A skill that has genuinely improved my life a lot is learning how to make stuff. It keeps my AuDHD brain busy, and it’s a nice way to make new friends and learn cool facts. I now enjoy knitting, cooking, baking, blacksmithing, and have begun getting into leather craft as well. Making stuff that people appreciate and use in their daily lives makes me feel better than I’ve ever done just from looking good.
@@aussiejubes unfortunately I do not, my difficulties are such that I’m basically unable to function at all while also maintaining a job, so I’m on the disability benefits.
@Trassel242 ok yeah because I cannot function well at all when I'm working so I can't do things like learn how to make stuff lol. I'm applying for disability for this same reason but I'll probably be rejected. So for now, I work & can't do another thing!
This is my goal. But I also have to make $$ but also..... EVERYTHING is the most interesting thing for a day or so. I don't take medication but have at least 4 great idea projects I've started but just can't seem to focus on one to make it viable. I feel stux. STUX PLEASE REAL TALK. !!!! WHAT DO I DO WITHOUT MEDICATION
A lot of disabilities make things more difficult, but they don't make it impossible. I'm autistic and I had a very difficult time speaking to people. I couldn't make eye contact, I shook when I spoke, I didn't understand facial expressions and jokes. I started pushing to make eye contact and watch sitcoms and taking notes. The laugh track and "oooooohs" from the audience makes it easy to understand when someone is joking or if something was inapropriate, etc. I'm now 28, and I'm one of the most charistmatic people in my social group. I make friends easily. I've worked in sales. I don't have any issues finding romantic relationships. If anything, I do better with dating than most people I know. Almost everything can be improved upon.
The "I'll think about it tomorrow" thing was the biggest revelation for me. I had always been that "let's solve this right now" person, so I was so surprised that sometimes not acting right now is a great option. And it also improved my stress level 👌
The 1st skill of articulation that you mentioned means a lot to me. I often catch myself giving different answers to different people, not because I want to lie. I don't lie, I just select what infromation to share. And I don't think that's a good trait of mine, because I also catch myself feeling very isolated because of it. Almost as if I blame others for not getting to know me fully, while I'm the one who's not good in communication. It taught me that I shouldn't care that much about what others will say, and being more authentic would definitely help me make more meaningful connections with other people. I always yearned for some person to ask me everything, and I'd answer honestly if they had the "right" questions, but now, why would I expect from someone to be able to read my mind, instead of just communicating better.
wow I liked that, I struggle with that myself. "why would I expect from someone to be able to read my mind, instead of just communicating better." a takeaway!
Man, I've got to watch this a few times to really digest it. This is probably the hardest part of my fitness journey: self-talk. And a hint of body dismorphia. No matter how fit I look and people tell me I am, I still see the overweight 12yo I was over forty years ago.
Honestly a mantra and journalling can help. Say it to yourself every day. Take some time to physically observe the new body you have. Saying things like "this is the body i have now". "You don't have to be afraid the same way anymore" Etc. you'll come up with things that fit better than anything that I'll think of.
If you are fit and do not feel that is what you see,remind yourself throughout your day that you are older now and the kid that had the weight issues is long gone ,because and tell yourself the routine you do to not go back to what it was…. repeat until you believe 😊
Not to be too corny here, but it could maybe help to reframe how you think about that overweight 12 yo you used to be too. You can totally get to a place where you can notice and acknowledge all the ways you’re different now, but you don’t need to be ashamed of that kid. That kid wasn’t doing anything wrong for just existing in the body they had, and that kid deserved love and support just as much as everyone else. Just as much as your “ideal” self, and just as much as your current self
I absolutely hate self help channels and “just better yourself” types and have watched a lot of them bc I’ve felt lost for a long time. You make the message extremely palatable and understandable. Thank you ❤
When I was growing up my dad joined a group called Toastmasters. It is an international club dedicated to helping people with public speaking. We lived in Washington DC at the time and as you can expect there were a lot of good speakers. My dad was one of the very early computer programmers (he programmed in assembler) and I think he did this as a way to socialize. His competitive nature caused him to become a very good speaker and won several trophies. Long after I went into the Army, when he was fifty five years old he took early retirement from the government, went to seminary and became a Methodist minister. It was all those years of becoming a good public speaker then resulted in him being able to preach interesting and well respected sermons.
Hey Hampton. Just to let you know that I bought your book. I can do most of the exercises, but want to support your work - because two years ago I started wall push ups because of you an now I do archer push ups on rings. Thanks, man
The obsession with what everyone thinks is so cancerous. Work out for yourself and only yourself. Whether its to look they way you want to, or finally put those gym class traumas to rest by doing your first chin-up (that's me). Working out should be something that brings you joy, not checks a box. That's why I love this channel.
What works for me is making physical activity a part of my normal life. That way I normalize being active, which means it doesn't matter what happens, I will always automatically get back to moving plenty. This is of course limited by the options in your environment, if your job can only be reached by car, then you're not going to walk or cycle to work. If you have an office job with strict behavioural rules, then you're not going to be active while working. And I am doing really badly at my home with this :D I do not have my home set up properly to be active and creative, I just plop down behind my computer and do nothing much.
Humans are social animals, and the desire to belong to a group is innate. Caring what other people think is an expression of this sense of belonging, but born from an inner lack of sense of self. The best way to integrate with the group is sincere communication and honest actions to help others. It builds a constructive cycle to give and sense of community. The routines of hyperdense urban life is actually toxic to our psyche.
@@bramvanduijn8086 That's actually what I've recently done -- make it part of normal life. To combat my low motivation, I decided to bake exercise into my work routine. Given my office is around 10 floors up, I've decided to use the toilet several floors below/above my office. After lunch at the cafeteria, I'd walk up from the ground floor all the way to my office. That way this habit gets me some steps a day rather than none at all.
@@bramvanduijn8086 I have a pull up bar and random weights in my dining room in a corner. I could find a better set up but it helps remind me since Im often passing through that room. I stretch first though, stretching helps with pain and warms up your muscles.
Hampton, im 27 now, some of the things you've mentioned over the last few years on RU-vid, I've learned myself the hard way but struggled to articulate as well as you have. I wish i found your content when i was in college and was trying to navigate myself towards becoming an adult and a man. Thank you so much for helping so many people learn and grow
Great video, thanks for this. One to two years ago, I was very insecure about how I looked and was generally very unhappy with my life. I though that "looksmaxxing" may be a way out of this rut and was validated in this through the countless videos on the internet about how some peoples' lives had changed because they started to look better. And while that got me to go to the gym regularly and think about what my nutrition looks like, it was ultimately very unhealthy and my self-perception only got worse. It wasn't until I realized that this was the wrong motivation that I got better. Nowadays, I have some long-term goals (such as gaining some muscle mass and staying lean), but they are very, very long term, to the point where I just make sure that I loosely stay on track, but don't think about it too much. It helps to keep my mind off of my appearance and focus more on things that actually matter, such as spending time with friends, doing things that I love, and so on. That may include exercise, it may include sitting around and watching a movie.
i just wanna live with this dude, whereever he may be, he seems so chill, and so down to earth. I'd probably meditate with this guy. Reminds me of my aunt and uncle who live in the jungle
I love the timing because ive been having feelings of stagnation. Ive been consistent with most looksmaxxing habits(gym, skincare, hygiene,etc) And although they are great to help boost confidence, I want to move on to changes like meditation and practicing self awareness and discipline.
People for as long as we have been here have prayed or meditated or simply talked out their concerns with family. The human mind was meant to process and release thoughts and feelings
The thumbnail stopped me and here I am at the end. The Rock was speaking to Stephen Colbert about this same thing, of being able to start and stop the momentum of your thoughts. He's very good at communication and conflict resolution, because he's mastered this. I'm glad Hampton has learned this so early. I'm going to use the 2 minute prayer suggestion. I do prayer, at least 5 times a day but I don't stop to just think about the direction of my life, day or week. Thank you for these thoughts and suggestions. Communication is key.
There are two type of "positive" "influencers". The one that shames anything perceived as shallow to look above petty things and the one the ones that just offer other ways to go about things. Glad to see someone who is the latter.
Hampton you have always been apart of my journey with self acceptance and choosing healthier habits. I may have fallen off the wagon before but youve always been a constant to help motivate me get back on track.
Im kind of surprised how every time im going through turbulent times in my life, your channel pops up on my feed and your video address the exact problem im facing... This has happened many time since you started your channel Hampton, im really grateful for all the advices you've been giving me.
Thank you for this video. I'm hating life right now, and this vid definitely helps a bit. I'm very grateful to you and every other You Tuber I watch. Thank you❤ *Edit: Sorry for being a bit negative
Communication and articulation is something I've been wanting to work for a long time. There is no secret, if you want to improve something you have to train it. But unlike muscle, training communication alone is not as clear as what to do. I used to record myself reading and listening back but it just felt like improving my reading more than communication. Fortunatly, i will soon do a training about speaking with my job, with a lot of recorded exercises i will hopefully be able to reproduce alone later. Thank you for your words MF (my friend)! :D
Been struggling the same too. Its like I cant find the right words at that moment and I just feel lost it and spewing some bs. Like literally right now as I am typing this idk what to type out that would actually make sense with what im thinking. Good luck man hopefully we improving together day by day
Fantastic video. The skill that has probably improved my life the most is learning to have a gratitude practice. So basic bitch but actually so powerful.
The fact that he didnt have coffee in that mug make me wonder what else he is lying about. I take that back, this was honestly really insightful and helpful.
Hey man. I don't know if you'll ever read this, but just in case : THANK YOU. I've been following your content for a year or two now, and I love your attitude, open-mindedness, and inclusivity. And this video in particular stroke me. When you started talking about focus, and discipline, I got a bit of PTSD. I've been diagnosed with ADHD for a few months now, and that disease has been making my life misterable for the past 15. And my entire life I've heard people shout at me, humiliate me, tell me that I'll never do anything good with my life, because I'm lazy and not productive, and everytime I tried to fix it, the advice I'd get is to just "do it". Because they assumed I could, and if I wasn't, I just didn't want it hard enough. So when you started talking about that, I got scared, that you'd be giving the same kind of advice. And then.... You quickly dispelled that fear, by saying a simple thing : "I know there are mental diseases that make it hard, or even impossible". Thank you. Thank you for acknowledging us. For making the effort to remind people that general advice doesn't apply to everyone, and to make sure that people with those disease don't feel bad because your advice doesn't work for them. Thanks man.
I'm really impressed with your ability to speak in truthful generalities while compassionately adding the hot button caveats that have become almost mandatory. Thank you for this video, it's a great reminder of things I'm aware of but just don't keep in the forefront of my mind often enough.
Prayer works. There’s a peace that you receive once you ask God for it. Even if you have a physical or mental disorder lean into The One that offers freely His Grace and Mercy. Thank you young man for being such a positive, observant, and inspirational person in this world! I pray God continues to bless you as your words have power. I’m back on my fitness journey because of you! THANK YOU! ✝️
Constantly late for appointments! An old friend of mine pointed out to me that it is a form of disrespect. It's not myself that was always late. It was another that was meeting with us. That individual essentially stopped showing up.
I recommend our secular friends to look into mindfulness meditation. I've found it very helpful in understanding the emotional root of where I'm approaching a subject.
This is awesome! I always afvocate for these skills to be trained with everyone frok my friends to co workers! Strong mentality is just as important as strong muscles. My personal weakness by far is focus and the ability to self motivate. Learning growijg and training are lifelong processes my friends! Let's keep getting better every day ❤
Thank you Hampton. This is very inspirational! I was already aware of this, but listening to you, brings all new perspective. Love how you express yourself!
I really like how you speak, and encourage people to be always a better version of themselves. Those were really nice thoughts and ideas. I am already implementing some of those in my life, but some were/are not known or resonating with me yet - a good video to think upon today (yeah, it was intended;) Aaaand just want to add - you are one lucky men, to have meet and married a truly wise woman! Lots of good vibes to both of you! Cheers!
Thank you for your video, makes a solid foundation. Nonviolent communication helps me a lot, qi gong for the focus part, and street epistemology for the introspection.
yes! this is stuff I am practicing currently, esp the "think about it later" bc I always want to finish the issue right then and there and move onto other things; however, it doesn't always get resolved effectively in the moment. now I write this stuff down in my notes and get back to it. esp at the bakery this happens a lot
It's all about context. Everything works for specific tasks and moments in life the skill comes in knowing what to apply, when and how. I find when I have a thought that I can't help ruminate on, I can't push it down or ignore it or else it'll drive me crazy. Instead I need to just sit still and do nothing, or if I can't stay still I'll just let the thought do it's thing in my head without acting on it at that moment and wait for the thought to resolve itself. In the meantime, while the thought is swirling in my brain, it'll feel very intense and overwhelming but if I just stay still and let it go without forcing it in any direction or trying to push it away, it'll either resolve itself or it'll fade away. If I haven't resolved it, I'll be able to find a better solution to resolve it by the next day in a way that's better than if I did something about it in the midst of my heightened emotions, there's a clarity that comes over me when I let my brain do what it's best at.
Both serve very great purpose, and we're very grateful for any form of content from you, since we know quality is always there.Thank you!!@@HybridCalisthenics
I could definitely work on these skills as we all probably can. just as a funny side note I watched this while working on a natural language processing model (robot that talks to people) and holding one of the smartest non primate animals in the world ( green wing macaw) so I could learn to communicate with both of them better.
