Make her chase you!!! How??? The answer is: Focus on your dreams/goals. This is exactly what I'm doing. No more chasing women! Thank you sister! You're my favorite on this! Love you!
I’ve wasted years after chasing and it never hit me until I lost my dreams, I put all my effort into the relationship and all I did was to complete her goal and not mine, hope all men see this and learn, I learn the hard way.
Facts my dumbass falls for everytime. I think I can give them something that they never got with all the past relationships. I could of had cash to buy a 200000 house
Yes and alot of them are a big waste of money..and most time you chase a woman at times when you finally get them your not as interested anymore she probably done do so many things to make you change your mind
No dating apps no social media no chasing women. Focusing on myself. Living alone doesn’t make it easy especially when get inside your head feel needy and lonely but just have to push through the mental stuff. One day at a time
Dude it’s the same with me. I’m happy being alone and focusing on my stuff but it does get challenging when you see all these couples everywhere you sometimes wonder what am I doing… but it only lasts for a couple of minutes haha then I’m back to liking myself
Alone? Its time you guys start dating abroad. Brazil etc, better women in every possible way with significantly less the effort. That loneliness and depression is not healthy for us regardless of what anyone says. We have needs and we just cant get them in this country which is weird as hell.
Bro you’re not the only one. Focus always on yourself my King. I went tru many sh*** in life with girls I loved, and trust me, you’re doing good. Work, learn always something new, set goals, buy a house, etc.. The right person will come to ya at the right time. I’ve been alone for 8 years and I still am. You play games, go to bar, talk to your friends when you have the time, money is not an issue, life is beautiful, and I most importantly, I don’t focus on these so called beautiful woman from the outside but rotten on the inside. Waiting for you to break, so they can squeeze you in every sense possible. Mostly monetary.
@@neo5973 bro facts. I saw this dude having a hard time with his girl, she was being rude and disrespectful. I felt bad for him but at the same time I was like yo I’m happy I’m not living that life. I always say, the right person will come to ya. Just give it time. I rather whack of*** than having a chick that after giving you some pus*** start taking dominance in certain ways.
Keep pushing brother. It is all about quality over quantity, it applied for relationships and friendships. I deleted all my social media and freed myself from so much waste of energy and curated alternatives realities.
Never ever have I chased any woman. My dad taught me early on never to go running behind any woman because another one would come along in a few minutes...chasing only makes you look like you're less than someone else's equal and so forth. I've taught my sons the exact same thing! NEVER CHASE ANY WOMAN! PERIOD.
Agreed. Imagine begging someone to love you. If we vibe and we are both looking for a relationship, we should start determining if we are compatible. It's a 2-way street. No one is doing the other a favor.
I’ve been really chasing this lady I fancy, but the effort isn’t reciprocated it’s quite frustrating and honestly I feel like I’m wasting a lot of time and I’m slowing my dreams progress. Thanks Jess solid advice
You're absolutely right Jessica. I have been a victim of relationships for years. However, your videos transform my life completely because I have experienced most of those things with women. Thanks a lot for this wonderful job 💞💞💞.
Everything that Jessica said in this video is on point. I have experienced all of the above.I wasted a lot of time and money chasing my dream girl, only to realise that I had made a huge mistake when it was almost too late.
Dennis Okoi said it perfectly! Please my brothers I know its hard to hear but trust us on this. Focus on you, your goals, your purpose, and your legacy and the right woman will appear without much effort at all. The ones we chase, most of the time are not the right women for us. I found my Queen the minute I had given up on chasing. I was enjoying life with my friends, my professional career took off, and my community activism was through the roof! All of a sudden my bride to be appeared!
Your situation is kind of similar to what happened to me. Once I stopped looking or chasing...then low and behold there she was. I was running late for a doctors appointment when I ran into my wife to be. Just imagine if I was on time for the appointment, we probably wouldn't have met each other. Lol.
I’ve been doing this all throughout my high school career, no more. Don’t care how beautiful the girl is, I’m not bending over backwards over another human again, especially one that’s not giving me the same attention, treat a female or a male like a celebrity and he or she will treat you like a fan.
I know of a strong spiritual man who can help you bring back your soulmate I am a living testimony of his work and I know that he can also do yours ❤️❤️
Been there so many time bruh! I regret my past choices I have made. I bend over backwards for females when I was younger. The results were not good. Make your own self happy. These females will not acknowledge you until they have child(ren) , no eyes problems. In short you will be there back up plan when things turn sour for them. I learned alot.
Totally agreed. Men shouldn't be chasing after women. Here are my reasons: 1) Chasing implies desperation 2) A woman already knows which guy she is going to "surrender" to. And THAT guy is usually the one who didn't put in much effort at all. 3) The dynamic is unbalanced. This woman you are chasing is not just benefiting from your time and resources, but from multiple other guys with minimal to no effort at all. Meanwhile you are wasting resources on something that is more than likely never going to happen. 4) When a woman is interested in a guy and actually WANTS his attention, SHE'LL make every effort to get it. So if a woman is not vying for your time and attention, don't just give it to her.
This is what has gotten me girls in the past. Staying dedicated to my goals and myself. Constantly visualizing myself in the driver seat of my life, and crushing all of my goals. Now it’s time to get back to that after a deep heat break. I claim it! The power is within all of us.. dig deep 💥
Thanks a million.! Got my heart broken and presently couldn't piece myself together cause I have been trying harder to get her attention... she's independent and got me through all kinds of motions and desolations... honestly I'm drained and fed up of chasing her... I completely retreated...if she returns, good! On the contrary I'm moving on.! Thanks Jessica, you now have a new subscriber to your channel...❤️
Ooh thank you Jessica!!! There's tears in my eyes right now, I wish I had known this all these years, I have been chasing women and working hard to get their attention and even if I got some of them but things never really worked well coz I still had to work hard to keep them engaged, eventually they just leave for better successful guys. I did all that at the expense of my dreams, thanks to you it stops now!
I’m married already, but this is dope. In a sense, that was my mind set. I had things I wanted to try to achieve in my own life. My wife came to me🤷🏽♂️. 17 years together now with two kids. It pays to not chase. Less problems I think🤔.
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I learned from this cause am currently chasing my gf now she's agreed it seems am always going to please her...well she broke up wit me and I have been begging for over a month....now I will make her chase seems fair... thanks for the tips
Have always believed that in the things of life pursuit; one has to keep trying(chasing)having the no giving up attitude, but on this video tips I realized it is not applicable to women(chasing one woman). One has to bring in balance in the affairs of women. Jessica your tips are fascinating, keep up the good work
That’s all I have been doing all my life:pursuing my dreams and I love it. One day a girl asked me, “ aren’t you used to spoiling women with gifts?” I said nope and she was confused about my answer.
Wow, this is really helpful. I needed someone to tell me that honestly. Been doing exactly what I'm not supposed to. My thoughts and intentions have changed right now. Thank you Jessica.
As a man, I don't take dating advice from women on how to date women. However, as someone who can listen and evaluate information, I totally agree with you. I've been living by that principle for a while now and it's quite difficult because of how we have been conditioned to chase women. I feel good and my self esteem is above the roof.
Jess thank you for helping we guys out. I relate to everything you said in this video. Presently I am worn out as you mentioned. But trying to adjust all I get is am not a gentleman anymore. So frustrating! But I still refuse some stupid stuffs no matter what!
I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. There was a time I was in your position and a friend gave me this book that helped me cultivate some real perspective. Reach me via mail and let me send you a copy.
Took me a while to learn this lesson personally, but this video has made the lesson much clearer looking at it from your perspective. Very insightful. Thanks.
Jessica you're on point with the ignoring her after she's accustomed to being chased. Her curiosity arouses when you become kind of stand off-ish. Just a casual hi and keep it moving. I've experienced this
Thank you for your advice sister Jessica, this is exactly what am going through with my marriage but as from today, I will put myself and my dreams first.
Love this Sis. I also think having chased my dreams, I cannot allow anyone who chases after me in my sacred space, Love. We better meet chasing things bigger than ourselves, and thereby fall in love because of our common goal/s. That way I envisage longevity and continued fulfilment in individuality hence capable of enjoying companionship. My thoughts.
I tried to find a reason to disagree with you, in everything you were saying. Turns out, that you were accurate, and read my timeline. You're the mom every son needs to listen to. You're the big sister who gives her little brother advice. You're cool friend who puts her male friend on game. You spoken the truth about everything. You gave out a trillion dollars worth of advice for no value in return. Only to protect the dignity of men. You're an Angel, you're blessed because Angel's delivers blessings. May God add an extra year on your life, for every guy you touch. Thank you so much, my new found 'friend.-
Jessie, thank Q! Am divorced now. And, am currently working on my dreams/goals. Am not focused on chasing anyone anymore. My thinking has shifted to exactly everything you just described. So, that tells me am doing something right or am on the right path.
Thank you so much and I actually needed this video. It's also a life lesson for me as a 24 year old man that understand much more about love and boundaries. I had 2 toxic relationships. 1 in my teen years, and the other 1 in my earlier 20s. That one had broke my heart. It took me 2 years to let it go. And later I start to get some feelings for a other beautiful woman who I met at a party of my aunt (2 years). She appreciate me alot and we're on the same spirtual level. I'm 24 and she's 27. We had beautiful conversation together. And I feel much comfortable to talk with her. And she the same way. But my dream is that's she's going to call me by herself and telling me that she love me, for things what I do for her and everybody with my gifts and talents. Once a time she sended me a message by herself and I was so happy about it. I gave her much spirtual advice and sharing some knowledge to her. She's a specific person and want to be with her. I start to work more on my self, because she didn’t answer my messages anymore like before and she's very busy. So, I gave her much space and that's what the universe really wants. Let people go for awhile, work hard on yourself and you'll win them. Because the magical things are coming in my life 😊 It's going to happen. I can feel it. #life #lovegoals #lawofattraction
Exactly Jessica! Believe it or not, even at my age, I have NEVER even asked for a woman's phone number but have been given hundreds. Not an ego thing, but I've never been a car chasing "dog" either! I look for friendships first and the flower of a woman opens if I bring sunshine into someone's life. I have beautiful women (even celebrities) as friends who trust me to this day. Chase your dreams and the women will come into your life at the most unexpected moments. I ended up being married to one of the most beautiful and classy women I'd ever met...Love your content!
I know of a strong spiritual man who can help you bring back your soulmate I am a living testimony of his work and I know that he can also do yours ❤️❤️
Keith if you didn’t look like a famous actor or singer yourself your life you described would be less interesting. You’re not a car chasing dog because you own the dealership!
You just taught me a lot, your last point about finishing what you started by keep chasing and maintaining her, this is what broke my relationship with the mother of my kids. Cause I couldn't anymore. All your theories, perspectives and points were right on target. You have a gift that keeps giving. And God bless you for this. Am awed beyond comprehension. Thank God I stumbled on this. I just subscribed to your page now. Namaste 🙏
Even if you manage to wear the woman down from constant pursuit and she finally says yes, the relationship becomes an even harder uphill battle than the chasing phase.
Wear her down? Thats a terrible strategy, not to mention sounds like expending your energy pointlessly. Just be honest is she worth it?nope then move on next.
I have experienced that before, I even regretted ever pursuing her that far the relationship eventually crumbled and when it did I had peace that finally I'm free and happy again
True facts I can’t stop watching your content and your advice is gold. I’ve been that chaser and now have seen the light. Thank you for your selfless advice 🙏🏻 you are an angel who will help men throughout the world who are lost in their emotions. I’m a better stronger man because of subscribing to your channel 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You know I recently met a woman that I attracted. We got it off and then we had trouble, the time distracting me from my goals. Luckily I didn’t spend too much time chasing but I am learning to detach. I’m learning to reserve my energy for myself and my dreams. I’ll be there, and it will be soon!!!
Wow, this is brilliant. It's not always that you see someone who knows what they're talking about when it comes to men and women. But this lady knows what she's talking about. She hit all the right notes here. But will men listen?
I also decided to just focus on my goals, but it is difficult to stop going after the person when you really have feelings for that person you know, but yeah just had to be strong and focus on myself, thank you for that info.
I’m so proud of myself. I’m turning 21 in few months and I can assure you that I don’t chase women. I’ve been strictly on self development and Alpha male activation. I’m all about about myself now and I notice them trying to come back.
Honestly I think you're the only woman that thinks so differently in todays generation! You speak straight facts and do not support all this feminist s** that's going on right now in today's world... I think everything should be balance like how it has always been;"LOVE" should be balanced! And that is what you teach..you are indeed an amazing and wise woman God bless you!
wow why did this clip came across my algorythm just yet ? as many in the comments, I had to learn this the hard ways aswell I was such a simp and chased so hard that now I feel so embaressed for doing that to myself. along came depression and anxiety You are a breath of fresh air Jess ...
Thank you my dear sister Jessica. Is a warning for us boys and men, don’t start a business with a girl or woman you wouldn’t finish. I have witnessed most of my friends fail woefully in life due to women.
I just learnt the more you focus on yourself, treat yourself well, live your best life and achieve your goals. They will start coming into your picture… Also never fear rejection!!
Just a few things (having been a culprit/ victim/ survivor all along) 1) Time. The chaser (and indeed the chased) need to remember that TIME is a finite item. Don't waste it for the other person , as well as for yourself . Things also change (for better as for worse) with time. Your perfect catch today still can turn out to be your worst mistake/nightmare 2-10 years down the road (divorce) or at least will age and fade. . THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS TO INVEST (the TIME you have) WISELY. This brings us to the next points below: 2) Ultimate Value. Some of the best things in life REALLY are free, but only because you cant put a price on it. That goes for true love and genuine long-term relationship. sometimes you (chaser) just know this is "the only one", and then it really is worth your time and effort to try to make it work - knowing the odds - but knowing there wont be another one (forget about them plenty fishes in the sea) , BECAUSE, as it were, people who may take that extra step -they've already seen enough of fishes and found them wanting. And for how long are you going to jump from fish to fish? It is exactly the same POINT OF VIEW as why the "chased" may want to wait for something better ( then lo and behold became a " chaser " themselves:!) Someone chasing you that long may just be as an indication of them appreciating YOUR value, THOUGH IF and ONLY (important!) everything else satisfies that they are not a creep!!. This in turn leads to the next point: 3) Common sense. You can aim for and expect perfection, but that is much the substance of luck and fate. Much as you can personally never be that "perfect", you should know most everybody will have a fault. The common sense is in seeing where things can be remedied, i.e. the potential to make it work despite present circumstantial negatives, and to walk away where it is only too clear you cannot make it work. 4) Delusion, prejudices , perceived realities, and the unexpected. In other words, look before you leap, but also see with your own eyes - not with other people's. Riches come and go, they may as easily trap rather than enhance your life (million dollar divorce cases, bankruptcies, etc don't lie). Just know the person genuinely, and once sure about it (1 to 4) commit to help each other along, rather than fight, over life. This is the barest necessity. As paramount , It doesn't hurt (read it's massively advised) to put God in the picture: marriage is a holy institution (Gen 5:2, Ephesians 5:31-33 ) and thus a primary target for forces of evil and darkness ( Ephesians 6:10-12) You need God to stand against these (Ephesians 13-20).
Well The very girl to waste my time realizing later that she wasn't really interested is also called Jessica unfortunately or fortunately. But this Jessica just hit it Right.
She’s right. Growing up I didn’t really chase women, and they thought I was too proud but am not, Am a cool guy, I just don’t like chasing someone that much that’s either not into me or maybe because she’s scared of been hurt. They said the good guys always suffer for the mistakes of bad guys. So I didn’t really chase, and that decision helped me a lot because women started chasing me instead because I didn’t really pay them no mind. Yes women chased me more when I started becoming famous and financially stable, but it was too late for them because I was no more into them I already had a girlfriend whom I eventually married and we have two beautiful kids.
I really loved how you put things into perspective.. Easier said than done, but definitely logical. I am a chaser, of sorts but I am persuade often aswell. Meaning i want what i want, but the chase can definitely leave you feeling resentful.
This is unbelievably true. I am out the other side of a divorce and I am back in another relationship. I treat her well however I concentrate on me and it’s the one thing that women love. I have a number of female friends who I am fairly positive I could meet up with but I am a very dedicated person when I am in a relationship. Improve yourself, the women will come. It’s so easy.
Women hate guys who care . Then they wind up alone. No matter what you do if she doesn’t want you there’s nothing you can do. Mind your own bidness 🤣 and grow in intellect and personal wealth. Be quiet and serious.
Reason number one has always been an issue for me but in the sense that yes I’m currently hunting my goals but exactly what gives any woman anywhere the gall to just walk into my life pursuing me after I’ve done the work. After the sweat, tears, blood, multiple failures along the way.
RU-vid just suggested this vid and as a man I would say you're bang on. I've wasted to much time and literal years chasing girls and not getting anywhere. Literally there is plenty of fish out there, if they are not reciprocal in your chasing, then move on.
You speak untold truths. And Woman who know it won't tell there peers these things. Especially woman in successful relationship, due to backlash of societal norms of what's expected and accepted. Keep dropping 💎 💎! It helps people to know that they are not crazy. When I see relationships that are successful, the woman actually chose the man and she chased, and the guy chased back. I hope this makes sense... lmbo 🤣
Yes, very true in my experience of a little over two decades it's a total waste of time a purposeful man will not do this you are very good at what you do keep it up thank you for sharing.
I was chasing only one person, i already have many things going on, I loved her and I loved her so much!. i have almost everything and I find it so hard, as to why she made me chase her when everything was literally okay. then I got bored and well now I'm done
Hey Jessica, love listening. Just recently heard you speak, I think I need to make some serious changes. Also praying I’d find a great woman as yourself. Lost one couple years ago. Been seeing someone, noticed the bank account dropping, but feelings doesn’t seem to be going in right direction. Hummhh , sure need to take the advice. God blessed, hope you have a wonderful day, evening! Thanks for the advice ❤🙏
The only time I have chased was when I was 9, 10, and up to 13. I was young and naive. Never have I chased females anymore after that. I always focused on my goals, dreams & my job. Everything always falls into place when you don't prioritize females as your #1 priority.
That's, definitely, true. As a young male, I have experience in this...I have learnt from my mistakes, and i feel great about it, because it's always better to make mistakes earlier than later...
Ive never ever chased a woman, I’m 50 in July and I’ve watched my friends fail miserably. I was never rude or anything, but I made a point of not chasing.. that made the woman interested in me ironically!
I spent my 20’s chasing relationships. My last relationship were fucked me up. Depressed & not eating. I ended up getting a gig & got back chasing my goals. I’ve been traveling & working ever since. Chase your goals fellas. If y’all aren’t chasing each other then stop. You deserve love & effort too.
As a 19 years old, I really felt like you're my older sister and wanna give me some advice and life lessons. Thanks to RU-vid for recommending me this.
I'm over 50 and still learn from RU-vid @@jt.8144. There is definitely a lot of bunk here too but in that mess of bunk, there are nuggets of gold. This lady gives good advice and there is A LOT of good advice on RU-vid. It's the world we live in; to draw from others and their experiences but in this generation, it's times 1000. You just have to separate the wheat from the chaff.
@@jt.8144 how is it a bad thing for someone to obtain advice and knowledge from RU-vid? Isn't that the whole point of these channels and the internet itself? There are people who don't have a figure in their life to give them guidance or personal experience to help reflect. These types of videos aid so many ppl to feel a little less alone and lost and im grateful for this video Jessica made 💙
nahbro all they care about is money she telling us to be more selfish but we have to sacrifice for family and cover them with love. this advice is realistic but not romantic or lasting
Why do people think u can't chase women and work on ur success at the same time? If u would really stop improving yourself or giving 100% in ur job/business just because u're chasing a girl, then u have a different problem. If u ignore girls until u have money, then u attract more golddiggers than honest ones and u'd be too inexperienced to know the difference. The golden rule is: don't be needy, have standards, value ur time, learn to let go when u're not appreciated.
Even by doing what you said doesn't escape you from chasing gold diggers but how experienced enough are you relating to females will determine how far you can go with your point. And it's in both ways. In my opinion Jessica points are okay for me based on my experienced with female. Less stress if you're switched on in your head.
She is world class. Now where is the video tell black women how to conduct themselves to get black men to show them more respect, there must be a code of conduct for black women. I See so many video putting down black women concerned there additude.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Just started dating this year after a 4 year hiatus and it’s been mostly a disappointing experience. I also immediately started slacking in the Gym as soon as I began dating. Going to just focus on myself for a while and keep leveling up my career.
