'm nobody, and it makes me depressed and anxious. It feels like every way I go is a dead-end. I think about the future but I'm also too scared to commit because of imposter syndrome. I started procrastinating for the first time in my life as well. I've become friends with a panic attack because it happens too often. I can't eat or sleep properly. Watching this video made me realize a lot of things. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm going to follow your advice and be more kind to myself. :)

This video was so useful omg. I stopped the video everytime you said something that made me reflect about myself and journal about it and this made me realize a lot of things. Thank you so much❤️

Thank you so much Aileen for this video! I think I need to watch this video everyday to remind myself to be grateful and not so hard on myself

thanks for distinguishing passions vs. curiosity. it's a good reminder

Following curiosity and fear was my favorite one ❤️

I nearly cried. I turned 21. It's early my 20s but it hit hard to me. I'm trying to find myself because nothing feels like me anymore. And your video came when I needed it! Thank you love! Your words was amazing and I need to head them! Thank you again and love you so much 💜

turning 28 in a few months from now and i still don't know what i'm doing, but that's okay! a lot of people are in the same boat as i am, so it's something i need to constantly remind myself whenever i feel myself spiraling while going thru my ig feeds and seeing old classmates of mine get married or have kids or what not. also, "follow your curiosity/fear" is SUCH good advice. all the points you shared in this vid are, but that one is gonna stick with me. fantastic video btw! you earned a new subscriber in me, hah.

Thank you for this video!! I just turned 20, and I'm going into my 3rd year of college; and making these more significant decisions and taking steps towards them has been very daunting and overwhelming at times. But realistically, no decision I make has to be permanent! I should try things and make changes as I learn. Life is about gaining experience and continually learning and growing!

I’m 14 at the time of writing this, and being 20 seems so far yet so near at the same time. This video is really interesting and I would probably keep all your advice in mind for when I finally turn 20 in a few years!! 💓🥺

Thank you so much for this video.

Thanks for the comforting words. It really helps, thank you sooooo much!

Love this! Currently 23😊 planning to solo trip before the end of this year.This was both eye opening and reassuring THANK YOU!! ❤

i really love your videos and find them so helpful and inspiring

All I'm saying is that I've seen people change their lives completely at 50 years old and are now the happiest , healthiest and wealthiest they ever been . And that's highly admirable. We're just getting to know ourselves in our 20s. And we'll never figure out everything nomatter how old we get. This video is amazing and relatable.💕 Sending you love and positive energy to everyone 💕💕💕

Well it is so relatable ..It's so stressful trying to cope with expectations of people around u and expectations u need from yourself when you already lost and just want things to get clear ..alot of overthinking, anxiety overwhelming and no body can understand this .. big thanks for sharing this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Thank you so much for this useful video!

Really grateful ❤️ for you❤️

Follow your curiosity! I love that, wish someone told me earlier but I’m happy that I’m already doing some of the points you mentioned! I’ve been seeing struggles/challenges as opportunities 🥰

Love this video! So helpful 😊

Thank you so much for this. Beautiful and life changing 😭❤️💕 God bless!!

sis, after watching a lot of your videos I realized how precious you are, your videos gave me motivation and your voice healed me and I just want you to know that you mean a lot to me

Hey hey, I just want to express my gratitude to you. You helped me a lot in my life. I am soooooo proud of u and all ur effort. I wish you all success because you deserve it Lovee xoxo