I think women are less likely to flirt because we are also afraid to be rejected by men or that a man you find attractive is already taken. All we can do is try. I like these tips.
Suz omg this is me, I just don't wanna be that girl talking or even looking to a guy with a girlfriend, and here I am still single in my late 20's. Still this tips were good you know 😬
It seems that the men who are more confident are the ones already in a relationship. So I see a man who is attractive because I can feel his confidence, and yo, he's got a ring. Or no ring, talk for a few minutes, then some woman comes over and says "ok, honey, let's go," and off they go.
This reminds me of the time 6 years ago when I tried to get myself to talk to new people just to get out of my shell, so at an engagement party I complimented the outfit of a girl on the next table and we got talking. Little did I know, she then told her brother about the nice girl she met that she thought he would like. At the wedding he was seated next to me and long story short, we're now married.
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Okay, I usually say "hi" as a reflex response when I awkwardly meet eyes with someone, but that does not necessarily mean that I like them, so that point is not always true (at least, in my case).
Thanks to your tips I talk to my wife normally! In addition, my wife bought me Spanish Fly drops as a gift and she’s surprisingly satisfied with me by 100 %! Amazingly, it worked immediately! Really big thanks to your video and this product! Otherwise, she would definitely divorce me…
my husband says i'm So bad in bed and i wanted to change it. and the moment i found your comment i knew this Is the one. and yeah no more complaints from his side !
Valuable advice. It's so much easier for me to approach a woman if I get the feeling she clearly wants me to talk to her. Bonus brownie points if she actually does the first step, that's SO attractive and can make all the difference. If you're able to take some pressure out of the first interaction, that can go a long way.
I really like the advice you give. Especially about opening up more and not judging yourself for what you say. A lot of time I get embarrassed when I flirt with someone and it comes off weird but I just need to be more confident.
I loved your videos and your book. I was shy even texting by phone. I took your advices, I was flirting with the guy that I met online, we went on dates many times . He got attracted by me each time the way that we were texting. Now we are in a 2 years relationship and completely amazing of course we have our days but he is there. I do not lie but he is talking about marriage and living together in the future. You are professional just keep helping more women like me, because like you said one time each detail , or each word can be a big impression for a guy. Thank you Matthew.
That amazing moment when you realize you don't need this videos anymore cuz you finally found your Mr. Right but you still watch them cuz if it wasn't for Matt you wouldn't have found your Mr. Right 😂
Matthew thank you always for your openness and honesty. Your words are such a realistic insight to the dating realm and applicable by all. Thank you for taking our struggles and insecurities seriously. I hope you know how much you are respected and appreciated. Also, I just have to say that I really love the way you’ve been doing your hair recently. You always look handsome but lately you’re on another level. And I mean that as a fact not as a flirt. Warm wishes to Jameson, thank you for all that you do for us viewers too! Kindly, Valarie
When I first heard "Look More" I was like, "you're right, I always look straight ahead and don't make eye contact" Then you went on to what you meant and I was like, "oh....that's kinda true too"
Well...honestly...this just works for straight people. Being friendly in my experience with other males has always been responded with hostility or ignoring. Even in just a platonic way. Men see someone being friendly to them as predatory, even just a hi. I remember I walked into a grocery store and I simply said good morning to a guy as I walked past and he just looked at me like "wtf are you talking to me!". And countless other similar encounters. Now I'm 29 and simply just don't talk to people anymore. Most people are only friendly if they're lonely or are attracted to you I've realized, and as a feminine looking guy naturally that means that people just don't ever "see" me at all. I'm just weird to ppl lmao which is funny now...i'm so content with being alone that I love to just watch the mating rituals of humans from afar and just observe and curiously smile. If my soul mate ran into me today I couldn't even act like I was available which is kinda sad if there is someone out there for everyone because life kinda ruined that chance for that person that I was meant for by turning me "off".
I always make a point to be outright and frank and not play mind games and sometimes I'm afraid of coming on too strong but I've been told that that's what guys like about me so DON'T BE AFRAID!
I have the bad habit that when I try to flirt with someone and they make a good joke. Instead of saying: haha funny! I say things like: that's horrible, I'll hit you and FIGHT ME. It's a reflex to make them weary of me and I need to stop doing it.
it would be so cool if you did some video role play examples of people meeting for the first time! Like what you did at the start of this video except with them talking to each other successfully! :)
Such great tips. I don’t flirt in person because I am scared the guy will not be into me and reject me. Dating is scary. I like this guy at work but I just look at him once and then I am stuck thinking well he doesn’t like me back. Then there’s the game players who are so annoying.
When women keep on staring, go and start a conversation. Keep it casual. don't say will you be my girlfriend. Say how is your evening going? Is it your first time here?
Dear Matt, u finally wore the right shirt ! That accent Coral colour matches so well w/ navy ! And Jamie made the whole video so "stand out" by using the same Coral colour for your captions! That's very chic ! Indeed. All the Best ! C.
I tried ! Believe you me ! I’m friendly and have no problem flirting. I was being myself friendly and flirty at work and guess what ! I was known as this girl on 10th floor trying to sleep with all the men !!! - so now what ???
Mcnello - is being friendly wrong ? if u like someone , being flirty to show your interest and open the conversation door for him to connect is wrong ? How so ?
I'm 39 years old but I don't have bf It's means no need to wait.. Now I accept I'm single enough what I have.. I am happy to see videos of you Mathew thank you for sharing with us God bless you and us
Me talking to a guy I saw at the gym for months and I saw him after in the pharmacy and I just turned around and I said hey btw you have nice hair. And we had a little chat. I don’t know if he is interested and actually I don’t care. The fact the I had the guts to do it, for me it’s amazing 😊 It wasn’t that bad everything is on our mind lol
I am so glad you shared this. It confirms how comfortable I am in my skin. I am just like a child... AUTHENTIC! Now, if only I were aunthentic with the right guys. They don't seem to appreciate or are not ready to receive it. Oh well. :-). .. Thanks again for the video.
Sandra E. I feel the same way! I have no problem being open and honest with people I am interested in, not an overbearing way but in a confident, flirty way. People always seem to be caught off guard or intimidated.
I’m going for it. It’s now or never. This guy started with it by waving at me and saying hi from the construction site so maybe I have to show him I like him too
Alright. I’m going to look at him more. I’m afraid I look desperate but I will do it. I have nothing to lose. He once helped me with my bike, said hi a lot and once we had a flirt moment. He seems interested and I can’t sleep for months because I’m so shy
I’ve been afraid to talk to a guy for a whole year now, and it’s been so nerve wracking to even think about talking to him. He’s intimidating to me because I have no confidence in myself. I’ve never made eye contact with him because I’m afraid. Anyways, I’m hoping to me more loose about the whole thing and just talk to him
gabrielle Maybe try smiling at him, or mouthing “hi” like Matthew says in the video. Or if you feel more confident, give him a compliment and walk away. Not only will he be left wanting more, but he’s under the impression that it’s his idea to come over and talk to you properly. :)
I was in the same predicament.I had been crushing on this guy for 2 years and two weeks ago i finally decided to make a move. I saw from his body language that he clearly was not into me.I was sad but at least I can move on.So my advice to you is JuST DO IT.If it goes well youll get a date,if not you will b able to focus on other men.dont waiste another year.Good luck!
Start off small and smile at him whenever you have the opportunity. Try to look at his face even if it’s for a second. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person and by seeing your profile picture I think you are beautiful! I understand how hard it can be as someone who has low confidence as well but pining over someone for over a year is hurtful. When I finally had the courage of asking the guy I was interested in (for over a year as well) if he wanted to have lunch it felt amazing! He did say yes (didn’t work out) but I realized that I was capable. If the guy you like says no think of how badass you are for saying something! I recommend starting off slow; smile and a little small talk. Let it happen organically, try to be his friend. Again, I know it’s terrifying but take a leap of faith. You are amazing just the way you are (even if you don’t believe it sometimes.) Something might transpire or maybe nothing will but you will be able to move on and find closure. You got this!
Thanks everyone for the help! I really appreciate all of the encouragement. Sadly, he left to go to college, and so I didn't get the chance:/ He did become a little connected with my dad and his mom is close to my mom and sister. ANOTHER sad thing is that I'll be moving soon, so I probably won't see him again. I REGRET IT SO MUCH
I am very shy girl ,if I have crush on a guy I can't talk with that guy .I am round that guy like earth rotating around sun . If my crush comes to me and talk to me ,i blush immediately and i giggle a lot .my hands starts vibrating and I feel so nervous. I am love letter kinda girl ,I will write love letter and give it to him then run and hide .
Hi Matthew. I feel stuck. I tried casual sex with different men and realized it was not for me. I want an emotional connection before a physical one. With all these dating apps though, I feel the need to be upfront about it. I don’t want to waste a guy’s time if he is just looking for casual sex. At the same time, if I am upfront about not hooking up, I feel it scares some potential guys away. I should probably think something like “I am interesting enough without having sex with guys, so I should not feel like I am wasting a guy’s time by not having casual sex with them”, but that is easier said than done. I don’t want to give a guy the wrong idea, but I also don’t want to rule out every guy that wants casual sex as “bad”. Any ideas? Thanks.
Here's a curly one for you Matt.... I have a vision problem, so making eye contact from across the room is near impossible for me. So how do I make "eyes" at a guy out in the real world? Is my only option online dating where I can actually see their picture (somewhat disastrous in itself for obvious reasons)? HELP!!
That is good sharing. It is exactly, it is fine if we can use these way. But when i see someone who i like. I often feel shy and i can't connect by eyes with him.
I met my fella 14 years ago, I am a very confident and friendly person. I seen him over the dance floor. Said to my sister that’s my type of guy. So I flirted with him at the bar getting a drinks. He asked me out on a date. Girls it’s the 21st century. You need to take the bull by the horns sometimes. If they are not interested you have made maybe a new friend.
Matthew, all I see is advice for getting the guy or how to be flirty or compliment them. But how do you make a guy fall to your feet when you're already in a long term relationship?
Hey Matt! great video , definitely taught me to allow myself to be a child again. I was hoping though I could get another new free chapter, because you’ve already given away this one in one of your previous videos :P
I am not too sure why I have the opposite problems. I cannot go out without guys wanting to come over and talk to me. "So how's it going? You live around here? I feel like l know you from somewhere. You're name wouldn't happen to be Crystal, would it?" Oh, my gosh, leave me alone! I just wanted groceries!! I finally got so annoyed l started wearing baggy unattractive clothes unless l am with my bf.
I’m authentic af and am usually the one to flirt first, but I don’t think he likes me back cuz he never really flirts back. Or maybe he does and I’m the dense one 😭 Either way I feel like when girls flirt first guys aren’t as attracted because there is no chase? Idk one day I hope that when I finally find someone I like and flirt with them, they are actually mature, and don’t just like girls that are “hard to get”. Smh
Ok but what if: I saw him, i liked him as appearance, invited him with my look etc, he came, we talked, he want my phone number, he sent messages, he invited for a date, we had a meal etc.. But during these stages, if i realize that he is not a type of guy that i want, i mean if i dont like him after talking, etc, how can i reject him without hurting? This is a big problem for me. Because i'm afraid of hurting a guy, i dont invite them, i dont look at them. If i invite him he will come with hope. What if i break his hope? Actually could you please explain how to reject them politely and without hurting? And who should pay at the first date? If he pays and if i decide not to date again, will it be fair? I remember a guy, he paid at our first date, but i was not sure to date him again or not. I did not say during meal. Because it is difficult to say face to face that i dont like him. After that, i told with a message, that we cant be together. He want back the meal's price. He sent me bank account number with msg and i sent him the price of the meal. Really.. This example was a date from internet. It is difficult to manage these processes without hurting and being hurt.
If I am Matthew 's girlfriend (I know Camila Cabello is dating him), I would pick up all his techniques & ideas, and I would flirt with Matthew everyday & all day long, and make sure I am in top form all the time (buy & wears pretty outfits), make sure I look good all the time
