4 relationship problems caused by menopause & what can help. 

Hi Diana, Thank you for sharing and it is good to know that this has helped you feel normal and supported.

@@AvogelCoUkthank u so much for responding to my comment. Well it didnt turn out like planned. As we were watching the video he would keep pausing it and saying dont I understand? I already know all this! Dont I do this or that?? And I told him please just watch because this is how I feel that I could never fully explain to u. And he kept making it about him so we both just got very frustrated and argued a bit. I slept on the couch. All I kept telling him was I just wanted him to listen to the video because that's how I was feeling. What do I do now? I'm so frustrated and I know he is too but he always makes everything about him☹ can anyone relate?

Sorry to hear that this has not worked out as planned for you. Perhaps a family friend can help explain the affect the menopause has on you or a visit to the GP or try a local therapist to help you both explore feelings or emotions within the relationship.

I recognise these emotions I feel overwhelmed and misunderstood I feel compounded in such distress and it's hurtful. I'm going through a hr process currently never have I ever experienced this in all my working life and I think this may bring me to my knees. I'm helpless

Hi Marina, I hope my article and videos help here. Remember to look after yourself and see the GP if symptoms get too much for you. In the meantime, check out a female vitamin containing magnesium and Vit Bs, as this can support the nervous system during this time. Stress Relief daytime herbal remedy can help take the edge off any feelings of irritability or anger.

Laney Bucknor have you been to a GP? They might be able to help you with the HR issue and explain your problems to them?

Glad it was helpful Eric! Best Wishes Eileen

You're welcome Sandra! Best Wishes Eileen

Wishing you well whatever you decide!

My girlfriend has been displaying symptoms of perimenopause for just over a year and what you mentioned she is also going through. Has things changed for you or have you tried any treatment that has helped? For me, it's not just the intimacy but I am struggling with the anger outbursts combined with other things. It's almost like she hates me sometimes.

My wife’s in the same boat. Cant touch her cause my hands are apparently thermal and sex went from 2+/- X’s a week to 2/3 X’s a month and been married for 20 years and she said I’m crazy for thinking something is wrong. Doesn’t want to talk about anything adult and when pointed out with facts and stuff flys off the handle that I should be worried about myself not her. And that she loves me etc. I suggested HRT and the banshee was released about that. I know it’s menapause but to not even discuss it only leave the door open for a males imagination to go go to dark places as to why this is happening etc. especially when the only intimate contact or any contact whatsoever is during sex so for human contact I only have one choice. I tell her. If you minus off 10/15 minutes a month and we’re just friends. And that’s not cool. Makes for a long month of nothing. Everyone needs to feel desired, wanted important. And apparently I’m crazy and she’s just trying to take care of herself right now. Disheartening, frustrating and the list goes on

You are welcome, Sultana. Maybe ask your husband to watch some of the videos; women do find that this can help their partner understand a bit better. Best Wishes Eileen

I'm 62, post menopausal. I had bad peri menopause,bad menopause, pretty much all the symptoms. Hot flashes and no libido, chronic uti's, vaginal atrophy. I'm much better now, feeling more like myself, but no sex drive. I still have anxiety right before a big hot flash every night! I have no desire to get cozy with him ,I love him but don't like him like I used to. He has changed too. So I waiting for times to get better!

Hi Jennifer, Yes, unfortunatley, this can happen! Best Wishes Eileen

Hi As far as I am aware, oxytocin doesn't tend to increase again but our body is a marvelous thing and can adapt to lower levels after the menopause; there is no reason why you can't still have an active and satisfying love life post menopause. Most women do find that their symptoms ease off as they body learns to adapt but this can depend on lifestyle, diet and stress management so it is really important to

Hi You should be able to access the book from here; you might need to copy and paste the link www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/menopause-ebook.pdf

Hi, you can download my free ebook from here: www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/menopause-ebook-update-2018.pdf

Hi Cat We do know that any physical or emotional trauma can trigger periods back so this is certainly possible. Herbal teas are usually quite weak and you would need to have taken one with hormonal activity so this is less likely to be a factor. However, if the bleeding has gone on for more than a week or is getting worse then it is important to contact your doctor. Best Wishes Eileen

Hi thank you for getting back to me. It was St. Johns Wort in pill form for my nerves. After some research I found it can "balance" hormones. Not sure thats what happened though...... Thank you for all the great much need info.@@AvogelCoUk

You're welcome Cat, We've been selling St John's Wort for many years and we've never found it to balance hormones, although, I suppose it could do this indirectly by calming the nerves :)

pauline doyle maybe you can show him some of these videos.

Yes I will be showing my husband as well. But they also have hormones so we have to understand them as well their frustration. Which makes it really hard as well🤦‍♀️

Hi Pauline, Sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time. It is important to get recurring urine infections checked out by the GP, in case it is not due to the menopause. Check out some of my articles on this topic. At A Vogel UK we stock Cranberry Complex and a herbal remedy called Uva Ursi that might help. You may find drinking heaps more water and a female pro biotic helpful for symptoms from the Health food shop.

@@AvogelCoUk yes, I use uva ursi, d mannose and an excellent women's probiotic

Hi, just a thought - I only use Dove unscented soap and drink a lot o water - Works for me.

You're welcome, glad to be of help! Best Wishes Eileen

Hi Maria So sorry to hear :(

You still love him? We 56, and going through where I think she is cheating? Just been distant and no affection like what was normal before. She likes her shopping addiction. I always think she's out cheating, but at 56? Very confusing for me. Would like some clarity and certainty. Says she loves me. And we kiss when go to work. She still gives me sex if I persist. As long as she not cheating then it's OK with me.

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Sorry to hear that David Best Wishes Eileen

Thank you for your comment Rosie Best Wishes Eileen