I agree but one friend or two would help it's sad n embarrassed my partner sees I hv no friends n being tht my partner is .y only friends but get annoyed wen I'm around her makes more sad
I relate to her, I can be in a room with friends and they start talking amongst themselves and all of a sudden i am lonely, unimportant, awkward then people start staring.
Unrelated, did anyone notice the thing on her neck/chest? looked like it might be a lump, but it is probably just a bone? Just conserned, but I don't know
@@myrawest You really are very sweet. You would be amazed at how many different friends.. genuine friends you find outside the USA. The problem is the USA.. not the entire world.. just certain countries because of the way the society has been fucked up so badly by the system.
Can confirm, I found you through that video from two years ago. But I found it much more recently, so I was pleasantly surprised when I looked at your channel and saw your latest videos and how your life had improved and the fun experiences you were having. It felt like a nice little character arc in a feel-good story. I only hope your life improves even more.
Honestly that's what my channel is all about. I want people to relate to my story, to the things I struggle with, but I also want to encourage people with my life story and show them what is possible for them.
@@entity279 thank you . it has turned out well , i am much more happier now although i do get lonely , its for the best . i wish you all the best too. hugs
54 and same. I joke about how I went into quarantine a year and a half before covid was even heard of - which made the actual quarantine much easier on me than for a lot of others. I can very easily like a person but I pretty much hate people. Too many years in the service industry... just wish I had grass in the front yard so I could stand out there with a hose yelling at the kids that walk by lol
I don't know how to explain it, but i can see in your eyes your effort trying to communicate your thoughts, the sincerity of your feelings and your heartwarming emotions. It's such a special kind of beauty not that common to find in a person so please, never let it die; incredible people would be happy if you share those emotions with them.
I have no friends either . Im 44 and a loner . No friends, no relationship, and even worked alone for the last 25 years . I clicked on one video and now youtube recommends me all these videos. Thought i was the only one
Most people in capitalist countries are driven by pop culture: celebrities violent movies, popular music, sports and certain events and weird traditions like halloween! You have to find people that at least love nature, mindful, and not pop culture obsessed understand you and accept the fact you are not like them so they respect that! Also I can't talk to people that smoke or are drunk or say stupid shit! I have a guy that was my friend but the dude just pushed me to do stuff I didn't felt comfortable to do like drinking alcohol for example! Some people just like to force you to be like them if not they see you weird and don't respect you! You need to go to a peaceful place like church, a park, maybe a comic convention, a gym, the beach, a museum or a library! Or your cousin's home! Maybe your family could introduce you to some people! 🤔
I have never ever commented on a youtube video, so here is my first one ever: I have just binge watched some of your videos and have to stop unfortunately because it's 5am already where I live and I do need some sleep. But I really just wanted to take the time to tell you are a pure, gentle and down to earth person. And I think that makes you beautiful. You deserve the best.
I am so honored that you left me your first youtube comment ever. Thank you so much. I was having a rough moment right now and this meant the world to hear ♡
I can tell by your tone and demeanor it seems like you're in a way better place. Whatever youre doing keep it up and im sure youll continue to inspire others that are on the same road.
I just saw that video that went viral on Snapchat and I watched it all, I related so much and I’m currently 19 years old and my life has just been so hard, I cried watching it and I’m so inspired by you, keep it up seriously, your so amazing and beautiful!!! ❤️
"nothing is more important than representing reality" well that's the best thing I heard today, thanks Myra, glad things are coming together. best wishes for the future.
Maybe off topic but, I resonated with so much of your original "21 and no friends" video. 6 months later, at 22, I found out I'm autistic, and that's why making friends is so difficult for me. I encourage anyone who is going through lifelong issues with connecting with people to research neurodiversity, it saved my life and it may save yours. I'm glad you are doing okay, and wish you all love and friendship in the world!
You didn't waste anyone's time, silly! I watched that video when it was first trending and it made me sad. You are young, thoughtful, and beautiful, believe it! My son has social anxiety and I know it can be a real struggle, I see what he goes through and he too is attractive and smart. I tell him with practice and putting himself out there he will learn to conquer some of his fears, so can you. It's wonderful to hear you have made connections and you seem happier than 2 years ago. One step forward at a time. 🦋
Hi Myra, I'm one of the people who saw your "exploded" video pretty early on. You mentioned here that you think that your videos are not quality, or not of enough quality to warrant such subscriber growth. But I think you're mistaken in that. Quality of a video can be measured in numerous things, being the subjects discussed, the filming, the editing and what not. I think your videos are top quality because of authenticity, openess and not being scripted. They just show you, how you feel, what you think, your struggles and the things you enjoy. And this authenticity and "not scripted" feeling is what imo is lacking from so many RU-vidrs these days. Your style (and your style of videos) make me remember the old days of RU-vid, where things were less polished but creators felt more connected to the viewers and vice versa. Thats one of the strong points of you and your channel.
Thank you so much. This is so encouraging and means a lot to me. Authenticity and being unscripted are extremely important to me, because I am a viewer first, and the amount of fakeness/acting on youtube frustrated me.
Awww, Myra...you're the most authentic person I've ever seen on YT!!! Love you so much for always being so honest, open minded, helpful and life saving!!! You're a role model for all of us and you can be incredibly proud of you and your amazing channel! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!❤️❤️❤️
I'm so happy you found some friends! As a fellow introvert I can tell you, the best way to make new friends is to find an extrovert to cling onto! You're amazing! Keep going!
I'm an ambivert. That being said, my friend group (the boys) wouldn't exist without me meeting them all and bringing us together. Now we're homies for life. So yeah, it's good to know someone that is a little more extroverted (like me) to join a friend group
No it’s not. What you described is codependency. Someone clinging onto someone they perceive to be more confident. If an introvert is lacking in confidence then they need to work on themselves and give themselves time. Introverts are better suited to introverts in friendship. People with lower confidence “cling” to louder people to benefit from their social circle, and usually can’t keep long term friends from it
@@chioma5633 I'm not talking about codependency.... this is literally how she made friends. She found someone that was more outgoing than herself, and made bonds with other people due to her friends help. It's how every introvert does it. Introverts don't talk to people so how can an introvert be friends with an introvert, you'd end up just sitting in a room in silence.
The amazing and beautiful Myra West. What can I say? Thanks for being you! Thank you for existing, Myra West! Thank you for being valuable! Thank you for being patient and kind with and to yourself.... I can go on and on... Take care... Myra West!
i like how you finally decided to be comfortable with "being awkward and weird." We all feel that way one time or another, whether "popular" or not. I find it very commendable. I'd rather be surrounded by "awkward and weird" people, just like myself. Always be yourself. You're awesome.
One semi good friend and a few more close personal acquaintances can truly open up the world for us introverted folks. Nothing spectacular, just a few that accept us for our awkward, weird selves. I have found a bar that I prefer for that reason, i.e. we all know we're all weird and we're all ok with that. Do I have a 'best' friend in the group? Not really, but I have a place that I can go and still just be me. Totally worth the effort to get comfortable going there.
i love the way you talk, your voice is very soft and calm, anyone who is friend with you is just lucky, i love how quiet you are. usually i don’t love to watch long talk videos, but i love to watch your videos
I remember watching that video. Im also 23 and have no friends and have never had a relationship. Im told all the time that I'm an attractive guy and have an amazing personality but none of that helps when you don't even know how to approach ppl or you are to afraid of what others might think. Im constantly in a crisis in my head cuz I over analyze things way to much for no reason. I have a really hard time getting along with anyone my age. It sucks but it is what it is. Glad to see im not the only one
you helped me and many others deal with the fact that although friends are necessary and is important, it's okay to feel alone and that it's not the end of the world. we have to be okay with being in our own company first. Glad you made a good friend or two! regards
You keep hanging in there, Myra. That first video, the famous one, it broke my heart. Loneliness can be such a terrible thing. And that was before the pandemic. Now I think thanks to quarantine and health precautions we all have experienced the same deep-rooted anxiety and depression that comes from a lack of physical-social interaction with others. You seem like such a nice girl. If I could be a part of your life, and be a friend, I would be very glad too. I know a lot of others in the comments would feel the same way. Please know that we think about you even now and that we do care.
Myra, you impress me. You have gained such a self-knowledge at such a young age, things I needed much longer to understand about myself and my interactions with the world (I am mainly referring to your notes, which made me curious so I stopped the video to read them : ) (and I found a lot of similarities in them)). Your honesty is amazing and the best path to follow - which doesn't mean it is easy. Like that people can relate to your true self and open up themselves. I am trying to find this ability again... The comment of your aunt made me laugh - oh yes, that must have been embarrassing! How good that you didn't delete the video. By showing your honest thoughts you are really giving to the world.
Good job! I have a lot of challenges with making friends too and often I convince myself I don't need anyone. I've limited myself to just online friends and it's hard to have perspective and realize that I'm really missing out on so much social interaction. I recently lost my very last in-person friend.
The fact that is difficult for you to publicise yourself on youtube, I say: You are brave... Because I wouldn't, I'm a private person and most of the time I don't like to draw attention. Keep up the spirit!
Like your backround 👍👍👍its better to be single than being in a relationship that makes u feel alone. Your channel exploded because your real and your speaking out feelings that we humanbeings feel.👏👏👏👏
This is the most inspiring vid I have seen in a long time. I am also pretty introverted and most of my friends come from my extroverted friend as well. But in time, as I got to know the group, they became my friends as well. It's been over 10 years and most of us are still friends to this day. Keep it up, you can do it.
7:25 When you said “But, I made a decision.” I felt this. Especially within this period of my life I have been struggling about changing and taking a leap. The people who did not suffer from depression, vagueness and maybe even sluggishness never gonna understand what im tryna say but I wanna say tho it’s so hard to start with a clean state. Big changes take time and after you have made up your mind, process is utterly hard but refreshing at the same time. And yes, we are making decision so it is all about choosing. You know how that vicious cycle is. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is the best. Life is too short for being desperate not knowing what each day will bring us.
Honestly the part of your comment where you talked about depression, and sluggishness... that hit me hard. I haven't really shared, but I'm realizing more and more I probably have depression... and I relate so much to your sentiment about how HARD it is to make a change or do anything for that matter. Sending love your way
An authentic and amazing person is always worth watching. . especially when the current presented struggles are something that most of us can relate to. .
Whoo! Hoo! Another Video :>) I can't believe it's been 2 years! I can't remember how I saw your "No Friends" video but it caught my attention because you made a video of real life as a real person. Even people in person can barely do that...
You're amazing, Myra~ And not everyone should be one's best friends. It's totally okay to have someone more close than others. I think that works for everyone. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us~
I'm 30 and don't really have any friends. Maybe like 2, but I lost all my friends in pursuit of following my dreams to be an artist. Aside from drinking and partying i learned that me and my friends really didn't have much in common even tho we got a long and they were lovely ppl. I'm surrounded by business acquaintances and other artists who i talk to in passing but not like ppl i talk to in a deep way everyday like i use to I'm incredibly lonely and i cope by just making more art but i need my people. Sometimes i feel like a freak because i dont have my tribe. I'm not sure how to fix it
I'm an artist too. I have multiple Instagram followers but only about one actual friend. I've tried to make friends with some followers but they don't want to be friends. It's a weird lonely experience. I'd love to find a local group of artists to be friends with. People who support each other through both good and bad times, not just people who only want me around when I'm successful, or when they need support.
I personally don’t struggle with the same things you have experienced, but I know many that do. It’s so nice to get a more in depth way of how it actually can feel. I love the amazing community of people you have built here on this site, it’s truly inspiring to see so many people being so supportive with each other. I really hope you know how proud you should be of that. Because of your videos I have become more focused on telling my friends how much they mean to me, because you’ve shown me how much stuff like that can mean to a person when your going through something. I’m so happy to hear things are going better for you, you really really deserve it!!
i just wanna say that I watched the first video in June 27th last year, been following you ever since, i'm still gonna do a little marathon cuz i haven't seen all of them, i been learning a lot from your 'deep thoughts' vids, thanks.
Myra, I'm happy to see you happy compared to two years ago. I find those years seem to have passed so quickly. You have thousands of friends who you haven't even met in person yet. Realize it. I feel that we are friends who just haven't met yet. Keep doing what you're doing. You're doing great 👍!
the success if a youtube video is not the production / editing quality -its all about the personality: your youtube channel is successful because of you....and you connect with those watching.
I have no friends... not even a lover like you at that time (mine broke up with me in 2017) !!! Scientists say that loneliness is not good... actually is dangerous. And it hasn't been good for me during my life!!! That was the reason your videos captured my attention!!! You're an excellent person and a beautiful young girl!!! This problem of loneliness is Worldwide!!! My best friend is God the Almighty... Your videos are excellent Myra!!! We don´t need that you make special editions but what matters are the content and your testimony.
I was same like you. I don't have any friend in my life. You have now 5 friends. It's very good things. I'm 40th now. still don't have "friends" but when I was 26, I met my husband, and I have 2 kids now. They are my "friends" now.
@@someonesomeone25 Thank you, I wish the best of friends for you as well. Just from a personal experience - don't try too hard, bad people can smell desperation like shark smells blood. I used to try too hard to the point of ignoring red flags too. Not saying it is your case, just my two cents.
😆 you didn’t waste my time! Ya know, your just being you and that’s good enough for me. We all have some sort of anxiety and are different on how we approach things. This is your way and I respect that. Well done. Keep updating when you can. You have to start somewhere and you are trying and that’s more than what a lot of people will do with their lives. You can only improve from here on out. Don’t ever give up! You got this and you are on the right track! ;)
I'm in love with the scenario! Its so beautiful! I'm happy to know you're taking care of yourself and that you're happy with the decisions you've made. Recently I've been thinking of moving to another city as well and this video have inspired me to try new experiences and move forward... Much love! ❤
Hey Myra, I just found your video and I felt that I had to leave a Comment. I'm in the same situation as you, I never had many friends and since I was diagnosed with Depression back in 2014 the few friends I had told to get lost. Right now I can't have a job, I have to take medication for the rest of my life. On facebook no one wants to talk to me, I still don't know what am I doing there but it's always stronger than me. I wish you well.
I'm so grateful you posted this video, and I suppose I really did ask for it in the back of my mind because it helped clarify a couple of things. I now realize just how slow and blind I was about the depth of your depression you were battling the months following your breakup. I knew your "21" video was a cry for help, but I was lacking the empathy and understanding that I should have had. My own depression was at an all time low around the same time as your low, so I fed off of your pain in a codependent manner... a toxic trap of my own making. A take away for me is that while we can say "we're not alone", we must also avoid the pitfalls of codependency and not use someone's pain as an excuse for our own. Thank you Myra for showing me a better way! You've shown me how to live through the heart rather than the wants! I'm boundlessly grateful that you've given me a second chance! You grew a heart into my chest, and I love you with all of it! 💝💗🌹🌷🌺🌻🌼 (P.S.; you could've named this video "2 years and still gorgeous"... you're still very lovely in that dress! 😘)
I'm one of those people that can totally relate to your journey. I wish you success, adventure, happiness in your life. Thank you for sharing these somewhat taboo things and for your honesty. You are a beautiful person, inside and out. Keep doing you! 💜💛💗💛💜
You are so authentic, I love it. Nowadays, people use the web and especially social media to make themselves seem like something they are not, they become fake. Its so nice to see real people with real problems and solutions and insights. Thank you for that. Have a great time and Im already excited to see where you will be in a few months :)
Your video helped me as well. There are so many people feeling alone but still nobody talks about it. The video u made helped me to realise that and get into action.
What a nice homage to wear the same dress you did 2 years back! (How do you feel watching yourself in your own videos?) It's truly inspiring seeing you fighting your fears and building that friend circle. I think having 5 quality friends is much better than having 100 shallow relationships so you have definitely made progress since then. Btw, you are looking good😘
It's been incredibly insightful to watch my videos from just 1 year ago, I think it is so important to see where you were at different parts of your life
Something about her is so soothing. I feel like I could listen to her say anything. I hope things are going well for her now too!
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Honestly, I like you. I think you are such an amazing person and if I ever meet you in real life, I will definitely, buy you a coffee, cause your video helped me a bit.
I'm weird and awkward, and I love people who are too! You're lovable. You found a friend in me :). Just embrace who you are, and you'll never be alone 😊. Let's do it together😉! Warm, warm hugs🥰
I accidentally came across your "I have no friends" video, and you touched me. I'm Happy for you befriending your roommate and a couple of her friends but at the same time, it's a crazy world we live in. Eyes wide open. I've never ever liked, subscribed or commented on a video before and don't even know if I'm doing it right but you compelled me to try. Be safe, happy and always trust your instincts. I don't expect it but if you were ever to reply, I wouldn't even know where to look for it. You rock.
I've always been a bit of a loner. It used to bother me, why don't I have close friends, but since I gave my heart to Jesus and walk with the help of the Holy Spirit I find it doesn't bother me anymore. God's love abounds in my heart and where-ever I go I'm never alone. God has given me peace and joy and I'm thankful in all circumstances
Just rationally - we are never alone. Theres life everywhere. There is matter everywhere. Existence is always there. All the tables, stones, bacteria and animals - literally everywhere. Even when we say we are alone, we are among other living beings. And that is amazing.
@@jannickharambe8550 Yes physically we can be surrounding by living matter but what I speak of is the life within. For example you can be in a crowd with lots of people surrounding you but still feel lonely, as a believer and putting my trust in Jesus, I know I am never alone God says in his word I will never leave you or forsake you.
I just shared your video to my 17 yr old daughter from California that's now on her way to college in Arizona. She will appreciate this!! Right on Myra, you're super great. Respect! 😉
I'm convinced meeting friends through friends is hands down the best method. But most of my friends are also introverts so they arent a big help haha. Everyone needs a super extrovert friend to hook everyone they know up with their other friends. I'm a really weird hybrid, where I feel like I'm an extrovert and don't go anywhere or meet people but when I'm with people I'm a top level extrovert.
🙋🏻♂️❤️ Oh, Myra, thank you. You're looking better than ever before! Your five new friends are very lucky people to know you. And your 119 K followers here on RU-vid are almost just as lucky ! Very good idea you put on the same dress. The loneliness in your "no friends" video was so contageous!!! And now with that same dress on you're shining like our Homecoming Queen!!! It's awsome ! I'm so happy you're so wonderful tonight❣️Sorry I can't write any more. No time. I'm back watching your vid for the rest of the night. Bye-bye 🍀🌵🌴🙋🏻♂️
I remember that video it was recommened by you tube i watched and subscribed and try to be a positive influence to help you along the way ever since im glad things are a lot better so hopefully we be waitng for the next video glad to here from you always.
I like to watch you talking, and listening you are so genuine, real, just perfect. And when u talk just your mimics, emotions so warm, i love you :))))
It's amazing that you're using the opportunity to share what you've learnt to the people that related to your video from 2 years ago. I remembered coming across it in 2020 and noticed the date Aug 2019, the time when I had a pretty devastating low point in my life. It got worse for me too for the next 6-8 months, then it did get better afterwards. Just like it's not like you jumped over the fence I'm also not perfect now either, but I'm certainly better at inter-personal skills than 2 years ago. The "aha" moment came to me when I walked down a path, within a short time frame I walked past a person who smiled at me (I instinctively smiled back) and a glum looking person. The idea of needing to be a hyper-sociable, party-going and constantly talking person to be friendly shattered, I realised the bar wasn't as high as I thought.
man this video is just so awesome! it got hilarious in the end 😆btw, am glad that u took the decision of uploading tht video, tht one good decision you took and now after 2 years, you are here literally a star! ❤️and yea, the trash quality you were talking about, its not actually trash, its the simplicity and cuteness in the video we were trying to find in vlogs which we found in ur videos!☺️you speak your heart out and you may feel awkward of yourself, but you make us feel that you are our friend🤝a person we can look upto✌️
proof that the youtube algorithm can still do some good. got randomly recommended the followup just now, gotta be honest since that video i did subscribe but never checked the channel back, mostly cause tbf never got reccomended any of them. im glad you seem to have found, or as you say was found by some people that provide what you felt was missing. hopefully i, one of these days can find such a thing too.
When I saw your video a months ago, I saw that it was an older video and I wondered if you would ever do an update. I didn’t ask for it but I’m glad you did it
I just wanted to say, I'm 33,and I feel very similar to how you felt in that video you made. Its hard to make friends when you are consumed with anxiety,and hurt. Thank you for sharing your story,and letting me feel like I'm not so alone in the world,even if its for a moment.
