When Chris said he looks for people he thinks could be leos, I immediately did a double take like, huh he did not just bring astrology signs into this?! It took a sec to realize he meant law enforcement but made me laugh so hard. Like just the disconnect between looking for a strong situationally aware person to help an emergency but also like if you were born in this month you are also qualified. Lol thanks, really appreciate y'alls advice.
Took me a sec too. I am a Leo, born in the middle of August, and my first reaction was "yeah, Leo's can get shit done and hold their own". Then he said law enforcement officer, and that made way more sense. LOL
This year was the first year I actually realized why my husband said I wasn't allowed to go to the mall on black Friday. I was a single mom for 15 years. I was the "bad bitch." Nothing scared me. I could go to the ghetto and not care. Now because of you both I have realized he doesn't want me in those situations. For four years I thought it was control. Now i realize it is protection.
Until recently. I was not comfortable admitting I was looking for someone to protect me. But I wasn't with the right person. All of this makes soooo much sense! Thank-you!
When he said LEO's I totally thought of astrology at first and wanted to know what they specifically did 🤣 I am really enjoying the podcast, this makes me take time to think about what is being said and take a moment to analyze why I have the reactions that I do to what is said. Great podcast!
I just want to say I personally emailed you guys and you suggested that I watch this video. I am pleased to say that I follow 80% of all of the things you stated as what makes a man a man. I am now hyper aware of some shortcomings and will actively work towards improving them. With that being said I appreciate your time since it solidifies my understanding of me being a good man I have had my self doubts. Even with constant unprompted compliments from others of how I am a “good man” this video has now proven to me and changed my own internal dialogue. For that I thank you. Now I gotta get to work on that self improvement. I appreciate you both cheers 🤙🏻
Would it be possible if this could be in a PDF? I am going to show this to my 9 year old son. He always says “I want to be like you dad” and putting this in a pdf would give him a guideline. There is a lot of things on this list and very few that I didn’t even think about but yet it all makes sense. You guys are a role model for all and this is what I want my son to live by and my daughter (7 yro) to look for when it comes to that time. My family and I love both of your content. Thank you sir and ma’am for everything that you are doing for others by providing these kind of guidelines and giving useful advise that applies to everyone.
My husband and I were married for 50 years before he passed away. He definitely was a man that always made myself and our three daughters feel completely safe. He always took care of us. I definitely feel that everything the two of you represent is what people really need to try to do also. I’m not really good at expressing myself to you but I want to say God bless you both.
I just started watching your podcast from the beginning. My husband and I have a lot of the same values as the two of you. Also my husband has been incarcerated before and when he got out he completely turned his whole life around and is one of the strongest men and protectors that I have ever been with. I find it interesting you say to look for someone who's been incarcerated for safety because I agree my husband not only would protect myself and our kids but he'd do the same if he saw another woman or children in harms way in need of help.
As a female and I am by no means manly but, I was constantly guarded because I was a single mom and if it got loud or off the wall i remove myself I also would constantly scan the room upon entering. Now some habits are hard to break however, my man has learned if i say " that dont set right" to let me trust my gut. And to either keep me close or remove us all from that situation. Ive had to work with us both because he is military and biker and hes use to protect mode but, he listens to my verbal ques as well. There are times he has had to just let me squeeze his hand as tight as possible untill Im on the other side to build that trust because Ive asked him to help me over come it!!!!
I'm a new listener & I found you on TikTok. As a single woman/single mom, hearing these things have really opened my eyes for when it's time to start dating. These are the things I want in my life partner. A gentleman. And hearing you stand so firmly in it lets me know it's not to high of a standard. I appreciate the openness and transparency. I know that what you're doing can get a lot of hate in today's world but please keep doing what you're doing and encouraging like minded people.
Listening to this podcast has opened my eyes. When I was growing up, everyone always told me that my dad was a narcissistic asshole just for wanting to spend time with my sister and I. I wish I had this when I was younger so that I could step up when someone says that and so that I could keep the toxic words from invading my mind and the way I treat him.....
This makes me so grateful for my husband, He doesn't do everything but he works hard to make sure I'm safe and hates when I go out cause he's always so worried. You guys are awesome and I look forward to all your content. I might not be in a perfect relationship but we work hard "2 be better" lol
I think this was really well done. Everything you talked about brought back memories of my childhood when my father instilled all these things in me. It’s a good reminder that not everyone had a father to teach them what it is to be a man and it’s something only a man can teach unfortunately. Listening to you made me think of some shortcomings I have that I need to shore up. While I am punctual with work I am known for being late to family events. I need to correct this. I thought of it as a relaxed thing where “show up anytime”. I need to think of it as unacceptable to be late.
Her laugh is so genuine and great. The love you guys share is so great. And physical fitness doesa have such a big impact on your mental health. I've gotten down to where I want to start running again haha I hate running but my mind and body want it.
I wish the curse words were bleeped in this so I could have my son watch it. He’s young but his Dad is not a good example and it’s up to me to show him this stuff. I thought showing him this video and going through key points with him would be really cool.
Thank you for posting this. I was ghosted after 6 years and I've been struggling with my selfworth. it's been good for me to watch you guys because it's been confirming that I do have value, I was doing things.. Lol somewhat right. I'm looking forward to see the channel grow.
As a woman, I can learn a whole lot from this. Ofcourse I blend it into my own perspective. However; I feel like it is important to put attention into how I treat my man , I love him and want to do my best for the family that we are forming. Thank you for helping me work on myself
I've been watching the full length podcasts and now started watching your videos from when you first started. I will send you an email thanking you for how much your content has helped me. But for now I just want to say, I love the messages behind Chris's shirts and Peaches is such a pleasure to listen to. Thank you guys
I just shared this with my ten year old son, as his dad is not in his life (dads choice, not mine). It takes a village, and I appreciate all of these guidelines and values.
Thank you, Chris and Khrys! I agree with all of the points you make here on being a gentleman. I have always said it takes a hard man to be a true gentleman. Another of 'men' are mixed way the fuck up on what it means to be a hard man. It is, nothing more than shameful to think our society has gotten to a point where women would be embarrassed in any way at saying they want a man to protect and provide for them. What should be realized is that providing doesn't (always) mean paying all of her bills and keeping her locked upnin an ivory tower. That said, providing is much deeper and there is a set of things men can provide only men can provide to a woman and the same is true the other way. I could never get what my wife provides without my wife providing those things. I appreciate your guy's message and efforts. I am subscribed and got all notifications. I am eager to see what you bring next.
When I heard this episode, I thought to myself that this is exactly the kind of man I have and I haven't really appreciated it all this time and have too rarely told him that I appreciate it. I am so ashamed of it.
I know I am late to the party but I just found you guys a few days ago and I’m glad I did. I know this is only episode 3 but I really like the fact that you both give a female/male perspective to all situations.
Its very refreshing that there are still couples out there that share similar values to what my husband and I share. Thank you for sharing I love watching and listening to you guys!! ❤️
Omg 41:30 mins in and you had me in tears! Because I have 2 toddlers and they are lucky if they get to have 1 meal a week with their daddy. Not because of work but it just seems like everything is more important than this two babies 😢 but to hear him tell it they are his world. But, that isn’t the truth! So, I make sure I sit down with them 2 meals a day and talk to them about their day. Just sit down and eat with those kids. You only get one chance, why not go above and beyond for these little bundle of joys❤️ Now, on to watch Peaches view on a good woman💃🏼
He speaks as a Mature Man. Heck yes, if you can get your family away BEFORE anything happens, that is the right move! A mature man understands this. Situational awareness is so important! I agree on the restaurant, I'm gonna eat what is in front of me.
Wow, OK that get up and fucking do it part towards the end really hit for me for some reason. Like I’ve heard it before and you guys have said it before but for some reason this time it really hit me. Thank you for that.
I love your content very much! I’ve been watching and listening non stop, every day! I appreciate you tremendously because you said the words that were ideas in my head and I have a way to communicate those thoughts. I also am teaching my boys those same principles. Thank you!
I have a suggestion for anyone who wants to learn but mostly for the men. Look up Ranger Roll or Ranger Lift. It’s a maneuver taught to help lift wounded soldiers to carry them out of harms way when they are considered “dead weight.” This means they are unable to assist you in lifting them. It’s not easy but it’s worth learning even for the house fire situation.
Girl, I felt the princess hand thing I take pride in my nail and hand care (I’m literally cleaning up my nails and about to put lotion on my hands while watching this.) I hate doing anything that’s gonna fuck up my hands. My hands are one of the few things that I genuinely like about myself.
You said Leos and i instantly thought "yeah, my sun sign would fuck shit up" before realizing you meant Law Enforcement Officers not the astrology sign 😅
Sheesh women get so offended and automatically call me fat phobic when both my grandma and my mom have passed at 65 and 41 and they were both obese and had a multitude of problems because of it. Men should be fit but we should be too for our own health and safety. What if the man isn’t there and we gotta carry the kids, still applies 🙌🏻
This should have 800 million views! The world would be a better place! If you haven't already, please do the woman version of this! I would love to hear it and would be very grateful along with many other people that you two are impacting 🙏
I'm lucky to have a man who does these things! I hear how some boys behave from my friends who are dating and I am so grateful that I don't have to deal with that!
I absolutely love this!! Alot of what you spoke of can also go both ways!! Is there a book for what it's like or how to be a "gentle" woman (if thats a thing)? Or can you speak on what makes a woman a woman?
Back about 22 years ago, I was faced with a divorce. I was 11 years Navy at the time and had orders in hand from shore duty to a ship. I had a choice to continue my career and be successful at it, or get out and move to the same city that my ex moved to and be around my then-7 year old daughter. I chose the latter. Had two jobs for years, plus took college courses on top of that and five hours' sleep was the norm more often than not during the week. Listing down what to do with two jobs and get along with the ex for the kid(s) and whatnot made me go, "Damn, he just described me back then". Good advice. 🙂
Ive always had an issue with anyone walking on my left side. As a leftie, I dont feel it makes me less of a gentleman, I'm simply not comfortable with anyone walking on my dominant side.
talking of mall parking lots….when i was young my mother and myself got out of the mall late. it was dark and not a person was in sight. we were giggling, laughing and not paying much attention to our surroundings. all of the sudden, we see a man. He was next to a car trying to break into it. we stopped in silence and he starts moving towards us. we were scared for our safety for about two seconds before a police officer stands up from in front of the car he was trying to jack and starts screaming at us to get the fuck out of there. he was waiting for the man to do something apparently. we quickly got out of there. we were grateful we were okay and grateful for the officer. main point is that taught me at a young age, as a woman, that i had to be aware of my surroundings. i think it’s great for everyone to have situational awareness. knowing that peoples minds could be twisted in ways unimaginable and they could look totally “normal” to you, definitely keeps someone aware. By the way, i love you two’s advice and wisdom into relationships. it is yet another relationship that gives me hope in humanity.
My aunt definitely takes advantage of the fact that most men will not hit a woman, especially the men that she’s with her ex who she was with for over 16 years. She was very physically abusive, and he would never hit her. The most he’d ever done was hold her by her wrist to prevent her from hitting him.
OK I know this is an old video but I’m watching all of y’all’s videos right now, so don’t know if you’re already doing it but if not, please make one for women because I was literally just thinking during this video how great that would be.
I am a single mom of two little ones and when I have to go to the store with both kids I usually have my dad go with me bc I have major anxiety going alone somewhere with my kids especially for a long period of time
Im a traditional woman that takes care of her man in every way, ( when in a relationship)….but I did pick men that were in capable of being a real man …..So I have probably 20 years on you …. and I’ve lived life a little longer…. and the idea of the way men should be is a little too tough……If you don’t lighten up a little bit yourself with out so many rules and always in a fight or flight mentality you will have major health problems when you hit 50+ …. I’m not telling you this to scare you but I’ve lived it and same with your wife. She can’t always be on alert that she’s doing everything right “by the rules”….. She will also have health problems you can’t be on high alert all the time and that’s basically what you’re doing ….. you’ve got to ease up or you will pay for it later in a way that you can’t reverse it…… if you don’t be careful ……….I was never told the way I was living in the stress I was under being a single mother for so long and having to do so much by myself, was going to cause me health issues later down the road ….I’m not on medication‘s or anything like that but I’ve had to do the research to heal myself naturally and was able to do that, but I’d like to share my experience and thoughts because I wish somebody had told me …..I’m very strict on myself. I’m very strict on how I do things. I’m a good mom didn’t always be a good mom. I could’ve spent more time with my children. I have two grown successful boys one is 42 with a family and a very successful business of his own with three kids married only once and he is a traditional husband ( he’s 43 and he looks identical to you with the shaved head tattoos a big man very intimidating)….. and she is a traditional wife…..and one is 24 yes 18 years difference so it was like having 40 years of being a mother but I was a single mom most of the time because I don’t pick good men that appreciate the woman that I am I’m very traditional, ……..but nowadays, finding a traditional man in California is tough we have mostly been taken over by foreigners, not my style, I am thinking I should be dating older men that have traditional values, but I just wanted to add on to what I’ve been listening to. I just found you to two days ago was interested because you said some things that I was actually doing as a traditional wife, but my marriage did not last, and I ended it not him I did he just needed to be neutered …….he sleep around with ANYTHING no matter how good I treated him, ( he would hook up with random chicks at work in the parking lot….. total sleez….he has severe abandonment issues which I do too, and it just didn’t last, …….but I think more people could relate to you when you’re telling them how to be, If you would lighten up a bit you will benefit from lightening up a bit. I’m just giving you a heads up, love both of you, but I think you’re just a little too strict and you kind of have a prisoner mentality. I know a lot of people that were in prison by acquaintance. I am very open. Don’t judge anybody. We’re all connected. Excuse my punctuation I am voice texting this as I’m listening to your podcast.
I feel like I am being let in on a secret my Husband & Dad have never been able to verbalize to me. Things I wanted and have in my life, but that my 4th wave feminist mom's upbringing of me would never let me understand.
Also, if for example your mom was verbally attacking your wife and it was clearly upsetting your wife, what would you do? Would you respond or would you just walk away and take your wife out of the situation?? Me and my husband have been in many of these situations and I feel like he should have defended me instead of letting her talk shit to me!? I just want to know what you would do in a situation like this?
20:12 Im usually uncomfortable if someone pays for me but i with my current do tip and I don’t argue I let him pay. He has said he doesn’t want to be with me so with that I’ll enjoy the company while I work on myself and find someone who will do so for me. Im Also an esthetician/nail tech I would love to scrub rub and what not it all for my man I just wish we could have the chance to show each other
Is it sad that I do all of this, I have watched my dad do all of this for years and I have grew up to be just like him. Im told I make a better man then most men
Litterally stating in my car just to get in on the next market crash to invest in a house. Met a wonderful woman that i text allot and i really wish manurisms could be identified through text. Not trying to show red flags but i have the time inbetween practicing for fire performance but goodness i agree with you could you believe that being a gentleman in highschool was a red flag trait growing up?
Something that was instilled in me when I was young was to give a proper hand shake. Regardless, if I'm a woman, you look that person in the eyes and give a firm hand shake. If any men read this comment, women also appreciate good hand shakes. The quickiest way to lose our interest is with a limp hand shake. However, I feel like all the bulletins you've addressed are for male and female; It's simply common sense. Thank you, for all ya'll do.
The podcast before this one kind of covers that, you can lay out expectations and ask what their expectations are and how you can each meet those. However you can't change someone, if they can't be what you need then hard decisions are needed.
What if your woman wants to do her own oil and vehicle maintenance? Like yea my hubby will do it for me but I’m not like krys, I love doing that stuff. Like I helped my dad fix his car. I love getting greasy and full of oil. I’m not inherently a girly girl. Does that take away from him being a gentleman and should I just back off from doing them if I’d rather learn how to do it myself?
Google defines the two as Ego can be defined in simple terms as the way how a person perceives him/herself. That is how the particular individual thinks, feels and distinguishes him/herself from the rest. Pride, on the other hand, is a feeling one may get after an accomplishment or a success of oneself and someone else
