Hi Karrisa, sending love and deep compassion. My partner suprised me when our pup passed. He was like a brick, no emotion expression, wouldn't even talk about our pup. I began to understand this was his way of grieving, but on the face of it he seemed cold and aloof. I wasn't going to get much comfort from him so i looked outside and found a greif counsellor and connected really well. She has been my rock. 9 mths later my partner has started talking more about our pup. Greif is so bizarre how it affects people. Ive started to realise what a gift, a treasure, how blessed we were to have been able to share 10yrs of pure love with our pup. A love I've never experienced before and made me a better person for it then, now and into the future, nothing can take that away. Much love.
My husband and I are worlds apart on grieving our terminally ill dog we have to put to sleep this Friday. I am sobbing off and on uncontrollably, this was my ‘soul’ dog. My husband is sad but after struggling for 9 months with this illness and seeing our dog decline he is ready to let go and not let him suffer another day. I feel like I’m stuck in a twilight and know it’s necessary but I just can’t imagine my life without my boy. We have to communicate more but my husband is tired and ready to move forward and I don’t even know how to.
Karissa, we are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved pup this week. It can be very difficult to go through such a heartbreaking time when your spouse is in a different place emotionally. Unfortunately, everyone deals with loss differently. Your husband may have started his grieving process earlier (due to the terminal illness) and is closer to the acceptance stage. As you said, it's best to keep the lines of communication open. Perhaps the two of you can come up with an idea for a memorial that you can work on together - something in the yard or a shadow box - where you both get to input on what it becomes. Regardless of what happens, give yourself and your spouse some grace and understanding. There's no need to let his feelings cause you more heartache. Surround yourself with those who care and try to focus on all the wonderful times you had with your dog. A bond like yours is such a treasure.
Thank you.❤️ All episodes of the grief series has been immensely helpful for me. Finding a grief counselor near me is near impossible, with appointments being months out. The pain I’m experiencing is so profound. You’re conversations have been a blessing. ❤️
We're sorry to hear that it's been difficult to find a grief counselor. Here is a link to a document that we created that has a list of free resources for grief support houndhuggerdiy.com/assets/GriefSupportKit.pdf I truly hope that you find this helpful and that you can begin the process of healing.
Great thoughts to discuss “what do you miss the most” to help understand the other person’s loss. My husband needed to move the food bowls and bed right away, so I told him this makes me think we are trying to erase her from our lives. We had to be vulnerable enough to share those raw feelings especially in the first few days of our loss.
Thank you so much for sharing your kind words with us. Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss. You are in our thoughts and we send warm hugs of strength and healing your way. 💔
I recently lost my fur baby Jimmy i bought him for my kids had him for only 4 to 5 months and it just broke me physically and emotionally he was a big part of our family i have taken it extremely hard and when my kids ask for him i makes it even harder i know he loved us all unconditionally if there are any words you can give me to make it a little easier i would appreciate it love your videos by the way
So sorry for your loss😥 It's hard to lose our pups - they are such a big part of our lives. It does get better over time. Your Jimmy was happiest when you were happy and wouldn't want you to be sad. It's hard, I know. But try to honor his wishes and focus on the good life he had and how much happiness and love you shared together. You were lucky to have each other (even for a short time) and if you think about all of the wonderful times you had together, maybe that's something that can help you feel good again. Gratitude is the best medicine toward healing - and remember your furry friend would want you to be at peace. If you're feeling up to it, we recently created a Guide To Surviving Dog Loss - a 6-part email series that includes ebooks, videos and grief support to assist in your journey. The collection is completely free and it will gently guide you through your grief. Here is the link: houndhuggerdiy.com/dog-loss/ Hugs to you and your dear family.
My husband and I grieve very differently, I cry and want to talk openly, he keeps his emotions inside, he has lost both of his parents and finds it difficult to discuss. He thinks I will make myself ill by crying. I know he is hurting too. 😢
My husband and I grieve differently, I cry and want to talk openly, he keeps his emotions inside, he has lost both of his parents and finds it difficult to discuss. He thinks I will make myself ill by crying. He keeps busy all the time.
My husband and I grieve differently, I cry and want to talk openly, he keeps his emotions inside, he has lost both of his parents and finds it difficult to discuss. He thinks I will make myself ill by crying.
Marie, we are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved pup. It can be very difficult to go through such a heartbreaking time when your spouse is in a different place emotionally. Unfortunately, everyone deals with loss differently. As much as you are both comfortable with it, try to keep the lines of communication open. Perhaps the two of you can come up with an idea for a memorial that you can work on together - something in the yard or a shadow box - where you both get to input on what it becomes. Regardless of what happens, give yourself and your spouse some grace and understanding. There's no need to let his way of processing feelings cause you more heartache. Surround yourself with those who care and try to focus on all the wonderful times you had with your dog. A bond like yours is such a treasure.
My husband and I grieve very differently, I cry and want to talk openly, he keeps his emotions inside, he has lost both of his parents and finds it difficult to discuss. He thinks I will make myself ill by crying. I know he is hurting too. 😢
My husband and I grieve differently, I cry and want to talk openly, he keeps his emotions inside, he has lost both of his parents and finds it difficult to discuss. He thinks I will make myself ill by crying. He keeps busy all the time.
