0:30 Hands - grooming, nails, life shows on your hands 1:12 Opening package with teeth - may require attraction 1:46 Chop veggies fast (capable cook) 2:40 Clear pronunciation or attractive voice 4:06 Charity (considerate and capable) 4:57 swearing under breath (self-awareness?) 5:11 Theater (hobbies or interests) 5:49 Hugs from behind (neck nuzzle in relationship) 6:29 morning voice 6:52 Got home safe text 7:15 Eye contact and interest 7:42 passion about interests (knowledge) 8:38 Humor 8:54 Strong morals/values (firm belief) 9:28 jogging pants (comfort style) 10:03 run hands through hair 10:11 banter 10:41 readjust glasses (clothing) 11:06 good smile 11:59 sends songs, memes etc. That shows thinking of them 12:16 consistency (security) 12:40 singing (skills) 13:18 laughs, snorts, and is embarrassed (imperfect quirks) 13:53 eating (hand?) 14:23 patience with kids 14:33 drive stick shift 15:08 wrists and forearms (touch) 16:00 assertive nature (not aggression) 16:13 plays instrument Forehead kisses Nose wrinkles during laughing/smiling Intelligence (casual) Good oral hygiene (breath, gums, nose hairs, grooming habits in general) Drive in reverse with arm behind passenger seat headrest. In short, be confident and capable.
Courtney, you never "ramble." That's a disrespectful term for what you do. You always expatiate thoughtfully on the topic at hand, with focused remarks, observations, and insights that are always germane and always appreciated.
Not to be disrespectful, but she definitely does ramble. Such as going off on minute long tangents about why she decided to explain something this way instead of that way or include this and not include that in the video. Just say what you have to say and don't worry about trying to head off every criticism of your video as you're creating it. It didn't used to be that bad but over the last several months, it makes me skip the video a minute or two in every time. Let's see how I do with this one!
@@azrielsmith3167 Different strokes bud. We don't mind a bit. She sometimes belabours the point a bit, but that's usually a point that truly needs to be hammered on. We find it all endearing. Have some darn patience. You'll live longer and do better while you're living.
Huge cultural difference. An American moved out there and he had to force himself not to smile at strangers like we do in N. America. It made him look like a goof and people don't trust it. Apparently smiles arent' given cheaply away. You reserve them for those you like and care about out there. That's apparently the way it's seen out there anyway. I'm Canadian, so smiling is a friendly social cue. It can make someone's day. I take it, or serve it up as a kind gesture of goodwill.
Hi Courtney, I am a recently divorce male and I been following and watching certain channels to get back in the dating world. Your channel is very inspiring and helpful for both Men and Women. I mostly watch Male RU-vidrs for advice, but I came across yours and you seem the most influential of the other Female channels to me. Thank you for helping both genders love your channel!
Courtney reveals the truth about this list at 1:15. You have to be attracted to the person in the first place. As always, rules 1 and 2 always apply when it comes to women. Rule 1: Be attractive. Rule 2: Don't be unattractive.
We get it. Attractive people are attractive. Can we maybe be just a teensy bit more constructive now? See this kind of comment in like every video and it's not helping anybody.
@@TheDSasterX because that's all these videos ever tell us. It's always if you're hot do whatever; if you're not then you're fucked. In order for constructive criticism to happen you need to have something positive to base it on. Which these videos never give us no matter how insightful the title claims to be.
@@davidjackson6475 If you don't find anything of value in these videos 1) I'd say you're not looking hard enough and 2) why are you still watching them?
Kinda feels like that. If you're attractive you pretty much have your foot in the door and can act like an average dude. Get away with a fair bit. But if you're not attractive you basically MUST have other qualities that boost desirability. I'm probably lookin at it the wrong way just my take.
Important things: 0:29 First Thing ÷ Hands; 1:08 Second Thing ÷ Opening Things With Teeth; 1:45 Third Thing ÷ Chopping Vegetables; 2:39 Fourth Thing ÷ Charismatic Voice; 4:04 Fifth Thing ÷ Being Charitable (but don't overdo it, cause some might abuse that); 4:56 Sixth Thing ÷ Cursing (don't overdo it, cause some of them don't like that, and it can be a sign of immaturity); 5:10 Seventh Thing ÷ Theater Lovers; 5:47 Eight Thing ÷ Hugs From Behind And Gentleness; 6:26 Ninth Thing ÷ Morning Voice; 6:51 Tenth Thing ÷ Showing Someone That You Care; 7:14 Eleventh Thing÷ Maintaining The Eye Contact; 7:41 Twelfth Thing ÷ Talking About Passionate Things That Are Admiring Us; 8:36 Thirteenth Thing ÷ Humor; 8:53 Fourteenth Thing ÷ Taking The Initiative (in positive way I mean); 9:26 Fifteenth Thing ÷ Very Attractive Clothes; 10:01 Sixteenth Thing ÷ Running Hands Trough A Hair; 10:10 Seventeenth Thing ÷ Witty Banter; 10:40 Eighteenth Thing ÷ Wearing Glasses; 11:04 Nineteenth Thing ÷ Beautiful Smile (some like that); 11:59 Twentieth Thing ÷ The Appropriate Way Of Showing Them To Think Of Us; 12:14 Twenty-First Thing ÷ Consistency; 12:39 Twenty-Second Thing ÷ Good Singer (or precise do the things that you do very excellent); 13:17 Twenty-Third Thing ÷ Some Some Imperfections Can Be A Turn On (let's call them that way); 13:52 Twenty-Fourth Thing ÷ The Way How Can People Eat Food (let's call it that way); 14:21 Twenty-Fifth Thing ÷ Showing Nurturing Side; 14:32 Twenty-Sixth Thing ÷ Showing The Way How Can We Be A Good Drivers (multitasking while driving safely, let's say it way); 15:07 Twenty-Seventh Thing ÷ Showing Wrists, And Forearms; 15:58 Twenty-Eight Thing ÷ Showing The Charisma, And Self-Confidence (let's call it that way); 16:10 Twenty-Ninth Thing ÷ Playing Music Instruments (or to be precise that we have skills in doing the things); 17:08 Thirtieth Thing ÷ Forehead Kisses; 17:22 Thirty-First Thing ÷ Showing That You Like Them (let's say it that way); 17:37 Thirty-Second Thing ÷ Showing How Intelligence Are We; 18:00 Thirty-Third Thing ÷ Showing The Grooming Habits; 18:32 Thirty-Fourth Thing ÷ The Way How To Drive Car In Reverse; and 19:22 to summarize all the told here. Additional thing I might add is Thirty-Fifth Thing ÷ To Know To Massage The Shoulders, Back, And Arms; Thirty-Sixth Thing ÷ Kisses In The Neck (and I agree, that you have told Courtney: "Do not kiss stranger". You can kiss the loved one's if there is a progress in relationship), and Thirty-Seventh Thing ÷ Giving A Compliment Through A Joke (some women do like that, believe it or not). That video is so funny, and I can agree with you Courtney (meaning I did find some funny things as well there) 😂😂😂😂😁😁😁😁👏👏👏👏👏👏👏. Thank you Cortney so much ❤💙🤍.
Good singing voice, I have a buddy whose singing voice has prompted women to ask if he is married! He is a tenor with a voice like Pavarotti and about to start his career as a stage performer at a mature age. When he sings O Sole Mio, I get goose bumps every time, his voice is so powerful, yet soft, and he sings with emotion and passion!
Definitely be reassured. For all those negaitve, or maybe even legitimate gripe videos you see from women, there's a much longer list than this that women are thinking or actively discussing that we love about men. Me and the girls, my mom, my aunts, friends, we've had these kinds of talks many times. And it goes on and on and on. It's not all gripes.
I always associate "forehead kisses" as a loss of intimacy or feeling plotonic vs feeling sexual towards the other person. But well others obviously feel differently.
One I am surprised was not on this list was a clean car / house since it shows they respect their stuff and know how to take care of something on a regular basis. I know it is something I look at when dating.
Courtney, How are you not a therapist!? Your voice and your mannerisms are so calming for men. We trust your judgement and advice. You are the very definition of what men seek and want in life. The real men with good intentions. Thank you for your posts and I urge more women to follow your positive path and attitude. I think we all know eventually they will but it can’t come soon enough -❤
Because being a therapist requires about 6 years of school lol she has good advice on things regarding women, if she was an ugly woman you wouldn’t say that, y’all simp way to quick. The things she tells people not to do, you guys still do lol
@@467076 please go back to 2X chromosome subs. You’re jealous. That is the response from somebody that is threatened by Courtney. But yet you’ll say something otherwise which is not the case.
Therapy is not as straightforward as you think. Even mentally troubled men and women would probably drive Courtney off the rails. You really got to just take anything thrown at you. Props to anyone who can handle people with mental health problems.
@@Danny328DT the poster or whatever it’s called that stated “ because she’s good looking “ doesn’t have much of a thought process we can tell. In therapy they called that trauma dumping. A person clearly has inner issues that we do not know about. But what we do know The assumption that I’m a man is just guess work. Also, just because one likes content doesn’t mean they actually find the person attractive or unattractive. Conclusion : that was just rage bait. Rage bait nine times out of 10 doesn’t make sense -
Yes! I love that Courtney called out on #2 what I always say: "if she's attracted to you, it's a turn on to do _________". Yes, if the six foot, six oack abs, six figured mannwith the strong jaw and great hair tears open a package with his teeth hes HOT! But when the socially awkward, IT guy with ton of acne and bad breath does it, the woman won't be turned on. Just like im a near 50s, bald, bearded, slightly overweight guy who wears cargo shorts but can chop the hell out of vegetables, won't be turning on a woman anytime soon. I still tell guys, be a man even if no one is watching. Sure you may be totally invisible to most women, but it's still important to be a man.
4:57 I'm about 95% sure they're talking about a scene from The Witcher where Geralt whispers "f*ck" under his breath when a situation goes from bad to worse. It's a meme format too.
I like to think I have a strong moral compass. My father was like that and tried to instill it in us. He even went up against the city's team of lawyers to argue why their attempt to seize land from a block near downtown to make a parking lot was illegal... as an employee of the city on their town planning commission. He made the lawyers look foolish. In the end, I think what saved his job was that by doing this in the city counsel meetings saved the city hundreds of thousands in legal fees in court. In the end, they even named the street these residents lived on after my father. 😊
I think women just love when men do any skill at a master level. I had a woman I dated tell me she loved seeing me put together bookshelves because I made it look easy, and yes guys: one of women's favorite pastimes is watching a man build or fix things with his hands. They get turned on by it for sure.
@@CourtneyRyan But you still have to be attractive at some level. An old, bald, overweight man rebuilding a Harley in his garage by hand is super impressive, but isn't going to gain the interest of any women.
Do not underestimate the advantages of good grooming and hygiene! Besides improving your mood and self-esteem, other people (not just women) notice it. I've been complimented before on smelling good all the time despite working in a hot kitchen.
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. Causes him to envy and feel resentment and feel bitter when he sees couples out there younger than him. He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Since women are always guaranteed attention or dating options because for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention. A lot of guys hate and resent how nature and reality dictates that men have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators and do the pursuing but unfortunately there's no other way. Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long, be alone or single longer, or to have a lonely journey, yes men and women each have different difficulties or different issues to deal with but being alone or single later than normal is normally never an issue or never a problem for women. He says he feels angry and mad whenever people and Society say that he should feel grateful that he has a girlfriend now and that he has no right to feel angry and bitter that he was single and alone that long. Or why get angry and upset about what didn't happen in the past. Well he has a right to feel how he wants to feel. Probably because women are just a guaranteed options and attentions for just existing and breathing or having a pulse but it's not true if you're a guy or a human male. Men have to learn all of these skills or behaviors or know how to talk and behave a certain way or act a certain way, women however since they play a passive role that doesn't require any learning or I just don't see how it requires any learning. But yeah I get very angry whenever people think men have it better than women do in dating
Huge variables to consider in the study on smiling & how many matches a male received. I say this because it has been my experience that women are attracted to (like men) people who will "ruin their life" - bad boy type stuff. The flip side to bad boy behavior is that it has an "edge" to it which typically is associated with the person getting what they desire. A "go-getter". When it comes to smiling there are many factors to consider such as: 1. The smile itself: Smiles in and of themselves are a form of communication and can transmit many different kinds of information about the person. Have you ever seen a broken smile from an insecure person? It can be almost painful to look at because you can sense all of their inner turmoil in that single smile (which they are trying to hide). A big genuine smile on the other hand transmits confidence and an ability to maintain a genuinely happy state. While this is all nuanced, I would make the argument that we are able to pick up on this slight ques very quickly and tell the difference. (Even if our conscious minds don't know why we feel the way we do! - attraction or not attracted) 2. It would also be interesting to put together a study with more genuine smiles and more insecure rigid "stern" facial expressions. The stern look applies similarly, in that a stern look can communicate determination and a lack of regard for any individual person (which is essentially a form of "abundance mentality"), or it can be a display of insecurity, fear, and emotional rigidity. It would be interesting to see what the results are and distinguish the genuine looks from the inauthentic looks (I.e. "trying" to look tough, as opposed to actually being so.)
You can’t drive a stick car or truck. That is funny. I think there are a lot of people today that cannot do that. And your voice is great I think. I watch a lot of your videos just because you talk slow and smooth. It’s actually soothing. Everyone in these days is always in a hurry. It’s nice to see you talking slow and clear. Please keep up the great videos. We all appreciate your hard work.
There has lately been an increase in content providers who are doing the same type of thing that you do concentrating on sexual attraction and sex generally and I must say that sexual matters is for people who are married. I totally totally find this objectionable but there is any discussion have sex involved with respect to dating as they are not married, furthermore comment number four was disgusting as well as unhealthy. Personally I thought Courtney was above reading a comment like that involving a different wording of the concept of tossing a salad. That kind of behavior is extremely unhealthy. Does anybody fucking know what E coli is. I'm extremely disappointed as well as shocked that Courtney would actually read that statement from item number four on that list. I'm extremely disappointed in you Courtney and you along with several other content providers have been turning more towards sexual matters rather than matters involving dating where you are evaluating people's character which is where everything needs to be concentrated on. Personally I think the concept of dating needs to be outlawed completely and marriages need to be pre-arranged by families until relatively recently meaning less than 150 years wherefore large swathes of the population in Western Society marriages were more or less arranged. We need to go back to that. You would have a much more stable Society.
It's weird to me that she randomly says here and there "for this one she has to be attracted to the guy", but for some silly things she doesn't. Every single one of these is a turn on only if she is already attracted. 99% of the time, just as a girl sees you for the first time, she instantly decides if she would do you or not. And it's very very hard to change that. Your hands or the way yoy chopp vegetables won't make a girl want you if she finds you ugly 😂
"When they run their hands through their hair..." Bald men: "Is it as sexy to slide your hand across your scalp and make that window-squeegy noise?" :D
A lot of these are so true especially the oral hygiene and the hands when I first met my boyfriend now husband. Those were some of the things I was looking at. Also Fyi I saw you on Bumble Bff and swiped right!
Happy Friday Courtney. i know you have a video like this already and winter isn’t a great time for meeting new women as it’s dark by four in afternoon 😅 What are great ways to meet women without online dating in 2024 would be good :) You know, meet girls the traditional way and not online 😊
As someone who reverses car while looking 90% of the time to the sideview mirrors to see where the edges of my car are at, looking through the middle feels so odd :)
I get a feeling you asked your husband to try 90% of these XD This video was awesome that kind of wholeness is so refreshing to see. I am so happy for both of you.
I agree with all. I do not drink alcohol either. My friens all know this and there is never pressure. When it comes to not drinking, just make your Dec and stand on it.
And people tend to give Tarentino grief about liking feet. And according to most of these turn ons,women apparently have a thing with hands, and it's creeping me out
I am not ashamed of my foot fetish. We live in a world were people are being glorified and even have their own flag for being gay, so why should i be ashamed of being good at giving women foot massages?
Lol your comment about being attracted to first goes with every single one of these. If a woman isn't attracted to you, this list is as valuable as a non winning lottery ticket.
The forehead kiss thing made me laugh, I have a tendency to do that often as a sign of affection and the girl I had been seeing for a couple of months told me she didn't like them because it felt "parental"... I just shook my head in disbelief and laughed, cool, I just won't do it then.
They will but they'll be the wrong women if they want you for your classical guitar skills. Trust me I played live music for decades and had my own band. It was too easy at times. And in the end, I didn't want groupies anyway.
Holding a conversation is very hard, especially when you have ADHD because you are trying to focus on what she is saying but your mind is thinking of other things
You missed fixing stuff. My window wipers don’t work, the vacuum is stopped up again, the kids bike chain broke, my car service light came on, OMG can you help build jr ‘s school science project too? And my answer was always of course I can. Don’t tell my wife or son that these favors are the best memories ever. I still to this day look forward to my last child coming home from college and saying that his car is making some noise. Quality time and feeling needed is by far the best thing ever. Even if it just holding the flashlight while I work and listening to the adventures of youth. Thanks for the video
Couple of nights ago was reversing the car with a 23 yr old med student (35 year old lead engineer), I heard her mutter "So hot" I said "What" she said "Nothinggggggg". Reversing a car is hot.
Whitty banter is what attracted my ex wife, the night I met her, I took the piss out of her all night. She told me later she loved it. I had kinda figured she liked me when we met. During that night, I decided I was gonna marry her, 12 months later, we were married and have two beautiful sons.
Previously the advice was to " never trust a man in uniform".....specially Policemen and rank soldiers , thats not to say officers should not be carefully vetted....eg General Michael Thomas Flynn.
A definite yes to men smiling, but a definite no to men not smiling in any profile picks. i'm not looking for a bad boy or someone dangerous. Spontaneous pics where you're caught off guard or concentrating are different. There has to be at least one sunny looking smile. Best if most of them are. If you're looking like a convict, looking mean, studiously looking too cool for school, that's a hard pass. A person can bs his way through a profile, but you can't bs how you all your consternation lines.
OMG! Courtney, Big fan here...but, none of this matters if she's NOT into you. Everything on this silly list is predicated on physical attraction...Frankly, I'm surprised your bought into this superficial notion. It sounds like something your see in Vogue or Psychology Today lol
8:46 A long-standing female friend and I, after about a decade of friendship, developed a sexual relationship with each other for a short time. She was initially swept away by our romance, so she said, but was very non-committal. She once asked me why I thought that we were good together, so, I mentioned, along with other things, how much I made her laugh. She replied and I quote, "Yeah, I know they say all women want a man who can make them laugh, but I don't want that in my romantic relationships. I've never wanted that". In the end, she turned out to be a very toxic individual; a side of her she'd kept very well hidden from me for the entirety of our friendship and, eventually, I had to cut all ties. So, the moral of this story is, if any woman says they don't want a relationship with a guy who can make them laugh, find another woman! 😂
Us Women can be deceiving. However, there are nine questions you can ask that will hide your intentions, but those questions have to be peppered here and there over time, like six weeks or so
She lied to you. It was likely that you were not very good sexually, did not satisfy her, and she reached and grasped for an excuse to make you go away. Also you wasted ten years of your life in her friend zone? You gave her attention and validation for free without getting sexual access in return? Please research the word simp and why women lack any respect for men who are simps.
@GalvatronTypeR Sounds like he was just the fill-in guy, and just welcomed the things he did for her. But, she had no interest romantically from the get go. The offering sex after ten years, it was just her offering it because it's like the least she could do in return.
@@geekiepooh I think you are spot on in that thinking sometimes men will cater to our whim and demands, and I wouldn't say I like that it's off-putting and not masculine, but misleading a guy that long is insane and will have irrecoverable effects on him. You have to know the signs
Some of these really crack me up. It's funny the reaction we get for seemingly insignificant actions. Some movements or poses that women do without even trying can be very attractive as well.
Really enjoyed that, I am a 70 year old woman who just enjoys all sorts of psychological subjects. But some of those were just funny, LIke reversing and throwing your arm over the headrest, lol.
It's not that easy to reach the passenger side headrest anymore with the barrier known as the aircraft carrier-sized center consoles they put in vehicles nowadays. 20 years ago, our old Lincoln and old Mercury Grand Marquis had a front bench which made snuggling while watching a drive-in movie lots of fun. You can't do that anymore with these center consoles; everything about them says 'keep on your side.'
Re. hands: DON'T BITE YOIR NAILS. The chopping vegetables is about being in control. Same about vocabulary -you are calm, sure, you think about what you're doing/saying.
There are weird things in the world that don't matchup with my lived experiences. I don't know a single guy who isn't a good cook, and damn near every single guy I know is a better cook than their wife/girlfriend. I also don't know a couple where the guy isn't a bigger clean-freak than the woman. This narrative that men can't/don't cook and women keep things clean is 100% inaccurate in my 44+ years of life.
The reasons forehead kisses are so powerful, is because it's a guy's way of telling you that he doesn't just want you sexually, he wants you romantically.
Calling bs on charity. In my personal experience and observations this works against attraction unless guy is super hot, or has established himself to have dark triad traits. Otherwise the guy is too close to being to nice and too giving.
Regarding the part about 'quirky' behaviors...I have experienced this and it is quite odd. I will give a concrete though made up example, which I believe will be more understandable.. Imagine a person you love, who has the quirk that they are terrified by a room number beginning in '8'. When going to a dentist you see he is on the floor of eight and say ' It's OK baby, there are basement levels so it is not the same.' And when taking someone you don't like to the same dentist, and she freaks out, and you think 'How could you possibly be this stupid, you pain in the butt?' Then say, 'Hurry up, we don't have all day.'