4 SECRETS OF RELATIONSHIPS explained by Hans Wilhelm 

Long-term relationships are not the only successful relationships . . . some are very short term, others for years, and some of us are blessed with a lifetime relationship. The definition of a successful relationship is that it makes you a better person.

The KNOWLEDGE I've gotten from you is priceless

To the people who speak about toxic individuals and narcissists, the purpose of this video is to help you acknowledge your own shortcoming in character development, judgement, and choice. You cannot control another individual’s actions and words, however you can control the way you respond and what you will allow ☺️

Hans is right on in this video. Unfortunately, I found that if you are dealing with a "narcissistic" person these wonderful teachings will not apply. It's like trying to turn a lamp on, over and over again, but there is no bulb turn on! If you are dealing with someone like this, remember you have free will.

It's better to stay alone. I have myself to work on. I won't deal with some one else's baggage.

I love that he explains this in a simple form i appreciate this

Any relationship that does not end in a loving manner turns into a karma

I don’t think it should be an excuse to let them violate your boundaries when you see these “negative” aspects in the other party. From my understanding, you should always listen to how you feel and stay to your true self as it is exactly your boundaries. I have come across people who were so deliberately rude to me, I think they should show some respect and appreciation for the other party by not violating the boundaries.

Love and gratitude from Guatemala , your videos have made me grow spiritualy enormously!!! Thank you Hans!!! All my love to you and your work and guidance!!! 🤗🤩😍😘

Not if dealing with a person with a personality disorder.. narcissistic personality disorder, a psychopath sociopath and unfortunately there are many of them roaming around in large numbers and quantities it's not always about blaming herself for that we have to change it's also by looking at others and seeing what the red flags are and getting away from people that try to project, shame and belittle you because they have tons of problems that are reflected in a personality disorder

I love myself so much

Thank you.. Most importantly, my relationship with God.. These videos helps.. Very educational Mr. Wilhelm.

I AM UP HERE STUCK IN MICHIGAN. MY WIFE AND SON ARE AS FAR AS I KNOW STILL IN NORTH CAROLINA FROM WHENCE I HAIL. I HAVE NO INCOME SO AS TO MAKE MY WAY BACK HOME TO SEE MY WIFE AND SON. I HAVE BEEN DEALT A BAD HAND. YET I AM PERSUADED THAT THE PENDULUM SWINGS ALWAYS BOTH WAYS. I HAVE BEEN EXCEEDINGLY BLESSED. THANKS

Thank you so much. Your teachings came at a time when I needed them. I have awakened to so much about myself in the past few months and l'm ecstatic to come across your teachings❤

It's quite informative for our life...nowadays it's rare to have a true hearted person ...most of the time there's only attraction of money...it really helped to make relations strong ...carry on man👍🏻

Hans is a wonderful gem!

in eight minutes! hans, you are golden...

This is my third video listening to you. Thank you. I believe this is opening my eyes.

And then apply the perspective of finding oneself entangled in a relationship with soiopath/narcissist/psychopath. Then it's not about classic projection, it becomes an issue of survival. Those are black hole people. But in all regular relationships, this advice is cogent.

This would explain my relationship with my friend right now even though he isn't what I'm looking for In a spouse.

Big thanks to you Hans. This video has thrown ice cold water into my face to wake up into reality.

Well. I am not sure about this . But what i truly know is this ( u can attract to someone because of the Qualities u see in them as u also have those qualities. Because if I have a caring n loving heart n I see that also in other person I might be attract to them because " I see my good qualities Qualities in them. That mean, it is not Necessary that u are lacking these qualities it means u have recognized your good qualities in that person n that is why u want to get close to them.. so that u can both continue doing the good things

These videos are pure blessing Thanks Hans

When I say that I have no expectations of my partner People look shocked!!! I expect trust, respect, loyalty, and truth People are not perfect and let you down especially if they are living up to expectations to make your own self feel happy and secure And they don't even know it

Stay blessed 4ever ameen

Dear Hans, thank you so much for this amazing video. With your permission I am adding Turkish translation (without adding any interpretation) for my friends who doesn’t speak the language. Thank you so much. İlişkilerin 4 Sırrı. Eğer geçmişteki ilişkilerime Geri dönebilseydim, Ve bu dört sırrı biliyor olsaydım, bazı şeyleri farklı ele alırdım. Bize söylenen de, bildiğimiz şey de, ilişkilerin bir şekilde bizi hep mutlu etmesi gerektiğiydi. Ancak mutluluk hiçbir zaman dışarıdan gelmez ve kimse bizi mutlu edemez. O yüzden en önemli ilişki bizi yaratan ve her daim içimizde olan ilahi enerji ile olmalı. Eğer sevgiyi, takdir edilmeyi, rahatlığı ve mutluluğu dış kaynaklardan beklersek hayal kırıklığına uğramaya mahkûm oluruz. Bizim gerçek doğamız SEVMEK üzerinedir sevilmek üzerine değil. Bu bize verilen sevgiyi, değeri ve nezaketi takdir etmeyiz anlamına gelmez. Ama kendimizi sevmek, kendimize saygı göstermek ve onurlandırmak bizim kendi işimizdir. Bencilliklerimizden kurtulmak bizim en temel işimizdir. 1️⃣. En önemli ilişkimiz ➡️ ilahi kaynak ve kendimizle olmalıdır, diğer bütün ilişkiler Eve dönüş yolculuğunda sadece bize yardım eder. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Şimdi diğer ilişki çeşitlere bakalım. İnsanları bir araya getiren en önemli ilişki şekillerinden bir tanesi cinsel çekimdır. Ruhların dünya tecrübesi sırasında birbirlerini bulmak için kullandıkları araçlardan bir tanesidir. Bu İlişkiler hiçbir zaman tesadüf değildir. İlişkilerin sebepleri yıllar önce atılmıştır. Bir araya gelme sebebimiz karmik sebeplerdir. Büyük ihtimal, daha önceki yaşamlar da farklı rollerde bir araya gelmiştik Ve o süreçlerde karşılıklı karma yaratmıştık. Bu ilişkilerde yaşadığımız SORUNLAR diğer yaşamlar’dan getirdiğimiz karmik yuklerdir. Birbirimizi suçlamamız ve kavga etmemiz bu karma yükünü devam ettirir ve çoğaltır. Sevgi ile çözemediğimiz her ilişki ileriki yaşamlar da tekrar karşımıza çıkacak karmik sonuçlar doğrur. 2️⃣. İlişkiler bize daha önceki yaşamlar da yarattığımız karmik yüklerden, affederek ve olusan negatif icerikli yasananları anlayışla karşılayarak, KURTULMAK için en mükemmel fırsatı sunar. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Birine aşık olmayı genellikle bizdeki eksikleri tamamlayanlar olarak görürüz. Bu finansal konular, görüntü, iktidar, sabır, entellektüel düzey gibi Kondüsyonlar olabilir. Mesela bir erkek bir kadının güzelliğine aşık olabilir çünkü kadının güzelliği onun kendine olan güvenini artırır. Kadında kendinde eksik hissettiği konular yüzünden adama yükselebilir. Tabii ki bunun gerçek sevgi ile bir alakası yoktur. Tamamen bağımlılık üzerine kurulu bir ticarettir. Bu tip ilişkiler belirli süreler için çalışır gibi gözükebilir. Ancak kisi sonunda diğerinin bağımlı olduğu noktayı sağlamak istemeyen duruma gelebilir. Genellikle savaşın başlangıç zamanıdır. Ve sonuçta ayrılık gelir ve hayal kırıklığına uğrayan kişi bu eksiklikleri giderecek başka partner arar. Aslında burada görmemiz gereken şey bizdeki eksiklikleri karşıdan beklemek yerine onları kendimizi sağlamamız ve sağladıktan sonra ilişkimize kuvvet katacak şekilde paylaşmamız içindir. O zaman talep etmek yerine sahip olduğumuzu paylaşma noktasına geliriz. Bağımlılık biter ve karşılık beklemeden veren oluruz. 3️⃣. Partnerimize bizi çeken bizdeki eksiklik neyse o konuyu kendimizde geliştirip partnerimize sunmamız en iyi yöntemdir. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Bazen partilerimize Aşık olmamızı sağlayan konular zaman içerisinde bize rahatsızlık veren şeyler haline gelebilir. Onda gördüğümüz bize rahatsızlık veren her şey aslında kendi içimizde yaşadığımız şeylerdir. Projeksiyon yasasının tam kendisidir. Etrafımızda gördüğümüz ve bizi rahatsız eden şeylerin aslında kendimizde düzeltmemiz gereken şeyler oldugudur. Bir Nevi kendini fark etme yöntemidir. Partnerimiz Aslında sevgi dolu bir ayna olarak kendimizde düzeltmemiz gereken şeyleri bize yansıtır. Partnerinizi kendinize söylemeye korktuğunuz konuları size gösteren gizlenmiş melek olarak görebilirsiniz. Dolayısıyla karşı tarafı suçlamak ve onları değişime zorlamak çok yanlış bir yontemdir. Değişmesi gereken bizizdir eğer biz değişirsek onlarda bizi takip edebilir ya da etmezler Buda onların özgür iradeleridir. 4️⃣. Partilerimizde hissettiğimiz bize rahatsızlık veren konular neyse o konular üzerinde çalışıp kendimizi geliştirip kendimizi özgür bırakabilir ve ilişkimizi büyütebiliriz. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Tabii ki biliyoruz ki bir ilişki ancak dürüstlük, sevgi, saygı, anlayış ve de en onemlisi hatalar yapıldığı nda bu hataları affedebilme gücü ve isteği ile olur. Bu anlayış tüm ilişkiler için geçerlidir ailemiz, kardeşlerimiz, arkadaşlarımız, iş arkadaşlarımız vs..... İlişkiler çok önemlidir ➡️ Bize spiritüel olarak büyümede çok yardımcı olurlar ve sevmeyi ögretirler. Sadece Başkalarının mutluluklarına kaynak olduğumuz zaman gerçek mutluluğu yakalayabileceğimizi unutmayalım.

Thanks Hans! Your clarity is your gift; it can take a lifetime to experience, become aware of and then learn these lessons and you have made it so easy to understand. It is a very powerful video :)

As a hippie I recognize other hippies when I see them and Hans is a hippie

Thank you Mr. Wilhelm 🙏.

Dear - for point 3 If we have IT ALL then why do we need another person at all .. why would we need any form of partnership as we are perfect,whole and complete . And the funny part is we wait for becoming perfect before we have any relationship ? I think real love meets you with all your imperfections and broken-ness and help to heal

Thank you so much for enlightening us! You are amazing!

Hans just seeing your smile fills me With joy and positive energy I love you ❤

Wow. This helped so much. All of his videos are amazing but due to the nature of relationships and the beauty of love and the agony of separation make this to me the most needed video.

Thank you Hans

I just stumbled accross your videos and I`m truly fascinated - thanks for sharing your knowledge . You are very kind.

Thank you, for all your videos... Mr Wilhelm..

thanyou so much for your many kind and thoughtful words! you have helped me to understand many times..

Thank you sir. You express it so simply

Mr. Hans explaination is a blessing.... Very simply explained. Thank you so much.

Thank you!

We don't always want another person to "meet our needs" to fill the spot if leaving a toxic situation. Sometimes we are finding our power to speak up, not always about projection.

Another incredible gem of wisdom, I don't know how you became this enlightened, but thank you for sharing this - and please keep going! THank you

Wow thank you iam more elighten now..

Beautifully explained ❤️

Man I really enjoy his videos he keeps things so simple and straight forward I'm so glad he decided to share his knowledge Thank you for all that you do

How amaaaaazing you are! Bless you.

thank you for sharing precious knowledge.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND INFINITE LOVE IS WITHIN US. FIND YOUR INNER COMPASS YOUR SOULS PURPOSE ☯️❤️

Where have you been, loving your channel. Glad i found you❤

Easy to say, but when the partner shows no respect towards you, what else can you do than pull out? And that usually happens after 2 years of heaven relationship. It’s so sad to go again and again through exactly the same scenario.

Thank you Hans 🙏🏼💖👍 God Bless You 💐

Powerful Information!

Fantastic... thanks a lot for sharing this.

Thank you 🙏🏼🌿

Awesome. I wonder how long I have been learning the patience and love ...time to break the cycle

Thank You very much 👌☀️

even tho i feel like i knew about all this, this feels so new so i am so mind blown!! thankyou so much for your knowledge!!!!!

Well.. I would like point 4 be explained in the context of relationship with a person with narcissistic personality disorder..

Thank you

Thank you really needed life message 🇹🇹🙏🍀

Great work and very good channel thank you dearly

Wow! Thank you ❤

1.What if one of the partner clears his/her karma,will the other partner(who not cleared karma) choose a partner in next life? 2.what about the souls who isn't married/no partner? Is it that they don't have build up any karma in their past life with partner?

Thanks

And to help restore our family and theirs in turn.

Thank u love u

I’m so thankful for this video!

Love what you do.

Extraordinary great

U r simply amazing.. May I know where did you get this enlightenment from..lot of respect for you. Thank you for all the learnings.

This is true but however I feel that can get missunderstood also.

Brilliant

Thanks.

You’ve got to live and learn. One day it’ll all make sense.

thank you

A question: if we may overcome the problems regarding them as addressed to us personally and not to "changing the other", does it mean that "mantra of marriage" in order to be together forever, is true? And if it is so, does it mean that, "theoretically", we may be in intimate relationship with anyone?! If so, the question is: why this one and not the other one - or: if we grow up in loving, this spiritual dimension, but our partner not, what about the sex/body part of the story? In my opinion, there are human and divine aspects of love and overcome the human mean overcome the body, or in better word: passion! But then we also have a question whom to choose?? Someone friendly, someone similar to us?! But then we have the old "mucho" opinion that the friendship between man and woman is impossible... Dear Hans, could you please tell me more about that? Yes, we may talk about TWIN SOULS and the CELIBACY also. - Who are the twins? Someone similar to us or someone different?... - What is the celibacy? Something self-sufficient which make us resistant to the problems or something like a device for something higher? We may ask about the community, also! Because, trying to find out the answers we realise that we are getting older... - and alone! Because: If we haven't conquer our ego, than we are without the COMMUNION (with God in ourselves), and our life seems... Tragical. Isn't it?

To love. I understand that well. But you must help me with my relationship with our God. I know that you can help me there. God made you for me and maybe to save my soul. Thank you, I love you.

🌹 THANK YOU!! 🌹

God is, I am divine ....

I love all your videos

i love it👍❣️🙏

MY WIFE AND I WERE TOGETHER TWENTY-TWO YEARS WHEN SHE LEFT. TO DATE WE HAVE NOT COMMUNICATED IN PERHAPS SEVEN YEARS NOW. I WROTE TO HER TWICE THIS YEAR 2020 YET I HAVE NOT GOTTEN A RESPONSE FROM HER. I EVEN GAVE MY PHONE NUMBER TO HER IN AT LEAST ONE IF NOT BOTH LETTERS.

Dearest Hans, Your videos are life changing. I truly appreciate you. 💕🇺🇦🙏🏻🌎🌿🌈💗☮️🌎💕❤️

Can you make a video on NoFap? Thanks

So much for Relationshp 101 ❤❤❤❤❤❤

To say love yourself and don't be selfish is confusing.

Suppose other person not cooperating and don't want my love? Is it still my karma to clear up?

I craved attention ..

What if you grow the aspects you were missing but your parents refuses to grow with you and would rather brings you down to lower their vibrations where they feel comfortable? What do we do then?

Happiness does not come from the outside

If this is simplistic for you, I suggest Esther Perel and Erich Fromm. 💋🙏

Please do a video about homosexuality.

Is it possible to be in 2 different types like the boy is a karmic relationship for the girl and the girl is a trading relationship for the boy

Dear Hans Wilhelm, thank you for your videos. How do I explain this to people who have been through narcisstic abuse?

This guy

Oh my God 😭.... True

In this video you say we see things in our partners that we need to develop ourselves and that attracts us to them but in the video on the law of projection you explained we see in other what is already in ourselves? That confused me a little. If I like my partner because he is gentle does that mean I need to develop more gentleness myself or that I already have that within myself?

so lets say my ex partner was emotionally draining, needy, controlling and obsessive..that those qualities are in me? So that means I am needy, and emotionally draining and obsessive in other parts of my life? or I am like that subconsciously in some way in myself in relation to something that I may not even be aware of?

I THAK GOD FOR YOU CAME TO EARTH 🌎 TO TEACH THE WHOLE OF HUMANITY. TO REACH MORE POSITIVE GOALS AND UNDERSTANDING THAT HAPPINESS COMES FROM WITHIN. WE MUST REMEMBER THESE FACTS TO MAKE 2 HALVES A WHOLE .

Thank you. I don't know what if you keep ignoring someone who has become a family member & might be karmic but she keeps being hurtful & resentful & hateful for no reason. Being loving back back or ignoring it or anything does not work. Does this still become karmic? I seriously hope to avoid her in another life as she's extremely nasty.