20 Signs You're Emotionally Mature 

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I'm mature enough to realize I'll never be 100% emotionally mature

am I the only one who thought that the main character looks like Hitler?

I know I'm not when I saw Hitler at first glance.

Were failing art school with this one 🗣🔥🔥🔥‼️‼️

"You are not better than anyone else and you can be wrong sometimes" *The entire internet has left the chat*

And most importantly your inner voice has a British accent. At that point you have fully matured. Well done chap.

I remember seeing this guy in my art school....

"wow I'm so mature!" *Seconds earlier: Hahaha that drawing looks like hitler

maturity : understand that this video is also made by people who could be wrong

People just watch these to feel good about themselves, including me

20 signs for the busy schedule. 1) People are nervous and anxious or messy, don’t be black and white about how you feel on it 2) articulate intentions and feelings, no one reads minds 3) admit you’re wrong, apologize 4) confidence, everyone sucks but we try anyway lol 5) forgive parents for being humans 6) small things on mood- take care of yourself physically or don’t approach situations drunk or exhausted 7) don’t sulk, tell them and if not it’s cool move on 8) perfection isn’t real, you’re gonna hurt yourself getting there or thinking it’s out there 9) virtue of pessimism, calm and patience from it/lower expectations 10) people can be great in some ways and crap in others, no one’s perfect 11) fall in love less easily, everything looks perfect far away but chances are they’re annoying 12) you’re difficult too lol get over it 13) forgive yourself for your stuff, be your own friend because who else will 14) peace with your inner child 15) no grand plans for happiness and celebrate little things, aka lower expectations part 2 16) stop caring on what people think on you, small friend groups rule 17) hearing feedback and not reacting negatively 18) don’t live too close to problems, get out and make perspective, nature and animals have it right anyway aka get off social media and go move like a human 19) your past colors your response, accept and work with it 20) share vulnerability to build better relationships, not just joy

Parents had a choice, and chose to be bully's. They have had opportunities to apologise since, and have chosen to not. It's not usually the action, it's the reaction. When you say how they've hurt you down the years, and they don't care or say they can't live in the past. They are happy to talk about their own past, but not acknowledge the suffering they have caused. I acknowledge how I mess up my kids, it keeps me humbled. And I really do want to do better.

*Maturity is not based on age.* *It's an attitude built by experience.*

"Of course you're an idiot, but you're still a loveable one, as we all are". that's really touched me.

The animation reminded me of a famous Austrian painter

I learned a lot of this in my early 20's just from life coming hard and fast, but life is forever a persuit of being better in ones self, to be better to those around you. So much of this I need to work on again as a refresher to myself, and some of it is new. This is a brilliant life guide - some top level bullet points!

"Friendship is really about sharing vulnerability." Couldn't have said it any better!

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in life is that emotional maturity is not about being perfect, it’s about being aware of yourself, and forgiving to others.

can I just say that the lessons learnt from these videos are major and significant, but only because there's a perfect narrator to it. The man voicing these videos are what make me come back for more. Big credit.

I just love how they explain everything to us so we can understand them , and they make it fun so we don't get bored or distracted ( which happens to me very often) plus they are having fun to which is amazing. So thank you! You're amazing guys!

1. You realize people are never good or bad, they are traumatized and complex. Complexity is interesting. 2. You learn to articulate your emotions to get your point across. 3. You acknowledge that you are not perfect and learn to apologize. 4. You learn to be confident without being narcissistic. 5. You forgive your parents for fucking you up so, because you keep remembering they have gone through the same. 6. You make important decisions and initiate important conversations only when you are completely rested from various indirect stressors. 7. You forgive people who hurt you, even if they don't understand after your explain why you were hurt. 8. You cease to believe in perfect life and perfect people. 9. You don't keep your hopes up too high in general and learn to be comfortable with it. 10. You understand that other people's weaknesses are always balanced by their strengths and learn to concentrate on them. 11. You don't fall in love for superficial qualities. 12. You understand that you are just as big pain in the ass to be around with, as the other people seem to be. 13. You learn to forgive yourself regardless of how you suck at everything. 14. You make peace with an immature version of yours that shows itself once in a while. 15. You seek satisfaction in tiny achievements rather than in monumental ones. 16. You stop caring what others think of you. 17. You appreciate healthy criticism. 18. You make time to examine your life. 19. You are able to identify inner traumas you received as a child and avoid acting on impulses instilled by those experiences. 20. You understand that true friendship is about exchanging a personal story, rather than best advice.

I clicked on this video hoping that i could identify myself with some of these signs. Instead, this video taught me how to give life a better approach

I’m 22 and it feels nice that I can relate to all of these points (but can’t execute them perfectly of course) Most friends I’ve had until now only wanted to mark things as good or bad and seemed almost afraid of discussing things without adding a clear conclusion of “it’s good” or “it’s bad”. They spent their whole lives in one culture and didn’t seem to be aware of how that shaped the way they thought either. I tried to think like them too, but spending time with a different culture/language really opened up to me why I was never comfortable with this It’s only this year that I realized they were just immature and insecure, and I know how to better pick my role models now. Though tbh I can tell that some of my friends are like me, and I’m going to spend more time with those people

Thank you for this. I've had a few doubts about my growth and didn't realise how valuable this affirmation of certain aspects would be. Thank you again

"everyone is just as stupid scared as you" this is a good motto

21: Not keeping a personal scorecard as you go through the list.

who else thought that it was Hitler

I thought it was Hitler on the preview

"Of course, you are an idiot, but you're still a lovable one."

21) you realize that it’s ok if you don’t check off all 20 of the listed characteristics in this video just yet, because we’re all a work in progress. And, sometimes, it’s good to recognize where you fall short so that you can work on becoming a more well-rounded person (without criticizing yourself, of course).

I'm a student and I have to say I must thank my mom and dad, my hardships and my friends (good and bad or both in one) for helping me on this path to become more emotionally mature. A few things that I've learned is, everyone is complicated and have demons that come back to haunt them. Humbleness is different from submission and speaking your mind is not hurtful in correct circumstances. Being rational is okay but being too rational isn't. There has to be a balance between rationality and emotionality. Making comprises for someone is different from breaking your own rules to please someone you care about. Betrayal is hurtful and can drown you but it is one of the best lessons you'll ever get in strengthening your emotional maturity, train yourself not to give too much of yourself (lessens the pain) and teaches you how to spot similar personality traits to the person that hurt you. Letting go is okay

I came into this thinking to check off a lot of these boxes but I haven’t. Very humbling in that way! Thank you.

"Of course you're an idiot, but you're still a lovable one" 😂 this one really spoke to me

1. There’s an underlying fear and anxiety to people who express bad behavior. You develop compassion for them and realize the world isn’t full of inherently bad people 2. You learn how to communicate your feelings and intentions for people to understand 3. You can admit your mistakes and take responsibility for them 4. You build confidence by realizing that everyone is just as scared, stupid and lost as you are. 5. You realize your parents inflicted pain on you because they are also suffering from their own issues. Anger towards them turns to pity and compassion 6. You know not to confront loved ones yet when you or they are undergoing stress 7. You don’t harbor resentment for those that hurt you. You tell them what hurt, and if they get it, you forgive them. If they don’t get it, you forgive them too in a different way. 8. You aren’t obsessed with making your life perfect 9. You have a calmer, more forgiving and more patient approach to life 10. You see that everyone’s certain weaknesses in character have counterbalancing strengths, and look at the bigger picture than one side of the scale. You know that nobody is perfect 11. You find it harder to fall in love with people because you learn everyone is hard to deal with personally. 12. You know You’re also a difficult person to live with. 13. You forgive yourself for past mistakes. You become your own friend and love yourself 14. You made peace with your childish self, and learned to give it attention by yourself when needed. 15. You appreciate the little pleasures very much. 16. You don’t care what people think of you 17. You are better at receiving feedback and can listen to criticism without feeling threatened 18. You know how to deal with your pains and issues with perspective. You may walk out in nature more, or get a pet, or look at the sky 19. You recognize your past has influenced the way you react to things now, but learned to compensate the distortions that result, by accepting that you tend to exaggerate in certain areas. You learn to hold back your impulses or “first feeling” 20. You see that friendship is more about sharing vulnerability, gaining insight into one another’s troubles and worries

Thanks for making this. Just lost my mom and was losing myself a little. This whole thing feels really good for me rn so I just wanted to pop a quick thank you.

We should admit this videos are so well illustrated, i love it, really

Always forgiving a person or a group of individuals that continue to hurt you may cause you of being manipulated or mistreated consistently. Learning to leave toxic people in your life is also a form of maturity.

21. Accepting that you'll always be a bit immature

May I add- I think very important matter is realizing our thoughts, feelings and behaviours as a result shape reality for ourselfes and others. Mature person will seek enough self awareness and life knowledge to constantly rise in being responsible for that. Great list, its impossible to name everything in 8 minutes video but I feel like your choosings are huge significance. Hope mine might be helpful to somebody too, love sharing constructive truths

I just turned 18 today and I connected with a lot of these. But as I got towards the end there started to be things that I have been working on and finding myself in the midst of growing. I have changed a lot as a person in the last couple years and have done a lot of growing. I hope in a couple years from now I will feel the same way.

"Ofcourse you're an idiot, but you're still a loveable one, as we all are" This reminded me of how much I've grown as person. From beating myself down for the simplest of things to finding that single ray of joy in the midst of a storm.

Can’t say I’m emotionally mature, but I can thankfully say I’m learning, and this video helps with things I have yet to learn.

Being able to share vulnerabilities and talk about them like to a friend has really opened my eyes of the people I really want to stay in my life because we have grown enough to understand.

Love how he also gives you advice of how to he more mature along the video

Next video: 20 Signs You Are Emotionally Dead

I like how you're nicely calling everyone idiots😂

I really relate with sign numbers 11 and 16 a lot. Due to a previous experience, I find it harder to fall in love not because I don't want to, but because I don't feel 'other half' character in them. They can be pretty, but it clearly stops at that itself, and I don't seek anything beyond friendship with them. I feel like I have been valuing the little things in my life for quite some time. The Pandemic really made me introspect and connect to myself, changing me a lot for the better haha. Thank you so much for the video!

This reminds me that while I have many things to be satisfied with, I still have much to learn. I look forward to growing and becoming more mature as I age into adulthood.

22: you’re 100% emotionally mature when you fully accept the fact that not everyone with this type of mustache is hitler

Being emotionally mature makes me feel lonely sometimes tho because people my age worry about other things that are irrelevant to me

I came to this video expecting the classic amount of easy to achieve goals so that almost every viewer feels good about him/herself. Instead, I see a list of ideas that I, more often than not, need to be reminded of. Great video!

Being emotionally mature at a young age for so long. Is going to break you down and tire you out. Wish I wasn’t.

I’m 16 and just starting to understand myself better. I went into this thinking I would have a lot of the qualities shown, but I didn’t. Almost all of them, I either didn’t know about or am just now beginning to understand. Very informative, and while I would call it humbling, I also can’t base my entire idea of how emotionally mature I am on a single random RU-vid video.

ME: I am Emotionally mature.. After the vid: ...alright...I guess not 😂

This is pretty cool, I check off a lot of these, still working on some. I never really thought of any of this as a list, and I probably will continue that, but it's a pretty cool perspective on my own personal growth.

How is every video on this channel so spot on? Love it

I feel like you are only emotionally mature or “smart” when you realize how much you are not emotionally mature or smart. Being a smart and emotionally mature could also come from accepting that you know nothing and the people who think that you think you know everything, are very much not emotionally mature.

2:54 no, not pessimistic. You just understand that some things are out of your control, and as long as you do your part to love yourself and those around you that's enough. Whatever happens will happen, and you're ready to deal with it or be pleasantly surprised.

Thank you so much. This one is a real gem!

Will no one mention the fact that the dude looks like an austrian painter?

*“Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional.”*

This guy has the best voice ever

I am glad to be on this path, and hope to grow more everyday. I'll always make mistakes but ill just keep pushing those days farther apart.

Beautifully put.

I recently got sick with stress, and learned number 18 the hard way. Long walks in nature should never be underestimated, it's fuel for the soul.

Unfortunately emotional maturity does not equate to emotional satisfaction. Maturity doesn't mean the pain of disappointment with the world can ever go away. That part of life has to be determined by decisive actions, and the results are influenced by the environment, meaning that satisfaction in life is greatly influenced by dumb luck from the circumstances. Not all obstacles can be overcome. Maturity often just means emotional compromise.

I was emotionally mature when I was a child, and then I grew up and became immature. No idea how that works

I actually ticked every item exept the last one. I was kinda shocked, cause I was doing opposite my whole life. That's really informative video thanks!

Nobody is perfect, and no one can ever be. When you accept the people around you with their strengths and weaknesses, that's a sign you are a mature and good person.

"Learn to forgive yourself" This made a huge difference in my life.

I like to think that I am good at understanding other people through emotional maturity, but for myself, this video has showed me I've got ways to go

5:15 I have measured out my life with coffee spoons… I see you, School of Life. Can’t sneak an Eliot reference past unnoticed 🥰 thank you for this

No. 20 gave me great peace. I was struggling with hyper positive friends who shared nothing but their successes. It is not what I need in a friendship.

Well said this is gold!

Bro the thumbnail caught me off guard💀

If the idea of the video is to make people realize how immature they are, it's definitely working! 😂

When I feel truly depressed and ashamed of myself, here I find self-compassion.

Wow. Thanks for this.

This was truly beautiful

Quick tip to become emotionally mature: Go to art college and have your self esteem ripped apart.

Beautiful. This channel has helped me during my worst days and reinforcing during my better times 😇

People love watching these videos and feel validated

That's beautiful. I teach soooo many of these ideas in school. It's not my subject officially, but I do it anyway.

Only now in my 60s am I paying Close attention to my emotional development, why relationships have gone wrong and how they can be improved. Whilst I mourn all the hurt that I have caused to myself and others I am now grateful that the fog is lifting. I pray god that I will be able to navigate the rest of my life with increasing consciousness of mine and others emotions. Many thanks for your content.

The start of emotional maturity is your willingness to be aware of yourself. How you play a part and how it all starts with you.

Bro, this is kinda what I learnt from church last Sunday, but deeper, neat

Not one person is good hearted enough that they will never hurt you.

1 - You loosen your hold on self righteousness (you realize that most of the bad behaviour of other people actually comes down to fear and anxiety) 2 - You learn that you have to articulate your intentions and feelings with the use of words 3 - You learn that you do sometimes get things wrong and should apologize once in a while 4 - You learn how to be self confident (everyone else is just as stupid, scared and lost as you are) 5 - You forgive your parents (you realize that they were struggling with demons of their own) 6 - You learn the enormous influence of "small things" (rest, alcohol, hungry etc) to your and other people's mood 7 - You give up sulking (remember that we will all be dead soon) 8 - You cease to believe in perfection (instead you pivot towards an appreciation of "good enough") 9 - You learn the virtous of being a little more pessimistic (as result your emerge as a calmer, patient and more forgiving soul) 10 - You learn that everyone weakness of character actually counterbalance some of their strenghts (rather than isolating their weakness) 11 - You fall in love less easily (you develop loyalty to what you already have) 12 - You realize you may be quite difficult to live with 13 - You learn to forgive yourself from your errors (you become more like a friend to yourself) 14 - You accept that we all have regressive moments (make peace with the stuborn-like bits of you that will allways remain) 15 - You develop a taste for small pleasures (start to celebrate and take satisfaction from the little things that go well) 16 - You care less of other people opinions (you give up on fame and start to rely on love) 17 - You get better at hearing feedback (start to see that you can listen to criticisms and still survive it) 18 - You realize how close we are to our problems and that you should try to put things under perspective 19 - Your become suspicious of your own first impulses around particular topics (recognise how your distinticve past colors your reactions and learn how to compensate for the distortions that result) 20 - You become a better friend by sharing vulnerabilities

I should watch this every morning with my coffee. I might be happier and more effective.

Best reassurance of emotional maturity

This is cute, funny, and generally.. cool bunch of general truths. Love it.

wow, the part about giving up fame and relying on love really affected me. for personal reasons, i’ve recently been extremely sad, hopeless and sometimes even suicidal. one of these days i was thinking about the people who would cry about me in my class if i killed myself (quite positive, i know). i guess not many people would. but i have around six friends i love and that i know love me back. and maybe i should start thinking about the influence my life can have on people rather than the influence my death will. this video was very eye opening🖤

The greatest sign of emotional maturity is when very little/nothing offends you. The more offence you take, the more immature you are.

beautiful video

I notice all of these things are lessons I’ve learned over the years. At times I’m doing well at some, but need to be reminded of others. These are like life principles that you must return to constantly in order for them to be useful.

Life changing. I was kind of outraged and lashing out at my girlfriend last night over some behavior she displayed that, to me, was immature. Now I see that I am not all too mature neither. Apologizing right now... Thank you School of Life, you just made me a better person with that short video.

"Friendship is sharing our vulnerability." That is such a dark quote when you think about it. Our deepest thoughts and actions revealing the naked truth.

is it just me, or does this illustration of a boy looks like a caricature of Hitler or it is just me