@@atyaiatin I missed that 😳 I want to know who's definition of obese they're going by. Drs would call me morbidly obese. But the average person would not. 🤷🏼♀️ I was not sexually abused. But mentally and emotionally and a little bit physically. The sad part is that my parents didn't know better at the time. It wasn't until later when they got educated about positive reinforcement and what a healthy family dynamic looks like that they started to improve. They weren't intentionally, maliciously abusive.
@@PR-be1bs I remember how smoking helped me calm down and blow off steam. It took a very long time, but I was finally able to quit 14 years ago. Keep trying and know that its possible
@@mandolaa Ok, BUT.. we know that is impossible to fix up the childhood events so all are predictions and examples, whatever never a cure. Doctors?... They will never go unemployed.
Yeah being educated on the mental condition is a good benefit. I'm tripping out i didn't think i would of been watching all this today. But hey it is what it is. Prayer will strengthen us all. Have a good day
I watched this and was motivated to reach out to a therapist. I have been avoiding the continued pursuit for a couple weeks now. I am glad this popped up!
Just a little note I tell everyone seeking out therapy for the first time: Therapy is great if you find the right therapist for you. Please don‘t be discouraged if the first therapist you go to is not the right one for you, please continue seeking out the right person! Good luck and all the best on your journey!!
Language does imprison us. In order to stop having imprisoning mental dialogue I decided to start thinking in Spanish because I was less accustomed to it. It’s an idea I recommend if you’re bilingual or learning a new language.
I've been a Clinical Hypnotherapist for 18 years. I AM THRILLED to see our profession being represented so accurately. Thank you Grace for your professionalism and clarity. Thank you MedCircle for sharing wisdom!
I'm an obese person, struggling with eating disorder for my whole life. I've literally shed a tear at 28:58, my subconscious screamed that something was there. I remembered my childhood memories on the dinner table. Just listening to this tiny information revealed a lot, I don't know what a whole therapy session can do... Wow, really thanks for this...
Love is the best gift of all , So interesting that without loving ourselves we cannot generally love others. We have nothing to give so we pray, we ask God to please bless us with some love in our hearts that we can give away to those around us that they may be Blessed with true love of God and have joy & honor you, Lord, in this day. That is my prayer for you 🙏
What is the extra padding keeping you safe from? Yourself? sexually safe? Give it to God, Jesus Christ is the safest and most trustworthy to give it over to. He will protect you if you are His.
I just have one question... where the f**** can I hire Dr. Ramani? She's is so great at her job. And why is this better than all the therapy sessions I have ever had? I get so much insight from these sessions with her and Kyle... With that being said, I still believe that sometimes clinical psychology lacks something more humane, authentic, and compassionate. That's where they should just add someone like Kyle to the mix, he totally redirects everything in the best way!
I love this video, it's really valuable. I used to think that I had social anxiety disorder, it depressed me and crushed my self confidence. Social anxiety disorder is just a label that other people use to describe someone (you) that gets anxiety from social interaction to a degree that pushes it into the magical 'disorder' category. Drop the label. I now think to myself; I often get anxiety symptoms when I interact with people, but those symptoms indicate that I am approaching the discomfort rather than avoiding it at all costs. Like getting used to cold showers.
"Life is uncomfortable"!!! That's it. That's what missing from modern parenting; telling kids life might suck sometimes, and we need to learn how to deal with it, instead of the fairy tale lies that blind them to reality, and then they turn to drugs to cope.
Dr. Ramani has helped me enormously the last year with her videos and insights, which I found profound and life changing. I highly recommend her wisdom to anybody who wants the hard truth and bottom line, presented with compassion from someone who deeply understands.
Wow! Modern fairy tale: no damsel in distress rescued by a prince on a white horse, but a badass therapist rescued a high tier veteran and got his son's hand in marriage! XDD holy shit I got a new role model!!
Hypnotherapy helped me with severe trauma, allowing me a safe space to heal. There was stuff we worked on that I don't think would have been resolved any other way. Good to see the profession being recognised here.
Grace truly inspires me. The fact that she was deeply afraid of public speaking ... and shes honestly one of the most articulate people I've ever seen. Brilliant use of the mind. I love that.
Part where she said "We are now speaking with part of you that want to smoke" was eye opening! Whenever procrastinate try to ask yourself "If there is part of me that actually don't want this to happen what would be the reason?"
Yes! I was just listening to Gabor Mate about the real reasons people have dopamine addiction (addiction to anything, including work, food, porn, praise... not just drugs or cigs). Very insightful, his investigation of the research and the role the addiction plays in managing some original trauma.
@@thinkchip I have never been on something like that, but sounds interesting, will google it! Thank you for sharing! @Falcon Britt Yeah! Gabor Mate has really great work! He seriously knows how to explain things. I really needed reminder to this old comment, you guys saved me of procrastination with one important obligation
I think I may need hypnotherapy for weight loss and self image. My mother and father both completely destroyed the way I see myself. My mother charged me with "never letting myself get fat and nasty" (I am now the size she was when she said this to me. I was about 13 or 14 then), and my father was verbally abusive to my sister concerning her weight (She was slightly bigger than the size I am now). I don't leave the house, I hate shopping for clothes, I have a fear of performing (I am a singer), I have trouble getting dressed every day, and I hate looking at myself in the mirror. It has grown progressively worse over time. I don't know where else to turn. But this segment just sparked me to look into hypnotherapy for weight loss, but moreso trauma work. There's got to be a way to beat this!
All the best...the fact that you acknowledged the need to seek professional help for th issues that you’re currently facing is very inspiring, you’re very brave for doing that.
I relate to a lot of what you’d written. My parents both berated me growing up about my weight and I became detached from my mind from my body. If you haven’t already, do some research into body dysmorphia. Take care. 🤗
J. Cheri ... replace Fear with Love (for Life Itself; Everything & Everyone around You; and Yourself - forgiving one's Flaws and having Faith we can overcome makes us Human - What's good for one is good for all others
Im sorry. I know how it feels to feel stuck and to feel terrible about your body because if your parents and people around you. I have no doubt that you will overcome this.❤️ I love you.
Holy Spirit is the healer. People are instruments. "Acknowledge Him in all your ways and He will direct your path." We have reached a stage of understanding the scientific basis of "faith."
I'm going through a particularly difficult moment in my life. What's fascinating, after watching this, is a dream I had a week ago. I've been dreaming a lot about wild animals attacking me since some trauma happened recently. Finally it culminated in a dream where a wise woman allowed her animal to attack me. I begged her to help me get away from it and she told me pain is impossible to avoid, and that as terrifying as it seems, I'm at a point in life where I HAVE to learn to experience it. I have to learn to stand still and cope. As much as I hated it I knew she was right. I'm still resisting it, and it's incredibly difficult for me... But I'm one step closer.
I've been having unavoidable problems in my life too... and I have the same dreams, being chased by wild animals.... always different animals and dreams, but I'm experiencing the same in real life, like I'm being chased by problems I can't avoid anymore....
14 years ago I had massive pulmonary embolism in both lungs and was told I need a breathing tube (intubated) or I would die. I said no. I was very short of breath and it was hard not to panic. I was on a LOT of oxygen by mask but still low oxygenlevels. . I was given blood thinners but also spent the night going into a calm relaxed state and VISUALIZED the blood clots being digested by my body and breaking up. By morning I was almost off oxygen and breathing normally. We don't appreciate how powerful our minds are in affecting our bodies for the good or bad.
This was incredible! Loved the two different perspectives on the issue and the actual acknowledgement of the different theories and how they overlap. Instead of the more dogmatic ‘my method/theory is correct’
Great interview from 2 different viewpoints, no bashing of each other's professions. I totally agree with the "unregulated" aspect of any health profession, BUT, there are also a LOT of "regulated" health professionals who do their pateints harm and don't have the people skills at all to help someone (counsellors, therapists, hypnotherapists, etc. included) Beautifully done interview.
Wow I heard in 2019 on a early morning show that being heavy was a self defense from our bodies after being sexualy abused, but this is the first time I have heard it sense. So greatful for these programs. Thank you Med Circle and RU-vid for bringing it to me free.
These 2-expert conversations are BRILLIANT. Thank you so much. This is absolutely brilliant. I love that this gives people a sense of how many modalities there are and how one therapist not "working out" for them doesn't mean that therapy as a whole doesn't work - and that they might need a different genre or approach. This video is gold.
I’m a singer and post RU-vid videos as well. My stage fright and anxiety have taken so many opportunities from me. I will be looking into hypnosis! Thank you so much
boy can I relate! basically fired myself from a great college asst prof job because performing was SO hard for me - looking back think if I had just forced myself to perform masses till it felt 'normal' could have gotten over this
Outstanding discourse on everything from Alpha, Beta, Theta, Delta consciousness to sugar addiction to that eureka moment in therapy to sexual abuse. I could have listened to these three experts discuss this topic all day!
Maybe one day. I truly want to work to open doors for all therapy practices for ppl that need assistance with getting sessions. I wish it did cover im in the same boat rn but i believe it will change. God knows what we need
I absolutely LOVE Dr. Ramani and listen to her regularly. Hypnosis has worked for me in the past, so listening to Grace is very inspiring. I just checked her channel out and she has some wonderful videos to do on your own time. Good job MedCircle!
Reframing our words helps us to minimize the problem. We don't realise how much better we can get by reframing the language we use to talk and describe our problems. I am having this thought also helps me to observe my thoughts objectively and gives me control over my automatic thoughts.🙏
13:50 I totally agree with Dr. Ramani. I always feel that DBT for me is not enough because it doesn't allow me to explore my past and identify which of my emotional needs weren't satiated. So I think I need more trauma work integrated into my therapy.
Oh right I feel that too! DBT helps me for sure for BPD symptoms and a bit for anxiety, but I need some work about trauma, deep core content thing. I feel like I'm still stucked in some manner (also have a narcissistic mother which doesn't help). My therapist recommends me books about it, but it's hard to deal with alone honestly. Wish you the best! 💪
@@LaGrossePaulik Oh my God! I have a narcissitic mother as well and I was sexually abused as a child. Can you recommend some of these books? I wish you the best. I know you’re so strong and you can do this 💪🏼. You’re not alone, I’ll keep hoping you get better.
I have had trouble finishing things. I thought long and deep and figured out why I have trouble finishing things. There is this project I have been working on for about 9 month I had almost finished it, but just one more thing would be need to be done right (it turned out to be 13) it has been a pain in the rear end (and my back neck and fingers) I almost cried) but I buckle down and did it. It took me 12 days but I finished that thing, I finished it very thoroughly too. I am immensely proud of myself. And now the second "sibling" part of that project is halfway done and it's only taken me one day. Thank you Dr. Ramani it was with your help that I have shrugged off a shackle that's held me since childhood. Thank you so much. God bless you.
First of all o have been following this channel for long time now even before I got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and found so much relatable videos on the channel so thank you so much MedCircle.. This was the best conversation I have ever watched on MedCircle by the way .... I love both the therapist and a huge fan of the Host 😊
I have done this acceptance work concerning my difficult and dysfunctional childhood and upbringing. I wish my siblings would do the same, so that we could actually communicate and discuss these things. With my parents, it was almost as though remembering things and wanting to discuss memories of our family life and childhood was taboo to the point that I believe I'm the only one of the adult children who carries the memories for everyone. What a burden, especially when I can't share these childhood memories with my siblings because they have suppressed their childhood memories. And because I CAN remember and share my childhood memories, along with theirs...they don't want to speak with me. I've been ostracized. This is what happens to the "family psychologist". I enjoy talking about these psychological things. My siblings and parents do not.
I hope someday i'll be able to meet such beautiful people like dr. Ramani and dr. Grace . I already hit rock bottom with deppresion and my mental state but i 've been fightin for probably a year to stay alive . To be able to live out of pain to find myself again . I never went to see anyone and never talked about my mental health ive been fighting it alone for all of my life. Trying to hide it from my family .hopefully i ll be strong enough to keep going until i found someone like dr. Ramani and grace that will understand what i am not capable of understanding and will be able to help me .
The most powerful work is when we connect to our souls and truth and want to release it. We have all addictions because we want to feel good when inside of us there is an unhealed wound that needs healing. The subconscious is limiting our souls which are beyond our understanding or comprehension how amazing we have been created to be.
Now that I've seen this, I'm really grateful they brought up the 'language' concept. I think that method, of changing how I internally speak to myself, will genuinely allow me to look at things more realistically, as opposed to negatively. Also, I had no idea of the positive outcomes that hypnotherapy had, I will definitely be doing more research into it and possibly even seek out a professional for my smoking habit as well. It was also really interesting to listen to these ladies explaining the connections of bad habits we have, with past childhood pleasures. I think I may also have an addiction to sugar. Literally everyone in my life has told me my addiction is caffeine, but I wholeheartedly disagree. I drink energy drinks on the regular (I know, not great for mental health issues) but if I'm unable to get the drink I want, I don't revert to coffee - I will always revert to juice or lemonade etc, showing me that my addiction is not caffeine, its sugar. I really wish my therapist were more like Dr. Ramani and/or Grace, in that I believe I might actually have hope in getting better. My therapist is biased to my parents, so I don't get the proper help or support for ME, the client. My options are either continue going to a useless therapist, but that my parents will pay for. Or to find a new therapist, which I will have to pay for. Not to mention I'm 95% sure I have undiagnosed ADHD, I've been researching for MONTHS, and watching videos like these consistently. 25 years, and no one else picked it up... yet it explains so much. Id love to know what the hell is actually going on in my brain, but a useless therapist and unsupportive parents aren't doing any justice. I am a criminology, sociology and psychology student, I don't have the money to pay $180 NZD a week for therapy, yet I desperately need it so that I may genuinely live to my potential and remove myself from this being who I don't even feel, is entirely me. (sorry about the novel haha) This video is going on my Facebook wall
Hypnosis is SO powerful because it activates your mind-body connection along with your imagination. It fires that Neuron in your brain, and once it does, its game over baby 👏🏽👍🏽 good job Hypnosis girl! 😍!!
I like Dr. Ramani's measured approach to Grace. Any real therapist who marries a client's son would lose their license. Does this person even have a degree in mental health?
I used meditation to deal with a cardiology issue, it worked. I was also in therapy to see if any mental issues impacted my heart health/it did. I used hypnotherapy, tap therapy to assist my meditation, which took me to a deeper state. I was going to regular therapy for situational anxiety, knowing the source of my anxiety. I was conscious the entire time, it was recorded and I was able to use the sessions later on my own. It was a great experience and I continued with my regular therapy. The hypnotism got me past a point that regular therapy and my own meditation could not. Also felt relieved and exhausted after the sessions, only took 3.
@@TRUNDNBLING yes, at the very beginning, the first 2 seconds with Kyle Kittleson on this one, ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-kNi9bEeFOQU.html
JESUS JESUS JESUS! That WAS divine intervention! Along my journey I have said things that I know was inspired by God at the exact moment where it would make tremendous impact! WOW! I like how she knew that hypnotherapy was her life purpose she IMMEDIATELY left corporate America! And the fact that she is absolutely beautiful I’m sure did help the gentleman! ! I’m glad he was able to recover ,she is working miracles her and Dr. Ramani are both absolutely beautiful and absolutely amazing! I have learned so much and grown as a person by watching these kind of videos on Med Circle and Dr Ramani
i'm 83 years old now but still suffering from this lingering hatred and anger within me. my goal is to bring awakening in my country like what is happening in AMERICA. FOR OUR PEOPLE TO RECOGNNIZE THE EVIL ELEMENTS BEHIND OUR OWN TURMOILS AS A COUNTRY AND PEOPLE. IT SEEMS NOTHING IS BEING ACHIEVED AND OUR POLITICS REMAIN BELLOW-THE-BELT CONSCIOUSNESS OF OUR REALITIES. VERY GRATEFUL THAT THIS NARCISSISM HAS COME OFF ON LINE. SALUTING YOU GUYS DR. RAMANI, KYLE KITTLESON AND GRACE SMITH. A FORMER LEFTIST REBEL.
Life is such a wonderful place if you're on the right path. Having luck to understand your language and to consume your great product is one of my steps towards my health and happiness. Thank you very very much!
This so resonated with me as I have issues with alcohol (my dad was as well) and my dad was my source of unconditional love and I had mentioned to a therapist that it was difficult because the smell of alcohol gives me comfort. Also my mother rejected me and I use alcohol to quill my fear of abandonment. Thank you all for what you are doing.....you are truly making a difference.
I’ve been a Psych RN for most of my career, now realizing I am always trying to help other people instead of myself. The fear of being shamed by previous colleagues, one of which now “treats me”,was crippling so I pretended I was ok. This video made me realize trauma therapy is what I need. I’ve never liked the “victim” label so I have never shared my traumas from 3 -17 yrs old. Sweet Baby Buddha this is a powerful session. Thank you guys 😊
I am so intrigued i want both therapists. Ok anyone else ever made up a song or a movie or book scene subconsciously and can remember it. Like this shook me that ive experienced more access to my full brains potential. If i just doze off but right before sleep just wading in the balance i come up with the best most creative ideas. I write stories poetry songs and diving into screenplays. I never knew I could do this. I even think up convos that i need to have and how ill deliver it clearly no fear without that nagging guilt or other uncomfortable feelings bc im not alert and anxious
My life has changed so much for the better after going into a self care routine including hypnosis and vibrational therapy. I am an advocate. The Power Of meditation and vibrational meditation hypnosis cut toxic cords and allowed me to access a path to freedom and eyes wide open.
I am only now realizing how traumatic my childhood was, and the effects of that childhood on my adult decisions. My brother was not so lucky. He overdosed 20 yrs ago. I am grateful for these videos in helping me to Identify our human reactions to some of these incidents so I can take forward steps in healing myself. And knowing I am not alone or strange or wrong or stupid or any other negative emotion I have unwittingly attached to myself.
I know this is off topic, but I was listening to an oldies station of Motown songs and listened to a song by the Supremes named Love is Here and now you're gone, then Don't throw our love away. After having lived in a narcissistic husband and listening to hundreds of hours of youtube programs on the subject of narcissism I can't get over how well some of the oldies reflect this characteristic...and many of the Four Season songs remind me of stalkers. Yikes, the songs we listened to growing up were preparing us for living crazy lives.
I am new to your channel and I always thought Therapy was the only way after seeing this I can see how the two could go together it was very educational
THIS! Yes! Hypnotherapists must have regulations on training. These weekend warrior hypnotherapy classes need to stop. I have spent a year studying this modality through HMI Hypnosis Motivation Institute in CA and there is no way I could have gained all of this knowledge in a weekend course. I am so excited to be a part of this growing movement.
This year- by listening to lots of videos and "trying this out"- i've been able to feel my bad feelings and live simultaneously. "Trying things out" was something I gave myself permission to do- even if it's not my final choice. Learning bounderies includes "trying things out" because I've had to tweet what works for me- and, see the options include my values plus healthy practices are personal.
