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@@baidwnmoneskam1995 it isn't too much my sister....is actually even good for you ..it eliminates happy chemicals and adrenaline....definately good for your bond and relationship....and for your mental health .....Seeing your man attracted to you to such a degree that he wishes to have YOU at all times,isn't it good? Isn't going to enclose your self confidence and motivate you even?
Same here sister alhamdelillah , it take a little while but you musssttt do these 3 things. I know especially here in usa its backwards compared to islamic teachings. Fight through it and stay consistent with correct islam, wear and behave with proper hijab, pray on time the best you can, be humble and shy, and be thrifty (with food/cooking/ shopping, less is more, and cooking healthy is important)
@@Eleidig007 Sister I've was born and raised in poverty. I've never had wealth. I'm always thrifty and never wasteful. My household barely throws anything away. We've never bought Tupperware or storage bags, we just reuse the plastic containers that food comes in. We even wash and reuse plastic silverware. We reuse trashbags. We recycle everything possible. Its crazy funny to me. I've always been this away. Even before I reverted. When I look back at my past I see that so much is aligned with Islamic principles. I 'feel' like the hand of Allah (Subhanhu Wa Ta'ala) was always guiding me and showing me the right ways.
I need everyone’s duah please. After having two kids, Iv’e gained heaps of weight. Please make duah that I lose weight, and feel confident and happy for myself and my husband again.
Love and accept your body as it is. This will motivate you to make better choices that will result in you being healthier. It sounds counterintuitive, I know. But it really works. Also, to lose weight, eat fewer carbs, more protein and healthy fat, and exercise! Focus more on being healthy than the numbers on the scale. Be happy about whatever improvements you make, and your husband will notice. Inshallah
@@yasminm5385 Cutting out sugar is never going to happen 😂. I’m a coffee drinker and need my one teaspoon of sugar in my coffees. (I do drink 5 a day-yikes- it feels horrible saying that) I don’t drink soft drink, (only water) I don’t have chocolate or sweets on a regular basis. My main issue is not eating throughout the entire day, then eating late at night. I’m so use to it now, that’s it become a habit I can’t seem to break out of. I do workout. Usually 5 days a week, but I’m in Australia, and we are in lockdown again, so my entire day is spent homeschooling my child, and taking care of the baby. By the time it comes to my usual workout time, I’m exhausted, so I have been slack in the past few weeks. I think the main issue with me is before I had kids, I could eat anything I wanted and never gain weight. But since getting pregnant with my first, I was diagnosed with Hashimotos (which makes it harder to lose weight) and that made me gain over 35 kgs with my first pregnancy. This has also become an excuse. My second pregnancy, I was overweight, so the doctor told me not to gain anything. I managed to workout 6 days a week (even through the morning sickness for the entire 9 months) not gain any weight and actually lose 5kgs. So I know I can do it, I just need that push. In saying all this, since having my second child, I’m just so meh about it all. My second child doesn’t sleep well, I’m up till late with her every night, on minimal sleep, so when I eat, I don’t make the best food choices and tend to binge eat late at night. That’s my life story. Not that you asked for it. But there it is.
@@alysellin686 Sorry to hear that, I can imagine exercise would be the last thing on your mind. Lack of sleep causes havoc to blood sugar levels which also affects our food choices. Try to make even a small but consistent change to your diet like cutting down on eating meat or if you can cook enough for a few days. My sister told me that drinking diluted apple cider vinegar is good for weight loss. May Allah give you the best of support from your loved ones
Brother Gabriel is talking about love ,care,obedience,peace,calm,enthusiasm,respect,etc ,for our husband but also for Allah's sake .....not just about high levels of intimacy ......Allah is most powerful so in Him we trust and to Him we turn .Nobody is to blame for our own choices but our own selves ,unless Allah has broke something to mend it with a better thread ...May this be for all who deserve it and also for those who didn't,because He is the most merciful and He can also change people. Ameen.
A tip for the sisters; place a perfume and lipstick 💄, mascara and kohl/eyeliner close to your entrance. I been doing that for years, just before hubby is about to enter, I would quickly spray perfume and touch up myself with the lipstick and kohl ☺️, placed at my console table next to the entrance! Works best to freshen up to greet and welcome hubby in the nick of time! 💖
I witnessed all of this first hand and if these things were implemented on a 30+ year marriage.. I know it would have went a lot different . In my opinion . After a long day at work , they want a place to bring them happiness and calm & somewhere they feel wanted & needed , not to be a nag bag or a punching bag or a dumpster to dispose of all your frustrations and animosity on what ever the problem of that day is - just show them you missed them and that you couldn't wait to see them and be excited to see them walk in the door , not look at them like , "oh , its you again" . I agree with everything point he had in this video clip .
By Allah,for those sisters thinking they can not sort themselves out because they have no time ,do it at night when everybody is asleep and do have the kids in bed or their rooms by 8-9 the latest .....there is no "too tired every single day " ....if your program is too busy for your own life partner at night then you may need to sit down and look at what you can do to make some changes ...less work if necesary or even a different job....your provision is from Allah and intimacy brings provision as well....
@@6rockinrobin that too....but men can't actually help them decide to make their own time if obedience isn't a factor in their marriage .... I am sorry but despise understanding what you mean ,there is still not an excuse for us not making ourselves time for them and for not prioritising them.....
@@sweettea1193 is not meant to be all easy though.....in my opinion and from experience,it gives a definite purpose to our lives ....children are an amana to us....a path to paradise,whether alive or miscarried ....I have 4very small children and a crazy household but everyone's happy and there is allot of hapiness and love inside..Alhamdulillah....they have been a great lesson for us in such a short time ....even for us as a married couple ...and trust me,having children did not stop us from enjoying each other's time and company nor from being intimate ....We make time for each other and never say no .When my brain tells me I'm too tired or even sleepy,I tell him my husband matters more and I love him and his company and I get up ...whether it is for intimacy or to bring him a meal at 3am befire Fajr time ,even though 30min before I woke up to feed the baby .....Life is too short ....we've got to make it all worth it....and again,it has its rewards ...is not meant to be easy in Islam. May we all reach paradise and enjoy the actual easy.Ameen.
I understand what makes man happy, in marriage, and it’s good for them to be taken care of by their wife’s, but they also need to learn how to make their wife’s happy too, because most of men are expecting more from the women, then they are not contributing in to the relationship.
@@anesjemal8873 other than basic needs such as food and shelter, women and men receive love differently. For men it’s intimacy and for women they need to feel loved and cherished. Small acts like remembering their favorite chocolate. Affection Hugs, kisses and such. Thoughtfulness like offering to take kids out so she can catch up chores.
@@sarahosman9030it's different now. What women want is excitement, an emotional rollercoaster. Or else they get bored and start resenting their husbands when they receive a lot of love and attention
Thank you. Unfortunately, in many cases both men and women need to do their inner child/ trauma work to appreciate these beautiful practices advised in Islam.
8:15 This is so true. I see the ''foreign''' neighbors so disciplined and even have a routine for the kids but the lots of the so called Muslims, they let the kids do almost whatever they want!!!!
I didn’t like what you sad sometimes as a woman living in Amsterdam (most feminist city in the Netherlands 😅😂). But when I kept watching your videos, I thought about it. It’s refreshing and we have to reset our perspectives 😕
Before i though Moroccan women are Conservative and traditional . After meeting some Moroccan sister for marriage. I was wrong . They are very liberal and follow their own Islam
@@HMD1986- There are always two sides due to the attack of liberalism. A lot of our brothers and sisters from all ethnicity have swallowed the liberal pill. But majority did not. Majority of Moroccans did not sell their religion.
@UCb-wOMyd8KJ99-Oo4qodRbw That's not entirely true. I know some of them struggle for the deen but they face oppression and give up afterwards helplessly.
We don't necesarily need time ...it is all mental...it works with the right thought in mind ....pleasing your husband and obviously pleasing Allah ...put those in your mind and trust ,your desires will come along or will at lest find happy from your husband's happiness....plus you can prolong the whole thing yourself ...it is not all on your husband ,nit even the end of it.......
It is extremely saddened by the current state of Western Culture. I love America and I am immensely appreciative to have had to be born here. However, the state of our society in major cities, our media, and even our current administration is severely damaged by those ridiculous notions dreamt up by celebrities and communist professors, and ultra-left teachers. Sad. Thank you for the video. This was my first time watching and I am happy your video popped up. It's interesting that although many of us may be from different religions but as men want the same things.
@@mayaw750 most can hide it for a long time, or at least until after the nikah. You will never know your spouse's true colours until you live with them and are alone with them
Marriage is so complicated and I've learned its about respect more than love. Those movies sadly making girls live in a fantasy world and waiting for prince charming to make her happy. And boys expect this overly sexually attractive woman like the magazines they see. We are blinded with false promises. Marriage is a big responsibility. Each spouse must fulfill their roles for the marriage to work. Its a job contract.
Rigggght?! Like yo it takes a solid hr!!! And not to mention you’re tired as hell from work and kids or school and everything else !! Lmao 5 mins THEN 💀💀 THEN hahah omg when you want to get it on to keep said man happy then don’t appreciate you doing it every night and having to get up DUMB early to wash your Long hairrrr .. on top of being burnt out and exhausted !!!
Alhamdulillah I do all that and after 2 decades I am still not addressed lovingly by name or otherwise and affection is withheld from me because of the cultural mindset my spouse was raised in. I'm a loving person by nature and not being hugged or kissed back or even spoken to unless it's about the household has made me feel that I'm nothing.
I hope I'm not being disrespectful in asking this, but have you told him how his lack of affection makes you feel? You are a woman and just as men need respect, we need affection. Even if it is not in his nature, he needs to make the effort because you are his wife. If he has some traumatic reason for not giving affection, request kindly that he talks to someone about it. Inshallah things will get better.
[Quran 5:48] And We have revealed to you, [O Muhammad], the Book [i.e., the Quran] in truth, confirming that which preceded it of the Scripture and as a criterion over it. So judge between them by what Allah has revealed and do not follow their inclinations away from what has come to you of the truth. To each of you We prescribed a law and a method. Had Allah willed, He would have made you one nation [united in religion], but [He intended] to test you in what He has given you; so race to [all that is] good. To Allah is your return all together, and He will [then] inform you concerning that over which you used to differ.
@@anesjemal8873 :) ....in some things I do..in some things I don't...this is one advice I do agree to :) All 3 advices I have been practicing them for some time and they have saved my marriage Alhamdulillah. :) plus there is more Islam on here than on brother Mahdi's and brother Gabriel is also man enough to apologise and correct himself when wrong . Good content Mashaa Allah....Good content.
Beautiful tips brother. Alhamdolilah I was doing it before but now that I know how important it is, Insha’Allah I will do it 100% just I try to do my salaat 100%. Jzk khr brother
Alhamdulilah I have taught all these important qualities by my beloved mother, she did all these things to my father, even though she always reminded us to take these actions seriously.
That’s disgusting. Idk what type of men you attract. I’m a man and I find these things disgusting. But don’t try to switch it around. Just like men should put in effort you women SHOULD too. Stop acting like y’all are prefect and don’t have to do anything.
@@acbacbacbacbacb its not about the type of men we attract,men get comfortable after they married and then they do these things,woman are more shy,although its natural its still not pleasing on the ears
@@Nuraah52 again idk what type of men you’re attracting. Stop being a sexist misandrist by generalizing men. Some men do that disgusting stuff and others don’t. Stop generalizing men, in fact you’re actually disgusting for being sexist.
@@acbacbacbacbacb Get a life please,I'm.not bring sexist idiot,not all men does this obviously,but THE majority yes.go polish ur nails or something,u only get to know someone once u married to them,idiot,!!everyone keeps themselves perfect beforehand,stfu
Wife and husband should not stress each other with their problems unless they can t solved them except by the help of the other.I agree that you can get success by being organized.
If a woman has to “make up” excuses to not want to be intimate these are few possible reasons: 1) Stress/Burnout/Mental health struggles 2) Her physical, emotional needs are not being met by the husband ( there are still men out here who believe the female orgasm doesn’t exist) 3) Low sex drive 4) Unhealed past sexual traumas These can all be resolved through communication, willingness from both husband and wife to understand each other and counseling. I believe that overall this video was informative and can be beneficial for women especially Muslim women. However, I don’t think telling women that they MUST go to their husbands every single time they call for intimacy is healthy. I understand constantly rejecting calls for intimacy can be painful but sending the message that husbands are totally and completely entitled to their wife’s body is not going to fix the marriage problem within our community. Especially since there has been so much miseducation, misinformation about sexual intimacy amongst Muslims and the traumas relating to sex that many women have endured in their life. Being intimate with your husband should be an enjoyable experience, it should not feel like a chore. And I believe by telling men that they are entitled to their wives’ body, it will result in resentment and negative feelings within the marriage.
it is not his Responsibility to fix and care about you. If you are not on your periods and you are not terminally ill then you should always give ur husband s3x.
Yet women are entitled to their husbands' money, lol. Listen sister, a man IS entitled to intimacy whenever he wants it, as that's part of the marital contract and one of his marital rights as per the Hadiths. If you don't sexually please your husband, you better be prepared to get cheated on, cause men's sexual desires are too strong and if not satisfied in Halal, they'll do so in Haram, hence why Allah commands the wife to always please the husband, so to protect him from Zina.
@@dinamasroura4025 yes and vice versa, just like wife has no obligations towards her husband. A wife is only obliged to give s3x and children, while husband is only obliged to give mehar and nafqa.
I need help for my husband who is an alcoholic. He has been arrested multiple times for drink driving and is going to end up hurting people or himself. He gets verbally abusive while drinking
intimacy is a part of how we men express our emotion we men aren't very vocal rather we show it by actions. we are better with showing it rather than telling it. and intimacy improves our behaviors and self confidence and scientifically it also improves our health and removes are stress couple with healthier relationship haves more healthy sex with each other rather than couples who have less sex
How about when the wife comes back from her work later than he does? How about tips for this kind of marriage since it exists for many reasons, rather than telling women no work, ok we get it we'd better stay at home etc etc.. But what if we need to work? What if we work 8 hours and struggle with awful bosses (women bosses don't even assume a man boss), and even when we are deep deep down in an emotional burnout contemplating quitting our job, all what the husband wants is your respect and full attention.. What did he do to help me through my dark moments? Why couldn't he be thr stable one when my hormones and stress are driving me crazy? Why do I have to add another guilt and shame to my plate when I am already unable to get out of bed due to existential dread of life and serious depression? Where is his man stability if emotion? Why don't men just spoil you a little bit in such times and buy you a nice cake or take you out? No, he only asks about his dinner while he is not doing any chores at home even if we both work outside, because, well, he is a man.. And all the advise u men give each other are related to none working women worshipping their man when he comes home.. And devoting their life to his happiness. So unrealistic religious speach that is seperate from reality
Brother Gabriel.... It's good advice and I have been practicing all the 3 pints you mentuoned... however the reality is to some, when hubby returns home he is busy on his calls, on his mobile, no time to greet and meet wife 😔...it can be heartbreaking when it continues for long...for years.... eventually the wife will not be motivated to practice your second point. And even your third point....how to be intimate when hubby is just reading mails, catching up on news, and WhatsApp-ing on the bed until he falls asleep ... I think, this is common problem with most men working in the corporate world, they just have no time to romance with their wives....there is no more fun in intimacy when he is overworked, rather it becomes dull, pls also make a video to advice men...🥀
@Samir thank you for your advise brother. The talk has been done (he knows how I feel); the counselling is a no-no for him. The outcome of our discussion is , I should be the one understanding the nature of his work. The corporate world is such that it is all about them and not family! Don't worry brother by Allah’s grace I got it under control, I do my best and pray that Allah grant me sabr-un-jameel.... But a talk by an expert or scholar that addresses this issues may be helpful; the message will get to such men who are so absorbed in their work, I mean their mobile devices!
I want to add:especially a man. They can start to respect you ,appreciate you . But i do not deny there are rare exceptional cases. And Allah knows best.
I would like for him to extend himself to include me in the relationship. The current situation is mostly about him and not much effort is towards my needs. Even when expressed verbally, I am left behind.
All hijabi fashion feminist took pen and taking note . How be good women lol . This is like science fiction movies. If wife do this things for me . I’m single and I’m not interested in marriage as much as before.too much messed up feminist in our ummah . Ya ALLAH grand me Janah and there I can have good wife . In this world I don’t believe I can get one
I agree with u but I know alot of women are trained to welcome their husband, put their food on the table, iron their clothes etc and the men are definately NOT required to give that level of respect back to their wives by their extended families and 'that'society. Please answer this Gabriel.
Omg when he was talking about intimacy. That was scary. So men won't take NO for an answer. They will get upset . And women has to please them physically so that their woek stress will be gone. Ps:I dont know of they use pregnancy prevention methods.
Jazak Allahu Khayr... Yes respect is first! & women like these things, I came home from isha jamat & a non Muslima met me on the way home in revealing clothes or lingerie many times though i haven't spoke to her in 20 years, if I had of known her to be Muslim & chaste I would of pursued. Hopefully I meet a Muslim sister that does a halal version of this! May Allah guide us Muslim brothers to be good providers and our sisters to be good supporters!
Valid points I would like to mention that there is always emphasis on sister responsibility but they should also realise the demand sisters with small children not easy to be picture perfect maybe the husband's can help them with children out so sisters have free time to give their mam 110%. Life is not always black and white so mutual respect will lift any relationship to great heights
If I had a man like you...if he asked for my eyes, I'd give it to him...but he was slow in coming...and I've been very patient in times like these. Fitnah... Please pray to God that I find someone like you احبك في الله
Praise be to Allah. Firstly: It is permissible for a woman to take part in public chat rooms, if she adheres to the following guidelines: She should only participate as much as is necessary, so she should pose a question or state the topic, then leave, and not comment unless there is a need for that, because the basic principle is that she should avoid speaking to men or mixing with them. There should be nothing in her words that could provoke fitnah (temptation), such as joking, speaking softly, or laughing, such as writing “hahahahahaha”, as mentioned in the question, or using smiley emojis, because that could lead to coveting on the part of those in whose hearts is disease, as Allah, may He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning): “O wives of the Prophet, you are not like anyone among women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech” [al-Ahzaab 33:32]. She should avoid giving out her email address or corresponding via private messages with any man, even if that is for the purpose of seeking help, because of what such correspondence often leads to of attachment and temptation. See the answers to question no. 34841 . It is preferable and better for a woman to participate only in all-female chat rooms. This is safer for her. There are many such chat rooms, and that is better and sufficient. But if she needs to participate in public chat rooms, then it is better for her to choose a screen name that does not indicate that she is female. And Allah knows best.
I did all that. Workout perfume dress makeup .And he still didn’t see me. Some men are ill hearted and once they get used to haram they will not like the halal
Lmao us men are so simple, it's funny how so many women still don't know this, mostly modern women, men are so simple, our expectations are not as high as women's (nothing wrong with that), they need to understand that😂🤦
So true we are lacking discipline. When I see wild children and house upside down , I don't understand it. As a woman my home is my Palace. If my home is not in order then it really affects me. So all those sisters who are depressed, look at your home life. Start putting your home first. Another issue maybe you can cover brother. A lot of sisters think going to jummah/masjid to pray is fard upon them. I can understand a single or older sister with no children or older children going. But I've seen sisters dragging themselves with children to the masjid whilst their home life neglected. House is a mess, children are all over the place, husband can't say stay at home. It's like the women think the masjid is the same obligation as the men.
@@user-ve4zw6jp9i be quiet. And you think your so righteous. Your not a problem solver. I can judge as much as I want when I see things openly going wrong.
@@daisybee5943 I agree somewhat. I'm a girl and I've never prayed at a mosjid and probably never will. Why should I? It's better for us girls to pray at home and much more flexible too. However, some kids are difficult, especially if there's multiple all small kids and this can be harder if kids have autusm and other disabilities. Our house was always messy because of my 2 autistic siblings who don't understand and make mess all day. But yeah, household duties always come first, not mosjid.
@@sweettea1193 there's a difference between a woman who runs her home and its been lived in. Then the one who runs out and about neglected her home life. The masjid is not an obligation on the woman alhamdulillah. It's optional and we should seek it wisely as women.
Uhmmm what's your husband doing? It seems that you're managing the home as well as being the family breadwinner 🤨 In Islam, the wife is not the breadwinner. You can just be at home and nurture the kids 🤷♂
@@moombapoomba6036 Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh My husband also works a full time job as well & he helps around the home as well. It’s not always easy but we manage. Thank you for the reply.
Lovely advice. But now a days women work and still take time to cook for him and the kids. And clean the house.. what is your advice on that.. when both are working. And if the women want to be intimate with her husband but if a man keeps away or says he’s tired..then what does the women suppose to do..
"You love someone to kiss your hand?" Are you sure ???? Tell me this is not having a huge ego !!!! I had to point that out. You put beautiful words into a man's behaviour. Explaing how men express themselves. I agree to have things systemized. Thank you for sharing
It's a cultural thing, it's very loving. It's not just to men, women do it to each other, and a lot of people do it to elders. It's just like kissing on the cheek or hugging. I think in other cultures it could be seen as something you do to royalty, but thats not the case here.
@@Sam-jh3xh The prophet said "Whoever likes people to stand for him as a greeting, so shall they expect their place in hell fire" The fact that someone loves people to overly show them respect is a sign of arrogance and grandiosity. That is Satan's sin. ARROGANCE!!!
@@lamaelcharif1523 like I said different gestures mean different things to different cultures. Its just like you'd stand to go give someone a hug or kiss. Got absolutely nothing to do with arrogance.
@@Sam-jh3xh It's all about the feeling. If your kids for example insisted on kissing your hand as an act of respect, that is OK as long as you don't love that or ask them for it. Demanding overly acts of respect from others indicates having a huge ego. I think I made the idea clear. If you choose to differ that's on you. I do not want to discuss this issue any further. من أحبَّ أن يتمثَّلَ له النَّاسُ قيامًا ، فليتبوَّأْ مقعدَه من النَّارِ الراوي : معاوية بن أبي سفيان | المحدث : الألباني | المصدر : السلسلة الصحيحة
What if a husband works at home... you see eachother 24/7 ...you don't even miss eachother...you are like brother and sister lol....make tea....need a massage have a headache.....bring this take that...Hes like a king literally 🤴...it gets really frustrating sometimes...Missed the days when Men used to go for expeditions!
Lol. Good point sister, it's not healthy to be around each other all the time. Men need to go out to work like before, working from home can make them lazy
You can be buddies and respect each other lol this guy. Dressed properly for when your man comes home lol strategized this guy I can’t rn. I can’t even watch the rest haha his poor wife, good luck girl.
It doesn’t take five minutes 😂 We have to shower, shave, exfoliate, blow dry our hair, put make up on. That’s a lot of work. And men nowadays are not satisfied with the natural look. They what us to look like these insta women.
Maintaining your body regularly makes these things easier then all you have to do is touch ups. You don’t need a lot of makeup, eyeliner, mascara and lipstick can make all the difference and your man shouldn’t expect you to look like an insta model. That’s work on his part.
@Sultan You look like an uneducated, and arrogant male, so to help you understand what I just said, (and somehow answer your ridiculous questions) I will start with giving you a simple definition of a SLAVE: "someone who is owned by another person and is forced to work for that person without pay. A person who is strongly influenced and controlled by something." Now you have to learn how to treat a woman well and only then you could start looking for a wife. Good luck ... (to her..poor thing).
Are you serious? I mean he just said respect him, take at least 5 minutes to take care of you und give him some attention and intimacy. Thats nothing but the basic needs XD
