29 Years and No Sex; Judgmental Double Standards 

I’m a 28 year old virgin and proud..I wouldn’t judge a virgin man either. It’s better to save yourself for someone special and worthy and I haven’t found that person yet

"Why is it that women love worrying about what other women are doing?" Preach Loni!!

Sexually free can also include not choosing to have sex. It doesn’t only mean having sex however you like.

I love the guest host chemistry with the ladies. I’m glad the guest host touched on the fact that there are many people in jail who are literally just awaiting their day in court. Some people are poor and cannot afford bail even when innocent

The chemistry with this guest host is off the the roof!

I’m so glad Jeannie is doing better! Prayers for her continued full recovery, Godspeed!🙏🏽❤️⚡️

Our country needs more jobs and education, NOT police brutality and incarceration. ✊🏽

Damn Garcelle with that flowy hair 😍😍

Prisoners are still people. They’re also being treated worse than anyone during this pandemic, they deserve some joy too. The majority of people in prison are there bc they can’t afford bail & are awaiting trial or are locked up for non violent crimes. Let them get they money up & mind your business!

I agree with Adrienne about Ericas comments i think it was about men as well.

Some folks need to learn about the criminal justice system smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

If I was on a date and I say I’ve only been with 1-3 men and they were committed relationships and he says he’s been with 27 complete strangers, I would probably choke on my drink and be grossed out. That’s just my natural reaction. Some people don’t care about your sexual past and some people don’t want to be with someone whose been around with 20+ random people. We’re all allowed to have our preferences. Don’t call people names though and don’t say your opinion unless you’re asked about it.

Some people in prison made terrible decisions and they have repented of that and others are in there for minor crimes... whose gonna add money to the commissary... 🤦🏾‍♀️

Not her earrings still moving in the freeze frame 😂🤣

Hi Ladies Thank you for the good programme.

Haha when Loni said logoff from family ZOOM when they start asking nosey questions like, "when you gettin married? when you gettin a man?" I don't blame her!! I hate those kinds of questions.

This thanksgiving STAY HOME 🏠 🥘 BETTER BE SAD THAN IN THE ICU 🙃

They’re already in jail. They’re doing the time for a crime they may or may not have committed. Especially during this time, and with prisons being what they are, if they aren’t like an axe murderer or sex offender just let them have a little bit of escapism.

34 and still a virgin. I am not waiting on someone special either. I am waiting until I have a place of my own.

I love what Loni said about baddie girls get married too❤️

High standards protect you from low quality experiences but it’s a JOURNEY

Preachhh lol I love the guest!!

Prisoners are human beings! Most people are in prison for Nonviolent crimes. I don’t think it’s a big deal for them to be on TikTok

I blame the guards or people of power..how the hell they getting the phones anyways

I'm ok with the prisoners having tiktok, because having that record is going to be such a punishment when they get out. They are going to need this to try to put their lives back together.

Lonnie said "no, she's talking about women" lmaooo

Garcelle looks gorgeous today 💕

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ADRI! IF ITS A VIOLENT CRIME THEY SHOULD NOT BE DOING ALL THESE TIK TOKS AND STUFF. THEY NEED TO SUFFER.

TRUTH LONI!! Speak truth

Do you: Whatever floats your boat & doesn’t sink mine‼️💟☮️

i don't think these ladies have enough education to be speaking about the justice system! the prison itself is the punishment, people should not continue to be punished while on the inside!! they should be rehabilitated!!!!

Loni and Garcelle had the best freeze face 😭😭

The whole prison part just shows the lack of knowledge they have for prisons. And just plain rude

Some people believe in God other people don’t, and that’s okay. She was talking about from a Christian view. If you believe in the Bible it does say you get married and then you can have your fun. Also, other then the religion part you are calling people who they are. Same if I steal something that’s make me a thief. That’s not judging.

Yassszss I like the fact of the bluntness 💗💗😊😂😂😂

When my uncle was in prison he would mail me all kinds of crafts. He was so incredibly talented! Look I need to know how he made them duck tape purses and clocks ⏰ carved from wood then polyurethaned! I’m here for the prison tik Tok tutorials! Keep them coming prisoners

I’m with Loni, I thought phones and stuff like that weren’t allowed in jail, why are you allowed to have stuff like that for committing a crime? Jail isn’t for that.

People have different ideas of what hoe seeds are, as well as what the real benefits of marriage are. To each his/her own, but sexual and soul ties are real.

LONI HAS BEEN SO HONEST SINCE WORKING FROM HOME I LOVE IT SHE SEEMS AWAKENED AMD AT PEACE

⚡️💛✨✊🏽🔥🎉🦩Hi Ladies from the Real!! Love you all!! I’m 33 years old. I’ve been married for 5 years (together for 10 years) with my husband. I have friends and associates of all walks, morals and standards- judgey women, free spirits etc... They all brought something to the table and I learned from them. I have a short answer to this and a long answer. Short Answer: She’s really just fighting herself and probably missed out on sewing her hoe seeds!!! Lol. Long Answer: A discerning married woman will be choosy which friends/associates she keeps close and is influenced by. She recognizes she is strong but vulnerable to the energies she invites in her life; discerning, I get it. But Judgement is the ugly cousin of Discernment. We can love from a distance to protect our peace and queendom but it takes a special kind of mean girl to waste time on a public platform and judge like that. People are different with different needs and desires. I’ve learned by experience (Ive been on both sides of this story, lol!) and my own self reflection, if I’m being honest: Women who worry about what other women are doing, subconsciously validate the “hoey” women. I think it’s because they perceive something lacking in themself or otherwise dissatisfied with their “holier than thou perfect union”. They attained what they thought would be happiness by hitting all the tickmarks on their “timeline of success” then look down on women who may not be as far along or on a completely different journey; Yet they can’t figure out why their marriage is lackluster, after working so hard to be what she believes embodies the “ideal wife”. This often times happens when something is wrong in their own relationship with their spouse or when an insecurity has been roused maybe by some triggering experience, to cause them to feel the need to judge others. It is really her saying “what does that hoe have that I dont?!” Lmbo! The judgement on social media is a projection. A sad and confused way of trying to figure out what she can learn or wants to learn from those very women she criticizes. Women who do not know how to mentally digest and tackles an insecurity will project and hate on the hoes- Lashing out at the type of women they hate on, displaying jealousy and judgement because the ego cannot allow itself to be open and learn, for fear of losing the identity they have worked so hard for but super bored with; or some form of unrequited love wound. Too afraid to attain a healthy balance and understanding of their own feminine power and prowess. This is a cowardice type of woman who is actually not as evolved as she believes she is; refuses to examine their shadow side and instead bitterly interested in the private business of these “hoes” in the first place. PSA to the bitter uppity women out there: Do your own inner shadow work and stop sticking daggers in the wounds of others. I could be wrong but that is my theory.

But, didnt Erica's Husband cheat on her and she took.him.back?🙄

Garcelle is so gorgeous! She has the sexy sassy zzzjen-uh-say-quaw french beauty vibes!! Sorry i dont know how to spell that french term.. i dont know french but its a vibe!

You don’t just have to Zoom you can FaceTime!!! Lol

I like this guest host! She’s cool

I think they should’ve got a man to give a mans perspective on why men ask women to marry them. They defo can speak on why women want to marry but they need a mans perspective here

I think people need to remember that people in prison are still human beings. They still have the same need for mental stimulation and social interaction as anybody else. You can't lock people up and deprive them of these basic human necessities and then expect them to come back into society without some form of trauma or other kinds of damage to their mental state. And I also feel like a lot of people forget that there are non-violent offenders in jail! Stop treating everyone in the prison system like a murderer that deserves no joy whatsoever.

Sex and Religion: Ryan is exactly right. The world is filled with men that married women that were able to make his toes curl and eyes roll back in his head in the bedroom. There are double standards that I am fine with, but this garbage churches speak about women being pure while men screw anything with a pulse, that needs to go.

Yes Loni!!! Erica needs to get off other woman and pay attention to her household!

They make it sound like prison is the place to be, NOT, your in there for a reason, not a big party.

I love you ladies!! 🌹

Loni is preaching in this show !!!!!

Prisoners are human! They deserve a piece of happiness. Most people are in prison for non violent offenses and if they a lot of them are justified, especially women. Prisoners are treated so inhumanely so the fact that they acted like having a 30 second phone was a huge deal is a problem for me.

If this quarantine didn’t make u a believer in prison reform STAY AWAY FROM ME!! Let them have their entertainment we’re barely hanging on in our home with all our necessities and family around and they don’t! I’m speaking for non violent minor offenses

I’m 27 and think tic toc is for kids. Idk why grown inmates are doing this? Seems weird lol

People forget people go to jail for drugs, stealing (insurance probably paid it back), as well as manslaughter (accidental killing). Also people who can’t make bail.

Loni rocks pink like no other 💖

I haven't watched TheReal in a long time. Fast forwarded to the Erica Campbell discussion...I see nothing has changed..smh Although I thought Adrienne was right. Erica wouldn't have been talking about only women. Some men get married and forget the vow they took. Well said Adrienne.

What the Real forgot to say was those men who marry women just for sex , it never works out. The woman realizes she is just a trophy and has no respect from her hubby and the hubby realizes he wants more from the relationship. Waste of time.

ok so i dont know anyone in prison and i have never been in prison ( i mean i'm 17 lol), but I disagree and agree with what they were saying. if you have committed and vicious violent crime NO you don't deserve to get a phone to make tik toks acting happy when u may have impacted a person's life negatively forever! now at the same time, if u are in prison for a crime you didn't commit, a non-violent crime, or anything like that then YES i think it's nothing wrong with having a little fun in tik tok! but we do have to consider both sides and also it's not that serious lol its just tiktok

Congratulations Adrienne!!! ❤️🥰 God’s time is the best time!

Yes ! Let’s stop judging each other ! Promiscuity stems from other issues other traumas. maybe show some compassion for these women instead of judging.

Flights are expensive right now ita ridiculous

I feel in my heart men and women are hard on women when it comes to what men can do and what women can’t do but as a believer in Christ Jesus it’s not cool to sin and go sleep around and not be ashamed because men are doing it I understand the double standard it’s not fair but how about we start to just holding men accountable the same way we do females accountable not to have sex outside of marriage see the fairness and equality told doesn’t disappoint God but I will see this boys will be boys is one of the biggest lies from hell because on judgement day the Lord won’t say you are a male it was ok for you to sleep around and it was ok that you cheated on your wife so instead of Revenge cheatingas women or just having sex outside of marriage in general hold males accountable because they will continue to think they have the right just because they are males when it’s not true and they always put the shame on females but a hoe can’t be a hoe with a penis it’s impossible so 🤷🏾‍♀️shameful on both sides but males that want to continue to live in Sin would disagree 💯👌🏾

Speak the truth RYAN!!! Some men DO wanna marry hootchie mamas!!

There is no "justice" There is a difference between men and women Zoom meetings are no substitute for real family connection Great discussion

I love the guest host

Hey I'm a big fan

It's not Erica, Loni! it's God! sex without marriage =fornication, it's wrong according to the word of God, it's our Christian belief..I don't understand how people claim to be Christians and get offended about what the God they believed in said..."we just want to sin in peace, don't judge us!" Trust me God will judge u! Get mad at God not her ...I guessed u think God is wrong GARCELLE and u know better so u think we should test first...I believe in God and I'm sure that he knows best so ur opinion is not good because it's not of God. It's not because we do wrong that make it right...It's not because I steal that makes it ok. I steal but I must know and let others know that I'm aware stealing is bad...I have a choice: to keep or to stop stealing. U might feel judged or offended if someone says stealing is bad...but it's the truth that the person is sharing not necessarily judging u but u got mad because the shoe fit or because u believe stealing is ok...the truth is it's bad and God will judge u for it if u do not repent. People speak the truth to encourage repentance, it's a sign of love because the person wants u to be saved...but this world don't like the truth, people enjoy their sinful life and don't want to be bothered yet call themselves Christians ! THE HYPOCRISY !

Prisons are also a way to reform not just punish. When a prisoner gets out they will be introduced to an overwhelmingly amount of technology we use on an everyday that they won’t be familiar with- why not give them phones where they can make Tik toks? At least ones who are in for less violent crimes or restrict the ones for those who are

Violent or nonviolent offenders DO NOT need phones! They’re in jail!! Why is this allowed?????? No no no no

I’m muting aunty listen 👂🏽 I’m def the host! 🙌🏾💯

In America thereus a difference between jail and prison. Where I'm from locked up is locked up. The US has a dedicated prison industry which needs a system and structure to keep feeding that machine. If you have money, connections, good looks you stay out of jail. If you are poor, peaceful and polite you stay locked up.

How do y’all think they are getting phone’s im there? Blame the guards if they have a problem with it

9:17 preach Loni

Thats to much money. For someone in prison

The guest co host is rocking the show 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

Period ..

Context is important 🙃

Jail/prisoner tik tok is awesome AF

Garcelle's make up ❤

Wrong is wrong; right is right. Does not matter if it's your friend or family talking trash and your enemy is the one spitting facts.

We also have to understand that Erica is possibly addressing a Christian audience and not the general public. Not everyone is a Christ follower and unfortunately not everyone will become one. So her message is apt for believers, because there are a bunch of people within the Christian community, who profess to be Christ followers, however, they are still out here in these streets, doing the unthinkable. If we call ourselves believers, that means we are to live by and abide in God’s word which is the Bible. As such, we can call out our fellow brothers and sisters when they are misbehaving. And that is real love, when it is done in love. You can’t be out here sleeping around (both men & women) then get married and think the spirit of lust has left you, no it ain’t, it’s right there as the third wheeler in your marriage. This is a message for Christians (I believe) , target audience is key when addressing such issues.

Love Loni ✨

Lonnie...... what was that dance????

Not everyone in jail is bad or is supposed to be in jail. Yes, if you can get mail then why not. It depends on the reasons why they are on there so I get what Ade is saying.

I was a virgin until 32. I regret nothing but the guy

Everything has its own market!!

Arnt they allowed phones now. They have alot of stuff in a store. For inmates.

They should pay back the. Community.

Jail is Jail. It doesn’t matter what you are in jail for. It should be immediate consequences to persons incarcerated known to be on social media getting cash. It is wrong.

For the first part of the video - I think it depends on the crime, point blank period. As far as the “hoe-shaming” that that preacher lady was saying - just keep that same energy for both genders. That’s all I wanted to say 💁🏽‍♀️

I love Ryan Michelle from First Wives Club!!! 😍

On the one hand it helps with the depression On the other hand They're in prison I have mixed emotions about this

Pay it foward to to families moms with kids

The real, keep her!!!!!

The only difference between some of us and prisoners is, they got caught and some of us didn’t 🤷🏽‍♂️

Let the prisoners make their coin. When they're released, society makes making a living almost impossible. Justice doesn't mean take away people's right to live their life. They're already serving their time.

Why not send money?

The show seems to have moved away from the light hearted atmosphere that made it a hit

Leave the inmates alone. As long as they are not engaged in illegal activity, me as a free citizen, don't really care. that's a problem for prison C.O.'s and administrators. Everybody has done something that could land them in jail or prison, have a little empathy.