These are the types of videos you should be doing instead of sponsored videos. They are true to you and your knowledge of clothes and how to present them to women of a certain age. You can see the planning and research that went into this content.
The best thing I ever did for my style was to give away all my tunics, about 10 years ago. It took me several years to figure out why I always felt frumpy, it was those long, boxy tops.
There is a lovely old English poem, by John Herrick, that is entitled 'Delight in Disorder'. It speaks of having a bit of clothing, even a hair ribbon undone slightly, to add interest!
The French also have a term for that: desinvolte. Something a bit undone prevents the try-too-hard effect. French women are masters of this. It is supposed to look "effortless" but believe me, they have thought it out thoroughly.
❤ You did a great job explaining these concepts, Kay. I especially liked the examples of personal intensity by using photos of many different women. This video even cleared up a makeup mystery for me. I FINALLY understand why I always think most eyeshadows are too dark for me. 🎉 Both my skin and eyes are light intensity. (Hair is medium.). A medium shade of eyeshadow always seems to look too dramatic on me (in my opinion) but that same shade looks natural on my friend because it matches her intensity. When I use it, I’m aiming for daytime natural but end up looking like I’m going somewhere special for the evening.
Wow! Kaye, that was a whole lot of data at one time. I am going to watch again. The contrast is a great topic as well as the horizontal lines which most folks don't really think about if it is not an actual line on a shirt. Thank you for all of the research and delivery!
Well, you are AMAZING! You lost me at “advanced math” but brought me right back again with Tip 1. You have taught us so much, I couldn’t believe you had THIS much more to teach (!), but I always learn so much. I concentrated hard and took extensive notes, but now I can’t stop thinking about the Second Coming. I sure am not ready to be judged - but I am so looking forward to getting rid of short pants. Thank you for such a great video!!!!
I am so glad that you speak about low contrast! My colouring is low contrast: light skin, light brown eyes, mousy hair (with highlights). I truly cannot wear hight contrast outfits because it makes my face and person sort of invisible. You mentioned this topic previously and I always found it helpful. It was a big game changer for me to understand this concept!
The intensity thing makes sense. If only I could translate that when I am shopping my closet! Thank you for your encouragement, Kay. This was ANOTHER well done video. We are learning so much from you. Thank you.
Thanks so much. I am currently on a weight loss journey and I am lucky enough to be able to sew. I took in my t-shirts but now realize I should also shorten them. I’m only 5’3”. I also have light grey corduroy pants and light tan boots that I’m going to try together.
This is great information. It also would be helpful if you could tell us how to choose the proper type of necklace and the right length for a necklace, depending on the blouse, tee, sweater or dress that we choose to wear. If there are some “rules,” it might save us time and frustration. Thanks so much for all your efforts to help us dress for our day.
Great video Kaye & it all makes sense to me... Happy to hear tunics are out. They did nothing for me. I look best in tops that come to the waist or just below...I love ankle pants especially in the summer. A little longer in the winter months...Hope you have a great week. Take care. ❤🌹
I appreciate all of the work you put into your videos! It helps women like me who just want to look put together at our age without thinking too long and hard about it.😂Thank you!!
Excellent- thought provoking… As I’ve been changing my wardrobe to include dresses ( every day) I see what you’re saying is 💯 spot on… May God bless and guide us as we serve Him in our wholesome prudent and modest dress… Blessed be the name of the Lord 🙏🏻💕😊
Whoa! This is definitely worth watching twice and I did. Thanks for these tips! I love everything you said. I am going to take a second look at myself and try to follow this.
Nice job, Kay. This is making more sense to me. I've heard about the 2/3 and 1/3 proportion, but the intensity levels are a new concept. I will start paying more attention to it.
This is one of your bests videos by far. All of your information is so helpfull and easy to apply to my own wardrobe. I totally get what your talking about with the lines. Hopefully I will be able to apply this better going forward. Thank you for all you do . Many blessings dear lady.
Bravo Kay! You totally nailed it! I love how you are able to explain the foundational principles of dressing attractively. This is what every woman needs to know whether she spends a lot or a little on her wardrobe. I am 59, super petite at 5’0” (standing up straight of course 😉) and watching your video I finally realized why it is that I think so many outfits just aren’t flattering to me and why I am so particular about the length of my tops! Great job as always - love your style and your videos!!!! ❤
This video was a life changer. I now totally understand why I need to tuck my tops. Thank you so, so much for such as informative video. Well presented and helpful. I will definitely need to watch a second time.
Such a great video. Since I’m only 4’10” and have a long torso and short legs I often have to do the two thirds on top and one third on bottom. I also do the same color top as bottom often.
Great job! This video is packed with relevant, useful information that is immediately applicable to everyday life. Your content just keeps on getting stronger. Thanks!
Now I know why I have lots of clothes in my closet and nothing to wear. I’m buying a lot of different colours that look good on me, shades of blues and greens, but I’m having trouble making outfits cause the shades don’t coordinate together. I love your videos, they inspire me so much, I write notes with your tips , but I still wonder what to wear each day. Maybe I need to invest in neutrals. My husband says I should take pics of every outfit and put them in an album so I can refer to it each morning. Not a bad idea lol.
Thank you for reviewing these subjects again. I am trying to have this info really sink in for me so I do not have to over-think it every time I get dressed. I agree with you on the importance of these principles. I am high intensity but I find that I often prefer low intensity items to put together. Am I making a mistake? I like a contrast pop of color, but I also like all neutrals.
Love this video. I have learned so much from you, Kay. Especially about color and fit. I love the front tuck and ankle pants. I think the ankle is such an attractive part of a woman's body. Why not show it off! Thank you for all your hard work. 💅👗👠💄
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! I like all of them but this has been so helpful to me as I am struggling so much with my outfits and now I can't wait to try some!!
I kept 2 long sweaters that are too heavy to tuck-- going in donate bag cause they’re not good proportions. Thx for mentioning posture… I’m in my 70’s & can still hear my mother saying “stand up straight” from 60 yrs ago!! So many people just slouch & look terrible!
Your hair looks so good! The style makes you look younger. Yes, it is so important to create those lines. I don't think we even consider it but we will learn it.
This was super helpful. You shared some great food for thought. Now I’m understanding why so many things in my wardrobe don’t look the way I want them to on me.
Advanced math isn't in my wheelhouse, either! Great video Kay. I would love a video on styling your hair. Mine is almost the same length and I like how yours is tousled.
Well done! 👏I sometimes also get Shirts tailored. Especially for petite persons tailoring can create much better proportions when we think about horizontal lines.
I’m always careful not to have a line at my widest part. I’m pear shaped so my lower hip is my widest park. I have to be careful where my jackets end. They either have to be above my low hip or below. Thanks for the tips.
Excellent video - thank you so much! I do need to watch this video again and check out my closet to see how to make the best use of it now. A factor you didn't mention is having a large bust and the effect on the rest of the silhouette; I struggle with that because the rest of me is slim. I always come away from your video with good ideas
Wow! This was fabulous. Thank you for covering these topics in this way. I think I understand … hoping I can make it work from my own closet. And thanks for saying what you did at the end about that, knowing even you struggle at times helps me understand that it’s ok to feel a little lost with how to apply the strategy, but to keep trying. Thank you, Kay, for being such a great teacher and encourager!
Super helpful! Thanks so much. Also do you have a video on how to create a winter capsule wardrobe? I’m in Canada and we already have snow and my wardrobe is in desperate need of an overhaul but I’m scared to go shopping without a plan. I have typically been one of those people who see an outfit I like on a mannequin but then have troubles putting outfits together from my closet. I definitely need essentials but would love your suggestions on what to include. Thanks!
At 5’2” I find those “lines” to be extremely important! Fit is everything for me. There are few places to find petite sizes within my budget nowadays. Thank goodness for Talbots sales! I sew many of my clothes for a better fit but sweaters I purchase. I found this video to be so helpful in making sure I have enough basics for a cohesive wardrobe.
I absolutely agree with you! I’m also 5’2” and sew most of my wardrobe for a better fit. I learned about the 1/3, 2/3 proportions years ago and it makes so much sense.
Years and years ago, an image consultant said to pair the color of your bottom or skirt with either the third piece/topper/jacket OR with the blouse/T-shirt/sweater so you have a continuous line from bottom to shoulder on the inside or outside track.
Thank you, Kay, for all your research and the clear way you present valuable information. You are not only stylish, but have the gift of teaching. This video is another keeper that I will save and watch again. Is it only me that cannot see the shoes of the outfits you show on the inserts?
Thanks so much Kay for this wonderful video. Thanks for all the effort you put in. I have learned a lot from you, more so than from any other fashion blogger!! ❤❤❤❤
Thank you, this makes so much sense. It explains why I don’t feel right in contrasting colours and tones. This is one of the most helpful tips I’ve seen on RU-vid recently. X
This will help me. As soon as I figure out what intensity I am. I think I’m medium now. My hair is still kind of dark, my eyes are hazel, and my skin is medium. Right now it’s a lot lighter than in the summer. Right now, I’m wearing a red Ohio State shirt, that’s big. And some gray sweatpants. I’m staying home and getting something done. After watching videos. I get the intensity. And the lines. I’m going to try and make better outfits now. But only if I go out in public. When I’m at home, and it’s just the dogs here. I don’t really care what I look like. I know I probably shouldn’t feel that way. But it’s just who I am.
Another wonderful video - I used some of your tips earlier this spring and summer and got lots of compliments which I want to pass on to you, Kay, because you did the work! However, I also have to do what works for me and I don't know why, but I always get a lot of compliments when I wear a tunic-length top - maybe my proportions work for it? I have very long legs but am only 5'6". Also, ankle pants don't work for me unless it's hot out - even in the early fall and spring my ankles are cold! I have a lovely pair of ankle pants in navy but can never bring myself to wear them because they're not a lightweight fabric so in the summer when I might wear them, I don't - I keep them because they were expensive and maybe someday I'll wear them...but it's a case of "always tomorrow and never today," LOL!
You might consider wearing a bootie in the same color intensity as your pants. That way you can keep your ankles warm and get some wear out of those pants in the cooler months. Hope that helps! 😊
I’m also knitting a sweater from the neck down and have to determine the length. Before watching this I would have made it longer. Now I’ll stop the ribbing so it sits just over the top of my jeans. I’m subscribed and saved the video ❤ looking forward to watching more of your videos.
This was excellent! It opened my eyes to many fashion tendencies that I did know to consider and incorporate into my outfits and some which I shouldn’t do anymore! Awesome! Thank you!
This video does make sense. I purchased an ivory corduroy jacket that I have barely worn, because I just couldn’t figure out how to style it. Now, thanks to you, I know what I was doing wrong and how to correct it. I can’t wait to try it out, since the rainy weather here is perfect for corduroy.
Kay, I am wondering if you have done a makeup application video. Your look is so beautiful and I long to have your look. I am 68 yo and have allowed my natural hair color (Now salt & pepper) to come in and my hair length is about the same as yours. Thank you for all you do here on RU-vid. Great advise.
Alright then, I’ve been listening to your videos on this topic whenever available. This time, something clicked and I might have it! I have white hair, ivory complexion with dark brown eyes and eyebrows. Hmmm, high contrast in low intensity??
Thank you for all your wonderful videos. Would you please recommend the basic natural colors for medium intensity contract? You give the best styling tips ❤
I'm short - 5'1" - with long legs and a very short torso, so I try never to tuck a top in as it accentuates how short it is, but trying to find a sweater that I can leave untucked, without it being too long, is nearly impossible. Even those that say "cropped" are often too long. The most flattering hemline is the shirttail - high on the sides, lower on the front. This idea of intensity etc. is very helpful - and since my hair turned white explains why I look so washed out in things that used to look fine when I was a redhead!
Here's the problem I see. In trying to create the 1/3 top-2/3 bottom, women's tops usually create a line around the hips. That line makes hips look bigger thereby throwing body shape proportions off. Wearing a vest or overshirt seems like a "must" if you don't want a big hip look unless you wear a color column.
It seems weird, I know, but you can tuck your top in so that it’s shorter in front (creating ‘longer legs’ visually), or shorter on the sides (a similar effect). Just tuck in all the way around and then pull out the sides or middle. I was skeptical but it works!
Sweetheart, Kay, thank you, for this informative video. I am absorbing some information, but I need to watch this video again, for somewhere I missed some information. Thank you, for understanding us for watching it again. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful and very enlightening. God bless you, and you r truly amazing. 🙏😘👍❤️✝️💫🍂🧡✨🌟🍁
I think instead of showing videos where are you buying and buying more? I think videos on how to put together your outfits in your closet is a much better idea. I am retired at 68 and I don’t want to buy things all the time .I have a classic minimal wardrobe I just need outfit ideas which I get on Pinterest and videos like yours .I don’t like all the halls because it makes everyone want to rush out and buy things. I don’t need any more clothes.😊 Thank you, great video!
