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1960s Baby Boomers Were Raised Like Robots 

David Hoffman
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I grew up in the 1940s and 1950s. I became a documentary filmmaker when I was just 22 years old so by the time I got a grant from PBS to make a television series on the 1960s titled Making Sense of the Sixties (1990), I had been doing documentary interviews for a very long time. This is a clip from an episode of that series.
When people say that the 1950s were easier than today, the 1950s may have been easier for certain groups of people. For example the economy was strong, unemployment was low, and the middle class was expanding. Also the post-World War II era brought about a sense of stability and prosperity for many Americans.
Economic prosperity: The 1950s were a time of economic growth and stability in the United States. The post-World War II boom led to low unemployment rates, a rising middle class and a sense of financial security for many Americans.
Simpler lifestyle: Compared to today the 1950s were a simpler time in terms of technology and media. People didn't have smartphones, social media or constant access to news and information. This may have made it easier to disconnect and focus on family, friends and leisure activities.
Social norms: In the 1950s there were more clearly defined gender roles and expectations for behavior. This may have provided a sense of structure and stability for some people.
The 1950s have been described by some of my commentators and by my team in this clip as a socially uptight time period due to the strict social norms and expectations that existed during that era. Here are a few examples:
Gender roles: The 1950s were characterized by rigid gender roles with men expected to be breadwinners and women expected to be homemakers. Women who pursued careers or wanted more independence were often stigmatized and marginalized.
Conformity: The post-World War II era brought about a desire for conformity and a rejection of anything seen as "un-American." This led to a culture of uniformity and homogeneity, with little room for individual expression or diversity.
Sexual repression: The 1950s were a time of sexual conservatism, with premarital sex, homosexuality, and other non-heteronormative behaviors stigmatized and often criminalized. This led to a culture of sexual repression and secrecy, which could be suffocating for many people.
Racism and discrimination: Despite the economic prosperity of the 1950s, many people of color faced discrimination and prejudice on a daily basis. Segregation was still in place in many parts of the country, and the civil rights movement was just beginning to gain traction.
In many ways Americans have more freedom today than they did in the 1950s.
Civil rights: In the 1950s segregation and discrimination were still prevalent, particularly for people of color. Since then, significant progress has been made in advancing civil rights and ensuring equal treatment under the law.
Women's rights: Women in the 1950s were expected to conform to strict gender roles and had limited opportunities for education and career advancement. Today, women have greater access to education, career opportunities, and reproductive rights.
The 1950s were a time of intense stigma and discrimination against gays with homosexuality often criminalized and stigmatized.
Freedom of expression: While the 1950s were characterized by conformity and a rejection of anything seen as "un-American," today's society is generally more accepting of diverse opinions, beliefs, and lifestyles. Social media and the internet have provided greater platforms for free expression and the sharing of ideas.
Prior to my series, there had been a series on PBS called Eyes On The Prize that looked at the civil rights movement during that time. My challenge was to make a series that helped the teenage and early 20s children of those who grew up during these times, the so-called silent generation and the baby boomers, to understand what their parents had gone through. I decided to interview for the most part ordinary Americans and historians - experts - who had spent their time studying this era. The style of my interviews was to let people tell the stories of their lives their ways.
One of the main ways that the "rules" from the 1950s were communicated to kids and teenagers was at school and through educational films like the ones presented. It was here that I found rules stated in obvious and subtle ways that matched what most of the people I interviewed remembered from that time.
Based on what I heard from the interviews and from the historians, my team and I concluded that it was largely the experiences that kids had in the 1950s that created many of the social and some of the political events that took place in the 1960s. Other segments from the series are on my RU-vid channel. I do hope you enjoy this and find it thought-provoking.

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@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker
@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker Месяц назад
Here is another moment where 1950s parents respond - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KUorVXJ8MZE.html
@starduck8014
@starduck8014 Месяц назад
Have a lovely day David XX
@beckythornton6470
@beckythornton6470 Месяц назад
Unlike the shining examples of maturity and intelligence we see so often today. Ha Yes many of us raised like pets or something. Food, shelter and med care. But not truly a valued part of family. Then my peers grow up and repeat neglect and poor parenting skills with their kids. Then the next ones and the next....we need to TEACH parenting in school. Everything depends upon it.
@floresgt3
@floresgt3 Месяц назад
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😮😮😮😮😢
@Wenyi108
@Wenyi108 Месяц назад
Pets should also be a valued part of the family ​@@beckythornton6470
@RobertHecht-hi6li
@RobertHecht-hi6li Месяц назад
I was taught to be kind,respectful and to listen to others before responding...and,to be responsible for myne actions. I was shown love,affection and myne imagination was encouraged for growth. I think it came down to the parenting,and,the quality of their own parenting. It was a great time to be raised.​@beckythornton6470
@ArtemisMac
@ArtemisMac Месяц назад
Anytime my mother asked why as a child, she was hit across the face with a wooden shoe. Yet she never took that out on her own children. She was a Saint. RIP mom.
@phoenixzappa7366
@phoenixzappa7366 Месяц назад
A clog?
@ArtemisMac
@ArtemisMac Месяц назад
@@phoenixzappa7366 Yes, unfortunately
@pickledblowfish6178
@pickledblowfish6178 Месяц назад
Remember how mother didn't let grandma's anger affect her. It worked.
@dimaknopf
@dimaknopf Месяц назад
I guess Grandma and Grandpa will be taking care of themselves in the nursing home.
@scapegoat1313
@scapegoat1313 Месяц назад
My parents knew the art of doling out a quality ass beating. Even my granny wouldn't think twice about blistering your ass if need be. She was old-school enough she'd make you pick out your own switch, but her go-to was a vintage leather belt with a heavy brass buckle. One time my brother and I got into a pretty good fist fight to the point she was wearing herself out from full-on beating the hell out of us with the belt, but it didn't even phase us. So, since putting the leather to our ass didn't work, she put the brass to our skulls and that finally got our attention. Sincerely, God bless her soul. But I'm at least glad she left before she had to witness the way things have gone wrong
@caroh3158
@caroh3158 Месяц назад
My mother , 73, is a boomer and she said she was never allowed to speak at the dinner table. Later when visiting my grandpa as kids, he saw how we were freely talking about our day at the table and apologized to my mom. He said : “ How bad was I to not let my children express themselves” He felt ashamed but it was also the way he was raised in the 1930s .
@nekad2000
@nekad2000 Месяц назад
Compare the pride people had in those days to now. They had something we do not because of the way kids were raise, but we can go on thinking we're enlightened and superior if it makes us feel good.
@Melior_Traiano
@Melior_Traiano Месяц назад
My grandfather was told that men don't cry. He used to pick me up from school and one day on the drive back he told me that it is unnatural not to cry, even for men and saying otherwise is simply inhumane.
@cgilbert210
@cgilbert210 Месяц назад
Awww, at least he apologized to her.
@EldishRinger
@EldishRinger Месяц назад
​@@nekad2000Terrible bait
@thelthrythquezada8397
@thelthrythquezada8397 Месяц назад
That cycle is brutal.
@megnakamura7652
@megnakamura7652 18 дней назад
Boomer here, “ stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about” was is a phrase I heard throughout my childhood.
@johncrichter
@johncrichter 13 дней назад
I was born in the late 90s and that was the bane of shopping trips with my mom. I understand exactly what they’re speaking on. My mom used to smack the mess out of me for “back talk”. Until doctors told them that I had a naturally high intellect and stopping me from asking question would stunt my growth. Thank god for those doctors.
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry 13 дней назад
Millennial here. And I've been guilty of using that phrase in my own home. However, I only apply it when it's a tantrum or in reply to a verbal scolding bc they were being cruel to a sibling. I think there's times to cry and when those times are, kids should be allowed to.....just not some rage crying tantrum. Hell maybe I shouldn't be using it at all though. With my own folks my "why's" were generally met with either "bc I said so" or "to make you ask questions (a sarcastic but still dismissing answer). At least I wasn't physically punished for my why's like some tho 😢
@asuna932
@asuna932 11 дней назад
Me too.
@asuna932
@asuna932 11 дней назад
​@@AshenWolfe-xh3ry When I was a teen I started to make come backs like when I asked "why" and they said "because I say so" or "just because". I say to this day "that"s not an answer". I had my share of been hitt as well.
@dwightsunn3937
@dwightsunn3937 9 дней назад
how it should be
@EthanIsNotMyName
@EthanIsNotMyName 11 дней назад
This is why my mum taught me to question everything. EVERYTHING. She told me that I needed to question even her. She taught me to not follow everything blindly, even things she told me to do. She taught me to ask "Why?" and I'm very grateful for that.
@BoyMama87
@BoyMama87 3 дня назад
Love this!! She sounds like a great mother!
@Kai_Stone
@Kai_Stone 3 дня назад
Nah being way too over opinionated is bad too. Sounds like your mom was ok being a doormat
@sarathomas8499
@sarathomas8499 День назад
Even my mom taught me this
@traceylennon1204
@traceylennon1204 19 часов назад
She was an awesome mom!!
@Notyourgirl253
@Notyourgirl253 Месяц назад
My boomer mother asked me why I talked to my kids like they could understand me, why I hugged them so much, why I gave them choices… she said I’d make them weird. Now that my oldest two are grown, I couldn’t be more proud. I’m strict, I taught them respect… but, I always treated them like developing humans.
@nekad2000
@nekad2000 Месяц назад
It's amazing that thousands of generations of human beings developed into adults and did all kinds of amazing things. And we think that our way now is the ultimate enlightened way to do things. Have you seen how society turned out? I disagree.
@Houndoomgirl77
@Houndoomgirl77 Месяц назад
​@@nekad2000You mean the society built and controlled by boomers
@endigosun
@endigosun Месяц назад
@@nekad2000 I agree with you. It’s so disheartening how ppl come on here to share their “abuse stories” like it was THE RULE back then and not the exception. Those were really great times for many! 👍🏽
@michaelregis1015
@michaelregis1015 Месяц назад
​​​​@@nekad2000"For thousands and thousands and tens of thousands of years, our economies worldwide operated with slavery and then you come along and want to change ish? What's the matter with you? What makes you think your way of doing things is enlightened? Can you see how society has turned out? I disagree?"
@michaelregis1015
@michaelregis1015 Месяц назад
​​​​@@endigosunyou are quite literally the epitome of "I got spanked and I turned out fine". Guess was the rule back then in those time? Judging from your profile pic, as a black woman, you and I (as a black man) should know that from how people used to do things back then that thingz ain't always that great, so stop looking in the past through rose-tented lenses. Actually critically judge the world and its conditions by its merits and the outcomes it produced using evidence and ethics and not just by an appeal to tradition fallacy.
@billyb7852
@billyb7852 Месяц назад
My dad used to say “my father hit me and I turned out fine” - man, you had four kids and none of them talk to you anymore. Your father spanked you with his hand, you hospitalised me with your belt.
@danielponiatowski7368
@danielponiatowski7368 Месяц назад
i got a razor strop and that guy didnt hold back, didnt get it all the time, maybe only a couple of times a year but the threat was always there and a backhand that sent you flying wasnt unusual. he was an unhappy man i think and he went through the war as a kid, saw and experienced some bad shit. as a result you were always on edge and he could turn on you for no reason. never had a conversation with the guy, anything you said was stupid and my middle name was useless apparently, i was outa there at 15 and travelled 3000 miles to the other side of the country.
@JohnSmith-zw8vp
@JohnSmith-zw8vp Месяц назад
@@danielponiatowski7368 I can't stand when people on here romanticize and wax nostalgia about that crap. Because people who are like that about hitting kids are probably also like that towards their spouse and/or pets to "keep them in line".
@envymosthated3037
@envymosthated3037 Месяц назад
My dad say the same to thing and wonder why we don’t talk to them both like no and my anxiety goes through the roof when I’m around them I’m 32 and still terrified to say the wrong things around them 😩
@kristinas7899
@kristinas7899 Месяц назад
No. We are both running when our mother needs something, seems I missed that part to start to hate her. My brother would never hit his daughter, but we never were mad at our mother, cause of hitting us.
@Breaktheatm
@Breaktheatm Месяц назад
I’m glad I didn’t have a father 😂 one parent is enough my momma use to punch me into a wall
@HulkIncredible81
@HulkIncredible81 16 дней назад
My dad was beaten at school by nuns because he was left handed. He was forced to become ambidextrous in order to not get beat. At home, when one of his 4 siblings did something bad, he was beaten because he was the oldest. Everyone praises the home life from back then but that must be the people that already live a good life now and don't have to worry about anything but culture wars
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry 13 дней назад
Same thing with my ex-MIL with the Catholic school stuff.
@HulkIncredible81
@HulkIncredible81 12 дней назад
@@AshenWolfe-xh3ry My dad grew up Southern Baptist and left the church as soon as he was old enough
@CWmama1821
@CWmama1821 10 дней назад
My uncle is left-handed, and he would tell us horror stories of what it was like when he was in school. The teachers would smack him if he used his left hand, and then one day, they tried to tie his left arm down to his side. When he and my dad got home from school, they told their parents what happened, and my grandfather went to that school and went off on the teachers and principal. My grandparents took my dad and uncle out of that school and put them in a better one.
@HulkIncredible81
@HulkIncredible81 10 дней назад
@@CWmama1821 Religious my anus...this teachers and nuns hated their own lives so they took it out on the kids and hid behind a bible to do it. I'm glad he got taken out and went on to live a hopefully healthy life. Unfortunately my Dad's dad kept him in there and doubled down on the abuse when he got home. His dad was deplorable
@CWmama1821
@CWmama1821 10 дней назад
@HulkIncredible81 so true. Thankfully, both my dad and uncle have gone on to have decent lives after all that. I'm really glad that my grandparents saw that what was going on at that school was child abuse. I'm so sorry to hear that unfortunately it wasn't the same for your dad, that's horrible 😔
@cynthiaivers1708
@cynthiaivers1708 16 дней назад
I'm a Boomer and was raised completely opposite. I had a wonderful childhood and remained very close to my parents until they passed.
@cristinafultz4572
@cristinafultz4572 2 дня назад
Well, lucky you
@NicEeEe843
@NicEeEe843 Месяц назад
Teaching people not to question things is probably the most dangerous thing ever lol
@MeMe-wy3vr
@MeMe-wy3vr Месяц назад
For real
@robertsteinbach7325
@robertsteinbach7325 Месяц назад
Look where it got an entire generation. Either they accept everything on cable TV as true or they question everything, including things know nothing about.
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.
@tinytoychihuahua7306
@tinytoychihuahua7306 Месяц назад
@@colorsforhealing that’s a highly situational example; I think what this comment was referring to wasn’t immediate dangers like that, where someone’s tone would, in most cases, be enough to get across the urgency of the situation- though, for whatever reason, it wasn’t here- but rather, in a broader sense, not taking everything at face value. This argument assumes that all adults automatically have all children’s best interests at heart. Trust me, they don’t. If an adult is telling a child to do something that they know is wrong, or that makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable, it’s very important that the child be able to question whether this adult is really a safe person to be around, something which, as much as we’d like to forget it, isn’t always a given. And besides, children who aren’t taught to question what they’re told tend to grow into adults who still struggle with doing so; that’s what happens when you don’t teach your children important life skills, like how to discern whether a command is reasonable- like, say, someone shouting at you to get away from a rabid dog- or unreasonable, like your boss telling you to fudge the numbers on your company’s annual report, or a cult leader telling you basically anything. Blind obedience might be convenient for the parents in the short term, but in the long term, it can be far more dangerous for their children than teaching them to think critically and have good judgement would be. Children don’t need blind obedience; they need common sense.
@lordnokia4222
@lordnokia4222 Месяц назад
Yup. You'd end up with America, lol
@jojolearns
@jojolearns Месяц назад
“I was raised that way and I turned out fine” is the number 1 things said by people who did not in fact turn out fine.
@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker
@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker Месяц назад
In my experience, having interviewed hundreds of baby boomer generation people, you are absolutely correct. David Hoffman filmmaker
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.
@oldman-zr2ru
@oldman-zr2ru Месяц назад
I was raised that way and I turned out fine. I wasn't just beaten, my dad always told me why he was doing it. And "quit crying or I'll give you something to cry about" was heard a lot around my house. Was I a perfect kid. Hell no. Was I a perfect dad? Nope. That's the thing about life, there is no operators manual for children except maybe the Bible. You learn as you go. The first child is always the toughest, the next is a bit easier and the third is the easiest. But every child is different and each had their attributes and faults as well as the parents. It's all a learning experience.
@DJ-ov2it
@DJ-ov2it Месяц назад
"I turned out fine" "except maybe the bible"​@@oldman-zr2ru
@oldman-zr2ru
@oldman-zr2ru Месяц назад
@@DJ-ov2it Don't tell me you're one of those people who thinks the universe poofed itself into existence for no reason. That's the real fairytale.
@LydiaLadea
@LydiaLadea 14 дней назад
My grandma is 85, and she makes me believe that she thinks I should be my brother's servant. If we are fighting she'll take his side and say that I shouldn't be angry because I am a girl and I people would think I am mad. She says that I should look after my brother and my brother should learn to make the rules in his household. And I am always the one to do the chores, no matter how small they were. Imagine how she was raised if 85 years later, she still believes all of these things. Good thing she only had sons, or else a girl would be in therapy for years
@hiddenhand6973
@hiddenhand6973 5 дней назад
Wowww my MIL was raised the same way. She’s 75ish.
@RedNicole22
@RedNicole22 4 дня назад
My mom was treated badly for being a girl too. She was a mental case her entire life.
@LydiaLadea
@LydiaLadea 4 дня назад
@@RedNicole22 I am sorry for her. Hope she is doing better now
@LydiaLadea
@LydiaLadea 4 дня назад
@@hiddenhand6973 how do you stand her? I need advice cause in about 4 years I'll be moving in with her if she hasn't died yet because she lives in the Capital and I will have to go there for college.
@LydiaLadea
@LydiaLadea 4 дня назад
@@hiddenhand6973 how do you stand her? I need advice cause in about 4 years I'll be moving in with her if she hasn't died yet because she lives in the Capital and I will have to go there for college.
@OddPoodle
@OddPoodle 17 дней назад
I was raised by my boomer grandmother, who had narcissistic personality disorder. My mother ended up having borderline personality disorder. I ended up with severe PTSD and anxiety from all of it. The cycle of abuse goes on and on until somebody finally decides to break it. They hate my guts for it, and I no longer speak to either of them, but I decided to break it.
@shaffergirl1732
@shaffergirl1732 Месяц назад
“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” was a famous line. When I was a 7yo, I told my mom I was bored. She made me clean out a closet. I don’t remember being hugged or told that I was loved. I remember being told, “you don’t know what a burden you are”. We were expected to be perfect, emotionless, and to work hard at everything we were told to do.
@KendraNikole
@KendraNikole Месяц назад
I'm sorry you went through that! 🥺❤️
@hobomike6935
@hobomike6935 Месяц назад
Sounds like your parents raised a model working-class employee for the system to exploit, instead of a human with imperfections and personal interests that exist outside of “spend your life tasking to make someone you’ll never meet rich.”
@SENSEF
@SENSEF Месяц назад
Millennial here - SAME.
@karentucker2161
@karentucker2161 Месяц назад
Mine didn't do that last part. I at least knew mine lived me. If you're bored, you got something to do or you found something to do which isn't a bad thing at all.
@haist1536
@haist1536 Месяц назад
My mom does that to me now and since I could remember
@pam112061
@pam112061 Месяц назад
I was born in the 60s to parents who were born in the 20s. They were loving and kind and told me and my sister we could be anything we wanted . Encouraged us to be compassionate but to not take any crap from people. My dad even changed diapers and took care of us as he would let my mom go on trips with her friends . He was a truly modern man. He would be 102 this year if he was still alive. Mom is alive and will be 97 next month.
@MLBlue30
@MLBlue30 Месяц назад
Thats great. You were infinitely lucky. I hope they had a wonderful exciting relationship with each other. They have bravery and tenderness, humility and empathy, and strength of character. These are so sorely lacking in these times.
@pam112061
@pam112061 Месяц назад
@@MLBlue30 they had a wonderful relationship which sadly ended just shy of 38 years. Daddy had heart issues and many heart attacks before dying in 1986 when he was only 63. I will be 63 this year so it will be a bit of a heartache knowing he died with so much more life to live. Mom has dementia so its hard. I certainly know I was blessed to have the parents I did and hearing horror stories about some People's childhoods makes me really appreciative but sad that there are actually bad parents in the world. My parents tried for 12 years to have children so they really showed me and my sister an abundance of love, affection and just the joy they felt about finally being parents. I have three adult children and ten grandchildren - my kids are really good parents, much better than I was honestly. It is like the Jackie Kennedy saying: "If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much." I grew up near Ethel Kennedy and her kids and I will say after meeting some of them - and also John Jr....Jackie did an astounding job of parenting. Ethel - eh, not so much, sadly.
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.
@samanthafreesi471
@samanthafreesi471 Месяц назад
Lucky!!!
@Frankmaui67
@Frankmaui67 Месяц назад
@@pam112061 awesome story
@Danjan1208
@Danjan1208 9 дней назад
My parents are boomers, they never once described anything like this. It doesn’t matter what era people come from, there are good parents and bad parents, people with good childhood experiences and people with bad experiences.
@WobblesandBean
@WobblesandBean 8 дней назад
My mother is a boomer, and my childhood left me with PTSD. She only cared about appearances, we had to play the part of the perfect family in public so she would look good, but behind closed doors it was a nightmare. Between her constant verbal abuse and my narcissist father's physical abuse, there wasn't a single day that went by that didn't involve a major altercation. Home felt like a prison. Both my sister and I made attempts to end things. When we did, we were forbidden to go to therapy because "we'd just talk about what a bad mother she is". To this day, she still refuses to acknowledge that she was a bad mother to us growing up. Her ego matters more to her than the well-being of her own children.
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650 2 часа назад
Yeah if you need to wast money on therapy that bad you can deal with that nonsense when you have your own money. As someone who has been forced to spend money I don’t even have on shrinks this comment is about as insane as your average capitalist suicide ideologist will get. This is why you raise your kids to understand what depression is. A chemical process.
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650 2 часа назад
Yeah not really but it is why society is in a cycle of constant collapse
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650
@uncertaintytoworldpeace3650 2 часа назад
Fun fact: If there were no one like you the world would be free from mental illness.
@jlguttman44
@jlguttman44 Месяц назад
My parents are boomers and they definitely did not control their emotions when raising us. To this day it’s like interacting with mean children. They take responsibility for nothing- everything is everyone else’s fault.
@makvande576
@makvande576 Месяц назад
Don't you just love the boomer tantrum too? ME BOOM BOOM ME YELL ME GO BREAK THINGS THAT NOT MINE
@SuperCowboyJesus
@SuperCowboyJesus Месяц назад
Same. Took the parents to counciling and they were told they need to take a course to learn how to act right. Very imature for being 60 years old.
@jkd2817
@jkd2817 Месяц назад
So true!!
@jromanindahouse
@jromanindahouse Месяц назад
Then they raise you not to express yourself...but the youngest runs all over them and then ur parents fall apart and ask why aren't you like your older siblings who were destroyed lmfao no balance
@alexroberts3706
@alexroberts3706 Месяц назад
My dad was adopted by baby boomers in the late 70s early 80s, my grandfather was built different, he built houses all over Georgia. But all he brought to work was a pack of crackers and drink a bottle of water every day til he got home for dinner. But regardless, you dare not question anything or share your true feelings on certain subject matter , rubbed off on my dad when I was coming up
@dursty3226
@dursty3226 Месяц назад
ohhhhh so this THIS is why so many older people think asking them "why" is a challenge to their authority.
@reid9584
@reid9584 Месяц назад
BECAUSE I SAID SO TWERP
@velvetbees
@velvetbees Месяц назад
Our parents grew up in the Great Depression and endure WWII. "Stop crying or I will give you something to cry about." "I'm not going to mollycoddle you." And my mother hated us complaining. She had no sense of proportion of hurt feelings because she had to cram her feelings to survive all that. I have no good memories of her.
@user-ko7bb5kh4i
@user-ko7bb5kh4i Месяц назад
Yes! I am 60 years old, and my mother still treats me like I was ten years old. You can't treat a 60 year old woman who is a mother, grandmother, and going through menopause like a kid. It's absurd! Asinine!
@user-ko7bb5kh4i
@user-ko7bb5kh4i Месяц назад
​@velvetbees I understand.
@maralfniqle5092
@maralfniqle5092 Месяц назад
It depends who is asking and in what manner one is asking.
@ColaSpandex
@ColaSpandex 12 дней назад
I've never seen my dad shed a tear. Not once. I've seen him angry but even then he clamps his jaw. A couple of my kids really struggle to contain their emotions and impulses and it gets them into all kinds of trouble. Balance and moderation are probably the healthiest approach.
@GrootManEiniqua
@GrootManEiniqua 18 дней назад
Sounds like they were raised by narcissists.
@inquisitionagent9052
@inquisitionagent9052 16 дней назад
Bingo
@AuditorMadness
@AuditorMadness 10 дней назад
and we were raised obsessed with labels
@Anana333Ita
@Anana333Ita 7 дней назад
Most the world was.
@Thegingerbreadm4n
@Thegingerbreadm4n 5 дней назад
sounds like they were raised by sociopaths
@marccru
@marccru 3 дня назад
@@Thegingerbreadm4n Thats Islam
@macpony2571780
@macpony2571780 Месяц назад
The school tried to get my mother to put me on pills because I was hyper; she said the pills turned me into a zombie and she stopped giving them to me. thank God.
@Otakutunes1
@Otakutunes1 Месяц назад
Same but my mom kept me on the crap. Your mom helped you dodge a bullet c
@AlexKellogg-pv4qk
@AlexKellogg-pv4qk Месяц назад
They tried twice for me and looking back…. I despise the school even more I have issues just like everyone else, but I was a straight A student. Makes me sick to even imagine how destroyed my brain would be 26 years later if I took Ritalin or something like that. I have sincere trouble seeing anything truly good about this world we live in. Brainwashed doesn’t even begin to describe it. Everyone trying to tell other people what to do, putting money before everything. Sickening
@Michd0417
@Michd0417 Месяц назад
Thank goodness ❤
@Weedkilla1993
@Weedkilla1993 Месяц назад
​​@@Otakutunes1same, plus she got angry when I didn't behave like a robot and didn't do as command since my school's health-dean said it wasn't normal, so she started to threaten me to put me in a crazy-home for youngsters .. 👀 I'm glad I quit that shit on my own terms.. Know that in the end, you're still the only one truly responsable for your own health .. 🤷‍♂️ 💪💛 🙏🧘‍♂️
@HumphreyPloughjogger-tv3ln
@HumphreyPloughjogger-tv3ln Месяц назад
That happened to me because of ADHD. It's disgusting how many schools could do that, even today or less than ten years ago when I was growing up.
@zachary1417
@zachary1417 Месяц назад
My grandmother used to hate that I had so many ideas and opinions. She would smack me and say children are to be seen, not heard. And I would get so mad and talk right back to her. She always told my mom I was a spoiled little brat. But now I’m 26 and getting married, I can’t wait to hear my children’s ideas and opinions because children ask the best questions.
@ajrwilde14
@ajrwilde14 Месяц назад
Good for you x
@bigc473
@bigc473 Месяц назад
I think people like your grandma acted so because they couldn't deal with an entire upbringing where adulta talked down; being a woman who men always talked down to; and then finally, when as an elder, it's finally your time to be queen, younger women are your equal is just a reminder that your whole life you've been looking forward to a sort of "time in the sun" that you never get.
@charleschadwick2586
@charleschadwick2586 Месяц назад
And grandma don’t get to enjoy your kids.
@katherinethegreat
@katherinethegreat Месяц назад
​@@bigc473Very insightful & I resemble that comment. You are spot on!
@AnimeFridays
@AnimeFridays Месяц назад
Yeah It's like viewing scenarios from a completely different perspective since the child based mindset is so much different than an adults mindset
@crosion5
@crosion5 18 дней назад
Broadsweeping generalizations like this only cause harm. There were great parents back then, as there are today. And there were horrible parents back then, just as there are today.
@madimakes
@madimakes 7 дней назад
Yes…clicks, at what cost?
@martianhighminder4539
@martianhighminder4539 6 дней назад
It's a counter-narrative to the idea that 'the good old days' were somehow better in how people behaved and the people it produced, and our present society is somehow a fall from that. And it's important to be aware of, because the former untrue sentiment has had decades of reinforcement through TV, movies, and other idealized media from past decades.
@B_K69
@B_K69 5 дней назад
@@martianhighminder4539 for many many people it was far better back in those days. For some it is far better today. No one answer is true. You are as wrong as the people you are calling out.
@martianhighminder4539
@martianhighminder4539 5 дней назад
@@B_K69'Many many people' for the past, only some for today. Sounds like you believe there is one true answer but are too chickenshit to actually state it, because it's likely offensive rose-tinted nostalgia for a dead past that is effectively myth and TV fantasy at this point.
@laurac.405
@laurac.405 3 дня назад
It's the same narrative that the boomers were raised in cushy lifestyles and given everything - the narrative my generation, Gen Z, likes to push. My grandmother was the oldest of 7 children, and raised them all. Had to drop out of grade 10 to work... and her family wasn't particularly poor, either. My granddad had to drop out of grade 8 and work. She stayed at home and raised 5 children, and they lived paycheque to paycheque - because of their position, and not being the best at handling their money. Either way, my granddad worked extremely hard from the ground up to get to a comfortable position. Boomers did not live in the lap of luxury. They were the last true generation that knew what it was like to live frugally.
@ItzJohnny-dn3rl
@ItzJohnny-dn3rl 19 дней назад
Now i know why they vote the way they do, and blame other people for the mess they’ve created.
@mwinchester66
@mwinchester66 7 дней назад
You mean Biden?
@Tatefootball83
@Tatefootball83 7 дней назад
@@mwinchester66 he's not a Boomer. He's of the "Silent Generation" which is rather fitting, if you think about it.
@JW-do9wq
@JW-do9wq Месяц назад
I’m a boomer and was taken advantage of because I could never speak up for myself. My mother would always tell me to be quiet. When I got a beating, I had to stifle my cries and tears or else I would get more punishment. I was afraid most of my life to say how I felt. I always said I was an introvert by nature, but I believe I was made one because of how I was raised. Thank God I didn’t do this to my children.
@MeMe-wy3vr
@MeMe-wy3vr Месяц назад
😢 sending you a hug, hope you’re feeling better today
@nat0rade
@nat0rade Месяц назад
Your parents are ass, best of luck to you
@Gitn2it
@Gitn2it Месяц назад
I can relate. My mother never talked to us about our feelings. We were just supposed to comply, and if we didn't, we got beat with extension cords and switches from trees until we had welts on our skin. Even though my father would also beat us, he used his hand. He would also talk to us sometimes like human beings. We grew up with zero self-esteem.
@honeybadger3570
@honeybadger3570 Месяц назад
Awww poor baby momma told you to stfu (maybe she knew something we don't) 🎻 What you describe happens in ALL generations. My parents are boomers, some of us got worse than you and aren't whining about it on the internet. Tough love can be a bish, bad love even worse - yet both are much better real life preparers for a human than a silver spoon fluffy cloud ride until they are 20-25 years old. 2024 and everyone wants to be a victim 🙄 Born in '78, I don't care what gen that makes me - I'm much happier with life just being successful at each next step I take. What's endured is irrelevant to things achieved. People that enjoy pulling that victim card look at the rest of society as having it easier, society just don't understand what y'all been through 😂 thing is, we do and we have - we just coped & succeeded better than y'all and don't need to dwell whining about the life lesson or struggle bc we overcame it and moved on. Boomers on here feeling entitled to blame their parents for their problems, yet can't comprehend that their parents more than likely had it worse than they did 🙄 so do boomers think their parents got silver spoons and fluffy clouds to then turn into parental monsters to their own kids? Really?
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.
@daleschuls1020
@daleschuls1020 Месяц назад
Every kid has heard the famous words, "Because I said so." With no logical reasoning behind it when we requested something. Kids aren't perfect, nor parents. But explanation is huge in child development.
@saritawalsh5031
@saritawalsh5031 Месяц назад
Agreed, there's a time and a place. Respect and trust must be established in my opinion.
@Funnyandsunnydays
@Funnyandsunnydays Месяц назад
Well, as a parent that has said this. My opinion is that I already explained it over and over, and they don't accept the explanation, and then it turns into because I said so. Just my experience. Edit:Here is an example. My kid says I want mcdonalds. I say no, we are eating dinner at home. My kid says why. I say I can't afford mcdonalds, and I made dinner, that's why. They still keep asking why they can't have mcdonalds, and I say because I said so. There you have it.
@yoberry.
@yoberry. Месяц назад
Children should be taught to do what they're told without question. Trust isn't earned. Mistrust is. If your children are questioning you, you either didn't teach them right, or they have learned that you are untrustworthy.
@adamplentl5588
@adamplentl5588 Месяц назад
​@@yoberry.What a fucking psychotic comment.
@fishofgold6553
@fishofgold6553 Месяц назад
​​@@yoberry."...or they have learned that you are untrustworthy." Riiiiiight...and it's not that children just tend to want what they want, and to want it now? Do you think that all a child's desires and behaviours are entirely due to his or her parents, and not partly the child's temperament? I wonder if you're the type of person who would criticise parents no matter what - that it's all the parents' faults; that they can't get anything right, according to you.
@GlyphAbiff
@GlyphAbiff 8 дней назад
I was raised in the 90s, and this is exactly how everyone I know grew up.
@anthonyhernandez3569
@anthonyhernandez3569 14 дней назад
Any parent that doesn’t allow their children to the entitlement of asking “why”, is not fit to be a parent.
@shirleyashanti3031
@shirleyashanti3031 11 дней назад
So what would you do to these parents? Just because a child asks why doesn't always mean you have to respond. I can think of worst parents and have known some, especially those who think their parenting style is best.
@hiddenhand6973
@hiddenhand6973 5 дней назад
​@@shirleyashanti3031 my parents weren’t perfect and they were neglectful. Mom even said I should kill myself when I was 12. Even still, never answering why questions is what sticks with me. They didn’t explain anything. I’m raising 3 times more kids than my parents had and I’m able to find time to explain to my kids whatever they ask. They are routinely complimented on their manners and invited to stay with friends and their family for trips and meals out. They are good kids despite asking why and getting answers. The horror.
@rockguitarist931
@rockguitarist931 Месяц назад
The worst part is some baby boomers are incredibly proud of these generational curses and refuse to break them at all costs.
@MrSilk13642
@MrSilk13642 Месяц назад
Maybe they should be proud, considering theyre the most successful generation in the history of America.
@aik51912
@aik51912 Месяц назад
​@@MrSilk13642That's great and all, however most of them lack emotional intelligence. More often than not the Baby Boomer patients I encounter are arrogant, entitled, miserable people. They struggle controlling their anger or expressing it in a healthy way. They have issues maintaining healthy relationships. It's a good thing they are successful and have money so they can afford therapy. Too bad most of them won't address mental health issues because their parents' generantion dismissed all of that. I definitely blame the parents for their behavior.
@Kendosmemeshop
@Kendosmemeshop Месяц назад
​@@MrSilk13642 They're also a majority of the current do-nothing politicians running the country.
@onionbubs386
@onionbubs386 Месяц назад
​@@MrSilk13642 pfffft that's hilarious 😂 you really think you're special
@emilyr9866
@emilyr9866 Месяц назад
​@@MrSilk13642Truly spoken like the generation that created participation trophies 😆
@JubeiKibagamiFez
@JubeiKibagamiFez Месяц назад
And thus my father raised me as a robot, never to question, never to misstep, never to speak. All I had growing up was internalized anger.
@user-zh5lj1ec4k
@user-zh5lj1ec4k Месяц назад
Bahahaha. Good. What you gonna do hulk out? Hit the gym with that internalized anger. I think that’s why Americans are so cult like when it comes to dumbass agendas and politicals. Politically correct culture in general. They have so much angst but mostly cause they are taught to be so soft. It’s like they think softly instead of being real about situations. You can question things in your head bruh.
@GridSeer
@GridSeer Месяц назад
ME TOO
@markarca6360
@markarca6360 Месяц назад
Sounds like militaristic.
@JubeiKibagamiFez
@JubeiKibagamiFez Месяц назад
@@markarca6360 Yeah, that too. My father didn't serve, but his father was a WW2 vet.
@englishrose4183
@englishrose4183 Месяц назад
Did you struggle with laziness and lack of will
@FilmmakeroftheFuture
@FilmmakeroftheFuture 16 дней назад
The contagious emotions reminds me of a school poster that said, “attitudes are contagious is yours worth catching?”
@huckleberryfinn8795
@huckleberryfinn8795 6 дней назад
Controlling your emotions does not make you a robot. It makes you a responsible, mature human.
@rachaelbultman241
@rachaelbultman241 День назад
Not in the extremes like in this video.
@Rinniepho
@Rinniepho 11 часов назад
You're wrong, one thing is managing your emotions, controlling them so you won't show any will lead you to feel frustrared for not knowing how to take them out
@emg708
@emg708 Месяц назад
My dad was an (edited for spelling) early 60’s boomer and was raised this way. He told me it was strange to watch my husband ask for help when he was struggling with things, but he was glad things were changing. My father said the only emotion he was allowed to have was anger. Watching his own kids grow up and enjoy life was healing, I think. He’s an awesome dad and grandfather and deserved to be loved as a child.
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. People: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.
@scottdavidson526
@scottdavidson526 Месяц назад
I don't get these comments. I was born in '62 my dad was the best father that any kid could have. This crap at the dinner table and this other hoopla I don't get. That certainly wasn't my upbringing.
@voilet-the-non-violet-vulpix
@voilet-the-non-violet-vulpix Месяц назад
⁠​⁠@@scottdavidson526There are always different experiences even among the same generation. Think, even today there are “trad families” who beat their children with wooden spoons. It’s possible your parents were ahead of the times, or that this video has brought together people who are particularly disgruntled with their upbringing.
@Nibiru3600X
@Nibiru3600X Месяц назад
@@scottdavidson526 Dismissing others’ abuse & trauma as “hoopla” is gaslighting, and abuse in & of itself! You can be glad you weren’t abused, but discrediting others’ experiences just because they weren’t your own, or you didn’t witness it is very ignorant & can be just plain evil 💔
@williamharris5957
@williamharris5957 Месяц назад
Completely normal even today!
@Amelia-vk4jt
@Amelia-vk4jt Месяц назад
Ah my boomer mother took out all the same parental "techniques" she got from her mother, and she wonders why none of her children really talk to her
@lionesslux6816
@lionesslux6816 Месяц назад
Amen
@DS-nw4eq
@DS-nw4eq Месяц назад
Same, but I’m an only child. I was definitely not of any real interest. I was something of a nuisance for having existed. But my father did not beat me like his father did. The perspectives of my parents were dark and they didn’t like being around other people.
@sauntersway3980
@sauntersway3980 Месяц назад
That's my dad.
@ElleS572
@ElleS572 Месяц назад
Exactly
@ElleS572
@ElleS572 Месяц назад
​@@DS-nw4eqit's funny that these people think it's ok to have children? It's as if they created us for their need to torture someone 🤷‍♀️
@cleokey
@cleokey 16 дней назад
I'm a 75 year old boomer from Venice, CA, "children were seen, not heard" as the expression goes, but we didn’t give a shit and live stoned. "Turn on and tune out." ... "Don't trust anyone over 30" & fu*k the war.
@hiddenhand6973
@hiddenhand6973 5 дней назад
Liberal boomers, great, thanks for the decline in morality and out of control govt programs.
@user-lb9my7hx5w
@user-lb9my7hx5w 17 дней назад
Now I learned that ADULTS act and LIE more than CHILDREN. What the Fuck.
@Wagonrider89
@Wagonrider89 Месяц назад
They were taught how to act but not why they should act that way.
@env0x
@env0x Месяц назад
for children to learn they need to see the outcomes and consequences of their actions. you can't teach a child something only using negative reinforcement without any positive reinforcement. or else kids just rebel. this used to be common sense before the education system made us believe that switchboard operators were nothing more than switchboard operators.
@naelyneurkopfen9741
@naelyneurkopfen9741 Месяц назад
If you need to be told why to do the right thing, something's wrong with you. Ffs
@nicholasvanlierde2546
@nicholasvanlierde2546 Месяц назад
It was behaviour that arose from WW2 and the trauma it caused
@SonOfMorning
@SonOfMorning Месяц назад
Yeah, and now we are experiencing the Fallout. Traditions are very often solutions to problems people have forgotten that exist.
@Geaxuce
@Geaxuce Месяц назад
​@@naelyneurkopfen9741 What is proper etiquette and why is the etiquette we think of as being proper particularly proper as apart from other forms of etiquette?
@Junior_Rocky
@Junior_Rocky Месяц назад
“Because I said so, that’s why!!!” That was the only answer I ever got growing up when I wanted to understand something.
@alvarobarcala
@alvarobarcala Месяц назад
Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.
@someguy2744
@someguy2744 Месяц назад
When I was given a command that made sense to me and I understood its importance (thinking to myself "Oh, I really should do that") then I was very motivated as if I gotten wings.
@elizabethrose644
@elizabethrose644 Месяц назад
same
@Magdamk777
@Magdamk777 Месяц назад
Because they had no proper answers or argument to support it. They were lacking of knowledge themselves and were too afraid or proud to admit it in front of their own child. Not to know of something was perceived as being stupid.
@desireandfire
@desireandfire Месяц назад
I can't stand that answer. Kids deserve the right to know why they need to do something. If parents don't have an answer then what's the point of doing it. It's as simple to say "because chores are our way to maintain our home and keep it organized".
@QueenNiriah
@QueenNiriah 9 дней назад
It’s good to ask questions. It’s not good to talk back and be disrespectful. There’s a difference that people need time to know 💯
@reginafallangie2867
@reginafallangie2867 19 часов назад
GenXr here (late end, ‘77). I was raised by Boomers & now I’m raising GenAlpha. I think there needs to b a healthy balance. My dad raised out of fear & I can tell u that fear doesn’t make u respect your parents. Parents need to parent & kids need to understand respect. But not questioning ANYTHING is part of what allowed so much abuse to happen. Healthy questioning is good, but both parents & kids need respect.
@maryannwatkins7166
@maryannwatkins7166 23 дня назад
My parents were in The Silent Generation. The abuse that went on in our house was awful. Hit whenever you expressed an emotion good OR bad. Not allowed to talk at the table, in the car, etc. Threatened with beatings all the time. Laughed at, ridiculed, mocked. No affection, no hugs, never told you were loved. My mother was disgusted because I said I loved my son when I was pregnant with him. She couldn’t understand why I felt that way.
@Ankhar2332
@Ankhar2332 20 дней назад
Why these people even had kids? They shouldn't
@mchobbit2951
@mchobbit2951 18 дней назад
@@Ankhar2332 Because it was expected that you would have children and since there was little to no birth control, you had little choice anyway. People would judge a childless couple and forget being an "old maid".
@aleczavala5010
@aleczavala5010 17 дней назад
How did she treat your son once he was born?
@rachels6808
@rachels6808 17 дней назад
Sounds like my parents in a small way. They say they love us/me very very rarely and I never really believed them. They were pretty neglectful and never really praised us or encouraged us and instead brought us low when we gained a shred of confidence in ourselves. They’re so disconnected it’s so weird to live on my own and feel as if they can still negatively influence my life and it just annoys me to no end.
@guitarlessonsnow3431
@guitarlessonsnow3431 17 дней назад
@@rachels6808you’re probably still suffering from trauma. Many of us are.
@Morgan313
@Morgan313 Месяц назад
My Boomer parents were raised by people from the “Greatest Generation.” They hated the way their parents raised them and took a parenting class before my sister and I were born so they'd do better. One day, I was asking my mom a question, and a woman from the Greatest Generation jumped in and told me that “Children should be seen but not heard.” My mother turned red and said to her, “My husband and I TALK to our children,” then answered my question. I don't know what happened to that Greatest Gen person, but I still talk to my parents several times a week, and I’m in my 40s now.
@matcampbell3552
@matcampbell3552 Месяц назад
Raised by the same people and the problem wasn't talking to your children but children talking when they shouldn't. Till this day when someone talks too much everyone inherently sees that as a weakness and it's not for the talking.
@billyccall5774
@billyccall5774 Месяц назад
The greatest generation fought WW2 and won what did the others do? Live in the most prosperous time I. Western history and waste it
@cgg2621
@cgg2621 Месяц назад
@@matcampbell3552 The problem is that no one seems to agree what counts as "talking too much". In my book "talking too much" would be something like talking when the situation calls for silence or not letting others have a turn to speak. From the comments and the short clip it seems like many parents interpreted it as "whenever the child asks for the reason behind something". When a child does that it's a great opportunity to explain the logic of social norms to them, not hit them or just say "because I said so and I'm the one in authority."
@JA-oo9qp
@JA-oo9qp Месяц назад
Your parents sound like they at least realized their upbringing was trash and obviously tried to correct that. Definitely think the boomers being so awful has a lot to do with the “greatest generation” raising them.
@moonglow630
@moonglow630 29 дней назад
They were brought up in the Depression & then in their late teens & early twenties went off to fight WWII. Even if they stayed home the women worked in factories for the first time, & once again had the scarcity of food because of rationing. They weren’t afforded the luxury of emotions. Pretty much all their developing years were about survival. Then after the war, they just married & had families like nothing had ever happened. There was no such thing as mental health therapy. My grandpa was a Marine on Guadacanal. It wasn’t until after his passing that I learned that after my dad was grown & married my grandma used to call him to say that my grandpa was having the violent nightmares again. It broke my heart to hear that. My grandpa was one of the kindest humans you’d ever meet. I was lucky enough to get to know my grandparents as people. Hang out with them. Vacation with them. But their upbringing was always there. They’d save & eat food past its expiration date because of the food scarcity they had been raised on during the depression.
@jobee1
@jobee1 5 дней назад
I’m a boomer and I always questioned things and people gave me reasonable answers. I learned to respect others and to help people in need. Today’s society seems self centered and uncaring of anybody but themselves. If they have to stop staring at a device for even a second it’s an imposition on them. Everyone seems to hate everyone else. It’s very sad, where are we going from here?
@coltonreece5405
@coltonreece5405 12 дней назад
I was born in 1988 in Alabama under a conservative roof that upheld the Christian values. My parents and grandparents were awesome. It wasn’t about being a robot or locking your emotions up. It was about respect and knowing your place in the family tree. Dad was the king of his castle while my mother was queen. They wouldn’t tolerate any disrespect. They ruled their kingdom with rules and honor. What rules placed on me and my sister were placed on our parents and visitors as well. Arguing was not allowed and met with swift punishment. Asking why was encouraged. Trying to debate was not. We were told it was simply for our own good if at the time we didn’t understand their explanations. And when I became an adult I realized they were right. Because today we have children wanting to change their gender and adults wanting to supersede the parents authority and give children an operation.
@_Oof_
@_Oof_ 27 дней назад
I remember my grandma (born in the 40's) telling me that she didn't speak to her father unless spoken to. To him she was just a maid and someone's future housewife 😢
@msmcginn4574
@msmcginn4574 23 дня назад
Did the video say the kids aren’t allowed to speak?? Lots of ppl bitching about stuff that isn’t there.
@_Oof_
@_Oof_ 23 дня назад
@@msmcginn4574 Did you reply to the wrong comment? I said *my* grandma told me this. Not the video
@meek2312
@meek2312 23 дня назад
​@@msmcginn4574about things they experienced that may not be in the video but are similar? You don't say
@hunterosophy
@hunterosophy 22 дня назад
Based.
@CozTerra-dm2kp
@CozTerra-dm2kp 22 дня назад
Sadly many men still think this way, but it's changing
@benfreiler4054
@benfreiler4054 Месяц назад
There needs to be balance. We shouldn’t treat children like robots, but we also shouldn’t let kids talk rudely to parents and do whatever they want.
@nevedofficial466
@nevedofficial466 Месяц назад
Who said they shouldn't be taught respect? No one. Raising them "like robots" isn't "teaching" them anything except to be steadfastly obedient, period, no nuance, no understanding, just a powertrip on the parent's part. Its why my mother had me young, and is still a terrible communicator of her feelings in her 40s.
@benfreiler4054
@benfreiler4054 Месяц назад
@@nevedofficial466 A large section of Gen. X and older Millennials disliked their parents’ strict parenting style so much, they went to the opposite end of the spectrum and give their children no boundaries whatsoever. I teach in the school system, it’s unbelievable what some of these parents allow their kids to do. Many of them defend their children’s out of control behavior. No one says children shouldn’t be taught respect, that sounds bad, but many parents simply don’t.
@azurebrown3756
@azurebrown3756 Месяц назад
Finally someone other than myself that understands that balance is needed in nearly all situations and relations.
@AprilHare
@AprilHare Месяц назад
​@@benfreiler4054I like to look at it like a pendulum. First the boomers were on one side and the gen xers swung to the other. Therefore, it should be coming to the middle soon.
@DarkEmpressTarot925
@DarkEmpressTarot925 Месяц назад
@@benfreiler4054I am a millennial raised by boomers and I endured nothing like this, we were taught respect and manners, that's something kids lack nowadays. To me what caused this is people saying teaching respect and discipline is abuse, so everyone walks on egg shells to avoid having DCF knocking on their door.
@ellylemmons
@ellylemmons День назад
"If you misbehaved, you weren't normal"... but also "Anger is a voilent emotion that acts like a contagious disease"....!??!?
@Thekoryostribalpodcast
@Thekoryostribalpodcast 15 дней назад
I'm strict with my kids.........but I also tell them I'm proud of them, give hugs, speak to them like they are adults, and teach them things, there is balance. My 17 year old daughter is one of the most hard working, intelligent, beautiful people know. She is a very well balanced young lady.
@rdsginia7499
@rdsginia7499 Месяц назад
That’s exactly how I was raised. My self-esteem was low. I rarely questioned anyone. In my early thirties, distanced myself from my family. I read numerous self-help books and eventually learned to properly stand up for myself. It was a long process. i’ll never forget the first time I had an epiphany. It startled me because I’d been told that I was stupid my entire life and stifled from expressing feelings and opinions. They made major life decisions. I rarely argued, because, when I did, they ridiculed. me, berated and demeaned me. Sometimes, I was beaten or given a cruel punishment. I wasn’t allowed to say the word “no”, which caused me many problems, including becoming a people pleaser. Unlearning what had been instilled in me was a long, challenging journey. I’ve tremendously. I still struggle somewhat with asking for explanation and my self-esteem. Overall, though, I’m doing well and am happy with myself.
@reid9584
@reid9584 Месяц назад
Thanks for sharing. I can definitely relate.
@isabelbecerra9258
@isabelbecerra9258 Месяц назад
I want even allowed to say “nevermind”… “you never say never mind to your mother!”
@pauldonvito6169
@pauldonvito6169 Месяц назад
Thank you for sharing your story. You've displayed so much strength, compassion and emotional intelligence. Wishing you all the best in the rest of your journey x
@thomasinefitzpatrick
@thomasinefitzpatrick Месяц назад
​​@@isabelbecerra9258" you never xyz " Or what? 😂 You gonna ground me? Spank me? 😂 Do it bitch 😂 One thing, when your parents are already raging abusive lunatics, if you have any spine in ya genetically.... They don't have any skin left in the game 😂 Granted, it wasn't like it all worked out super cool for me, but that was never in the cards or on the table for me anyways. That said, when your reaction to everything is nuclear, nobody takes anything you think feel want so or say seriously when you try to use your threats as deterrents. But then again, I suspect you need something genetic and irrepressible to perceive all of this, or to have the fire to stand up and say it boldly! Boomers though. Some of the most abusive neglectful psychotic narcissistic entitled crybaby victims this world has ever seen ever
@adrianghandtchi1562
@adrianghandtchi1562 Месяц назад
I feel that, there are some similar things that you went through that I went through and I am of a similar age.
@furryplantsandcoins9070
@furryplantsandcoins9070 Месяц назад
I was born in 1976 and raised by a very overbearing stepmother. She had once told me I wasn't allowed to go to a girl's funeral that was in my class because I would Make her look bad because I would cry... Last time I knew that's what you did have funerals... Yes we were taught You should hold in your emotions. And I'm not a baby boomer.
@user-gw1dr7rt9b
@user-gw1dr7rt9b Месяц назад
There are sick adults in every generation.
@teralecole316
@teralecole316 Месяц назад
Oh my gosh! That sounds cancererous. Holding in those kinds of emotions holds trauma, and trauma needs somewhere to go. I’m very sorry you went through that, that’s awful.
@davidkeeton6716
@davidkeeton6716 Месяц назад
You aren't a baby boomer, but you were raised by one that unfortunately was overbearing and lacked understanding. But you did learn something very valuable, YOU have value, and you can count on you. This takes courage and self confidence. This probably also instilled in you a self sufficient nature and you are probably a self starter, as in you don't need someone to prod you along. They were trying to make you stronger but maybe could have used a different method or tactic, but their intention was probably good. There is not instruction manual, and some people had poor teachers, your parents grew up in or at the end of the depression. Life, the world was vastly different and harder then, so your parents probably had a tough go of it.
@nekad2000
@nekad2000 Месяц назад
And look where we ended up? 72 genders we didn't need an a pronoun gestapo. We need shame and we need tough people in a society that's going to survive. Most boomers grew up spoiled and we've slowly lost any sense of dignity and respect. Greatest generation to garbage in a few generations.
@furryplantsandcoins9070
@furryplantsandcoins9070 Месяц назад
@@davidkeeton6716 I for sure learned so much from them. But I don't think I would change how I was raised. As much as it was hard to go through it wouldn't make me who I am today if I didn't go through that. I do love them and I know they loved me. They weren't taught to love someone and I doubt they were shown God from family members but a very strict hand. They struggled harder than I think we will ever see. And I give them thanks for that. Without their struggles we wouldn't have the conveniences we have nowadays. I think it just came out on their children and a very big way even though they thought they were teaching us to be stronger than they were. They may have had their own doubts and fears.
@TheUKNutter
@TheUKNutter 9 дней назад
It was like this in 2000’s England as well. It was exactly what life for me was like.
@yvferguson7257
@yvferguson7257 5 дней назад
I would prefer this over what we are today. A lot safer back then
@Rei-1200
@Rei-1200 Месяц назад
My parents were raised that way and raised us the same way because they “turned out fine.” They did not.
@aaa-gt8by
@aaa-gt8by Месяц назад
My whole Chicago neighborhood is owned by baby boomers and they think they're all fine but they all have severe narcissism and alcoholism. Their kids and grandkids all hate them because they're so abusive.
@jameskozy7254
@jameskozy7254 Месяц назад
As if you turned out better lol
@CyranofromBergerac
@CyranofromBergerac Месяц назад
Rule of thumb, if someone says "I got X growing up and I turned out fine" they almost always are not fine. It's just coping.
@JeremyS.-ug3sp
@JeremyS.-ug3sp Месяц назад
Don't you love those stories. They go on and on like, "Well I was beaten with a wooden spoon I had to whittle myself, just because I forgot to wipe my feet on the welcome mat, till I had blood coming out of all my orifices....but I turned out ok...KIDS these days! They are weak!" No no you did not turn out ok.
@gh0ulee-b0nes
@gh0ulee-b0nes Месяц назад
@@jameskozy7254strange way to justify demonstrably bad parenting, lmao.
@joemarley5982
@joemarley5982 Месяц назад
I'm a millennial and I was raised the same way. I was basically a pet. Everyone else's needs were more important than mine and I was punished for almost everything I did. Love was scarce. My parents have since seen the error of their ways though, and I love them despite what they did to me. I know that they were abused and neglected too. If I'm ever blessed with children I must break the cycle.
@HOWARD963_
@HOWARD963_ Месяц назад
Glad you forgave your parents and didn't take the victim route.
@liviloo87
@liviloo87 Месяц назад
I’m proud of you. Forgiveness is not only for your parents, but also for yourself to be able to heal and move on. And yes, you absolutely can break the cycle. Discipline is still very important, but so is love and nurturing. May Lord Jesus be with you.
@pizza-mana.k.a.pizzaparker3615
@pizza-mana.k.a.pizzaparker3615 Месяц назад
Pets should not be treated like it either
@JChelsea91
@JChelsea91 Месяц назад
Me too my dad always told me “kids are meant to be seen, not heard.” Not it’s a inside joke now that I have a 6 year old how dumb that is because he jokes and tell her that that’s how he was raised and he will say…uhm no. She’s a little chatter box that loves to talk to grandpa ALL the time. 😅
@blion2225
@blion2225 Месяц назад
I’m 28 about to be 29 and my mother is 62. Tbh I see highlights in the way they were raised. Look at millennials compared to these kids now a days.. idk.
@lelaniharris7463
@lelaniharris7463 8 дней назад
i’m just grateful that people now are self-aware enough to know they are not fit to be a parent nor do they want children. A lot of people during this time had no business creating a family but I understand the social pressures at the time drove them to do so anyway.
@marty1234able
@marty1234able 19 дней назад
Mate...even the wife wasnt allowed to talk back. Gotta understand some of those guys had been in hell fighting war. They only understood violence.
@krystalpistol2
@krystalpistol2 29 дней назад
My dad was raised this way and he raised his children like that too. I remember being 11 y.o. In McDonald’s lobby and getting smacked upside the head real good, because my dad kept jabbing my sides and I told him to stop. I was yelled at in front of a ton of people and told, verbatim: “YOU don’t EVER tell ME no. YOU don’t EVER ask me why. If I tell you to do something and you ask why I’m gonna beat your ass. If I tell you to do something and you tell me no you’re not gonna be sitting down for a fucking month”. He stood on that shit too. At 23 years old I still have to convince myself that I’m not in danger if I ask why. All it does it make you grow up angry. Hating and fearing everyone because you don’t know what anyone will do, especially if your own parents are capable of being so shitty.
@JV-ji4vl
@JV-ji4vl 26 дней назад
This broke my heart. I'm so sorry you were treated that way. You didn't deserve that.
@brightspacebabe
@brightspacebabe 25 дней назад
I’m sorry you were treated that way. Your dad sounds like he has issues and it was not your fault ❤
@professionalfangster1510
@professionalfangster1510 25 дней назад
Been through something similar, maybe not this bad. Was a real violent kid growing up. Never hitting my kids for that reason. Peace is always the option.
@GoOutside321
@GoOutside321 25 дней назад
I absolutely agree. A child being slapped around by their parent(s) will end up w mental health issues due to lack of trust and fractured attachment
@AbbyCd
@AbbyCd 24 дня назад
​@@ValtheimTowerbanditSounds familar.
@mynamecausesconfusion9829
@mynamecausesconfusion9829 Месяц назад
I was born in 95, but Boomers raised me. We went through family therapy to mend this emotional gap and we couldn't be happier. I'm so glad my parents opened up to me. It helped us bond and heal
@apache8795
@apache8795 Месяц назад
If you don't mind me asking when we're your parents born? I'm a 95 baby as well but my parents are Gen Xers.
@mynamecausesconfusion9829
@mynamecausesconfusion9829 Месяц назад
@@apache8795 I was adopted by my grandparents when I was born, so in 58/59. My bio parents were born 79/77
@Sleipnirseight
@Sleipnirseight Месяц назад
That's great to hear. I'm trying again to do this with my mom, who is 75.
@mynamecausesconfusion9829
@mynamecausesconfusion9829 Месяц назад
@@Sleipnirseight sometimes the Child has to be the Parent that their Parent never had. My mother went from anxiety so high that she would isolate and have extreme OCD/verbal outbursts to being my best friend and an amazing grandmother to my girls'. I wish you the best journey possible with your mother .
@marcuscole1994
@marcuscole1994 Месяц назад
@@apache8795I was born in 94 my pa was 56 and ma 59
@Falconlibrary
@Falconlibrary 12 дней назад
I'm a "late Boomer" (born 1962) and my parents did NOT allow any of us kids to express emotions, especially negative ones. But that wasn't everyone; abusive parents have existed in every generation. I had lots of childhood friends whose parents were kind and accepted them as people, not as little automatons who had better do as ordered.
@ExtremelyTastyBread
@ExtremelyTastyBread 3 дня назад
What? Is that a generation that was raised to respect authority and not to do drugs or sleep around or get tattoos AAUAUGHGHGHGHG I'M GOING CRAZY
@juliel3460
@juliel3460 Месяц назад
My parents are boomers but they had completely different backgrounds. My father was raised in a loving household and my mom was verbally abused by my grandma and step-father (she rarely speaks about it and has only told me small bits). My mom was extremely strict, aggressive, manipulative and controlling towards me during my childhood and my dad was the ”relaxed, non-confrontational and fun”-parent. They’re divorced since many years but my mom’s treatment towards me and my father’s ignorance and denial about it messed me up for many years. It wasn’t until I found out that I was going to be a mother myself a few years ago that I ”woke up” and realized that I’ve been a complete trainwreck all my life and that I had to change. Now I’m in a good place living a normal life, finally.
@smusky4643
@smusky4643 Месяц назад
Ur mum gay
@sophieminter0
@sophieminter0 Месяц назад
Are you by any chance one of the Grants? Like Caroline Grant or Elizabeth Grant? Your comment sounds a lot like what they could have experienced, so that’s why I asked. But sadly I guess the situation is not uncommon so you could be anyone. Nonetheless, I am sorry you had to go through that and am glad you are doing better ❤🎉
@juliel3460
@juliel3460 Месяц назад
@@sophieminter0 No I’m just a regular nobody from Sweden😊
@ryanbales8116
@ryanbales8116 Месяц назад
Your dad either didn’t want to see it, or didn’t want to believe it was happening. My mom was the same way. She worked a lot of hours at the hospital and my dad worked nights. So she wasn’t around much. Whenever he did something abusive to us, mom would always take his side or he would gaslight us and spin the narrative to make him look better. Or lie and say that it didn’t happen. The physical abuse was minimal, but the mental abuse and the negative learned behavior was another story.
@alecmagill5337
@alecmagill5337 Месяц назад
My dad is technically a boomer but he was born in Ireland to a fairly progressive family so he was the chill one. On the other hand my mom is gen x raised by silent generation parents so she’s the stricter one
@timo72455
@timo72455 Месяц назад
My mom was raised in the 60s (born in 58) and I think she applied that logic to me. I remember hearing “Children should be seen not heard” or “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry for”, or even “I know you don’t have an attitude right now. You better not have an attitude” and she’s still like that today. Almost as if people aren’t allowed to feel or have opinions. It’s crazy… I’m 26 years old now and she STILL does that.
@razielthagreat2109
@razielthagreat2109 Месяц назад
They were raised to not have emotions or question things. This is why they believe every lie told to them by our govt or they actually watch cable news. That generation as a whole was raised by sexually deviant mentally abusive parents from the 20-30’s who were raised even worse.
@annt.7785
@annt.7785 Месяц назад
The problem is we allow the colonizers to raise society. Especially in black households, all these degrading things said to us by our old school parents and grandparents, came straight from the plantation. Modern days, we often want to forget the past, but this is where the beatings and other violent behaviors and words come from. The man that's speaking in the ad on this video refuses to tell other colonizer men that they ARE violent, and that is where the violence came from. The day we stop letting whyte people raise the whole gotdamn country, will be the day that everything will get back on track. But that ain't gonna happen until the creator comes back and puts an end to this whole system.
@forgottenartform
@forgottenartform Месяц назад
I'm 32, my mam was born in 64 (so the very youngest boomer) and literally said all of them to me growing up, and yet wonders why I'm not one for talking generally 😅
@FaithAndLoveFaithAndLove
@FaithAndLoveFaithAndLove Месяц назад
I give them "Grace," because it takes a lot to change that upbringing mentally especially when we haven't truly gotten away from it until about 10-15 years ago. It's hard to dig up a rooted tree and expect it to still stay alive and strong. I'm just happy for all the areas I have progressed in and still learning how to be a better person and parent.
@jasonsherwood7539
@jasonsherwood7539 Месяц назад
We over evaluate feelings today. People think their being angry entitles others to fix things.
@LynnLamont
@LynnLamont 17 дней назад
I wasnt treated like a robot. I had the best parents and the best childhood. I miss my parents every day
@frankmcgarry3155
@frankmcgarry3155 17 дней назад
Who would have thought that the generation traumatized by war would have difficulty raising their kids?
@shellyhart4324
@shellyhart4324 Месяц назад
I can confirm this as I grew up in this era. "Children are to be seen and not heard." They would say the same about women.
@otterlyfresh2886
@otterlyfresh2886 Месяц назад
better banished times
@ReadyMindsetGo
@ReadyMindsetGo Месяц назад
I (male) was born in 84 and I was still told this growing up through the 90s...
@alexiachimciuc3199
@alexiachimciuc3199 Месяц назад
That was perfect. We need to revert to 18th century.
@user-zh5lj1ec4k
@user-zh5lj1ec4k Месяц назад
Now we have Weakass people whining about every little first world problem on social media. Weak westerners need discipline. Not to pop pills for every “disorder” that they love to diagnose to make pharmaceuticals happy.
@Donfryesmustache
@Donfryesmustache Месяц назад
I miss the days when children behaved in a polite manner and were disciplined effectively whilst also being taught valuable skills so that they could properly integrate into society.
@BlueLake7
@BlueLake7 24 дня назад
This is so far removed from the way I was raised. I’m a baby boomer and I had 6 siblings. We were cherished by our parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. Our church was wonderful. I never heard quarreling from anyone. My parents never showed anger towards us or towards each other. We sung, played, hiked, picnicked, farmed, read books, and loved each other. It was a dream childhood, for which I will always be grateful.
@AlishaArlene
@AlishaArlene 23 дня назад
That sounds so wonderful. I'm glad you have those beautiful memories. That's how it's supposed to be. 💖
@DavidtinSongulous9856
@DavidtinSongulous9856 22 дня назад
Yo, dude, may God continue to bless you all the days of your life!
@nebbsbnw1343
@nebbsbnw1343 22 дня назад
Sounds a lot like the church did it's true job in your lives - making everyone look more like Christ. Bless you all.
@Ankhar2332
@Ankhar2332 20 дней назад
What a bullshit
@jennifergirling6850
@jennifergirling6850 20 дней назад
Yes,I think this is a propergander video,one of many, set to turn generations again each other.
@johnbrubaker2033
@johnbrubaker2033 12 дней назад
Letting it “all hang out” is the reason we’re in the mess we have today.
@SVYATUN
@SVYATUN 12 дней назад
Exactly! Thank you!
@catalinamaria9169
@catalinamaria9169 9 дней назад
How ?
@SVYATUN
@SVYATUN 8 дней назад
@@catalinamaria9169 by not teaching our children to be considerate towards other people, by not teaching them to appreciate classical literature, and classical music, by not encouraging free and critical thinking, by not teaching them to respect parents and older generations, that's how. Declining morals and cultural degradation is obvious now in the USA. I see people who are unable to form a single sentence and express themselves properly, instead they scream profanities and beat their chests like baboons. Crass and savage people are everywhere now.
@marismith2416
@marismith2416 6 дней назад
Agree!!
@merleshand2442
@merleshand2442 16 дней назад
I don't think anyone believes that our country has improved in any way since then. Teaching your children isn't about their useless feelings or you wanting them to like you, it's about preparing them to prosper in the world.
@eve0nline03
@eve0nline03 Месяц назад
My mom experienced a lot of abuse because her parents were traumatized by WW2. She wasn't the best parent when I was little, but she has always been my guardian angel and she is openly talking about her experienced with me now. I'm thankful she shares it with me.
@user-pt3bv3jl3v
@user-pt3bv3jl3v Месяц назад
Give her all the love she deserves. Never know when the inevitable happens, make every second count.
@lynndavist
@lynndavist Месяц назад
I was raised in the 60s and brought some of that training into my household. I had to apologize to my sons and work on having a better relationship.
@RichardSpain-lz9cf
@RichardSpain-lz9cf Месяц назад
Here‘s another one.“Ma,the teacher hit me for nothing „ „Don’t tell lies,you must’ve done something „
@user-jt7ou4rv4c
@user-jt7ou4rv4c Месяц назад
But on the other hand, my friend quit teaching bc her students cursed her to her face and when she called the parents, they told her my sweet child would never do that😮
@annabellesanchez8011
@annabellesanchez8011 Месяц назад
​@@user-jt7ou4rv4cyes now it's completely different children aren't taught to respect their elders
@gmansard641
@gmansard641 Месяц назад
That never happened to me, but my parents long had an excessive respect for authority. "If a teacher tells you to do something by God you do it!" they'd say. Later, when I was about to finish high school (1981) my mother got a clerical job in a high school. She was surprised to see that not all of the teachers were very competent.
@anvilsbane2196
@anvilsbane2196 Месяц назад
@@annabellesanchez8011I will agree children should be taught. But respect should be EARNED.
@Denebula549
@Denebula549 Месяц назад
@@annabellesanchez8011 I mean, when you go from being completely restricted, is it hard to believe the next generation will be too laxed with their kids in hopes not to repeat history? I’m not saying it’s right, like it’s the total opposite of what they are trying to do, but it’s an attempt to stop the cycle that just goes overboard. Also the school system is trying to stop teaching slavery, the holocaust, and other super important stuff, so I do feel for the teachers just not the school system…
@Thekoryostribalpodcast
@Thekoryostribalpodcast 15 дней назад
Also remember that not all families were like this. This was a way of ruining the nuclear family. Propaganda.
@perpetualsick
@perpetualsick 13 дней назад
Why are you crying about propaganda?
@BryanMartinez-bb9ev
@BryanMartinez-bb9ev 7 дней назад
Maybe an unpopular take, but I think we need balance. Kids should be able express themselves, but need rules and order. It should not lean to either extreme.
@gowithit19
@gowithit19 День назад
The fact that people would view that as an unpopular take speaks volumes.
@vernaclevinger5716
@vernaclevinger5716 Месяц назад
I'm a boomer too but had better parents. We were told to think for ourselves and accept the consequences of our decisions.
@cathompson58
@cathompson58 Месяц назад
Same here .. great years and great parents ..
@TheDriftwoodlover
@TheDriftwoodlover 29 дней назад
Agree. I was never beaten for asking “why” as some have said. They explained when we asked. They weren’t perfect but, hey, boomers are the bad guys, I get it.
@cathompson58
@cathompson58 29 дней назад
@@TheDriftwoodlover every generation thinks the older generation did it all wrong and their own generation will do it better.. we talked the same way.. the generations coming later will be saying the same things... how people see the world isn't necessarily the way things are, it is more of a description of how they see the world .. best not to complain because problems are almost always opportunities in disguise
@dcampbelldcampbell8000
@dcampbelldcampbell8000 29 дней назад
This stuff is all anecdotal. Some parents in all generations are good, some bad.
@dcampbelldcampbell8000
@dcampbelldcampbell8000 29 дней назад
@@TheDriftwoodlover Me too. Beaten for asking "why" is psycho territory, not generational. My '60s parents were critical but also mostly hands off (literally and figuratively) and rarely overreacted to kid stuff. I often say I'd be on Ritalin or something if I were being raised by modern parents.
@andrewwhite7210
@andrewwhite7210 Месяц назад
Their parents were worse. Kids who grew up in the depression era were raised with "spare the rod, spoil the child," and "children are meant to be seen but not heard." My grandfather never smiled. Life was hard, and a good person worked from sunup to sundown, thanked God for their gruel, spanked their children and put them to bed, slept in a seperate bed from their spouse, woke up before the crack of dawn, and started all over again, every day but Sunday, when they went to church, where they apologized over and over again to God and Jesus for all their sins. Life went on like this until the day they died because they couldn't afford to retire.
@motophone8794
@motophone8794 Месяц назад
It's giving Waltons.
@jordanwhite352
@jordanwhite352 Месяц назад
Okay so here's the thing. People sleeping in separate beds was mainly a invention off movies and TV shows back then due to censorship laws. That unless you are lying, your grandparents were essentially fucking insane and probably should have been thrown in a mental ward.
@swetsTV
@swetsTV Месяц назад
What a sad existence.
@TheAtomicMango
@TheAtomicMango Месяц назад
i'm so done with the notifications of randos replying to this post without grasping the concept whatsoever, so i've deleted the content. i think most people understood what i wrote, as it was quite clear, but the number of angry notifications i'm getting is giving me anxiety about the apparent drop in general intelligence online, and i don't think most of them even understood the short. i'll finish by saying people should pick up some history books and talk to elders rather than take something on an entertainment platform as true. for example, claiming all of whatever generation were raised in some such way cannot be true by the simple fact that there were more separated cultures and traditions at the time and idealized philosophies, including parenting methods, would have been gaining footholds in various and different environments. class, race, culture, etc. played roles. this short and the original comment are made untrustworthy by applying oversimplifications of certain experiences to all experiences.
@johngibson7307
@johngibson7307 Месяц назад
I was physically punished often as a child with belts and switches 😊 and I am so very thankfull for it because i had a father that loved me enough to correct me my dad also happened to be a baby boomer born in 1956 but here is the truth many people are trying to ignore now days if you do not whip your children you do not love your children if you do not whip your children when they are young the world will do it in your place when they get older and the world has zero mercy patience or understanding 😢 I see the results of raising children without discipline it creates evil ungrateful disrespectful fools with authority issues
@6Snow6leopardg596
@6Snow6leopardg596 17 дней назад
My parents would slap me across the face when we said something they didn't like and everytime they did theyd tell us "im not hitting you im backhanding you for saying something you weren't supposed to" and the fact that my parents were ALWAYS telling us "you can call the cops what im doing isn't illegal" kept us scared and quiet
@brinsonharris9816
@brinsonharris9816 15 часов назад
I had a Dad. He was big and strong. I turned around and found my daddy gone. He was the made what I am today. It’s up to me now, my daddy has gone away, LET’S ROCK!
@Angelus9015
@Angelus9015 22 дня назад
My boyfriend’s boomer mother is the worst. Every time she falls sick, she wants to be admitted to the most expensive hospital, see the best doctors and take the best medicine which often costs thousands of dollars for a simple fever. All of it are all paid for by my boyfriend. When my boyfriend was diagnosed with AML, her immediate concern was who would take care of her if he passes away. My boyfriend made a full recovery after chemo and transplant. During that one year of chemo, his mother would keep telling me to prepare for his death and I should focus on the living (her) instead of the dead.
@KCMO1994
@KCMO1994 20 дней назад
Wow..... I hope he has seen her true colors.
@corkforkdork
@corkforkdork 19 дней назад
If he doesn't go NC with her after that, you need to run
@mikela1341
@mikela1341 17 дней назад
Wow. I hope he went NC with his mom. That's so selfish of her, immediately thinking of herself when her son was diagnosed with cancer.
@LeviShawando
@LeviShawando 16 дней назад
that sounds like Narcissism/NPD to me, not "boomerism". That's usually the result of a spoiled ass child, not a neglected one.
@paulklp8262
@paulklp8262 15 дней назад
​@@LeviShawandoBoomerism and narcissism are synonyms
@Kaliscetera
@Kaliscetera Месяц назад
I think a lot of people learn what NOT to do from their parents.
@Kaliscetera
@Kaliscetera Месяц назад
@gottisttott6350 They didn't make those connections and then I ask "hey did your dad do this to you(what they did to us) and they must think I have special powers for being right on the money.
@Luni-ew9qw
@Luni-ew9qw Месяц назад
​@gottisttott6350 we should be empathic, yes. We are also apparently a social species. Yet we r*pe, ensl*ve and mrder each other for fun, force our children to marry strangers and shame woman for being r*ped, since the dawn of mankind. How that makes sense? Idk. I think we sould've stayed solitary animals.
@ieatoutoften872
@ieatoutoften872 Месяц назад
My (older) brothers were Baby Boomers, and I am GenX. When my brothers acted awful as young adults, my mom would say to them, "U are acting just like father." My brothers would suddenly stop being awful, as if they got tazed.
@jacqui9176
@jacqui9176 Месяц назад
I agree.
@richellediallo3628
@richellediallo3628 Месяц назад
Exactly!!!
@singularity7968
@singularity7968 17 дней назад
You all need to remember that the silent generation went through a decade of the great depression before heading off to World War II. It’s not surprising that they were hardened at that time. A normal day during their childhood was not knowing whether or not you’d have anything to eat.
@heavenland3504
@heavenland3504 15 дней назад
still doesn't mean you can treat your children like They aren't people
@pattischult9401
@pattischult9401 3 дня назад
I was born in 1970. My father never let me cry or show emotion. I was never allowed to talk back. He was, and still is, the robot. I never have been.
@JohnLussier-ff3ps
@JohnLussier-ff3ps Месяц назад
64 here raised by silent gen. All these stories are me growing up. The hardest part for me throughout my life is i struggle with having feelings, being emotional. I feel like im Spock from Star Trek. Ive been married 40 years to the best person in the world to me. She's the same age and thank God she understands and is the opposite. I was taught the man works, so i feel i was never really involved or even close to my kids as they were growing up because i worked so many hours and really it was a way for me to not be involved in raising my kids. I knew i didn't want to be the Dad my Dad was to me, i was afraid i would, crazy right? It isnt till recent years i finally understand and now enjoy my grandkids. It amazes me how free they are to walk in my house and just be comfortable with anything, even when they just walk over and change the channels on the TV. I love it. I also have learned that hugging feels good now.
@jillybe1873
@jillybe1873 29 дней назад
Yep❤
@librarianlovesrick
@librarianlovesrick 27 дней назад
That's because you are older now. I think grandparents realize how rushed and ambitious they were as parents. Then when things slow down, they open their eyes and get to enjoy the grandkids.
@aristobrat4987
@aristobrat4987 26 дней назад
That broke me. Men learning in the last half of their life that hugging their own fucking kids makes them feel good as a human being. What the fuck was happening in the 60s and how the fuck did it ever get that bad. Moneys hug their babies. ANIMALS hug their babies. I pray you are hugged by grandchildren, great grandchildren , and great great grandchildren because everyone deserves that love. Especially parents
@MelDarko
@MelDarko 26 дней назад
Wow your comment helps me understand my dad so much more. I just thought it must be easier to be my kids grandparent than it was to be my parent. My grandfather passed away shortly after my oldest was born so this may have also helped my dad have an easier time connecting with his grandkids. We don’t talk about the past, but based on how my dad used fear generated by physical pain as a means to control my sister and I, my grandfather was probably even worse to my dad and his siblings. My dad never really stopped vying for his parent’s approval and continues to this day to do what he’s told by his mom. Yet, my sister and I rebelled against him and neither of us have a particularly great relationship with him. It’s more formal and business like if that makes sense. He has an amazing relationship with our kids (his grandkids) though.
@barnacleboi2595
@barnacleboi2595 25 дней назад
​@aristobrat4987 They were the people they were for a reason. They probably had some really heavy life or death shit they had to deal with and didnt have time to deal with their emotional state.
@GoldDragonJewelry
@GoldDragonJewelry Месяц назад
My parents are boomers and still have not learned how to talk out a disagreement, they just scream and rage at each other like toddlers. Then they call me weird for never having screaming matches with my hubby.
@FlipTheBard
@FlipTheBard Месяц назад
I find it funny that both my parents are baby boomers, but while my mom is the "parents should be respect just because they're parents" and "never talk back(which she actually means "if I raise my voice YOU can't raise yours!")", my father is actually chill, understanding and always tries to maintain peace rather than start screaming and being aggressive.
@Bureau_Of_Enigma_Affairs
@Bureau_Of_Enigma_Affairs 14 дней назад
“Anger is a violent emotion”, although that can be true, it’ll be even worse later if it is suppressed and bottled up over time because then it just explodes. My parents always explained why they asked me to do things (in a way appropriate for my age at the time) and although I was disciplined, I was never beaten or hit in the face, and they always let my siblings and I express ourselves as long as it wasn't harmful/disrespectful. I’m very grateful for my parents and how they raised me ❤️
@soda366
@soda366 10 дней назад
I had a very candid conversation with my grandparents and parents when this subject was brought up, they said how lucky i am to even be allowed to talk at the table. I said true, but remember, you control my beginning. I control your ending, your last days are only as comfortable as i allow them to be as you wont be able to care for yourself, just as i couldnt as a child. The fear that overcame them was incredible
@hamsterdiving7593
@hamsterdiving7593 Месяц назад
I entered the first grade in 1964. I was five years old I remember the very first assignment was, we were each given a white mimeographed sheet with a line drawing on it, and at the top was written a color word. We were supposed to find that color in our crayon box (we all had our own) and color in the drawing... My color was "white." Well, my sheet was white and I thought, no one will even see it, so I added white, then red, blue, yellow; all kinds of colors and it looked very pretty, I thought. My teacher held it up to the class as an example and said this is what it looks like when you don't follow directions... Around Christmas, we were shown a picture of Santa Claus and told to copy it by cutting all the pieces out of construction paper I made my Santa with blue eyes, dark bushy eyebrows, and I put glasses on him. We then hung them all up on the wall, and my teacher sat in a chair facing us to look at them and talk... My teacher pointed out that I went overboard with unnecessary additions and did not follow directions... Several months into the school year, we were introduced to the bubble answer sheet: the long skinny sheet with ovals on it that you fill in with a pencil during a test. We were supposed to copy a bubble sheet that was already filled in with our own blank copy so that they both looked identical. I just went down the sheet randomly filling in the bubbles, making patterns, and just enjoying the process. My teacher looked over my shoulder, snatched my filled-in sheet from the desk, and berated me angrily. She then grabbed the back of my neck and pushed my head down onto the desk and told me to stay that way until she said so... Later she called me up to the desk, told me I'd be given another chance, and then given the assignment again. I remember her voice being calm but cold. I filled in the ovals exactly... Looking back, I see now -- at least back then -- that we were being trained to be obedient. To be good little students who only followed their agenda Funny how, in the next year or so, it would all blow up when the anti-establishment hippie movement took off...
@healthyliving4624
@healthyliving4624 Месяц назад
Some teachers in the 70's behaved like animals. They were violent and unreasonable 😮
@TJJ117
@TJJ117 Месяц назад
They wanted children to grow up with no critical thinking or personality. Easier to send to pointless wars or believe in falsehoods proposed by the government that way
@MegaTheman25
@MegaTheman25 Месяц назад
Maybe you should've followed directions
@MP-ne6ji
@MP-ne6ji Месяц назад
@@MegaTheman25exactly
@harold5774
@harold5774 Месяц назад
@@MegaTheman25You should stay under your bridge where you belong. How’s that for a direction?
@kalenhuntley3508
@kalenhuntley3508 Месяц назад
"I was spanked and I was fine" "We didn't use gentle parenting back in my day and my kids were fine." "Why don't my kids talk to me?"
@makvande576
@makvande576 Месяц назад
Why do I have to go to the nursing home? I know I kicked you out at 18 but why can't I stay with you?
@rockthejohnson
@rockthejohnson Месяц назад
Raise a sociopath who's obsessed with their own emotions and doesn't understand respect of elders and see if they don't force you into a care home at first chance. 😂
@angbaby56
@angbaby56 Месяц назад
💯 this!
@t.8936
@t.8936 Месяц назад
Lots of children who have received a spanking for poor behaviour havr a great relationship with their parents. Trouble is that a lot of people just don't know where to draw the line. Kids these days have ZERO boundaries at all. I have a police officer friend who has to regularly attend calls where the kid has been pondered to their entire lives and there are no consequences so they are now teens, and beat their parents, literally tear sheets of drywall off of the walls and the parents are cowering in fear and have to call the police. You cannot take spanking off the table if your kids push it too far. They have to know that you WILL punish them if their behaviour goes too far. Feed them healthy, give them adequate sleep, emotional comfort and supper, exercise, and then guidance. If they decide they are going to go feral, make sure they know, that it will not be tolerated or else you will pay the price. You child will eventually end up in jail overnight to learn this lesson. Sadly.
@pedrorojas0116
@pedrorojas0116 Месяц назад
Lmao getting spanked is the norm in Latin American families and those still stay strong after all those years, it's just a stupid American mentality that if you actually discipline and punish your kid, then it’s abuse and evil. Meanwhile in the US you'll see some stupid mom saying "please we don't hit others Joshy, while getting repeatedly smacked in the face" getting owned by a kid in front of everyone. Yea gentle parenting is so great
@cashvasco2710
@cashvasco2710 15 дней назад
This made me understand my boomer patient more. Among other passive behavior, he has trouble directly asking me to refill his drink. He calls me over and says “Cash, my drink is almost done…” while taking the last sip. It really irritated me for a while because I realized how many times I had missed his cues, and the part of me that just wants to help him was frustrated. I could not compute why he wouldn’t just ask me for more juice. But I realized he was never allowed the space to ask for what he wanted, and as a 93 year old, he was still affected. Now I gently reward him for asking directly and I try not to make him feel weird about his requests.
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry
@AshenWolfe-xh3ry 13 дней назад
❤😊
@artsylady1747
@artsylady1747 11 дней назад
Your comment is a good example of how this mistreatment of children can affect them far into their life there are so many people claiming that they turned out fine after being beat as a child. It think they are just not willing to confront what happened to them.
@inkheart151
@inkheart151 15 дней назад
It’s funny how some old life advice videos (or whatever these are called) are actually helpful, like the one about how to use makeup to highlight your specific facial features, especially if you need glasses which can hide a lot of makeup. And then you have videos like this.
@fredachildress3728
@fredachildress3728 Месяц назад
Three of us kids were born in the 1950s, and our other sibling was born in 1960, but our mother had to work because our father walked out on all of us, she always told us that if we had questions, just ask her and she would explain things to the best of her ability. Our mother never, ever treated us like we were robots, in fact, she encouraged us to think for ourselves, but at least we did show respect to adults.
@Deanguilberry
@Deanguilberry Месяц назад
I was born in the 60s. My mom was a bit strict my dad not at all. I had friends whose parents were permissive as all get out.
@MrJgracias
@MrJgracias Месяц назад
And is that why there is hatred in your heart?
@jonathanpharo9165
@jonathanpharo9165 Месяц назад
and how would you say your life turned out?
@WorkerBeesUnite
@WorkerBeesUnite Месяц назад
Your mother sounds wonderful. Hope you still got to spend time with her as a child in between her working a lot
@llkoolbean4935
@llkoolbean4935 Месяц назад
Click bait and it's being used to divide the generations. It's BS. Thumbs down
@Nope-s
@Nope-s Месяц назад
I think this is why my mom is so emotionally bankrupt. And she is so cold. And always told me "oh get over it" or "it's all in your head, get a grip". Never showed us much love or affection. She took care of us and provided for us, but she was so far removed emotionally. She still is. I begged her to come stay with me last night because I've been having heart palpitations that lead to horrific panic attacks. I begged my mom to come stay because I was scared to be alone with just my toddler daughter. Mom lives 3 to 4 minutes away. She told me no. I asked could we please come stay the night there. She told me no. Stuff like that really hurts. I forgive her...or at least I really want to... but it's hard. I can't stop feeling the sting from it. Anyway, I believe this 100000%.
@hamsandjenohbacon
@hamsandjenohbacon Месяц назад
What's her reasoning for saying no when you're just trying to feel better by having some support. I hope you tell her how this makes you feel
@GadSammit
@GadSammit Месяц назад
You are NOT required to forgive her. I am so sorry. 💗
@MariaRuiz-ii1sn
@MariaRuiz-ii1sn Месяц назад
Good for you for forgiving her. It’s not easy but it’s better than carrying that bitterness❤️ The Lord is with you! He loves you and your baby girl 💕
@AB-mx1de
@AB-mx1de Месяц назад
I am so sorry, unfortunately I can relate as my boomer mother is emotionally bankrupt and has no empathy for her children. She hurts and abandons us over and over and over. Patrick Teahan’s videos have been very helpful for me in my healing journey.
@jesusneversinned5985
@jesusneversinned5985 Месяц назад
Your mother is broken but it is no excuse for her to treat you that way. Never ever let your heart wax cold, Ever ever ever ever ever Jesus is the only way to make sure that doesn't happen. A lot of people judge Jesus because of People who claim to follow him that treat others like garbage, But let's start approaching Jesus ourselves Instead of judging him because of the actions of those who claim to follow him. Jesus is loving and he is kind, But he is also not stupid either, And he is totally holy and righteous. And he loves you so very much.
@NCWildHeART
@NCWildHeART 5 дней назад
I like your page, it’s interesting the takes from history, but it saddens me so see so many people divided based on their ages and generations.
@williamhatfield1094
@williamhatfield1094 17 дней назад
Sadly, my dad was taught "children should be seen and not heard". Unfortunately even when I was born he still believed that lie his father branded into him. It's taken a lot to overcome the past.
@jimfinigan1681
@jimfinigan1681 Месяц назад
I am a "Gen X" and I was raised by my grandparents who were part of the "Great Depression/WWII" generation. Their attitude was that children were to be seen and not heard. If I opened my mouth to speak I would get my face slapped. I was also expected to be stoic and have no emotions. In our family, you didn't show any emotions or express sny feelings of any kind, or you would get slapped or beaten.
@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats
@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats Месяц назад
Parents could do better in any generation but bad people seem to be leading us, mixing in bad with good. Also, parents aren't perfect so in every generation they will make mistakes that other parents in that generation do not make.
@jimfinigan1681
@jimfinigan1681 Месяц назад
@@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats My grandmother once told me that they were raised that way and they didn't know better. That was BS. She was a lifelong teacher and had a master's degree. She damn well knew better. My grandfather was just deliberately ignorant and didn't want to know better. It all worked out, though. I didn't raise my child like that. She was encouraged to ask questions and speak her mind. We even had discussions about the things that she questioned. All I ever asked of her was to be respectful. Now, she is grown and we still have a great relationship.
@yvonnecortes_
@yvonnecortes_ Месяц назад
@@jimfinigan1681exactly! Those bad teachings went on for decades it wasnt just the one decade and thats it. Many generations were messed up due to this way of thinking. And those people who were raised to have no feelings and were beaten for everything then went on to b dysfunctional adults who then became law makers and police officers etc who then went on to destroy the world. Those bad teachings and abuse go on to have very bad effects on society as a whole. We cant just say eh it was how things were done but were ok…are we ok though are we?
@behrens97
@behrens97 Месяц назад
@@yvonnecortes_ well said
@H.P.Blavatsky
@H.P.Blavatsky Месяц назад
My gran had my dad at 38. He had me at 35. I’m currently 32. I experienced the parenting that my gran gave my father who gave to me… Getting hit because something completely unrelated to me (like a phone call or him running out of money too fast) then crying because it hurt then getting hit for crying then being sent to bed at 6pm for being too ‘excited’ then laying in bed terrified because that when dad would come in to get his midnight jollies …. I’m glad parents are a little more gentle these days …
@catesj15
@catesj15 19 дней назад
That’s why they think we’re cry babies, because they’re emotionally stunted
@alexisvandom8037
@alexisvandom8037 17 дней назад
Nailed it.
@doyourhomework5444
@doyourhomework5444 15 дней назад
No you are... Check unaliving rates then vs now Confused identities Debt etc But they were robots 😂😂😂😂
@skyegroome223
@skyegroome223 15 дней назад
No, they were just raised to be hard. There's difference
@ReelPiscesPlays
@ReelPiscesPlays 15 дней назад
@@doyourhomework5444the same shit that’s been around for yr. Stop acting like that all these things are new.
@doyourhomework5444
@doyourhomework5444 15 дней назад
@@ReelPiscesPlays stop acting like you comprehend I said COMPARE crybaby
@homogenicanchoress
@homogenicanchoress 3 дня назад
my boomer mom turned around & raised me the exact same way. she hates her own mother but can’t seem to fathom why we aren’t close. crazy how that works.
@jessicahay9305
@jessicahay9305 8 дней назад
As much as I hate to admit it, when we started gradually being less strict, teaching kids that their feelings were valid and should be expressed, and got rid of "because I said so" that's when society started falling apart. It started in the 60s and has gotten worse with every generation since. Why can't we treat each other like people deserving of love and respect without people becoming entitled and losing their damn minds?
@rachaelbultman241
@rachaelbultman241 День назад
I think it's because we're not robots and having everyone able to freely express their feelings and opinions, it's a lot to take in. We all have different thoughts and feelings and that's just how it is.
@ReiseLukas
@ReiseLukas Месяц назад
"If you misbehave you weren't normal" And that was a fatal flaw in thinking. Misbehavior or rebellion is a central core of human nature. Now that doesn't mean it should be encouraged, but it shouldn't be completely supressed like it was back then. Channel that nature to be productive and don't block it out entirely
@MrNote-lz7lh
@MrNote-lz7lh Месяц назад
No wonder why school shootings are on the rise with that type of thinking.
@Cat-the-dragon
@Cat-the-dragon Месяц назад
Im a gen z kid raised by a boomer mother and this was how she raised me. Dont ask questions, dont talk back, just do something else and don't bother the adults. Dont show negative emotions but she never even tried to control hers. I was treated more like an annoying purse dog than a human being.
@paulruiz4518
@paulruiz4518 Месяц назад
I'm a baby boomer born in (1962,) my 1st and only child born in (2000 a Z'er) and my Greatest joy!! tell my son Everyday "I ❤️ him!" and show him how much he's the world 🌎 to me? Something my father couldn't do because he grew up without a mother? he was born in (1921) Depression Era, and the "Greatest Gen" of All!! "Where men were men" and "women were women" "right is right an wrong is wrong" I tell my son between me and you, there's 3' generations apart!!.... Usually It's 1-2...3!!. that's quite a bit? NO BODY'S!! Perfect!! Everyone has faults!! an (unfortunately we pass it down to our kids?)..... So we learn from others people failures and be different with our own! we've a Saying in Spanish... "AMOR CONQUISTA TODO!!" ❤😊 ✝️
@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats
@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats Месяц назад
In every generation I've seen, there is an eee -veeel bunch running the world and the media to make sure bad things are happening especially where good is being taught. Also, parents aren't perfect so they do things raising children in a way that isn't good.
@smusky4643
@smusky4643 Месяц назад
Sounds like she had a skill issue.
@nematolvajkergetok5104
@nematolvajkergetok5104 Месяц назад
X-gen here, I feel you.
@theresarathell4686
@theresarathell4686 9 дней назад
"Children were to be seen and not heard" was a popular one.I Think it also depended on the family. My dad was raised in a loving family. My mother was raised in an abusive family
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