Hello thank you I agree with all the things you said two of my family members raped me when I was younger when I threaten to tell the other family even said I was going to spend 500 to get a professional lie detector test I was kicked out of the family and they have done all of these things I must admit one thing that makes me scared at the end you said when a narcissist gets rid of you they feel nothing to be honest for me I feel like it’s the other way around I am glad I will never see them again it makes me wonder if I myself have narcissistic traits I know it’s my family and I should feel something but I just don’t I don’t want to be a narcissist I don’t want to do to other people what these people did to me
👉👉👉👉🚨🚫Disney Beauty and the beast has a lot to do with this psycos acceptance in our lives. Disney have washed kids brains for a long time to move people to the society and problems they need to gov and control on them.
You're not fighting against the narcissist. You're fighting against the evil spirit inside of them. That's why you let go of fighting the battle yourself and let the Holy Spirit fight the battle for you.
I have gotten there once or twice, but it still takes me back when he or his flying monkey wife try to get under my skin, because they will use their children and yours to try to undermine you and it does throw me off for months, but it does get less and less effective over time. Thank you for this, because it is validating on the positive side.❤
Very accurate! There is also "parroting". The narcissist in my life admitted that he was taking all the spiritual things I used to say, and repeating them to other people (claiming my knowledge and wisdom as his own). He said that people thought he was so smart and aware... but he was just copying me to impress people! So creepy!!!!
Omg this. All the tools I gave him to make our life easier, like I looked online everywhere for a way to watch things simultaneously while he had to work (he worked double shifts) -I found out he used it to watch a whole bunch of series with his affair partner. It stung to learn that because it was our thing.
You don´t lie! The thing is because of their behavior in the end you simple want peace and yeah also get rid of them (they are exhausting). But I feel bad for those people who fall in their traps.
Hi Sir, Recently I found your channel randomly while surfing in RU-vid. Your each and every video about toxic relationships are really a great mind healer. I got married to a narcissist family. Entire family members are narcissists. I been in a relationship over 8 years and I got married. After marriage I been abused ,disrespected, devalued, cheated. Now I am struggling to get divorced. Please make a video about getting married to a“ NARCISSISTIC FAMILY”. It would be so helpfull. Thank you.😊
I walked your path. it took me a year and a big financial loss. yet when I was in the mediation I considered it a "life saving emergency surgery". which the cost of when in such circumstances we dont hesitate to pay. now I joke with my friends. we no longer say his name...INTENTIONALLY. and I refer to him as " the tumor". if I dont laugh I would cry. unfortunately we have to live and keep walking forward. I will give you some encouragement. every time my " tumor" did something mean.. and I chose to focus forward...do something positive for me. I was blessed beyond measure. OVER AND OVER. I felt God supporting my steps going forward.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
I left my narcissist, it seems to me like you’re describing me… Only I put in the effort, only I can self reflect, there’s not much difference when you separate… Sometimes they make you exactly like they are, then you have to free yourself from that and find out who you really are… i’m not innocent in all of this, I reacted… That’s what they were looking for was my reaction. To get a negative reaction reinforces that they’re the good person
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
My narcissist was a fiscally successful person, who became dominant and manipulative when she became close to me, Her victims give her continual supply through Facebook. She hid our relationship while talking to me about "our future". I ghosted her, thanks to your informative videos.
Danish, who are you? You're on point all the time. I actually experienced that kind kind of facades the narc did over here but I didn't give a shit. I told him to move with that person if he thinks he's happy with her. I don't give a damn if he ever leaves. He's a pest in my life anyway. Anyone who takes over this guy. I will buy them a expensive gift. I have no time for a effing nut person in my house.
Wow. This channel is amazing! I wish I had known all of this years ago. It's getting creepy how accurate you are. You are once again describing my experience with my ex-husband!! Crazy!!
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Danish your channel does help people. Unfortunate for some other people who are not being educated by the same when they are being duped by some narcissist(s) who are over time gaining more resources as they go along while being the worst kind of hoarders of all when they are collecting weapons. Over time the narcissist become all the more clever at practising their addiction together in their communal narcissism when that narcissist is demanding one way loyalty from those they are duping. Like for example when a narcsissist like that is reminding you and everybody else about their wedding day with you in public long after you have divorced them only to make themselves look like the long suffering victim who marrried a quitter. When that does not help manage their image the lies about us which they spread only gets worse. While for example banning a flag or burning a flag or instead hiding behind a flag or maybe all 3 at the same time. Do not ever feel guilty after leaving a narcissist like that when that narcissist is in your place of work. Do not ever feel that you have become solely responsible for warning people about them after you have left that kind of narcissist for good.
Thank you for clarity. I thought I was going crazy. All the things I thought he liked about me now irritating him. He tells me off for laughing at comedians. Gives me a list to do, then changes it. Then questions why things arent finished.
narcissists would rather stare at the sun, than look at the mirror and self-reflect, and take any modicum of ownership for their actions. to think or hope that a narcissist would make meaningful, lasting change for the better, is like asking a fish to climb a tree. the irony is that narcissists will tell everyone that you are the cause of their problems. yet once you remove yourself from their life, they will continue with all of the same problems lol. 🤣 cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@caroleminke6116 funny how when i was 8 years old, many parents of my friends would comment on how "grown-up" i was, doing laundry and doing basic cooking for myself and the younger siblings. eventually the parents came to resent that i was doing more than their kids at such age, so i was not invited over for playtime at their houses anymore.
My ex the narcissist says all the time he misses our 3 kids but yet has 3 weeks with out looking for them, calling them checking up one them KNOR helping me financially at all!!!!
I don't know how to thank you for explaining & giving words to my buried feelings & doubts since childhood. No doubt you're a genius!!! Lots of love to you❤
The clip in the beginning is exactly what my husband did to me .... And so much more. For YEARS I was so confused and thought I was losing my mind. His half truths, lies, bad mouthing me, cheating, blaming me for ALL of his horrible behaviors ... amongst other toxic actions was so hurtful. Knowledge IS power because now that I know it was never me but him, I have started the healing process 😊
8 months no contact and i find a recent smear campaign online. Its so sad hes holding onto that and causing himself so much pain and misery. Meanwhile im so happy and living my best life. 8 months!!!! 8 months and hes STILL talking shit to anyone that will listen. What a sorry existence
The floating through life comment is so true. They don't experience anything. The one I was with would live out our relationship in his head, process it and then give me the results as if it really happened. I was confused about his behaviour, was kind of funny because he would really live out something in his head then present me with some bullshit outcome that was not my reality. It's hurtful and confusing but better don't take it personally and run on a first sign of that. I should have left and ghosted him earlier but luckily it didn't last too long anyway, just a couple of months through which he had tried to already escape a few times.
I completely detached from a relationship & this X boyfriend called my former boss at work & lied & attempted to disgrace me; it didnt work because my boss at the time knew I was a good person & good employee. He made himself look crazy.
Danish, you are so brilliant in your skits to the max!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so amazing that you have such a great outstanding understanding of this bull!!!!!!!!! They all have the same play book for sure, unreal 😮😮😮😮😮😮 every thing you are saying is the absolute truth and it’s absolutely wonderful that someone else can see and understand and know, this is a God given relief 🥲!!!!!! You are a good and wonderful man, and you will be rewarded great blessings, because you have helped so many, many people, thank you 🙏 so very very much Danish Almighty God’s blessings be upon you and with you continuously 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 I forgot to say how funny you are too, this skit is hilarious 🤣 😂 and at the same time pathetic!!!!!!!!!!
Everyday I remember her, even not trying to..some situation especially when lonely pops up in my mind and makes me feel hopeless. Her banter and insults that I could not get a girl even at 40, and nobody will love me like her best. I even had a severe chest pain issues last year and she never even bothered, that's the definition of love! Always blaming, for not bowing to her independence. Lifelong trauma in my mind, an agent of depression permanently put inside my mind
Timeline 4.35sec: what am I learning about NARCISSISTIC INJURY: just these 2 words...the world, those who speak "against" narcissists talk about "narcissistic injury". ... In the world of narcissists, in the perception of the Narcissist as he/she/it (an entity-whatever it may be) thinks totally differently. The Narcissist has "No Conscience", or does not use it, or does not utilise it... ... The abandonment issue for the narcissist is HUGE... ... is HUGE ... is HUGE ... when I empathise with the abandoned narcissist"... you will believe such a person... ... but please, please... ... DO-NOT-BE-ADDICTED-TO-CONTACT... ... one will realise only a bit to late when you "lost yourself (again) in the narcissistic web of LIES and DECEIT😢😮 ...
The thing about isolation is true. I lost all of my friends (his friends and their wives) from my marriade life as well as my home and my community. As a former social butterfly, im now totally socially awkward and spend most of my time hiding in my holes at work and at home
Danish, can you maybe speak about how some of them can pretend to be so good for so long? Mine was absolutely good for 5 years. I had a colleague that had a friend no problem but when they moved in it started. She knew him for 15 years. Also could you speak about how you pick your self up again after a narc, when you have no friends, no much interests and feel empty?
He was acceptable for 25 yrs but was always the priority, had plenty of attention as he aged into his 80's he felt less important in the world, his family hardly saw him, he did not see friends anymore. Only one person to get supply from only one person to torment and make demands of.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Exactly like that they are!!!!!! That is why I don't socialize with eny Person that know that d****. I don't want to see none of them. Do what ever You want. I don't see him on social media and he knows it.
Oh wow I was so if ignorant of such people do exist but sadly I was with one I would say I’m in the hovering stage after she went and got married while we had some relationship (in my head) of course about her being with me saying she loves me yet did not cut off with an ex who was still calling but she said she doesn’t know technology and how to block people after she confirmed that she is done and wanted me and now as the hovering is not working because I’m not falling for these games anymore she cut me off ? Guys am I dealing with a narcissist here cuz I’m so confused. One more tip is back the first time ever after 10 months of being together and no problems we would perfect lol (think was love bombing stage) she suddenly broke up with me for her ex who she said he was not with cuz he was abusing her without any notice or real excuse just overnight I was discarded like I never exists…. I feel stuck because I feel this person is obsessed with me thinking she loves me and I really want to know if you see any narcissistic traits in this person ??? Because I feel sorry for her but that scares me from watching videos that could be a door to hell for me at least when I know I’m dealing with a narcissist I would follow what people and survivors do here and never show sympathy. I know I don’t want to be with this person for 8 years now and I fucked off to my life but she came back this year with so much “love” towards me. Any thoughts please ? Help I’m fucking new to even knowing that such people exist. Thank you
If I find out the truth of married person who was having extra multiple marital affairs and if I get mad at him and since he now knows that I know his all secrets he never called me or replied my any calls or messages. Does it mean he was a narcissist? Yes I have heard from some people him saying that I was obsessed with him but he didn’t have anything to do with me which is not true! Him being a married person behaving like a single having extra marital affairs with other woman who are also married and still approaching me for long enough to convince me that he is into me until I found out the whole truth and when I messaged him about the truth he never replied me back figuring out that now I am not his catch anymore and his breadcrumbs not gonna work for him anymore
We have an ongoing custody battle. He walked out of our son’s life for months. Told the new supply we had a one night stand. When I filed for full custody. He also filed for full custody. He didn’t try to visit our son once and made it seem like it was didn’t want him to see our son. My son is in day care and he refuses to pick up our child from the day care. The court requires we communicate about our son via text message or emails. He wants me to meet with him for pickup in the morning for our son and he drops him off at the daycare after his parent time. Why does he have to be so difficult. He wants to meet with me for our son. I don’t even say a letter in the alphabet to him in person. Whatever communication about our son I do via text message. Why he wants to meet with me instead of picking up our son from the daycare?
This is how they continue post separation abuse. They went nothing to do with the kids and it has everything to do with control and keeping their foot on the door in your life. You don’t have to meet him and you need to start enforcing boundaries because you’re still under his control. Boundaries aren’t for them, but you and you’re setting the tone as to what you will and will not tolerate. Going forward, I recommend communicating over text or email ONLY and that you won’t be meeting with him and conversations are to continue as per your court order. If he asks why, DO NOT give him any reason because if you say…I don’t want to, it’s interfering with my schedule etc you’ve just unwillingly set another trap for him to ensnare you in. Anything you tell a narcissist can and will be used against you. Always remember, less is best and answer in 5 words or less when possible. Don’t ever communicate ANYTHING by phone because you want EVERYTHING documented for court. The court couldn’t care less and especially when it comes to the hearsay laws. I installed a front security camera to record pickup and drop offs to close off any loopholes because they hate being recorded and you’ll learn further down how it saved my daughter’s life. Lastly, demand any substance abuse and/or mental health history and gather any past criminal activity to further strengthen your case if applicable! It took me 3 years, 20k in legal fees and a lot of prayer and patience. The Lord defeated permanently removed him and his enabling narc mother from our lives for good. I know how taxing this is, but Jesus loves you and your son and He wants to save you! This is spiritual warfare and you’re fighting Satan and not the person. We can’t treat spiritually rooted issues from the carnal standpoint. I knew the police and legal system couldn’t help me, BUT GOD! Short of the long, the ex narc strangled my daughter and I always knew it come down to her because I’m the only who got away and he was dead set on revenge! The Lord showed him whose boss and my daughter survived him attempting murder. No one is void of their abuse, not even their own kids! God bless! ❤️🙏🏼✝️
Don’t do that pickup. Have it that you only communicate via parenting app, pickup/drop off at daycare (he has to do it per divorce decree) and during holidays: at police station. Make sure your attorney writes this in. Minimize your interactions with him.
My narcassist husband bought me roses,I thanked him and he commented i got them as no one gets you anything! how romantic think he was trying to hurt me....hes now an ex
1) Play hero/victim (super convincingly) 2) Extreme and ludicrous smear campaign (which eveyone believes, surprisingly) 3) Jump right away onto a new supply, preferably half your age 4) Do with the new supply everything they never did with you 5) Keep treating you like 💩 6) Never, never, never take accountability for anything, past or present, grieve, or consider bettering themselves
Yeah, i can clearly see, how i was blamed for all the bad things, my father did to me. But over time, i realized something. My supposed "family" from his side was never my family. They were all just people, who were "there", who did not kick me out, when i visited them due to decency. The silence from them (and sheer ignorance of my existence, if i accidentally meet some of them) speaks volumes about their TRUE standing towards me. And then later, i realized, most of the family from my mother´s side is the same. My mother´s sister is yet another narcissist, who took her time to fully isolate us from EVERYONE.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq It is a tough thing to go through as a child, and an experience that shapes you for life. It takes a smart, strong person to recognize the abuse for what it was and start the healing journey. Be kind to yourself. You are worthy. Find people who can see it. ❤️
When I took my newborn baby and left my ex-husband, all he was concerned about was that he was not going to be able to go metal detecting that day... Lol! You are so good at exposing how these narcissists are! The skit you did was so funny because it is SO TRUE! I went through all that BS too.
Yes they have a sense generally too.my elder sis and I had a close bond. whenever we were together it wud bug my narc mum and she wud pick on me to put me down. Same with a narc aunty and her eldest son.
That's so true! She reached to my friends a told them that I'd abandoned her and that I was sabotaging myself for having done so (this is so arrogant lol). She kept posting "new beggings" with the new supply. And when I happen to be at the same place with the new supply (we are in the same community) she looks at me as If I had done something wrong to her, which is crazy because we used to say hi to each other in a friendly way before all of this happened. The good part of it, is that I am totally out of the equation and enjoying my own life. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏🏼 💖 Blessings 🙌🏽
That's awful, and also right on brand. 😂 I can think of lots of times like that, something major happening and they can only think about how they wanted to go do xyz fun activity and this is messing that all up. Only drives home the point that you're doing yourself a huge favor by going on without them. ❤
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
Well done, being brave enough to move out with a new born. I admire your strength, you saved your self a heap of heart break, as they get worse with age.
1000% correct and in that order. Expect the flying monkeys to help the narc in their endeavors. My grandparents were great people but produced 4 toxic narc children. Those 4 produced 9 children, 8 toxic narcs and me! I cannot understand how I escaped. Can you help us understand the family dynamic. I actually recall being 4-5 years old thinking "I will never be like them!" Is it karma?❤️
"you must not take any of that seriously IT"S SHIT and nothing else" lol I didn't see that coming but that was freaking awesome. your channel is very helpful.
My abusive ex cycled through trying to play the victim and threatening me, alternating between the two stages daily until I had to block him. Not even once did he acknowledge what he did to me, never apologized, always just blaming me for everything. He also tried to smear me, telling my father that I owed him some money (not true, quite the opposite actually). One day his sister, which I liked, wrote me two paragraphs: The first being genuinely her, sad that she couldn't properly say goodbye, the second being just his words through her message, how much I hurt him, how he would never be able to trust someone again, yada yada. I thought about explaining myself, but realized it was just another one of his attempts to somehow stay in contact with me. So I just blocked her as well. They probably hate me now and I don't care. I have his number blocked for months now and he doesn't try to contact me anymore, thankfully. Still think about him almost daily. I still grief the future he promised. Leaving a narcissist is heartbreaking. But it was so worth it.
I cannot remember how many times my second husband soon after we started experiencing more hardship like a lot of other people were at the time experiencing too had started threatening both divorce and death threats direct towards me too. To be honest both former husbands of mine were from the same kind of narcissistic toxic masculinity mindset. My first husband was the worst out of the 2. Now some people believe I should ask for his help and maybe go back to him too so I can have a romantic partner again after I left him and after he has divorced his second wife whom he began an affair with before I left him. On top of all of the horrible violence he perpetrated on me too while he was demanding that I see him as being someone to worship at the time too. So absurd.
Narcissists depend on hope and presenting a fake future they never intend to make happen. It wasn't real, and it's like there was never anything true to grieve. That's an even darker layer to their crap. Take care of yourself. Your story helped remind me to do the same today. One day, I'm sure we'll both look back and have trouble believing this was ever our life. ❤
Thank you, Danish! It must have come as a huge and timely relief to you that ur new roommates were so kind, normal and supportive after living with that monster you had to contend with earlier! The smear campaign is the most unjust of all. Your story helps set us free one step at a time. Shukriya!
I'm in the situation where my husband's frequently changing these 4 stages according to my (constant and stabile!) decision and behaviour - that is, I'm gonna divorce him. It's so f.. wierd! 🥴 But by now I almost know exactly what I'll have to face in the future and that is sooo helpful. 🙏
Danish, I was discarded by my narc. Phase 1 is how I felt in the beginning and made me wonder if I was the narc. That was the smear campaign; they accused me of being the narc and alienated my kids and some of my extended family. The difference is I blamed myself initially and slowly had to learn to separate out what was my responsibility vs their responsibility and mourn the loss. I have since gained strength and moved on without bitterness.
The narcissist I left smear my name with his family way before I got rid of him and he was cheating with a woman who knew I was his wife she can have him and he will treat her behind like the garbage she is ,I never check his social media don’t care when he does at all I a, no contact and Hoover isn’t just physical it’s phone call and sending mail as well which I have experienced the calls stopped for now the miserable creature sends mail to my address no response from me at all never ever again.
I went no contact with my mother after she went crazy when I talked about being molested by my brother. "What is everyone going to think of me?" she wailed. She had no consideration for me (or my brother, who had committed suicide) and what I went through. I told my father word-for-word what she told me, and he said, "Well, she has her own version of events." There are no versions. There is only the truth. I sound like Fox Mulder from the X-files, but there are no versions of the truth. My father then told me that my mental health medications caused my autism. 😑😑
I am so sorry you went through all of that, but I'm glad you have gone no contact. I am just learning that a few autism spectrum traits I have are actually caused by narcissist parental abuse: not liking being touched, having difficulty communicating. I am learning so much from Danish and others that I am starting a recovery playlist. Praying for complete healing for us all.
@@gojiberry7201well, a body must protect it's health and well-being, so if the sensory input surrounding a person is negative, it is logical to expect the system to respond by turning the senses down, and gathering less information about the environment. If shutting down to the world around you is what that's like, I think I know the feeling.
Narcissist are incapable of loving themselves or anyone who loves them, they are not capable of loving anyone not even their own child! Feel so sorry for them. Me and my narc was married for several years with children. I did all a good and responsible wife should do to be faithful wife. My narc Ex still threatening to file a divorce and take custody of my children with false charges because i knew he was cheating on me with his colleague at work, and also painting me black to my own children. I had no papers so I cleaned to have money, my cousin told about this America spy expert, who could get into his cell phone and all drives. I found dirty things on his phone that really helped, real dirty things. All deleted message, chart, video, calls from years back where unveiled to me. This was really helpful cause he worked my papers for me and all report are legally used in court. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you nor more, follow them on instagram @ de_legit_hacker
When i left him, he was more concerned about the material things and sex. They are stupidly delusional. Glad i left and I refer to him as a sperm donor as he is my baby daddy and very much absent in the childs life or anything to do with the child. And of cause he smeared my name but didn't care as karma is a b.
I’m dealing with this now my ex fiance was caught cheating and he is so mad that he’s calling everyone he can think of including my doctors office saying I’m crazy lol …Unfortunately for him I’m a spiritually evolved and empowered sigma INFJ .
Omg! This is EXACTLY what I went through in the EXACT order! When he showed up unexpectedly after I blocked him and went no contact for 6 months. I thank God I had educated myself about NPD and didn’t fall for it. I called him out when he lied about the new supply. Told him he needed help or this relationship wouldn’t work either. He laughed and left. 5 minutes later he was smearing me and playing the victim saying I had abandoned him and he was trying to be my friend. It’s been !8 months since and no word from him. Heard the new supply left him too. Could have guessed that!
As a gift, power bars and motors have a lot of electromagnetic frequencies. Wishing your birds and fish health. Thanks for your own gift helping others.
