5 Easy steps to Build your Self-Confidence 

My self confidence comes from being around my friends. When I'm around my buddies I'm a social butterfly. When I'm not, I'm the world's biggest introvert.

I recognized how much time I wasted doing stupid stuff, after I lost my legs and my daughter in a car accident. I started seeing your and other people's inspirational videos which inspired me to create my own videos. It was hard because I had to fight with the physical and mental pain. Luckily I am able to type and speak with my left hand, therefore it is possible to communicate without revealing my hideous face. I do not have many viewers, although I am going to try to inspire as many folks as possible.

I remember I was in a deep depression and my self care was so poor. so one morning I got up to pee like normal and while I was in the bathroom I i randomly decided to brush my teeth and wash my face, then I went to my room and moisturised and drank some water and got out of my pjs. sounds so normal to anyone without depression, but for me it made me feel sooo much better! I made getting up and peeing, something everyone does, the cue for actually getting up properly and starting my day having achieved something. by just having one core thing and building off that it can make such a difference to your confidence

1.dress nicely 2. Think positive 3. Feel postive and being friendly with others 4. Get prepared and practice for ur work 5. Set small goals . ☺ Enjoy life

Sometimes I feel like you are big sister type figure for me. Thanks for being there when I need you most. Just watching one of your videos helps me feel like someone actually cares. X

look apon yourself with kind eyes, and forgive yourself & others. thats really made me see myself in a more confident light. thx k

Something that helps A LOT with negative judgements of myself: I ask myself "What would I think of a friend or random stranger, if they were in the same situation?" If I wouldn't judge everyone else harshly then it isn't logical or fair to do it to myself. To accompany this: I remind myself to trust and value the opinions my loved ones have about me. They're good, smart people, and they value me, so I must be valuable.

Thank you! This was so helpful! Tips I use: 1. I try not to judge others; I acknowledge that they have limitations and limited experiences. 2. I acknowledge that it takes time to get over a life of believing that I am victim of others. 3. I repeat to myself: "Jessica you are not a victim".

Body language specialists recommend to act confident by using confident body language it reduces your stress hormone levels and increases testosterone. I got used to it and studied a lot how to talk, what gestures to use, etc. and it actually helped.

I just want to say that I have a really sick mother who has always been emotionally abusive and physically abusive as well. I just watched your last video on emotional abuse and I'm watching this one now and I really want you to know that I appreciate what you are doing so much. I think you give brilliant advice, I think you are overwhelmingly positive, and your videos are helping me through this difficult time and really helping me to be positive and seek help. You are a beautiful human being and I hope you feel loved and confident like you try to make others feel. Keep spreading the positivity and please don't stop! :)

Kati, you are so helpful! Please never stop making videos!

Thank you for the encouraging suggestions.

So good kati I admire you so much! I wanna help people like this when there down❤️

Kari is right every little step is a baby step back to positive thinking awareness and mindedness, just frustrated because of my antisocial personality disorder from such an early age to mid life! Well folks wish me luck for my extra 53 years of life thanks and wish everyone here in the comments sections all the best!

I love how talk about the general principals, but then back it up with very specific examples. That really helps me. One thing that helps build my self-confidence is to realize that we are all so similar on the inside. We ALL struggle. Like you say, I'm not alone!

this is a really positive woman. you are educative yourself. thank you miss/mrs marvelous.

It’s so true actually, about making an effort with how we look. I trained as a style coach and it’s really true. We’re coming out of Coronavirus lockdown right now and I’ve been making an effort with my appearance to create content and it really made a difference to help I felt, just seeing myself in clothes rather than pyjamas! 😂❤️

Whats helped me is getting out of my comfort zone. Doing something as small like saying hi to a stranger or asking a question in class can really help, because you have this feeling of accomplishment and you tell yourself im so proud that i did this what more can i do. And if you dont do it tell yourself hey thats ok there is always tomorrow to try again

I love being helpful to strangers...I struggle with thinking positive. I constantly hear my mom telling me I'm a failure, lazy and stupid..atm in my life I was in a bad car wreck 6mos.ago. it changed my entire life. I can't work, laying around has caused depression etc..I want to fix my life but no idea how to start..

Thanks for sharing! I have been doing these things without even realizing Im doing it to build my confidence and that feels amazing, just recently I started setting smaller daily goals and when I achieved them I really felt amazing! This is awesome and really helps 🥰 The world is indeed our oyster and WE CAN DO ANYTHING !!!

Hey Kati. I searched youtube "help me with my anxiety" and i clicked on one of your other videos. i have it on auto play so i've been sitting here listening to you for about 20 mins. THANK YOU!!!!

Even better than think positive in my opinion is simply to stop caring. Not in a nihilistic way but in a genuine, who cares if people judge me, way in a "So what if I fail, I will try again" way. That builds so much self confidence for me its incredible. Positive thinking while helpful, doesn't work for everyone, but not caring worked wonders for me.

Kati, Your videos are seriously so wonderful. I have been feeling so down lately and am currently in the process of seeking a therapist, but this is exactly what I needed to feel rejuvenated. You're awesome! -Addie

preparation and small goals are my bread & butter!

Thank you Soo much! You're such an intelligent person . You make so much sense , because of the times I don't see a counselor. I have you videos now .

I'm 16 and my boyfriend recently got put in juvie and i was not prepared at all, the was no way i could have seen it coming. Not only am i dealing with whats going on with him but he also had to move out of my house after being here with me for a year. It's really hard being on my own and i have a history of self harm and suicide attempts and disordered eating, and through all this i haven't slipped back AT ALL and i have no one to thank but myself, but i want everyone going through something that seems impossible to move on from or live with, its possible. positive self talk, journaling, reaching out to other, letting myself cry, eating a BALANCED diet, and having a self care routine has been whats let me keep up with work and school and piano lessons even as im going through the hardest thing i have ever had to go through (maybe not compared to being suicidal but thats certainly how its been feeling) so remember people! be kind to yourself!! its so easy to give in and let the sadness control your behavior and goals, and its a uphill battle to pull yourself out of a sadness slump just with sheer willpower to keep going and say nice things about yourself and the world over and over again until you believe them. do that and those happy grateful thoughts will be whats in the back of your mind when trying to handle everyday life, and posistive thoughts rather than negative haunting you makes SUCH a difference!!! if i can do it you can do it. POSITIVE SELF TALK PEOPLE THERE IS NOTHING BETTER and no greater feeling than knowing you're worth it. Love you kati and your channel so much!

kati you are doing great job...God bless you

Very simple , easy and practical explaination.

Hi Kate, I watch your videos, they are good for my recovery. Thank you for making videos. Regards, Subbu.

Thanks Kathy, watching your videos with subtitels helps me to boost my self-confidence and over that it helps me improving my English!!!!

Take good care of yourself daily first thing in the morning, Then watch positive RU-vid so you can think positive and act positive. And That will get you prepared so you can set small goals. (Wow) it’s that simple, thank you kati. 👏👏

I WILL BE CONFIDENT ENTERING MY NEW JOB AS A TECHNICIAN. I WILL DO GREAT AND BE CONFIDENT THANKS TO YOU!!!

You are amazing girl ,all your tips are very important

I love these videos. They set me up every day for positivity! I have bpd and a 1 year old. I have to keep myself positive for my family. Thank you!!

being prepared is what i needed to know. thank you

Easy tips but really hepful.Thanks

One of the things that gain confidence is putting yourself in positions where you don't feel confident and you get scared of ppl criticizing you like wearing brighter colors saying ur opinion about something or posting on social media for me im trying the last one cause I've been criticized my hole life about my features so im fighting it, hope you can find your way in gaining confidence 💙

One thing that makes me happy and confident for the day is being creative , everyday I draw or paint or do anything creative befor school and I have to get up super early befor school just to get my creativity out because otherwise I draw all over my school books and get in a ton of trouble

An internal "yes". I've noticed the times my confidence is a bit low, that the internal dialogue in my head is running pretty negative, almost on a loop. And for what ever reason, replacing it with an internal "yes", just repeating it over and over in my head seems to ground me and give me more confidence. It's like saying "Yes" to what ever challenges, or situation I'm facing, which puts in a positive state of mind.

Yes, I really like the "be prepared" tip. When you think about how people learn, practicing something, verbally, physically, and listening..it plants it in your brain (really is "a new wrinkle") And it will be easier to remember and use the information. Thank you for your video's.

Oh and my tips to better self confidence 1) Act like there is a camera always on you 2) Always walk quickly and with your head up 3) Have some mints with you or breath freshener so you can talk without that kinda worry, if you get what I mean (maybe just me hahah) 4) When I see myself in the mirrors in the dance studio and want to run away, I remember this RU-vid I watched of this dancer who I laughed my head off at, but in the end just had endless admiration for, because he was doing his own unique thing and owning it.

Thanks you so much!

Love this video! I've learned a lot from watching your channel. :) I faked the confidence a lot through my life, so I prefer to build true confidence instead. By recognizing what I want in life, by living according to my values, writing, and sharing my work, I've gained friends who seem to understand my need to write about PTSD healing. Since last year, I've accomplished one bucket list item (Evanescence concert), pet a python, started walking again with my husband, and have been going out of the house without panicking. And sleep! :D I also told my therapy team what I needed, after years of medications that worsened my symptoms and increased the chaos inside me. Best of all, after growing up without boundaries, I'm learning to set them. And keep them. I'm by no means completely better, and may not be, but I feel better than I did even a year ago. That's progress. :)

I would just like to add: Dress nicely is never equals to having to buy expensive clothes. I believed that some time ago and never felt good in the clothes I had/I was able to afford, but then I realized with some help that it is all about how you wear the clothes, how you feel in them and that a price tag won't make you enjoy them less or more. I love thrift shopping and going to garage sales, and other second hand stores and I've found so many pieces that I absolutely love and make me feel self-confident and smart since I know I am not breaking the bank to feel happy and comfortable ! :)

good job Kati! I found it really helpful! Thanks

I need to watch this video every day and I will be so motivated! Thanks Katie!

Your advice are really awosome

I love your kind and compassionate persona.I am working on own self confidence and I have found having good posture, an assured voice that is not pleading for approval and a confident walk with shoulders back and head erect helps you feel more confident. I told myself I have a right to be wherever I am and I am good enough as I am right now and I do not worry about other people's opinions of me because it is only an opinion and not a fact.

You gave great tips. I have one. when I got nervous and doubting myself even I prepare well, I keep saying silently or just inside my head "YOU CAN DO THIS - YOU WILL DO IT BEST"

Thanks for making this video, Kati!

Thank you Kati

Clean space,healthy food also makes me feel good

Thank you so much Kati for all those amazing and inspiring videos that you make (and thanks to your husband too, that helps you make them!). You really are my little window of sunshine when I feel sad or depressed or angry, I get on RU-vid and if I'm lucky you posted a new video and that really helps. Huge hugs!!! xxx -Myriam

Thank you I need this

Such great advice! I love finding new ways to build the right tools in order to believe in myself. Thanks so much!

Thank you Kati, I really appreciate your videos!

Yes. Thank you Kati ✌️❤️🤘

You're absolutely right about being positive! But how can I help others. For example my niece and my daughter are beautiful and smart but they both have really negative attitudes... my niece gets mad when I try to get her to see the positive side of things and my daughter said "why are you encouraging me when I suck" also said "why do I have to be nice all the time" How can I stay positive with all the negativity and how can I share my positivity?

Uplifting video--thanks Regular exercise and keeping my house and car clean and organized give me confidence.

First time I've listened and watched you. I really enjoyed the topic and I feel better now than before!! So, thank you!

Thanks very much I think positive to build confidence and be kind and thankful it makes me feel better about my self.

I've started listening to positive affirmations, but I need to start doing it every day. I have a favourite one on RU-vid that isn't some stupid thing about manifesting millions of dollars.

I'm so glad you explained, 'small goals'. Everyone always uses the term but I never really understood doing something simple could be a goal. I was always taught it was like something you have to work a long time, very hard for. This is good news for little ol me

Love you. Thnks. I forgot some of these.

Thank you, for all your videos. You are awesome.

I already feel better! thanks Kati, you never let me down. I hope you have a wonderful day !! :)

Kati! Thank you so much for this. I have a lot of stress and anxiety, so sometimes it's easy for me to forget about how I'm feeling and how that can factor in the first place. This is a huge help :)

Nice video and great job Kati. my tips: 1. Listen to peppy music 2. Watch an inspiration video 3. Go outdoors and breathe :-)

You have saved my life, really, thanks, greetings from Perú

thank you

You have no idea how much your channel has helped me! Thank you so much. :) x

Great video Kati, thanks... My advices are: 1. keep your living space clean, tidy and clutter free, you laundry done and the sink free of dirty dishes... My house is always a mess when I am stressed out and doubting my self and it reflects my inner space. 2. Don't care about what other people think and avoid mean an negative people, treat them as if they don't exist!!! 3. Reach out to people that are kind and caring. 4. Be optimistic!!!

I already feel better. Thank you!

thanks for the ideas *****! i find the notion of 'fake it 'til you make it' (or 'act as if') really helpful. act confident and your thoughts will soon follow! xoxox

To put yourself in situations that makes you feel unfordable but do It anyway will make you grow as a person and also benefit your self confident,

thank you. because of this video I improve my self confidence

hey when i feel little bit down what I do to elevate my self is, I think about some thing beautiful(flowers,mountains or blue sky) and i breath deeply several times which always make me fresh,

Thank you very much for this advice & suggestions, I really appreciate this, so pleased I came across this video! 😊❤️

The best in video is about preparation. I think it could help me n lots of other people who are sometimes don't know why there doesn't get satisfactory results from anything. ✌really nice😍😘👑

I have so much trouble with thus one. I have been called mr negative. Thanks for the tips and helping me.

Thank you！

Love the tips you give in this video! Thanks a lot Kati!

Thank you Kati, I really needed this video. My therapist told me that some have confidence and others just don't which made me sad. This video helped :)

I love all of your tips, and they have worked beautifully in my life! Thanks for the video :)

wow! great video! very helpful! thanks!

I am currently in therapy and self confidence/assertiveness are two of my areas of personal focus. This video was great, and I would love to hear more on this topic :) thanks for doing all you do Kati! Xo

for me it helps to take time for myself where I'm only with myself 😊 that time for me is often in the car, where I loudly turn on some really nice music and dance and sing to it while driving. no one can see or judge me and I can be fully myself. after those drives I always feel more confident 😊

Vielen Dank Best wishes from Germany

I love your videos.

The tip about baby steps is a good one. I mean you often hear that quote, "Rome wasn't built in day." It's a very true saying. Also if you look at things like music and art and anything really. You don't suddenly pick up a guitar and start playing like a superstar. You don't suddenly start painting and start producing picaso's. So why wouldn't building your self confidence not be the same as all that.

AMAZING video Kati!!

Thanks, I just had a job interview and I feel really bad about myself. I'm going to try the small goals one, I think that will be helpful to make sure that I feel positive about something!

Thanks Kati,,,

a good posture boost self esteem hearing music relax the brain

i really want to start a youtube channel because i believe my story can inspire so many. I have 4 videos saved in my phone ready to post but im afriad of how ppl will percieve me cause im a very very slow talker. my family has warned me that ppl are so cruel out there, in youtube. But i think my poems and life story would help so many. thank you for your tips. and i remember when you had that one video on 25 ways to cope with anxiety.

Well its Friday and im up now and after watching this video i feel determined to look/dress put some effort into my appearance at work. Blech, i have 2 hours. I can do this 🤞

I love this

Thank u

so needed to hear this! getting a job is not a small goal. i need to keep that in mind., because the slow process and my inability to handle it is killing me! QUESTION (For Anyone), what could be some small goals in this process? i so badly need structure in my life now that I'm out of college, and i have no idea what reasonable daily goals can be related to job searching.

Superb value-packed video ~ Thank you for sharing!