So the creepy, controlling Dad is bothered by the dress that shows her throat, but he is not at all bothered that she is pledging her life to someone at the age of 17.
The first family, the father focusing on her hip span, her breasts and her waist is beyond inappropriate. What a disgusting creep. Shes inly 17 also. Its beyond disgusting
It’s not the father focusing on that, it’s the dress itself puting emphasis on the hip span, breasts and waist. It’s the dress that may be inapproproate for her age, not anyone pointing this out.
He could be evaluating those parts of her anatomy for the purpose of child bearing, which is a very important part of marriage in certain religious communities, if not the most important part. Certainly the health of the married women who are bearing those many, many children isn't their number one priority. I recognize the signs this family is part of one of those communities.
Everybody not picking up on the fact that dad said he picked the 17 year olds husband ! She definitely grew up in a independent Baptist like environment like the duggers he is picking her husband and treating her like an infant! Kara needs a wellness check and that Father should be on a watchlist!
He specifically said 'I couldn't have picked a better " meaning.. 'if I had picked'. Therefore, she picked the boy. No doubt however Dad had right of veto...
@@newgabe09 I believe he did pick because I can use that same sentence for something I picked myself. ( I went to the kennel and got my cat fluffy , I couldn't have picked a better cat.) That is still saying I picked it . If he had said I couldn't have picked better (myself) maybe he didn't pick. Based on certain things said In the video I think they are a certain type of extreme Christian
she will wake up soon and regret it. If she 'graduated' HGS already, no doubt it was homeschool, and she is in a religious college. Having no life at all before you get married...it's child abuse!
Why are they letting these children play dress up. Stop them from. Getting married. Wait 5 yes. See if they want the same partners. Work .apt living. Expense. Get real parents
Dads being strict in his daughter’s love life is gross and creepy. I don’t care who comes after me for this, but he has no right and it’s just gross. This includes the dress she’s going to wear, because her body is NOT his property, and that’s how he’s acting. It’s gross. Esp having her get married so young.
I think it's one thing to say what she should and shouldn't wear while she's "under your household," but once you say yes to giving her away, what she wears is not your choice. You can't choose her wedding dress!
People are entitled to their different beliefs and boundaries and there's nothing wrong with a father not wanting his daughter to show off a lot of skin. In fact it would be creepy if he did want her to show a lot of skin.
It's creepy that he is allowing her to marry, and clearly is a control freak. He is ready to get her out of his house. Somebody else pay for her braces.
@@everlasting9292 well, that's after the wedding. He doesn't want her to be on parade to anyone else but himself and his rules. Creep meter is bursting!
19, and dumbest mistake ever. I could have been a drug addict wild child, and that would have been more forgiven. It stunted everything and I didn't get to live life until the children were grown. Just say NO to teen marriage!
So that first girl was considered old enough to marry, have sex and pop out a couple of babies..... But not old enough to choose her own clothing? WHERE IS THE LOGIC I BEG OF YOU?! O.o And the dresses she did prefer were very tasteful and still pretty damn conservative...
@@susangrottke8343 Yeah I know, but she was choosing her bridal gown, which would then have been followed by consummating the marriage on the wedding night and potentially kids....
Dads having so much to say about their daughter’s body is creepy AF! And no 17yr old should be getting married unless she’s got a very short life ahead due to a terminal illness. Way too young. Mind you you couldn’t have made me understand that when I was 17 if I’d wanted to get married
I got married at 19 because my mother did. Now at 62, I realize that I kind of railroaded my boyfirend into it. 31 miserable years later, we finally divorced. I have 5 wonderful children and 6 grandchildren which makes the misery worthwhile to me, but I regret the pain they knew growing up. I tell every girl now not to get married before they are educated, have a way to support themselves, have figured out who they are when they are alone. And divorce is worth considering when you are living in an abusive situation.
Very true , the wedding is just one short day and it is also the groom's day just as much as the bride. It is what comes after the wedding that is the most important, if they put the same effort that was put in the wedding into the marriage wonder what the divorce rates would be
Its probably the fathers job to find someone to marry his daughter , so that he knows she will be taken care of ..he probably also has numerious other wives in his household ..
Last bride's budget was either 1000 or 2000 dollars . . . Bride mentioned 2K ! Can that be called a lack of cash flow ? I find it disrespectful that the budget was constantly referred to in a negative way. . . . The assistant helping the bride needs to go in for extra training, to be taught about showing respect and not constantly making disparaging remarks about the budget and asking the bride to up her budget.
Really bothers me when these young girls say they need a dress to make them feel grown up. It doesn’t get anymore grown up than committing to marriage. Marriage is hard enough , these girls act like kids!! This looks a serious stuff no wonder divorce is so high.
Pretty sure Kara is in a cult - maybe Amish or something…. The poor girl’s all consenting, but she doesn’t know that it’s weird and wrong. They often marry their kids to each other not for love, but for some kind of other gain for themselves, like joining two companies together because the two families are now joined. Something like that.
Amish??? The Amish don't even wear white to marry. Now, they do appear to be part of a fringe Christian denomination. "I picked a great young man for her", and "the dip at the chest is bothersome" says the father...and everyone else nods. The girl was SIXTEEN when she started courting. SIXTEEN! Nobody finds THAT objectionable? This is not the Middle Ages!
My sister was engaged at 16 to a 21 year old and married right out of high school. I on the other hand our parents chased every single guy off so now 40 and have never been married. I habent brought a guy home to meet them in 20 years.
In some religious communities the children are considered the Father's property and reserves the right to oversee His household according to Biblical instructions. The Father wants to present His daughter as a pure and treasured gift to be given to her husband. One might not agree with it, but more Father's need to step up be involved in their daughter's lives. Maybe not be so purest, and allow the daughter to choose HER dress. It's obvious the young woman knows what modesty is.
@@DannaK1207If you're interrupting the Bible ( which was written in a different scary time for women) to justify that Father's have ownership of their daughters or that they are property please leave whatever cult pushing that narrative! Women and girls are not slaves or property. It would be like saying well the Bible does say you can stone people to death or keep slaves so it's just their belief 👀 Um hello FBI ?
" I don't think this is your dream dress." is a paradoxon. I really hope my girls understand that when I am getting married. U r there to live the moment with me, to be present and be my emotional support. Not to tell me what you think is my perfect fit.
Just to add a different perspective; young marriage can be devastating for some, but an absolute blessing to others... Myself and my husband met at 16 and married at 20 (no children). 8 years on and its still the best decision i've ever made. Its not for everyone, but as hard as it is to believe, we were ready. Due to family circumstances/responsibilities, we both matured quicker than average. We undertook pre-marriage conselling, planned out our future, and understood the necessity to allow eachother to grow. When we got married, I vowed to marry not just the man before me then, but also the man he would later become. I wouldn't want 20 year old me, to be the same as 30 year old me or 40, or 50, or 60 etc. It has been the biggest blessing to find my life partner so young. In my experience, the key to a successful marriage, is to simply keep growing up together, no matter the age you start from 😊
I met my husband at 16 he was 19 got engaged at 17 got married at 18 and had my daughter at 19. I was married for 30 years until he died he wasn't the best but I did everything for my 4 kids to stay together. This age is way to young especially in these days back in my day people got married young. My mother got married at 19, my daughter got married at 19 all of us did not have good husbands Im the only one who didn't get a divorce my mom amd daughter got divorced because they all the husbands cheated.
@@carly4082 back then they got married younger. I got married at 18 that's legal. He was away at college I was living at home with my mom going to school then college, until we got married that was the rules.
Angels5990. Thank you for sharing your beautiful love story and I am sorry for your loss. I think it's sad that so many women are looking down on the fact a girl wants to get married and have a family at a young age but they are encouraged when they want to go out and party have good times and sleep around with a bunch of different men. To me it's just a warp ideology to have.
In this day and age, 19 is much too young to get married, both for males and females. For one thing, we're living much, much longer. Men and females are expected to do so much more "with" and "of" their lives. Gender roles, and age-appropriateness are not as predetermined, so if girl wants to remain unmarried, become a mechanic, open a Harley Davidson shop, and ride around the world digging wells in remote locations and vlogging about her adventures, she can. There are so many more "life styles" to choose from! Another thing, people in their mid-20s are no longer thought of as full adults. Entering into an agreement that is supposed to be life-long when one has not fully considered all the options one has in front, is not advisable. I'm sad to hear of those young marriages in your family not working and hope all of you have found your own inner strength and created a good environment for yourselves. We do not need spouses (or children, or parents, or blood relatives) in order to have a happy life. Joy, peace, contentment, and purpose can be found in so many places!
Everyone is saying clickbait, but is the title telling us the truth that they couldn’t air on the show…? The whole situation screamed ick. Dad should be investigated…
I always pause after I've seen a bit on youtube videos and I'm only at the 1:23 mark and I can tell this family is cultish and just ick. Now to watch the rest but not expecting to feel any better once I've seen more of them.
People can express their views but at the end the BRIDE gets to choose what she wants. I knew what I wanted back in 1975 - went to the Pronuptia shop and explained what I wanted - first and only dress I tried on - no frilly lace, no bling and no bosoms spilling out - very classy.
I have friends. At the time, their daughter and her bf were 18. They didn't want her to have sex before marriage, so they got married. It ended horribly.
It’s a little creepy that Daddy decides what dress his daughter wears on her wedding day. I mean when it’s time for the I do’s are the bride and groom going to have to tell the minister to hang on for a sec while they ask their mommy and daddy if it’s okay? I certainly hope the groom is also young, otherwise hubby and daddy should be on that list that says keep away from minors.
The title says shes 16. The girl herself in the video says shes 17 and the lady told ryan that shes 19😂 like how old is she really id hate to play telaphone with these people 😂
I think most brides on these shows are more focused on their look and very few consider the fact that if it’s a church wedding a little modesty would not go amiss. By all means have a glam dress but sheer panels on the bodice, cut low at the front to accentuate the cleavage? I think these girls are all about the look and not the location. I’m sure that some will think me prudish but to me respect and a little modesty are very important in a church setting.
I think you're overestimating the amount of people that get married in a church these days. I'm 35 so have just finished a solid decade+ of attending multiple weddings a year. 2 were in a church, both Catholic. That's it. Beaches, parks, homes, and designated venues are where people get married. One of the church weddings they actually got married on a farm and then 6 months later had the church wedding to appease the groom's father.
@@Secretagent71114 yes you could be right, also I don’t know where your from but I’m English and a lot of ceremonies are still held in churches although that seems to be changing.
@yvonnescholey8972 Yup, American here. We are definitely moving away from church weddings and religion generally. I even have a license to perform marriages from my state (cost me $10) because so many of my friends just wanted someone to sign the papers at their house etc. I married one of my friends and her husband in the parking lot of a Chinese restaurant while they waited for their take out 😄
@@Secretagent71114 o that’s so sad. I married my husband at 23 and we have been married for almost 39 years. Some of our best memories were being married in church with our family and friends there. I guess times really have changed😔
Id be choosing to get my 17 year old to the school bus n time. You are legally a child until 18 yet the brain isn't fully developed until 21. Dad's creepy.
Don’t know much about the FLDS; but I do know a lot about the LDS, and I can say if that dad is LDS he ain’t anything like the others I know. He’s a whole different breed for sure 😆
If a taliban man married a 16 year old with her father being happy for her CNN would go and make a depressing documentary with sad music in the background Yet here comic music is played and everything is considered sweet and lovely Back in east it’s marriage between two families and economic conditions drive such marriages to secure security and financial and sex is not in the picture till the girl is mature enough and understands
I don’t understand why some of the dads, especially this one, try so hard to cover up their daughters when a few hours after they wear that same dress, they are going to be having sex on their wedding night!!!! Covering her up is pointless!!!! It’s infuriating 😡🤬
I know that’s their life but I think it’s disgusting to watch the dad tell his daughter what to wear for her wedding day and why would he allow her to get married at 17 years old
